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Just wondering, it appears some men find married women even more attractive, why is that?

JustGood:
I can't understand why anyone would rather open themselves up to temptations.
Whatever you experience in a strip club as a man will definitely influence your mindproblably arouse you sexually.

If your wife had any brains, she'll never suggest you go there especially since you're not someone with that kind of disposition. She's opening you up to another world which may eventually wreck your relationship because you may end up getting into their groove and returning their for simple pleasures.
Addiction to anything starts with one trial

I like your point. Thanks

ThoniaSlim:
You might end up regretting the decision to take her there.  

My fear excatly, but what are the risks?, what excatly do you think i might regret? do you think she might want to go there all d time, or is there something there might potentially catch her fancy

While drinking out with my wife-to be; we were handed some fliers about Ocean blue (strip club) in Ikeja. On our way home we went there but never got inside, my fiance said she wanted to see how it was and I told her we would visit some other time

Now im a bit hesitant, is it actually ok to take her there?

I've been wondering- Marriage counsellors/veterans always advice ' do not marry out of pity' yet most times when someone (especially a guy) leaves a relationship he is considered 'heartless'. Where do we draw a line between avoiding to marry out of pity and at the same time not coming across as being heartless?

Some people simply post garbage here. You want good roods, security and all that- yet you think the govt should not tax? Im so pissed with some of the babbling here. Government ought to move to a postion where people are jailed for tax evasion. I understnd the argumemnt that tax payers' money get squandered (ironically most of the people that say this dont even pay tax) but in Lagos at least we can see what Fashola is doing with the money

Pay your Tax!

and for those of you who dont even pay tax- SHUT UP!

You want to scare a guy off?- Tell him you charge N4,000 for the 1st round of sex and N7,000 for each subsequent round (short time)- and that for 'Till day break' you charge N50,000

ANy decent guy should run

OR

Tell him he must have sex with you that same day and on one condition - he MUST not wear a condom

Barrack Obama & John McCain are both left handed- does that make left naded people presidential?

How big is your backside? May I see to draw a conclusion please?

topup:
[color=#cc0066]It isn't a supernatural ability but it can say a bit about the person. I have a few reasons if you want some:

- They haven't had sex with anyone else but you, so the connection is independent of anyone else, it isn't even on a scale, you're not the best she/he's known, you're the only (which makes someone feel special and less insecure).

- In terms of personality, they have been able to resist the temptation of sex, which is really difficult, believe me, anybody can get sex these days, anytime, anywhere, if you're above the age of 20 it is probably not from lack of opportunity I believe.

- In the religious sense, they appear to have strong faith, well at least they are adhering to that rule (if not the others), because in this modern day they could choose to accept that unwanted pregnancy is much more possible and that 'rule' is old fashioned, therefore adopting sex into their relationships. Lets also remember that a lot of 'modern' Christians now think sex in relationship is okay (as long as you looooove the person you're with).

- They can appear to be very strong-willed people, who don't mind doing it their way even if everyone says they are being old-fashioned or odd. This can be viewed as a personality trait.[/color]

I agree with u topup. In fact its says a lot and means a lot

Only non virgins think virginity isnt important (Maybe consolation). The fact remains that every man is ever proud of a woman he married as a virgin. If a husband respects you when he married you a non-virgin, you can be sure he'D respect u thrice as much -  or even more if he were your first man

And this thing about virgins getting wild after sex, who says the already disvirgined ladies are any better when they marry anway? For some it even gets worse. In fact these ones see marriage as cover for the terrible lives they once lived and continue to live- because in marriage they have somewhere 2 dump a pregnancy should any come up (and feign miscarriage if they are convinced the man might try a DNA later on)

In any case poster, if you find them, please let me have one- my wife to be already gave her's 2 someone else so I will need to take some1 else's too. . That way I wont feel cheated and peace will reign- abi I talk lie

First of all I think this story is made up to hear guys' responss

Well here you have mine. I think this relationship is over- I can hardly imagine any man who would forgive and forget that (I certainly wont). As a lot of members have said, tell him the truth and be ready to face any consequences. Its better now than disgracing yourself, your family and friends when he discovers that on the night of wedding. Someone else will certainly appreciate you for who you are. If you are over 21, your next guy will certainly be proud you have only slept with one person (that's if you havnt been samplying your latest discovery)


Learn from your mistake and Best of luck in your subsequent relationships

topup:
[color=#cc0066]Think about everything you two have been together. Think about how much she must trust you to have told you this. Think about whether there are other people you can see yourself having a long term relationship (possibly leading to marriage) with.

Now decide whether you want to leave her despite all these things.

Though, I believe that if you worked on trying to find the reason why this bothers you then you would probably be able to look past it, unless it really bgs you, but I personally think that such things do not reflect on the character of a person. You might find someone with a clean slate but who has a terrible personality.

If nothing helps, think of it as a compliment, that you were the best of all those guys, the one that made her stay and work at a relationship.[/color]

Words of wisdom Topup. Thanks a lot

Hi All
Just to tell fellow Nairalanders to be careful when going those asset purchase schemes by banks. I have a bitter experience you should learn from!

I purchased a Samsung LCD from Park and shop via the FCMB assest purchase arrangement (to be paid over 12 months). Just 1 month after the purchase the LCS developed a screen problem- and was tld will cost upto 85% of the cost of the LCD to fix it (thats about N127,500). Note that you don't get warranty when buying from most of these supermarkets (Mega plaza, park n shop etc) so i was left all on my own. The bank girl that was usually very nice to me during the arrangement suddenly became so rude.

So points to note here is If you must patronize these schemes- ensure your getting it directly from the makers (e.g samsung, LG, where waranty is assured)

Beware

Thanks to all you for the responsible, matured replies,

If you read lots of romance novels and watch romance movies- try to make a distinction between reality and fiction- dont expect the guy you want to meet to be as flawless as the character you read about or watched in the movies

Good luck

Thanks a lot Kemi

Thanks Nautillus- You got valid points man,

Hi Uju

You came on a bit harshly, but thanks, your points are noted

Let me say here that, I'm not considering dumping her, I just need advice on the best way to check these ugly feelings

Hi People,

I'm bit confused here and need honest advice, especially from already married people.

My fiance and I have been dating for close to 2 years (17 months precisely). She told me early into the affair how many men she dated before me- I never really had isues with that. Now she's pregnant for me and I decided we should get married (my folks should be meeting her's shortly for the formalities). The disturbing thing though is that now I find my self constantly imagining different men with her- that makes me look down at her as somewhat cheap ( i pinch myself anytime i do this) But is this something that will fade with time?, Will I ever stop looking at her that way?

I love her but could this mixed feeling just be the anxiety associated with going into a lifetime venture?

Mmm, when she decides to give you READ ONLY access to her 'modules' (vital body parts), ur eye go clear

No mind me jare, if you love your woman go for her

Now its quite clear how much poverty has done to the mentality of Nigerians. Im ashaamed that most people here condemn the lady in question here just becuase of the money involved ($15,000). this is less than or just about N2m- what is that compared to the security of of a future with her man. the poster says the guy takes good care of her- has any1 bothered to know what that entails?  The guy must have earned a place in her heart to be worth more than a modelling contract so let's talk some sense here

One thing to note also is that not all these so-called modelling contracts are as  rossy as they seem, some of them are corporate prostitution rings- [font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]

Its really about loving the person you've found, not finding the person you'd love. So make up your mind to love the one you've found and you should be happy

Its amazing that a simple request to meet Iice has generated an 86-page thread. iice must be special. IICE May I know you please?

I have been in Lagos for 5 years but can not speak Yoruba- now I really want to learn- I believe that maybe If I pay for it and receive lessons in a classroom sort of way I might lean more. Could some1 suggest such places for me please?

Thanks a lot

I can forgive anything but INFIDELITY.