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Kamani8:
Op stay away from talks like this. U don't need blames not this time, not ever.


As per your hubby's attitude;
Ignore him.That's the best way. Please don't try to appease him over your inability to birth a boy. Never ever accept it as your fault. Thats the mistake ladies make.

Find something doing, raise your sweet baby, and move all the way on.

If he likes let him get a baby boy outside, not your business. You'll at least be alive to raise your daughters.

That's how my neighbour killed herself trying to birth a 5th child(boy) because of her husband.
In the end, she and the baby died during labour and while she was still at the morgue, the man was busy at unilag with slayqueens.

Ladies it's time some of u borrow sense. I hate nonsense

Hmmm. Thanks so much for this encouragement.

RIP to the woman and son, what a painful loss. I pray God provides help for the children she left behind.

Rozz:
Igbo man,no doubt

Hmmm

donbachi:
Dont blame him much,its normal..just dat,he is a membe of African Club Of Ahamefula(make my name no lost)...make him also believe sey na wetin him put dey come out..and female children do change the histories of their families.e.g,wife of the president,governors wives,senators and ministers wives..no be only male children dey always make am in life.

Abi oo. Thanks

MrBrownJay1:
remind your husband that the sex of a child is decided by the man's sperm...so if it is indeed a girl again, then he is the reason for it (nothing to do with you)... furthermore, i do understand why having another girl would upset him, but pls be kind to remind him that A) if you dont want another kid then you guys should use some form of contraception and B) whether boy or girl, so long as children are healthy, they are a blessing!

seems, hubby would gladly accept a third child if it was a boy....

Thanks.

Yes, he thought this child would be a boy. When I found out I was pregnant for the third, we were both angry and confused but he got over it hoping it will be a boy and last child.

bukatyne:
I don't understand this post.

Your husband was fine with two girls.

An additional baby (girl) came and he is sad that he has changed at home.

Wasn't he content with two girls? What difference does the third make?

Or is his pain the fact that your finances would be stretched and he is not getting his male child?

Engage him on a tete a tete and make him see reason that it is God that gives children and all your children will be blessed and great whether male or female.

Point out late Dora Akunyili, Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, Omotola Jalade Ekeinde, Folorunsho Alakija, Ibunkun Awosika etc etc that have done great things and are still doing great things.

Children are like blank canvas, it is what you write/code you get.

Sorry for the pressure on you, sorry to him for the sacrifice he has to go through while not getting his baby boy.

Goodluck.

Thanks

Am happily married with two girls. My husband is very simple and understanding. He is playful and loving father. I have been in peace with my husband all along.

Due to our financial stand, we anchored to stop at the two. Though, I got pregnant again for our third which was not planned.

The scan result revealed a girl child. And since then, my husband's mood has changed, not because is the third child but a girl. This is a man that always assist me in the home on daily bases with joy. But now things are no longer the same, he has changed drastically. He frequently gets angry with me and the children. My husband always says to me "why not a boy".

This has been a burden on me and am due for delivery soon.

Please advice me on how to cope with his new attitude.

Thanks.

nahzyla:
Zentel worm expeller

Okay. Thank you

omobacyprus:
Mercy will overshadow sowing anyday. When mercy comes. It holds grace along. I don't sow that much but lack is not in my dictionary. Op it's better since you guys are two. Just sacrifice part of your sleep for midnight sessions with your creator. For the first night anoint yourself and sing praises. Praise and worship marathon that night. Don't do much prayer for that night. The next night sing praises but pray more. The third night just start giving thanks.

I will. Thanks so much

omobacyprus:
Don't sow anything yet. What work for A might not work for B in this sense. What you need to be praying for now is Mercy. Just spend 3 midnights praying and singing praises unto God. Ask the holy spirit to join you and give you directions.

Okay. Thanks

4tunebest:
Thank God 'cos nothing happens by coincidence with God.
He must have planned this thread for a purpose.
All glory belongs to Him alone. James 4:8a

Indeed God planned it. His ways are always perfect.
Thanks

Please which worm repellant is good for children (6 and 2 years).
Thanks

4tunebest:
I want to conclude with this post 'cos no time to be going back and forth on NL.

Step 6: I prayed the word of God. I remember my father telling me, while growing up that I must make the Bible my friend in order to fulfil my destiny. Hence I changed strategy such that whenever I study the word, the Holy Spirit gave me insight to prayer points to apply personally and pray from that scripture, which I always prayed immediately like a wounded lion 'cos I was desperate for a change. For instance, once I read the experience of the Israelites where they were stranded whilst being faced with the red sea, God commanded Moses on what to do and to MOVE FORWARD; My prayer point became: The Lord has commanded me to move forward, therefore, I am moving forward in life, no more stagnation.. Hebrews 4:12 has the reason why the word of God always works in any situation.

Step 7: Sacrificial giving towards the work of God. I have too many instances to even describe any. I read an article that any money which is not enough to meet my needs is a SEED that should be sown; while any money that is sufficient to meet my needs is a BREAD that I can eat and use for myself. This became my guiding principle and so, I sowed a lot of seeds as sacrificial giving. 2Cor 9:10. I didn't eat my seed, and also didn't give my bread. As expected, when seeds are sown, there is harvest at the appropriate time. No harvest without sowing of seeds 'cos God is not a magician. He is a rewarder.

Step 8: Honoring God in the way I lived my life. It is God that giveth the power to get wealth (not mere riches); if you want him to honor you with wealth, Honor him first. (1Sam 2:30). Think of personal ways you can honor God in your own life, and start doing those things. He will reciprocate. Also be sensitive to any specific thing He requires you to do, and do it. I remember honoring God with something I had reserved to use for myself; It was a sacrifice and my prayer was: "Father, because I have honored you with this, special honor, reserved for special people, let it begin to locate me. It indeed located me because the job I got is reserved for special people and should have taken me not less than 20 years of experience in my career. He gave me what I was not qualified to get, without knowing anybody or having any connection.

Step 9: Spend time praying in the Spirit. The wisdom and power to get kingdom wealth comes through the Holy Spirit. Zech 4:6

Step 10: I started thanking God for what He was about to do in my life; I had unwavering faith that He will change my story 'cos all my focus was on how to please him. I forgot about my needs, and I know He is faithful to fulfil the promises in the scripture for me. This became my reason for the midnight praises. I had deep joy and was expectant of what He would do, even though I wasn't experiencing changes physically, I never stopped thanking Him for what I believed He was capable of doing in my life, especially after he gave me the scripture: 1Cor 10:13.

Step 11: Take Action 'cos faith without works is dead.
I applied for a job in Jan 2018, 3 weeks later, I received a regret mail that I was not selected for test; one month later, I received another mail apologizing for the previous error and inviting me for test. One month later, invitation for interview; on my way to the interview, the Holy Spirit started telling me the questions that will be asked, to which I started preparing answers for. Hence I was able to answer the questions effortlessly, as if I had the experience, for a job I was not qualified for. God gave me the power to get wealth- I was the only one selected out of over 1 thousand applicants, without any connection whatsoever. The position was created for the first time in the history of that organization, after 58 years in existence. The position was created 'cos God wanted to set me up for greatness. This is the kind of kingdom wealth I'm encouraging you to seek after, not the inferior one that man made books will deliver to you.

In conclusion, I sought God, (not any pastor) with all my heart, and I found him as He promised in His word.

God is no respecter of persons; what worked for me will work for you if you've given your life to Christ.

I hope to read your testimony soon

Gracias!

Wonderful testimony.

Am born again though my financial stagnation is discouraging me, now I know it's for a reason.
I need to fully surrender all to Him and do as you have said. My husband actually told me some days ago we should give our lives all over to God then this has confirmed this what God truly desires. And you have given me the encouragement to do so.

Thanks so much for taking your time to explain these steps. I really appreciate them.

You are a blessing to nations.

Yes, I will give my testimony soon.
Thanks a lot dear

4tunebest:
There was no apparent reason to be grateful to God; however I had to think deep and eventually found the following reasons for my midnight praises:
***There was perfect health in my family; [b]no medical emergencies [/b]that will necessitate going about to borrow money from friends/family.
***We lived in a very large, well furnished 3-bedroom apartment; such that any one visiting us could never imagine the hard times we were going through.
***That God kept our secret that we were in extreme lack. These were the 3 major reasons for my midnight praises; there was no other thing to be grateful for.

STEP 2:
I continued to give out of the little I had. There was a time all the money on me was four hundred and twenty naira; a neighbor approached me that the family had not eaten for days, and needed four hundred naira only to buy a paint of garri to feed the family. I released that money and was left with only 20 naira. I did it willingly, grateful to God that inspite of my lack, I was still able to meet someone else's needs. There was a time also after buying small food stuff, I divided it into 2 and gave an extremely needy person I knew. These 2 instances are few out of several other instances I gave to other people in need. I guess their heartfelt prayers after receiving, also worked for me one way or another.

Step 3:
I changed my prayer points. I am an addicted tither; however during this time, I could not pay any tithe (for over 1 year) 'cos no money was coming in, and the little coming in was not even enough to feed on. My only prayer became, "God bless me, so that I can start paying my tithe again". Bless me, so that I can give towards the development of the church again; Bless me, so I can be a blessing to others again. Nothing else mattered. I had seen it all. The worst had happened. I forgot about myself, my needs, and started focusing on the needs of the kingdom. Eventually, I discovered that the more I sought God, the more money looked for me. I didn't have to look for money. Money is now the least of my problems (Matt 6:31-33.."Seek ye first the kingdom of God"...) Indeed, other things were added unto me.

Step 4:
I started experiencing spiritual attacks and victories in my dream. There was a resistance from the devil to prevent me from being delivered out of penury (Matt 11:12). He tried all sort of terrible things, but I always overcame in the dream, and so I wake up to pray and enforce my victory. 1Jn 4:4. The devil is truly a toothless bulldog. He can't attack any true child of God; however, he devises different means to instil FEAR, without which he has no access, except you allow him through fear.

I'll find time to continue

Great steps. Thanks dear.
God will continue to bless you greatly, Amen!

4tunebest:
In the year 2017, I PRAYED, fasted, etc like I've never done before. I was determined to get out of that financial quagmire. However, there was no observable difference in the situation. Consequently, my new year resolution for the year 2018 was to change strategy and not expend energy in praying, fasting, etc like I did in 2017. I still engaged in praying/fasting in 2018, but not as intensively as I did in 2017. 3 months into the year 2018, God started moving, and before the end of that same year, my story changed forever. God MOVED.

The book: "Move that mountain", can't remember the name of the author (Nigerian) opened my eyes to certain realities which propelled me to take certain steps.

1. I stopped focusing on the challenges and started focusing on God. This was after I came to the realization that for every challenge, there is a glory/huge blessing God wants to release. The devil knows this and doesn't want the glory revealed; hence he prefers for us to focus on the problems; cos the more we fix our eyes on what's going on around us, the more blinded we are from the unlimited possibilities from above.

2. I came to the realization that dwelling on the problems means that I focus less on the mightiness of God; while focusing more on what the devil is capable of doing in my life. Worrying about the challenges meant that I didn't trust that God could solve the problems and I was subconsciously ascribing more power to the devil because I was focusing on the challenges.

3. I realized that because the devil has been, and is always an enemy of a Christian home, his plan was to frustrate me out of my husband's house, using lack as a weapon.

4. I realized that no one likes to stay wherever his enemy is being praised; no one likes to be ignored; no one likes to be treated as if he doesn't exist. Consequently, I started ignoring the devil by not worrying about my problems again, I started giving QUALITY praises to an enemy of the devil-God. I made it a sacrificial praise, such that my midnight prayers were replaced with midnight praises. I stopped midnight prayers. I started engaging in midnight praises.

5. I started having spiritual encounters where I was shown the source(s) of the challenges, including how to get out of it.

I'll find time to continue my piece tomorrow. However, I hope you've given your life to Christ. The approach I took can only work for those who are truly born-again, not just church goers. Because I remember having a dream where I was called My first name, and JESUS CHRIST was pronounced as my surname; after which I was given my benefit as His HEIR in that dream. This was what manifested in a series of life changing events in the physical realm.

I realized that the spiritual controls the physical. But more importantly, I can alter what happens in the spiritual by my physical activities. Once I alter the spiritual in this way, then this spiritual (that I have programmed) will manifest physically. Therefore, the physical steps I took worked in altering the spiritual atmosphere to work in my favour, which eventually translated in the physical.

STEP 1: Aggressive, Quality, Deep, Heart-felt midnight praises and dance to God. I started doing this for 20 minutes, later I progressed to 30 minutes, then 45 minutes, then 1 hour, etc. The more I engaged in it, the more I was able to spend more time in it.

I'll continue much later. Thanks

Honestly, I missed this earlier.
Wow! Thanks so much for this.
Am definitely taking the steps.
Thank you

tripplephi:
you are Emmanuella, right?

No, am not

purpinkx:
I'm not here to dampen your faith in whatever you believe.

Let me ask you something,

Does a cook use garri turner to dish soup?
Does a tailor use a hammer to cut fabric?
Does a doctor use earphones to listen to heartbeat?
Does a Fisher man use hair net to catch fish?

I can go on and on.

You have money problems, it's not spiritual.
It's is financial.

Read your religious book to give you HOPE and FAITH that you have the power to do what you want, then start reading books on FINANCE to show you the way out.

A good place to start is the “Richest man in Babylon”

Just as you won't seek legal advice from a medical doctor. Don't read finance books written by any pastor, imam, etc. They have no business giving financial advice.

Even if they have sound advice to give, it won't be as deep as what you'll get from someone who specializes in making money.

See you at the top.

Okay. I truly get your point. You are very correct.

Why I believe it's spiritual is that I have read few books on finances like the rich man in Babylon some years back but whenever we invest or do business it's not successful instead we begin to depend on people again.

So now we really want to go the spiritual way to find a final solution. We can't continue to depend on others forever even those that used to help are tired and we totally understand.

We want to be able to take care of our family, get jobs, invest in business to make profits like normal people out there.
Thanks

purpinkx:
To anyone reading this, prayer works when you do the work.

From 2015 to late 2018, I had less than N20,000 in my account. I mean, in those 3 years the total amount I had in my name never exceeded that amount.

Things were tough with me and I was drowning in financial waters. Then something happened.

I stumbled upon a book that taught me something about manifesting my desires and using my mind in the right way.

“The science of getting rich - Walter Wallace”

From this book, I learnt that I was telling my VERY POWERFUL MIND that there are very few jobs, even for people with BSc and Msc, then imagine me with just programming skills and no certification.

I changed that mentality. I told myself there may be little opportunities in Nigeria, but I WILL definitely find freelancing opportunities online.

So I registered on PPH as a writer (yes, I learned programming and writing is a skill I picked up in school and the books I read. That's for those of you that write Facebook English and think it is cool).

There, I met a client that has been sending me writing jobs every month for the past one year. Now, my writing has really, really improved and I'm using this lockdown to start my own blog, so I can command more income.

From what I have made so far, I've stored 5 drums of palm oil now that the price is low. I learned to save and invest from reading books on finance and money management.

Was I lucky, yes! But, would I have been lucky if I didn't change my mentality? I doubt.

It all started when I came across a book, and decided to make time to read it. Since then I've read many books, some of my writing skills I picked up from reading.

I've read books that taught me things that seemed random but aren't.

I realized that success in life is predictable.

You can spare 2 week of your time and read that book I mentioned above, follow what it says, and also read “the secret - Rhonda Byrne”

Before you say “I'll buy the books when I have money”, there's an app on playstore called “anybooks” download and search for the book I mentioned. You can get the paper version later so you can highlight as you read.

I know you feel like you are at the bottom of the sea and drowning, but I have offered you a way out, a raft. Climb on it if you wish.

One thing you can do this night before you sleep is to take a book, make a list of the things you want and read it everyday. First thing when you wake and last thing before you sleep.

Then tell your mind (it is always listening) to change the things around you. Don't forget to wake up and do the work.

That, is the true way to pray!

If you think working systematically to put your life in order is hard work now that you are young, imagine what it'll be like when you hit 40, 50, and above.

Remember, “an excuse is just a very sophisticated lie”

I care about you, that's why I shared.
Stay safe.

This is also encouraging. I will get the books and do as you have said.

Two days ago, I was able to browse on Bible verses on financial prosperity, which I read morning and night.

Thanks so much. I appreciate

4tunebest:
I've been through this phase before. I know what it means to be 9 months pregnant; and not knowing how or where money to buy baby things will come from. I've been without ordinary 10 naira for a whole week. I know what it means to have no idea what to eat to break my fast at 6 pm. I know what it means to have to wait for my daughter to return from school in the afternoon for me to have my first meal of the day by feeding on her left overs. I can go on and on. This experience was after experiencing wealth and abundance; and so I moved from "grace" to "grass"

What I Did
Okay so before highlighting the steps I took that led me out of that dark period of my life, it may be helpful to note that the experiences I described above is now a thing of the past 'cos right now...……….. you won't imagine I went through that phase in 2017 and 2018.

I'll find time to detail the practical steps I took later. The bulk of the work required to deliver the home is on the woman in times like this. This is the reason you are your husband's helpmeet. It was this realization that made me kickstart the steps I took

Hmmm. Touching story. Sorry dear, going through hard times with a child involved is short of words.
This is giving me hope that mine too will be thing of the past.

Honestly it's not easy not to talk of being close to delivery. I still trust God will make a way.

You are right about the woman to deliver her home. That's why I came here for people's advice cos my husband now is all about committing suicide which I keep talking him out of it and still praying to God.

Please I really need those steps you took.
Thanks a lot dear

Apination:
Listen to Apostle Joshua Selman instead. I'm not his church member, never met him or know him in person but I can assure that he TEACHES the word of God and speaks of situations like yours and how to overcome it.

Okay. Thanks.
You have confirmed what @ThothHermes said earlier. Since he mentioned it, downloaded one video. Will listen to more hopefully soon.
Thanks a lot

tripplephi:
I didnt see any mail yet o.

I have sent it again.
Pls also check your spam folder.

chidifrank:
hello ma. what’s your whatsapp number pls
i like to share something with you

Sent you a pm please

tripplephi:
These simple principles will arrange your life in less than 21 days.

Sent you pm please

chidifrank:
hello ma. what’s your whatsapp number pls
i like to share something with you

080

chuksbaby:
Check my profile update.. 7pm

This is nice. Till then. Thanks

Xavfra:
You're always welcome....

What about your husband what's he doing....


Are you both graduates (I'm not promising a job)

Nothing now after his failed business.
We are both graduates.
Thanks

Mstick:
You're going through stagnation and you're having more kids? Get ready oh!

We wanted to stop at two. Our first is 6 years, second will be 2 years soon. This third was unexpected, but had no choice than to thank God.
Thanks

OtemAtum:
Ah! They have duped you!
Next time you get money, start a little business. With time you will have more money to spend. Any money you give as tithe and offering is a sheer waste.
You don't need prayers to have a success in business, you just have to keep trying new ideas until success comes. I've also failed in businesses many times in the past until recently.

Thanks

Xavfra:
Aunty it is well with you and your family.






I'm surprised how you say you want to sow seed and you say you ain't got any money.

Which money wey u want use sow the seed.

That money use like or less than ten percent of it to give to the poor........

The remaining about 90 percent, use it and learn a skill.
If you can be patient for your God to answer your prayer then you can be patient till your skill start earning you money.

Check bakery, make up, making hair, catering.etc....
You can learn all these stuffs online.




You may not agree to what I say because I'm neither a Christian or Muslim but it's your choice....

If I had money I would have given you.

But since I don't have I'll give you my knowledge.
Manage it......


You can also practice writing or marketing....
....one secret I'll tell you...

If you want it indicate.

My brother,i really appreciate knowledge. Thanks.
It's out of the little I get from family and friends that I sow before but not any more since I have not gotten any solution, instead I face my family now.
I really interested in learning marketing. I was once into buying and selling but didn't succeed in it.
Thanks a lot

tripplephi:
Dont sow any SEED...

see, your matter is very very simple.

YOU BOTH NEED A STRONG MAN OF GOD WHO CAN JOIN HIS FAITH WITH YOURS. The devil is a liar and to keep having children in the midst of such poverty is really a Herculean task.

If I may look into the spirit realm, I can tell that this financial issues started before you were married, but NOT AS STRONG as what you have now.

You both need real counseling and a prophetic insight.... I am not here to tell you your village people or your fetish relatives are the ones responsible... YOU ARE THE ONE WHO IS MORE SPIRITUAL THAN YOUR HUSBAND. So here is what to do.

1) Take the communion daily and make confessions.. THESE WILL HELP YOU REMEMBER YOUR DREAMS/VISIONS and empower your confession.

2) Confess the word of GOD concerning your finances consistently (especially at MIDNIGHT)

3) Find a spiritual leader to look prophetically into your situation and give you direction.

4) God wants to tell you somethings but you are not seeing or hearing clearly. So it is beginning to look like you would also struggle financially like your parents but that devil is a liar.

5) Read books by SAM ADEYEMI, BISHOP OYEDEPO and DANIEL OLUKOYA..... they are free to download on telegram or google


These simple principles will arrange your life in less than 21 days.

Hmmm. It seems you see into ones life. You are very correct. It started before I got married. I will do as you have said.
Thank you very much.

ThothHermes:
Ah. Very dangerous.
Please do I beg you. Your life is about to change. I guarantee you in the name of the Lord.

Thanks. I pray so

Good morning all.
Thanks Bammy. I woke up this morning to see it with great joy. God bless you richly. We are so grateful.
Thank you so much

ThothHermes:
Do you tithe?
Have you heard about Apostle Joshua Selman. Just download and listen to his messages.
You don't have to do any other thing. You will thank me later.

I used to tithe but stopped.
Have not heard of him but I will try to listen to his messages.
Thanks