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blank:
Congratulations. Your baby name na Obumneke. God be blessed.

Abi ooo. Thanks dear

Praise God!
God has blessed my family with a baby.
God gave me a supernatural delivery.

Thanks everyone for your advice.

God is so faithful.

Short story before the delivery.

I have two precious girls and was not planning for another pregnancy cos of financial issues though hubby doesn't mind but hoped it will be a boy so we can close shop.

Started antenatal at 7th month. Scan at 8th month showed a girl. Hubby's mood changed. He stopped assisting me with chores. Gets angry unnecessary. At times he will complain that "we never wanted this pregnancy" " why is it not a boy".

Delivery day.

On the 13th of may, around 8pm contraction started gradually about an hour interval. By 10:40pm, had to call my brother and his wife to take us to the hospital, and our children to sleep in their house.

When we got to the hospital,they said with the way I look and smiling am not in labour yet, i told them I wanted to be here before the serious labour since I dilate fast and it was night.
Went into labour room to be checked. She screamed that I was 8cm dilated. They were all surprised and quickly prepared. Within 10 minutes, I was fully dilated. That was around 11:45pm. The contractions were not lasting long enough to push, so was later placed on drip.
To push problem, I forget how to and begged them to teach me again ooo. Lol

Around 12:30am, after the third push, baby came out.
Nurses said congrats that this my small tummy carried this big baby BOY! She showed me my baby's private part that it's a BOY ooo .I told them how scan saw girl.
When my hubby was told the sex he doubted. When he came in and saw him, he was so happy, came to me that why did I lie to him, I said I didn't that am also surprise.

God is great!

Hubby is so overjoyed that he does almost everything for me now. I am strong now but I still form small weakness at times ooo so he can still do most of the work. Make I relax small cos during pregnancy I suffer with house work alone that I almost lost the baby at 3 months cos of stress.
Later he assist if he feels like not as if he is going to working or business, we are in the house together.
If it was a girl, on my own for be my case but God will still be my strength as usual cos he assisted for a short period after delivery of our two girls, am even surprised he can work like this. My mom is late, his mother is old, so omugwo is not easy.

Thank you all so much.
I appreciate everyone.

God bless us

angeltolly:

TEAM MAY 2020 BIRTH ANNOUNCEMENT ROLL CALL

YAAY!! Because its our month, we can do shakara and flood this thread with back to back BA....


Please copy me as you drop your BA and BS.
#TeamMay for Healthy mothers and babies
#TeamGrace
#TeamNoLoss

B. S
Thanks everyone for your congratulatory messages, God will continue to surprise us with blessings.

God is so faithful.
God gave me a supernatural delivery.

Short story before the delivery.

I have two precious girls and was not planning for another pregnancy cos of financial issues though hubby doesn't mind but hoped it will be a boy so we can close shop.

Started antenatal at 7th month. Scan at 8th month showed a girl. Hubby's mood changed. He stopped assisting me with chores. Gets angry unnecessary. At times he will complain that "we never wanted this pregnancy" " why is it not a boy".

Delivery day.

On the 13th of may, around 8pm contraction started gradually about an hour interval. By 10:40pm, had to call my brother and his wife to take us to the hospital, and our children to sleep in their house.

When we got to the hospital,they said with the way I look and smiling am not in labour yet, i told them I wanted to be here before the serious labour since I dilate fast and it was night.
Went into labour room to be checked. She screamed that I was 8cm dilated. They were all surprised and quickly prepared. Within 10 minutes, I was fully dilated. That was around 11:45pm. The contractions were not lasting long enough to push, so was later placed on drip.
To push problem, I forget how to and begged them to teach me again ooo. Lol

Around 12:30am, after the third push, baby came out.
Nurses said congrats that this my small tummy carried this big baby BOY! She showed me my baby's private part that it's a BOY ooo .I told them how scan saw girl.
When my hubby was told the sex he doubted. When he came in and saw him, he was so happy, came to me that why did I lie to him, I said I didn't that am also surprise.

God is great!

Hubby is so overjoyed that he does almost everything for me now. I am strong now but I still form small weakness at times ooo so he can still do most of the work. Make I relax small cos during pregnancy I suffer with house work alone that I almost lost the baby at 3 months cos of stress.
Later he assist if he feels like not as if he is going to working or business, we are in the house together.
If it was a girl, on my own for be my case but God will still be my strength as usual cos he assisted for a short period after delivery of our two girls, am even surprised he can work like this. My mom is late, his mother is old, so omugwo is not easy.

Thank you all so much.
I appreciate everyone.

Congrats to those that has put to bed, safe delivery to pushing mamas and God blessing of bfp to those expecting, God will make you happy mothers.

God bless us

angeltolly:

TEAM MAY 2020 BIRTH ANNOUNCEMENT ROLL CALL

YAAY!! Because its our month, we can do shakara and flood this thread with back to back BA....

With joy in our heart we welcome our latest addition, baby Lioha. You are a blessing to your generation son

USERNAME-----------SEX--------------EDD

1. Pweetiebabe - - - -XX--------------------23rd
2. Amarisa - - - - - - - ------------------------- 24th
3. Angeltolly - - - - - - -XY------- BA – 28/4 BS Seen
4. Nnekaike - - - - - - - XY--------------BA 5/5 Awaiting BS
5. SlimBrawnie - - - - - XY- - - - - - - - 27th
6. ProfAmah ---------- XY ------- BA - 8/5 Awaiting BS
7. MamaDG - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - 13th
8. lioha - - - - - - XY - - BA-15/5 Awaiting BS
9. Sysengr - - - - - - - -XX- - - - - - - - - - - 10th
10. Prudify25 - - - - -XX- - - BA -19/4 BS seen
11. Mzchirious - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - 8th
12. Humbleme99 - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - 21st
13. Christianaoha - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -17th
14. Mummy4life1 - -- - -XY-- - - BA 9/4 - - awaiting BS
15. Preshpearl - - - - - - - - - XX---------------- 21st
16. Honeypels ------------------XY-----------------21st
17. Funkaish - - - - - - - XY- - - - BA 23/4 awaiting BS
18. MrsTgee - - - - XX- - - - - - BA 26/4 BS Seen
19. Oyovwi - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - 30th
20. cyndyuc - - - - - - - - - - - XY - - - - - - - - - - 30th
21. Dinabella - - - - - - - - -XY - - - - - - - -7/5 BS seen
22. toludimpz - - - - - -- - - XY. - - - - - - - 8/5 BS seen
23. Olubassey92 - - - - - - XY - - - - - BA 11/5 Awaiting BS
24. Cebabee - - - - - - - - - - - - -XX - - - - 23rd
25. sherifat23 - - - - - - - - XY - - - - -BA 3/5 Awaiting BS
26. Forzarush - - - - - - XX - - BA 2/5 BS Seen
27. tyhgfrdeswscbhf - - - - - XY - - - BA7/5 Awaiting BS
28. BligsMiss - - - - - - - - - - - XX - - - - - BA 8/5

Please copy me as you drop your BA and BS.
#TeamMay for Healthy mothers and babies
#TeamGrace
#TeamNoLoss

B. A

Praise the Lord! He has done marvellous work in my family.

Put to bed on 14th may 2020 by 12:30am, weighing 4.0kg thru vagina without tear.

BS later pls.
Thanks

jeff1607:
girls pls, boys can decide to change name or identity at one point, ladies don't forget where they come from , so many advantages with the girl child but raising them is really a big deal, they will give u heart attack especially during their teenage years.

a boy child can inherit properties n sell it to take care of a woman

Lol. Children are fun indeed

jeff1607:
I'm so tapping to this


GOD GIMME GIRLS!!!!!

On a more serious note, having daughters is far more importanter

Seriously!

You are the third male am getting this from.
Well, I know you will also desire a boy to balance up.

Thanks

miraclebaby:
You can’t reduce baby size ma. Baby will still take whatever that’s needed from your body so you’ll end up reducing yours instead if at all it does. You should concentrate on exercise now for baby to come

Okay. Thanks a lot

nameoh:
The saying, that it is the man that determines the sex of a baby is a fat lie.
The believe was only created by the western countries to reduce the pressure on african and asian women.
The truth is that having a male or female is determined by 4 major events.
1) The strenght of the mans sperm
2) The acidic or alkaline nature of the woman virgina .
3) The timing of sex in the cycle.
4) Game of luck and God.
In all the above, event number 4 stand dominant.
Let look at the 2 different senario below.
Senario 1
The male has a fertile sperms with enough quality Y and X chromosomes.The sperms are deposited in the virgina however, becos the egg is not quite near, the Y weakens within sometime and the X wins the race. 
How is this the womans fault that the Y chro.. were not strong enough to win the race. Or, is the man/ woman also God that knows the position of her egg?
Senario 2
Male has a fertile sperm with enough quality X and Y chro.... The sperm is deposited in the virgina and the race begins, almost at the finishing line, the Y chromo..... dies becos of the acidic nature of the virgina and the X chromo... wins.
Tell me me how is it the fault of a man who has no control over the virgina nor the fault of the woman whose virgina could change from an acidic nature to alkalina at any point.
Verdic
No gender fully determines the sex or a baby. its a combination of all events above. It is by God that makes averything possible.

Okay. Thanks a lot for the analysis

It is well. God is faithful

Congratulations to my may mamas.

I thank God for safe delivery and welcome babies

4realwoman:
welcome mama to team June, team sharp sharp. Kindly provide your Edd and baby sex so that I can update it.

At for your question why do you want to reduce baby size? You know that some scan does give someone the real baby size and if you are scared of tears, I have seen mamas here and outside her deliver baby of 3. 5kg and 4kg without tear at all, I will only suggest you eat healthy and leave the rest to God.
As for you always feeling dizzy, try and check your pvc to know your blood level and also try and increase your water intake.
As for me once I am testy I become very weak and dizzy till I am able to drink water, water for me Is just like fueling the car .

Cc: Sysengr

Thanks dear.

[quote author=nameoh post=89305915][/quote]Okay.
Thanks so much for this analysis.
Really God is the giver of children and the determinant of the gender too.

LadySarah:
So you will try Gain?




I have 3 boys and I know what my husband said when I brought the last scan result cos even before marriage he always emphasized his love for girl children.
Na wetin he put I bring out

GOD knows I can't lose sleep over trivial things or attempting to get preggy again.
I'm all for building my career at this pt not making babies anymore!

I can't try again ooo pls.

We are looking for money to train children we have. This third is our final stop, that is why he is so angry it's not a boy. If we had a girl and a boy, we would have stopped at two. When this baby came unexpectedly, he said let's "let it be ,what if it's a boy". For me, I was okay with our two girls already.

That's true! also wants to build my career and learn skills.

Thanks a lot

travelland:
If I have two boys and I get pregnant for third and see another boy, will I be happy? No, I won't. But I will not make my husband life miserable, I will rather try again.

OP, I'm sorry your husband is making you feel sad. You have a beautiful gift growing in you. Everything will be okay.

Oh dear!
Thanks so much

worworbabe:
You need to change it for him. Why didn't he give you a male child? Why is the pressure on you? It's his fault, if blames must be apportioned. But it's actually nobody's fault.

What if he couldn't have one?

You are right.
Thanks

Alennsar:
Eeyee! Shoro niye
She should have stopped at that two instead of giving him another baby girl? Abi

I taught the man determine the gender of the child, he should blame himself for not being able to father a boy.
African men believe that a boy child is everything. Nawa ooo

I tire ooo

frozen70:
A man's chromosomes are responsible for the child gender, that alone, calm down and help yourself to put to bed successfully

Your health matters at this point

After putting to bed, when you think you can go for another one, you guys can see a gynaecologist for sex selection

Whenever I say it's the man that determines the sex, sometimes he says a woman that receives it also needs to have high alkalinity. So annoying.
It's so hard for him to accept it's fully his fault.

Modified: I believe God's will also prevails in terms of sex too.

Thanks a lot

blank:
@ sysengr, I believe your husband loves his girls and will come round to it after a while. Even if you had 2 boys and then the third was a boy, your husband will still feel somehow. It's the lack of a particular gender that's his grouse. Once he sees his baby's face, he will fall in love with her. Give hi time.

I pray and hope he will ooo.
Thanks a lot

Please is it advicable to take Lipton tea close to delivery to help reduce baby size ?

Can I take it without milk, am 39weeks +

Thanks

Congratulations my teamies, God is faithful

Mizwisdom:
Someone will be reading this and wondering why God hasn't opened her own womb when people are picking and rejecting their pregnancy because of gender. This life is indeed a mystery o, somebody else will kill Cow for the news of a healthy child, but why is life good to some and so harsh to others.

I said this earlier that am ever grateful to God for making me a mother cos I know people desire this same gift irrespective of the gender. I usually say same thing to my husband most time he complains.

God, am so sorry for my worries, I appreciate you for my wonderful girls. I pray you bless every woman with this precious gift of being a mother cos it's a joy that knows no bound. Amen!

SmileDance:
seconded
This isn't gonna be easy, but trust me it ll be worth it

Thanks

UjuJoan2:
It's really not about the money my dear. I had the money, but I felt I will rather have girls than play God. It's a personal belief, and I don't condemn those that choose to go the other way.

Bottom line is that you need to find peace within you, and believe that everything happens for a reason.

Also, it's not for you as a woman to take that step. If your husband really wanted a son, he should have taken the initiative and found the money for it.

Having boys doesn't also guarantee peace in the home, I'm sure you know that.

That's very true.

The peace I mean is for my type of husband not to constantly remind the wife saying "if only he has a son"

Abeg it's his fault. Let me not go through stress of what I can't control. God will help me ignore his mood, with time he will adjust to his girls.
Thanks a lot dear

UjuJoan2:
That your husband can talk sha . . . You sef you need to also defend yourself. Shebi it is his sperm that determines the gender? Why did he not put boys into you rather than girls? Now you are having a third girl, just because of his inadequacies . . . Maybe he should ask his fellow-men what they do to put male-forming sperms in their wives . . . . Abi does he think you like going to the labour room to suffer and then end up with only girls? He needs to man up biko

I like men like your husband, I get to display my other side with them. My husband is too much of a gentle-man.

Abi ooo. Lol. You are right.

You are lucky to have such husband. My own his mouth no be here and that is what hurts him most cos he can't make much mouth for his friends again, they will always use the no boy issue to attack him. I told him to use same mouth to be proud of his girls too.

UjuJoan2:
Oh yes, it really does. I know a lot of people who have done it and are successful. There are medical procedures people do . . follicular tracking, IVF etc.



Great!

That's great. I thank God it's successful. Women with the money can do it to have a peaceful home,free from constant blames, unnecessary angers and balanced gender

thorpido:
Obviously@bold.His attitude is that if he has to take on extra expenditure,then the compensation should be a boy.

Op,you have to develop for yourself a strong mental attitude.Going forward may not be a smooth sail.You will have to ignore your husband's tantrums and gain inner peace for your own good.
Talk to him about the blessing of having a new baby irrespective of the sex.Remind him that ot is the man that determines the sex of the baby and it is what he deposited.
Most importantly,get on contraceptives that have high reliability if you don't want more babies.

Okay. Thanks a lot

cococandy:
Bet he wouldn’t be crying if it was a third son.

People pretend like malignant misogyny isn’t a bane of everyday life in this society but it is. Whatever encourages the belittling of the feminine gender is part of the culprit and needs to be moved back into the past so we can progress like a civilized society that we are supposed to be.

Including but limited to pressuring people to favor male children.

Personal Preference is not the same thing.

You are very correct about if it was a third son he won't cry. He said it himself that if they were all boys no problem at all

UjuJoan2:


So you are now the one doing the 'giving'

I just tire ooo

UjuJoan2:
I pray he does too . . . but even if he doesn't don't let it stop you from enjoying your blessings.

And who knows, your finances can improve tomorrow and you can try again, and do gender selection.

Thanks.

Does the gender selection actually works? And please how is it done.
For our second baby, we did the ovulation stuff but it didn't work. This third, wasn't planned.
We don't intend to try again, our improved finances tomorrow would be used to take care of our present family.
Thanks

UjuJoan2:
Do you think women with girls don't also want boys? I mean if we all could choose I bet we will all go for both gender. But that's the thing, it's not usually up to us to decide. So why make someone feel guilty about something that is out of their control?

Of course men want sons more so they can parade them as their heirs and somehow satisfy some kind of patriarchal need. Women probably don't really care that much, because all they need is a child to nurture, not some heir.

The fact that women will always be seen as second class citizens next to men doesn't always make it easy. No matter how accomplished a woman is, it somehow doesn't matter so much because she is not a man. That's why, despite their deep racism, US will prefer a male President than a female one, even of he is black or crazy. But we have seen that women who make it to leadership positions often do better than their male counterparts, but that doesn't even matter too. The idea that a woman is in charge is often emasculating for you men, so you never want to see that happen.

So bottom line is that men want sons to feed their ego, nothing more. And honestly, if a man needs a son to make himself feel good, then he wasn't really much of a man to begin with.

I mean you say you are a man and therefore 'superior', yet all it takes for you to have an identity crisis is the gender of your infant child. So your entire superiority is reliant on your newborn Isn't that a litte sad?

Exactly!
We want both gender. But it's beyond us to decide.
My husband complains of his friends and few family members telling him "your wife must give you a boy this time " as if it's my decision to make.

UjuJoan2:
On top of everything she has to worry about his ego too? And how he looks with his friends?

As a mother of all girls I find this post very very offensive.

People tell me that I'm 'lucky' that my husband is not 'disturbing' me . . And talk like that truly leave me speechless. As in, I don't even know how to put my indignation into words.

@ Poster, I can't tell you how to feel about your child. I wish I understood what the fuss is all about, I really do. But all I can say is to NEVER let any one bring you down, husband or not. You only bring out what he put in you so if anyone should be angry it should be you.

I was also dissapointed whenever I found out I was having a girl again, but when I met my baby it all dissapered. The truth is that the love you have for your child is unconstitutional and not dependent on their gender. Most times, the negative feelings come from what we think people will say, and how the 'family name' may be lost without a boy child. So are you going yo let others dictate to you how to feel about your own child? Are you going to pressure yourseld over unreasonable expectations?

I suggest you call your husband to order and let him know how utterly foolish his actions are. Also, those children he is turning his back now may end up being his saviors tomorrow. Karmar can be funny like that.

Thanks so much for this.

Honestly, I was also disappointed when I found out it's a girl again cos I also wanted a boy knowing this is our last baby due to financial constraints. But the joy of meeting my baby soon bring smiles to my face and the privilege of being a mother, am ever grateful to God for it cos many are desiring this precious gift which I pray God will grant onto them.

Am happy your husband understands, I pray mine too will come to terms with our girls one day.

Thanks a lot, am really encouraged

Kamani8:
Na de children condition pain me pass. I shed tears the day i saw them. I barely recognized them. The once tampered ajes were playing barefooted on the street with other kids and looking so malnourished. They were even the ones that recognized and ran to me. U can't imagine my pain. The man kuku no care about baby girls. Long story my dear.

Please be wise

Oh no! So painful! God will make a way for them and change their fathers heart to realise they are also children