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Immatex:
Rates you every morning, you meant

rates?

Is it compulsory we have sex every morning? I like it in the night he knows that but whenever he wants to leave for work, he wakes me up by 4am and wants sex and if I say no he goes ahead and start touching me until I respond.

We aren’t married yet but we live together, we will be married soon but I am wondering if I can cope with his morning sexual appetite, it’s voracious and that’s when he wants to pound me like a beast.

He says he helps him stay focused throughout the day, that sex is his exercise every morning and if he doesn’t get it his mornings aren’t complete, I asked him what if I wasn’t around to satisfy him he said “Where will you be?” now I have a feeling if I travel and I’m not there to give him his morning food he might cheat on me.

It’s not like I don’t like the sex, but every morning is just too much, why can’t he just be satisfied at night when I like it.

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Talk2Bella.

Let me understand something, when you want it at night he gives you, but when he wants it in the morning you complain, loll your man should be given a medal I mean it, he can get it up anytime and that’s not easy.

Sex is meant to be enjoyed and so far I don’t hear the complaint here, he doesn’t force you, but when he pushes your right buttons you respond and enjoy it and that’s good, the only problem I see here is the time of the day.

Most people enjoy early morning sex, they say it is the sweetest time of the day to have sex, and yes it is a great form of exercise, don’t deny him this and no he wouldn’t cheat on you when you aren’t there, if he will he wouldn’t take time to romance you when you say no.

Honey I see no problem here, sometimes wake up before him and initiate it, make his day better and great, you don’t know the pressures our men face out there and if there’s one thing that can make it better why not just give it to him.

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/09/he-wakes-me-every-morning-just-for-sex.html

All forms of sexual abuse shouldn't be tolerated or encouraged

ItsQuinn:
Not all women tho

Yes true

Cutehector:
so what if you are so so so so Hot and he ain't there, wat's gona happen?

Very very very very easy
I sleep it off

MzOnajin1:
Tell ur fiancé's friend dt next tym he pulls dt stunt he should be ready to eat or drink poison. let him know he shouldn't underestimate d power of women. Trust me dey always like food.don't poison him tho just threaten him. or Turn there back against each other.

DozieInc:
Her fiancé's friend thinks he is been protective of his friend, hence the need to expose her and make his friend realise what he is getting into, so its up to her fiancé to talk to his friend, if he truly loves her then he must stand with her.

Yea

Frankraj:
Just imagine, nowadays girls Bleep countless men. To the extent that this prostitute can't remember the number of men the has bleeped her

Hmmmm

Cutehector:
what's d difference BTW when sex is available and when he initiates it?

When we are both together at the same place and the same time and both Hot that's when it's available

When he initiates it which I'd definitely respond to isn't availability it's choice cos my need had already been sated during round one

When it's available you won't even remember who initiated it

Cutehector:
so u"ll only have sex when the guy u love initiates it?

No
When it's available

DeeTus:
You've failed a simple test here.

Next time, when I ask you a question, please just answer it honestly and whole-heartedly, and not being tricky.

Nope I wasn't being tricky
You said my husband not my boyfriend
I'd definitely know where my husband would be
Not seeing him in months would definitely make me miss him of course but that doesn't mean I want to have sex with him
Missing someone transcends beyond sex

Cutehector:
wait so Urm u mean u will never ever ever ever have sex in ur life?

Of course I will
I'm just saying if it isn't available I don't go looking for it till it is no matter how long
U get?

Cutehector:
in my case, it's different. Though I can be a advocator of a no sex relationship buh wen it comes to marriage, thunder will fire her if she denies me sex!

You're just cracking me up
Its just the way I am mostly
Standards I guess

Cutehector:
why wouldn't sex ever be ur thing? Were u a victim of female genital mutilation?

Hahahahahahahahaha
You find it hard to believe sex isn't someone's thing?
Standards mehn
Standards

DeeTus:
You see, love is purely heart-to-heart thing and of course, meeting or seeing each other. Bella, how would you feel if you haven't seen your husband for couple of months? Tell me, would you gonna be happy?

Hahahahahahaha you're funny
My husband you said and it's not like he's missing or in jail

I'd definitely know where he is, that's a whole different issue

Cutehector:
sex wasn't ur thing then... don't say sex isn't ur thing like on a forever and ever basis...



There will be a time when sex will be your thing, and so God help u, u have the will to contain it



Besides, are u still single?

Still isn't

That's why I enjoy long distance relationship

As for the other Q wouldn't be wise to answer that here

ItsQuinn:
I just can't do it, anything more than 6 months is a no no for me. Especially when your a female for crying out loud, with all those hormones rushing at once. I'm human, I have needs, and when those needs aren't met on time, sorry I gats to find it else where

I think women have the "we sabi hold body syndrome" more than men

Cutehector:



I just don't like seeing people get heartbroken unnecessarily. I knw u"ve been heartbroken a couple of times even though u"ll Wana deny it. It's understandable.




But becoming heartbroken is a choice, Not a circumstance.


Phew. Don't mind me oooooo... . I can be very very jealous.

It's more like the other way round
When things get heated I take a walk
I waited on someone for 2 years, sex just ain't my thing so it was really very easy to wait and pursue other things like school and stuffs.

When I realised it wasn't leading anywhere i took a walk so I won't be used to make an example

mzhorlah:
Communicate with him...communication mks relationship work out

That's if one of the partner isn't already far gone

DeeTus:
It's purely baby love. The least a girl could wait for a guy is one year or at best 10 months.

And you came to this conclusion how?

DeeTus:
What's wrong?

Nothing

Cutehector:
I don't have a habit. I've got standards. When it comes to a certain phase, any habit dat doesn't suit that phase ceases to exist.



Damn it's like u don't understand my theory. I need u to study Genesis chapter 12 vs 10 - 20

Den u will understand that adultery is a no no for me

I actually laughed out loud for real after reading this

Cool

DeeTus:
Absolutely! The drawback here is that some guys think they know it all yet; they still make a lot of funny mistakes.

My best friend lately started avoiding me, he got me thinking. I was like, have I done something wrong to this guy? Not know that he was seriously in a mess. He pregnanted a chick and this girl refused to do an abortion.

To cut the story short, he later came to my house and asked me to please talk to the girl. We arranged a time and meet up with the girl, within five minutes of talking to this girl, she agreed for an abortion. She said I sounded so cool and honest. But what my friend did hurt me the most. He broke up with the girl few days after the abortion.

ItsQuinn:
If I were in her shoes, I would have cheated long time ago ..... She should be deceiving herself der

I am just one of those few people who would wait

Waited on someone for 2 years

Cutehector:
it's not about meeting a girl who isn't worth cheating on...


I've already learnt how to inculcate self control. I'm not doing it for anybody. If I promise Miss A dat I won't cheat on her and I don't have self control den it's worthless. If she like make she be the best girlfrnd on earth.



Look.. its still simple logic. Train up urself in a manner u Wana grow up and u won't depart from it.


So Bella, we tend to cage ourselves with a lot of rules it brings heartbreak. I can't promise a girl I'm in a relationship dat I won't have sex since i'm far away from her. It's between me and my God. Whatever I do here is non of her business. Whatever she does out there is non of my business as well. If she wants to abstain from sex, fine and good, it's to her own advantage, not because of me. If I want to abstain from sex, it's to my own advantage, not because i'm doing it for her.





look, it's high time we set records straight. We humans have put a lot of constraints on ourselves we just choke on it and it causes us emotional trauma which may lead to depression and then, sudden death.



Look, i'm not the one in charge of her happiness, likewise her. she wants to be happy? Let her do whatever she wants to do, it's her body, not mine, it's my body too, not hers. I've not paid her bride price, I can't dictate to her how she has to live her life.


Why get jealous because she hugged someone else other Dan me, why get furious because she told me she had sex with someone else? Is it my body? If she happens to become pregnant in the long run, den she did that to herself, not me. I won't get bothered one inch abt it.


I"d only be freaked out like I said if there is an exchange of vows in front of the altar and the congregation that she belongs to me and I belong to her, anything outside that, bia, O.Y.O is the case

I totally understand your point tho it sounds plausible I just feel there's more to a relationship than this, we do these things because with love comes commitment and responsibilities.

I can't change your stance on this since its already been inculcated into your whole system but the thing with habits are they are very hard to break away from

You doing it now you're definitely going to do it when you get married

bamisepeters:
i overstand you. See it is when you are in that position you understand better. He might know it all but with his friend might be rusty.

You know some friends can go extra miles to destroy what they don't want their friend to get into?

Friend get power o.

Lol

youngberry001:
i don divorce yhu since last sunday nah waitin dey worried yhu...

Ok

I am doing everything right so far

Thanks

bamisepeters:
The issue will get more serious later. Yes we agree we all have past and considering her past it is possible they have had something together truly, the guy did not know her past now.

And her fiancé really need to get over it even if told since she has confessed her sins from the beginning but it will not be that easy considering the claim of the friend.

I just hope you man loves you truly, if not, it will soon get messier.

The man knows from the beginning the type of girl she was, he needs to have a stern talk with the friend

Can't post anything on nairaland since morning telling me sever overwhelmed for how long but people have been posting

Lalasticlala your attention is needed mbok

youngberry001:
Op make ah call yhu dis bae she rilly need boo.....


Talk2Bella""""mr's Talk2Bella come here i have find yhu a boyfrnd

Ahan

I yam married to you na