₦airaland Forum

samuelUMOH:
This is not a lie the age of the lady is crucial .For instance if she is 30plus or going close to menopause will you say career comes first?

Why does age matter? If she feels it's the right time to pursue her carry why let marriage detour her?

Cutehector

ItsQuinn:
In my opinion, career is a top priority more than anything else .....I will advice her to focus on her career first before thinking of marriage because career is guaranteed while marriage is never guaranteed....unless her boyfriend is willing to be patient enough and wait for her until she finally settles in her career. Imagine if her boyfriend leave her for another lady after she's sacrificed her career ....is that not fvcked up?!

very bleeped up but I don't think he's gonna, accepting the proposal is a good idea only if they can wait before the actual wedding and kids, I know a couple who it's working for right now, the lady works in a bank

bamisepeters:
Nice one. She just need to keep him informed on the issue as they both agreed from Inception, that should not stop her from accepting the proposal, if she reject the proposal that will be a huge blow and issues will start arising. He must be carried along on the issue at work without missing any bit no matter how tiny it is.

what if she accepts the proposal and he wants to wed ASAP?

jashar:
In my humble opinion, a great job/career can wait, but a good man, who can find?

this is a huge lie from the pits of hell

krissconnect:
Just tell him you're HIV and aids positive. He'll be the one to turn off the proposal self.

indeed

JEZUZBOIY:
awwww i just touch the tip of my prenis now .... I didn't know It Is very sensible

really

ItsQuinn:
90% of Nigerians are guilty of that

Poor horses

That guy is as brief in height as I am

I dunno what to say

Youths of Edo state no politician is worth your life

Haaaa Nkanbe

Cope1:
Make a decision u won't live to regret in future.
Just remember there are so many single ladies waiting for a man to say "hi" to them

Indeed

Hadez:
Then why turning down his marriage proposal?

Did you even read?

Check out my post here and also my blog talk2bella.com

Hadez:
If I am turning him Down already there is no need for formalities. Just give him an excuse that will make him stay away

She didn't say she wants to breakup

Hadez:
I will just tell him I have someone else I am planning my engagement with already

Really

Hi Bella,


We’re Facebook friends but you don’t know me, I started reading your blog post recently and I love the way you address issues.


I have been dating this great guy for two years now, everything’s going great and we really love each other.


Last weekend, his sister who introduced us let it slip that he’s planning on proposing before the year ends, she begged me not to tell him as it was a surprise from him.


Now here’s the problem, I am not ready for marriage, I just got this great job that requires much of my time, when I applied for the job I was asked if I was in any relationship which I replied No because It stated they needed single women, we both agreed on this so I did it with his permission.


Very soon my company will send me abroad for a year, to acquire some training on behalf of the company, things are finally working out for me and I don’t know if marriage won’t slow me down, I want to give this company at least three years so I can be promoted and do anything I like, be it marriage or kids, I don’t know if he has the patience to wait, how do I politely down turn his marriage proposal while making him understand the reason why without hurting him.


Thanks.



Talk2Bella



Honestly, from what you’ve written, Your Career is as important as it is with your ‎personal love life and as a Lady, no man in his right sense will wish to fall back on someone who is a liability, hence his reason for agreeing with you in taking up your new job. Not every man is as understanding as he is, that alone shows he truly wants you to be successful. You also postulated that things are going well for you right now, that's impressive and I’m happy for you.


A man who really loves his woman should have her best interests at heart, which includes career path as long as it doesn't affect your love life. He is a great guy just as you mentioned and you can't afford to lose him because of your career as it may be difficult for you to balance them both when work requires you travelling far away.


I suggest you relay to him about the new developments in your work and try to weigh his reactions because keeping it to yourself will only make things complicated. A marriage proposal doesn't translate to ‎you both getting married immediately, no. It's just another level up in your relationship together and I don't think work will constitute a barrier to the success of your union as you both have come a very long way.


The best move right now is to put your cards on the table first, assuring him that no matter what, you both will always strive through. I believe by so doing, he will be patient enough to propose at the right time and always stand by you through thick and thin‎.



Reply From Ikenna Ihekweazu {CuteHector}


Talk2Bella Team

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/09/how-do-i-politely-turn-down-marriage.html

These are valid points except the sub domain ish Linda wasn't with any for long and she's a success story.

Check out my blog talk2bella.com

Spidermon:
When you post links of your blog articles everyday on Nairaland and everybody keeps saying la click la bend....

just start finding a regular job like the rest of us.

Not everyone is happy with your success

infoblaster:
once de bee, always de bee. old flames die hard

I wont be surprised to hear Empress ranting tomorrow that Timaya has used and dump her again

Hahahahahahahahahaha

Walai they have started forking again

Pierocash:
And another serious minded guy is there begging and dying for her,yet she stuck to d one that plays her like football maybe cos d guy is somhw rich
na money go kill una

Why do people reason this way sef

QueenofAfrica:
From what I understand ..... You guys are not meant for each other.

I have been there before and can boldly tell that you would just make a big fool of yourself.

Just be brave to move out of the relationship and be patient, your God-sent companion will definitely come.

Thanks

STFUareyouG0d:
what are they?

People's experiences

NairalandEFCC1:
dont worry one day

I still disagree

madridguy:
People dey suffer sha all the name of LOVE.

love is one feeling you can't live without

STFUareyouG0d:
Where do you even get all these random stories?

They aren't random stories

czarr:
Tell him you no do again

u think it's that easy?

NairalandEFCC1:
just break up, love is a story

I disagree

Please I don’t want to be judged as being desperate but if after all this while If don’t marry this guy I might as well kill myself.


I have waited, prayed and fasted, gone through all the bullshit of him leaving me for other women and then coming back to me because he’d be sure I’d always accept him back.


We have come a long way, no other person knows him like I do and vice versa, but I’m not getting any younger and he hasn’t said anything about marriage so far, maybe I should lie I am pregnant see if that would motivate him or what do you think?




Talk2Bella.



So he cheats on you and comes back and you accept him wholeheartedly? Wow, you need to give yourself a medal made of platinum, and I am guessing this isn’t a onetime deed.


I am no psychic to know if he will marry you or not but the way this is going I’d go with my guts and say you’re far from his “Wife Material” List.


He doesn’t love nor respects you and lying about being pregnant won’t change anything. Not marrying him doesn’t mean the end of the world, this path you have set yourself on will only lead to more heartache on your part.


If he hasn’t mentioned it after all the years you have been together, he wouldn’t anytime soon and it seems you’ve caught the marriage fever, MOVE ON! Before one of you do something hurtful to the other.


That’s the only advice I have got for you, if you continue this path, you might just end up hurting yourself.

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/09/do-i-lie-to-him-that-im-pregnant.html