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Has anyone ever been able to date twin sisters at the same time, with their
consent? If so, what was that like?

What long-term quality do you value most in a lady?

for me I like girls that are honest and open, with a good sense of humor, a nice
booty and they need to have an extremely naughty side

Is it his looks? If so, what about them? Is it his eyes? What colour? Is it is
chest and how defined he is? I'm just wondering what you gals (and guys, go
ahead) find attractive in a man

Like many interracial marriages, Mrs Annie Odediran’s marriage has faced
opposition mainly from her family. A Malaysian-Chinese, Mrs Odediran, an
optometrist, is married to a retired Nigerian United Nations Children’s Fund
United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF) staff member. See excerpts from her
interesting interview with Tribune:
Can you let us into your background?
I’m a Chinese but grew up in Malaysia. I’m from a non-Christian home but
there was a small population of Christians there. Most were Buddhists, so
there were many temples where idols were worshipped. Buddhism is an ancient
religion while Christianity was regarded as Western religion. I lost my mother
as a teenager, my father therefore took another wife. My father is a
businessman and also runs a big farm, so we were quite comfortable. He
spent his money mainly on educating us.
When did you get married?
That was January 16, 1988.
How did you meet your spouse?
I became a Christian when I went to Australia in 1981 for my A’Level studies.
In 1982, I was in Brisbane, where I studied Optometry while he studied Public
Health Engineering. We both belonged to Overseas Christian Fellowship (OCF)
and he was the president. The fellowship held its convention at the time we
were rounding off our courses. We were in the dining room and I wasn’t
feeling fine, I therefore asked him for a pain reliever which he gave me. That
was the first time we held a close gaze. I felt a strange feeling within me and
his thought didn’t leave me. It was same with him. He later told me his
mind but what got him confused was the fact that he was coming back to
Nigeria a week after. Since I have learnt to hear from God, I prayed and He
gave me Psalm 112 as a confirmation and then I knew there was no going
back. My profession was then in great demand in Brisbane. I therefore got
employed immediately after graduating. We thus got in touch through mails
and phone calls.
Didn’t you entertain any fear marrying someone outside your country and
continent?
God gave me a word in Psalms 45 and I held on to this. It was a lot of
stress because I didn’t have the support of my family. My maternal
grandmother on her part was concerned about the distance. The Bible was what
gave me comfort.
How did your family receive the news?
I wrote my dad and asked, ‘Is it okay or alright if I marry a non-Chinese and
non- white?’ I intentionally didn’t say African or Nigerian. He replied ‘Please
consider very well.’ He later sent my aunties to me in Brisbane to discourage
me. My father was very authoritative. He later came, asked me to resign and
come back to our town, Penang in Malaysia. Back home, my family
members and relatives kept on trying to persuade me to let go of the
relationship. They made jest of African black skin and said their lips were
thick and they were hungry. They referred to my white skin as milk and my
husband as coffee. They also taunted me that no children of mine would look
like me.
What effect did this have on your relationship?
We were still getting in touch and my dad knew this. I sometimes spoke with
him on the phone. My dad never stopped or scolded me. My father didn’t
actually understand English Language and so didn’t understand what I was
saying. I came to Nigeria in 1987 to pay him a visit. I told everyone else
except my dad and stepmother. My husband was then staying at 1004 in
Lagos. It was during this visit that he has got a job with the United Nations
Children’s Fund United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF), after working for
some few years with the Lagos State government. We decided to get married,
and so we prayed about it and God gave us middle of January, precisely
January 16 the following year, as our wedding date.
What was your husband’s family reaction to his choice of you?
His father asked him if there was no other person in Nigeria he could marry. I
met some of his siblings and we were cautious in the way we related.
How did the wedding go?
We had it in our home church in Penang. None of my family members attended.
My father bribed my two sisters in New Zealand with money so as not to
attend. Only my aunty and her four children attended and she came back the
next day to the hotel where we stayed weeping that she was scolded by other
family members.
How long did it take your dad in particular to come to terms with your choice
of husband?
I was writing him to give him update about us though he never replied. Even
while in Australia, he never replied my letters aside the one I wrote on the
choice of my husband. I actually never experienced the love of a father. Two
years after our wedding, I travelled home and stayed in my uncle’s hotel. I
had our first child with me. My dad also came in to see my uncle. On sighting
me, he avoided me. Again, while on a visit to my sister in Singapore, I tried to
speak with him on phone but he hung up. In December 1993 which was our
daughter’s fifth birthday, the ice was finally broken. He held a reception for us
and invited relatives.
How did your spouse and father relate?
They shook hands but couldn’t communicate because as I said, my father
didn’t understand English Language, but I remember that my husband
helped iron my father’s shirts.
What were the things you found strange on getting to Nigeria?
We were then living in Ketu in Lagos and the way people run after molue, sell
by the roadside, irregular power supply and having to carry buckets to fetch
water due to lack of water supply, the sandy paths and untarred roads were
somehow strange to me. But then, with the kind of upbringing I had, I could
adapt to any situation. Another is the family member issue. Being the first child,
he had to bear the responsibility of training his siblings and attend to some
other needs or demands of his family.
Where is your spouse from?
Odeyinka in Osun State. His mother is from Apomu also in Osun State.
Have you ever been to these places?
Yes. We pay them visits and even take the children along. We also go to
Gbongan, Ipetumodu and Ikire.
How easy was it learning Yoruba language?
I picked quite a bit like greetings especially. My husband taught me how to
greet. I did my shopping at Mile 2 market.
How did you interact with the traders?
They call me their husband (oko mi). Some would help bring the stuffs to
me so that I could make my choice. I remember a female trader got so
excited during one of my shoppings that she carried me and swung me
around.
What things did you find interesting?
Partying and blocking of roads. Nigerians do a lot of dancing. In Malaysia you
don’t block the roads unless when rituals are being carried out during a
burial ceremony.
What were the things you learnt to do?
I learnt to prepare amala, eba, egusi and okro soups, among others.
What about backing of babies?
I didn’t do that because I’m not tall. Our help did that.
What is your favourite Nigerian dish?
Moin moin and pap for breakfast and pounded yam with egusi soup for the
other meals.
Can you pound yam?
I did it once but it was actually a little quantity. My husband later bought the
pounding machine.
How will you describe a Nigerian man?
I won’t say a Nigerian man but a Christian man. Even though born again,
some men have not removed their Nigerian mentality of dealing with women.
You shouldn’t treat your wife as a slave. It amazes me when a man or his
wife says ’my children’ or ‘my car’ and the like. In marriage, you no longer
say ‘yours’ or ‘mine’ but ‘ours’. A man who has the understanding of what
marriage entails runs his home in line with the Bible culture and I thank God
that through the different Christian trainings we have had, my husband
understands this. He protects me in many ways. For example, If we are going
to give his parents money, I sometimes sign the cheque.
What thrills you about your spouse?
He’s very caring and he displays this nature not only to his family
members, but whoever comes his way.
What other things did you discover about him?
He can also be angry and when he is, he looks stern and wears that cold
face.
Where do both of you differ?
He loves visiting but my life is a close-circuit one.
Do you consider your husband romantic?
We are very free with each other; free to express ourselves and make each
other to laugh. We are friends to each other.
What has made your marriage work till date?
Openness, commitment, trust, humility, joint decision—even if you don’t agree
on an issue, you should exercise patience. But some husbands will say, ‘how
can I listen to my wife?’ We pray together on issues and hear from God what
steps to take.
Yours was a long distance relationship. Will you encourage your children to do
same?
It wasn’t that easy, but then our case is different. We knew each other
physically before he came back to Nigeria. But I object to internet friendship
because it can be deceitful.
To what extent are your children exposed to the Nigerian lifestyle?
They know how to greet in Yoruba language. When they were young, they
sometimes attended occasions in Yoruba traditional outfits.
Do you also attend socials in the traditional wears?
I don’t like iro and buba because you have to tie the wrapper round you. I like
it free like the Kaftan or boubou.

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Veterans Day is an official United States holiday that honors people who have served in the U.S. Armed
Forces, also known as veterans . It is a federal holiday that is observed on November 11. It coincides with
other holidays such as Armistice Day and Remembrance Day , which are celebrated in other parts of the
world and also mark the anniversary of the end of World War I (major hostilities of World War I were
formally ended at the 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month of 1918, when the Armistice with
Germany went into effect). The United States also originally observed Armistice Day; it then evolved into
the current Veterans Day holiday in 1954.

It is no longer news that Tony Tetuila of the defunct pop group Remedies has intentions to run in the
forthcoming general elections in 2015.
When he officially declared his political ambition, it was welcomed by few of his fans who hoped that the
entertainer would make himself useful to his people of Irepodun Local Government of Kwara State at the
Kwara State House of Assembly.
But when the part-blond, part-black haired musician came up with his campaign poster, which some said
looked more like a promotional poster for a forthcoming music concert rather than a political poster,
doubts began to creep in about seriousness of his intention and his state of mind to step into bigger
shoes.
Even some entertainers weren't comfortable with Tony’s bohemian looks; Toolz Oniru for instance made a
meal of it on her television show.
However, it has been reported that the political power houses of Ilorin have told the musician to keep his
aspiration on hold and advised him to wait for his turn. Though it is not clear whether Tony is listening to
the words of the elders or insisting on trying out his luck. But there is a disturbing feeling if Tony’s
appearance hasn't done some damage.

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Mrs. Rose Idibia, the mother of famous singer, Innocent
Idibia better known as 2face narrowly escaped death on Thursday night after she was attacked by her late
husband’s kinsmen at the Amafu community in Okpokwu LGA of Benue State.
The family members are angry with her for allegedly stopping from from building them the family house he
promised.
According to The Daily Post, the problem started shortly after her late husband died and the family invited
the four children to inform them on what to do.
For his quota, 2face was instructed to build a befitting house where his father and also ‘grade’ the road
leading to Amufu, their home town from Ojapo for easy access during the burial – and he promised to fulfil
the obligations.
As a matter of fact, he sent in some money and kicked off the building project and the upgrading of the
road immediately, however, along the line, the projects hit menopause and family members were left in the
dark on what led to the sudden stoppage.
“When we contacted 2face, he told us he no longer had money to further the project that he would
continue after his father’s burial, but we carried out our investigation and found that it was his mum,
Rose that stopped him from completing the project. The mum told him not to waste his money on any
building that he would not come home anytime to stay there, saying that his uncles would only take over
the house once he completes it,” an indigene who craved anonymity told Dailypost . Thus, the people
resorted on taking the revenge on him and his mum.
As soon as the corpse touched down in Amufu and the widow alighted, youths in the land began to jeer
her, they threw stones and sticks at her calling her all sort of names and saying that she is wicked –
some mockingly called her ‘Obu Michael’ (Michael’s husband).
She had to be sneaked into a room by her colleagues from Cherryfield College, Jikwoyi where she serves
as Vice Principal, Admin. When all this was happening, 2face Idibia allegedly remained in his car with two
of his kids, Isabella and Olivia.
Explaining her side of the story when the father in charge of Mt. St. Camel Catholic Church, Ojapo tried
settling the case, Mrs. Idibia blasted her in-laws for being heartless.
“Is it not wickedness that you would call on someone who is mourning his father to come and start a
building project? When my husband died, they informed my son to come and build ten bed room flat. He
accepted and promised to do so, with the hope that a hug amount of money was coming his way. The
building project started almost immediately but stopped along the line because of finance. So, when they
called to complain why money was no longer coming I called Tuface and he said because of the Ebola
issue, the money he was expecting could not come that they should hold on till after the burial. But his
uncle refused that the burial would not hold until Tuface completes the house. When we finally came home
with the corpse on Thursday, they began to boo me. Some wanted to kill me by throwing stones and sticks
at me that I stopped Tuface my son from building in his village,” she explained.

http://dailypost.ng/2014/11/11/exclusive-kinsmen-battle-2face-idibia-for-refusing-to-build-in-his-village-throw-stones-at-his-mother/

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This is to inform candidates who applied for the 2014/2015 pre-degree programme
of the Federal University Oye-ekiti that the institution has released the schedule
for the screening as follows;
Entrance Examination Date :14th November 2014
Time:8am Prompt
Venue:FUOYE Ikechukwu Ifeanacho ICT Centre Behind UBA Bank Ayede Junction, Oye-Ekiti
Kindly Note that only candidates who registered before Tuesday 11th November 2014 are to come with
their application slip only and be present at the exam venue by 8am
IF you have any problem with your registration, you can send in your mail tosupport@ noc.fuoye.edu.ng

Cult activities have lingered on for years in the country’s tertiary institutions claiming many lives, with no end yet in sight, MOTUNRYAO JOEL writes

Just last week Saturday, it was reported that a clash between rival cult groups, which left a lecturer and many students injured, took place at the Lagos State University, Agege Campus located at Abule Egba, a suburb of Lagos.

A student was reportedly caught cheating during an examination. In anger he was said to have shot the invigilator twice. In the milieu that ensued, members of other cult groups were said to have responded with gunshots, thereby injuring innocent students who later scampered to safety.

The clash was said to have continued the following day when an artisan was shot in the neck by the students at the gates of the institution.

However, the Vice-Chancellor, LASU, Prof. John Obafunwa, disclaimed the reports. In an interview with SUNDAY PUNCH, he said no such thing happened on the school campus.

“There was no cult clash on the school campus, it happened outside the school premises and the clash was between cult members and area boys. Since the clash happened outside the school premises, there was nothing the school authority could do about it,” he said.

He further said the society was ready to confront cult activities, other efforts to do so would be in vain.

Last year, also in LASU, some suspected cult members allegedly shot and killed Damilola Olaniyan, a budding hip-hop artiste also known as Damoche.

It was learnt that the deceased, a student of Banking and Finance, was killed after writing a test at the Faculty of Management Science at the Ojo Canpus of the institution. A source who witnessed the incident said after Damoche was shot, his assailants also stabbed him repeatedly.

The LASU VC however said, “Cult activities are not limited to LASU or tertiary institutions. They happpen everywhere, in other universities. Until we are ready to confront it, other efforts will be in vain.”

In Ekiti State University, despite the claim by the authorities to have tightened measures against cult activities in the university, a final year student, Mr. Sola Falade, was felled in an inter-cult war at the institution in April 2012.

Some students in the institution claimed that Falade was at home in his off-campus residence when he received a call asking him to come to the school area where a female student’s birthday party was being held. Falade who was said to be a leader of the KK, one of the cult groups operating in the institution, was allegedly stabbed to death by a member of the Buccaneer Confraternity.

In Edo State, on August 8, 2012, two persons were allegedly killed and another critically injured from gunshots in Ambrose Alli Uiversity, Ekpoma, following reported clashes between two campus rival cult groups, and Vikings.

A member of the Ambrose Alli University’s Anti-Cult Campaign Organisation of Nigeria, who had earlier renounced membership of the Vikings, according to unconfirmed reports, shot a member of rival . Despite the school management intervening in the matter, the truce however appeared short-lived, as some members of the , shortly after resumption, were said to have carried out a reprisal, leading to the death of one person, while another was critically injured.

Nefarious activities of members of cults have become a source of worry to the nation’s education sector and the Nigerian society at large. Speaking on the issue, the Vice-Chancellor, Bells University of Technology, Prof. Issac Adeyemi, identified factors that have contributed to the frequent cult activities in the country’s higher institutions of learning.

According to Adeyemi, “The first factor is indiscipline among students. Another factor is the rapid increase in the population of students on our campuses. There is also the issue of off-campus institutions not being able to adequately monitor the activities of their students at their annexes. Peer pressure, lack of self-control, and lack of religious activities are other factors that have contributed to the series of cult activities in our institutions.”

He called on institutions to implement measures to curb the menace.

Adeyemi said, “Institutions should invest in workshops, lectures to educate students on the consequence of cult activities. This would go a long way in stemming the meanace. They should also try as much as possible to manage their student population.”

In February 2011, there was chaos in the University of Lagos when gunmen, suspected to be cult members, killed two students. It was alleged that the clash which was between two rival cult groups, was ignited over a female student.

According to eye witnesses, besides the two cult members who were shot dead, about four others sustained injuries. However, there were claims that the cult members who carried out the attack were not UNILAG students.

Also, no fewer than five people were shot dead following a clash between two rival cult groups, the Eiye Confraternity and the Buccaneers, at the Moshood Abiola Polytechnic, Abeokuta, Ogun State, in February 2012.

It was alleged that the clash followed the shooting of a member of the Buccaneers by the Eiye Confraternity.

At the Olabisi Onabanjo University, Ago Iwoye, a 200 level student was allegedly shot by members of a rival cult group. Sources claimed that the student, who was a member of Eiye cult group, was studying Economics at the university.

Educationists say campus cult which emanated from the founding of the Pyrates Confraternity at the then University College, Ibadan, has taken a different turn for the worse.

Based on historical reports, in 1952, Wole Soyinka, and a group of six friends formed the Pyrates Confraternity at the elite University College, Ibadan. The ‘Magnificent Seven’, which they called themselves wanted to differentiate themselves from a culture of hypocritical and affluent middle class, different from alienated colonial aristocrats’.

Membership was open to male students, regardless of ethnic group or race, but selection was stringent and most applicants were denied. For almost 20 years, the Pyrates were the only confraternity on Nigerian campuses.

As new confraternities were formed, they became increasingly violent through the 1970s and 1980s and by the 1990s, they operated as criminal gangs which are now called campus cults in Nigeria. Besides normal criminal activity, confraternities have also been linked to political violence, as well as other conflicts.

Campus cults existing in institutions, now include the Buccaneer Confraternity, the Eiye Confraternity, the Neo-Black Movement of Africa, the Vikings, the Mafia and lately, the Daughters of Jezebel, the Black Braziers among others.

A former Dean, Faculty of Education, Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife, Prof. Kayode Alao, said everyone has a role to play in curbing cult activities in the country’s institutions.

He said, “When I say everybody, I mean parents, teachers and the government. Parents especially don’t spend enough time with their children. They pass on the burden to teachers and expect them to groom their children for them, which is wrong.”

Alao added that the Nigerian society was slowly becoming a meaningless one thus having a negative impact on students.

“Students go to the university with the notion that they may not get a job when they get out of the university. So, they see no reason giving their best at school, they have no value for education. Hence, they engage in wrong things which they think would bring them pleasure,” he said.

Alao maintained that there would only be a decrease in cult activities on campuses when the Federal Government focused on creating more jobs for graduates and parents performed their God-given roles.

To Prof. Oluwatoba Elegbeleye, a former head, Department of Psychology, OAU, the solution could only be reached by probing for the cause.

He said, “Apart from the fact that a large percentage of students are forced into these cult groups, many students get into a university without knowing the sociological set up of the university. And cult members are on the look-out for prospective members. Immediately they sight one, they work on the membership and do everything possible to get the person into their group.

“However, students join these groups for different reasons. They see it as a way to exercise freedom, being far away from home. They want to discover new things which include smoking and taking part in other wrong acts. They see the group as an ego booster and one that enables them to exercise power on others. This power may require being initiated into things like marijuana smoking, harassing or raping ladies, extorting money from people. It’s also a group that makes them live wild.”

Elegbeleye said joining cult groups would definitely have a negative impact on the student or individual.

“The students won’t be able to concentrate on their academics. They will engage in evil acts such as killing people. They also become arrogant. There is that cultural teaching that comes with being in school – a student is taught to respect his or her lecturers. For members of cult groups, this is the opposite, they have no respect for anyone,” he said.

The President, National Association of Nigerian Students, Tijani Usman, said there were various measures they would have to implement in order to totally eradicate cult groups across institutions.
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“We have to engage our students in full academic pursuit. We should also ensure the leadership of Nigerian students organises periodic lecturers and sensitisation seminar on the effects of social vices at our institutions. We would also educate them on the effects of undue influences.”

He enjoined institutions to stop sponsoring cult groups, also alleging that many of them support such.

“Institutions should join in the crusade against cult activities. They should cease playing active roles in sponsoring these groups,” Usman said.

The President, Students’ Union Government, LASU, Nurudeen Yusuf, noted that cult activities had drastically reduced in the institution over the past few years.

He stated “Compared to years back, we don’t have frequent cult activities in LASU and in other institutions. However, the union is doing everything possible to ensure that it remains that way.”

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A Nigerian man in the UK who is a British citizen, has been banned from his workplace over fears that he may have contracted Ebola during a recent trip to Nigeria.

The 46-year-old man, Sam Ogunnoiki, who is an employee of Stout Security Ltd where he works as a security guard, was told that he couldn’t resume work until was back in the UK for three weeks, and a British doctor certified him Ebola-free, Pulse NG reports.

According to reports, Ogunnoiki received a letter from his boss which stated:

I have spoken to you and expressed my very deep concerns about your trip to Nigeria.

Several members of staff have now voiced their concerns about the possibility of your carrying the Ebola virus back with you and have made it very clear that they are extremely reluctant to work with you on your return.

One member of staff has even written a clear and concise letter stating the concerns of your work colleagues. In this case I have to support their concerns especially as I have already voiced them personally to you.

In order to allay any fears that you are a carrier for this deadly virus I feel I cannot allow you to return to work until you have been back in the United Kingdom for three weeks, which is the incubation period.

I must also request that you visit your doctor on your return and get a clean bill of health before you can start work with us. I am very sorry about this Sam but everyone works in close proximity together and I have to put the concerns of the majority first.

In response to the ban, Ogunnoiki says “Nigeria does not have Ebola but he said I have to be cleared. There is this stigma surrounding me now – it’s just ignorance and a nightmare because I cannot work. I’m a British citizen. There is no justification for this at all.”


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It is a situation many of us have been in. You send an important message on WhatsApp and then eagerly
wait for a reply.
One little tick appears to your message. Then two. Then nothing. Your heart sinks.
The important message has been ignored - or has it?
Up until now many users incorrectly thought the double check indicated a message had been seen.
Actually it meant that a message had been received by the handset, not its human owner.
However, WhatsApp's official website has confirmed the messaging service has a new feature, so you'll
know when someone has definitely read your message.
We introduce to you, the double blue tick!

If a group of people are chatting, the two blue ticks will appear when everyone in the group has read the
message.
Two grey check marks will show up when everyone has received the message.
You can also find out the time a message was delivered and read by pressing the message with the
double tick - then holding it for a couple of seconds, before selecting "info".

Other messaging services already have similar types of notifications to show when someone has seen a
message, like Facebook.
In 2013, instant messaging apps like Apple's iMessenger, WeChat and Viber overtook the traditional SMS
text message for the first time.
Research company Informer found almost 19 billion messages were sent on chat apps in 2012, compared
to 17.6 million texts.
Newsbeat has contacted WhatsApp for an official response. But we're still waiting for the double blue tick...

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