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Though jst few names sounds familiar, kudos to them, sha. Gracias

In as much as u made some valid points up there, some people will tend to disagree with u. Gracias.

Well said, though to some extent. Gracias

metalgear:
Trust me there's nothing we didn't try. We encourage her, sing for her, even her potty is one that sings. I even thought maybe I could get her some training pants for her at Babys r'Us or somewhere.



I must admit we started late. I'm usually a bit more patient with her but her mum seems to want to take it a bit hard on her. There are even some days the little girl will just grab her tablet and log onto YouTube when she knows she will be there for long. This morning when she woke up she managed to pee a bit in her potty but not much. Immediately she stood up she went to one corner and peed her pants.

This got me laughing, hahaaaaahahahahaha

michaelcipher:
I don't really know where this belong but I will share it here.

Some ppl say sex b4 marraige is SIN but I think its not. Imagine getting married to a lady that as misused and as done 5 abortion which damaged her womb.

After marriage u discovered that u guys can't reproduce due to this fact. What's will become of the marriage.

Or a sexual active lady getting married to a guy that does not fancy sex that much or has a small down below which can't satisfy you.

Sex b4 marraige helps nullify many issues that can't think of.


Share ur view.

If this is ur view abt sex before marriage, then u dont ve a view at all. Gracias.

U re nt a long term relationship kind of guy, oya clap for urself. Since the two yrs u ve bin wit her, and u didnt see any fault in her, den what stops u from being with her. Oh i see, u still want to f***k other girls, u cant be stock to one all in d name of relationship. Well d ball is in ur court, but never u joke with a heart that loves u. Gracias.

Rajjah:
I learnt somtin here. Some men can be very complex n filled with ego plus pride. I pray I dont get married to over complex man cos even me, m quick to anger especially wen som1 involve with me makes one mistake twice after correctn.

Then u need more than an advice, u need alot of growing up to do.

This is a cross u must carry alone, now u both needs to go down on ur knees and ask for God’s intervention, and if everything works out well, na GODWIN. Gracias

ProudEdoMan:
Op I have been married for 10 years.  While you have raised a lot of valid points I strongly believe no one should go into a marriage with such mentality. Those who still want to play the field and believe that they cannot be faithful because they have a 'penis' should not get married because there will be no point to it.

Nobody should tolerate cheating. If you as a man would not be happy or tolerate your woman cheating on you then why should you expect a woman to do the same. That is being a hypocrite.

I have been married for 10 years and been with my wife for 12 years and I have never cheated on her and I will never cheat on her(even though my wife is still sexy even after 2 kids) having a few min of pleasure is not worth losing my marriage imo. The problem today is that a lot of immature people are getting married not knowing that it takes two people to make marriage work. Women cheat these days perhaps even more than men so it's not just a one sided thing.


It also depends on the type of woman in question, usually the women who are highly dependent on the man for their basic needs will most likely stay in such a marriage since they have no where else to go.

However there are women like my wife(She is educated and financially independent) who don't need a man to survive will be less inclined to accept such behavior and if she had to divorce me because of infidelity than I would not blame her.

We need to move away from women should do this and men should do that mentality. Personally I won't do anything that I would not like my wife to do to me.

Pls help me explain more to this Op cos am seriously loosing my cool, and it wont be funny if i do. Gracias.

itsMrIke:
OP, the ony reason you can create such a nonsensical thread is because divorce in Nigeria is not as common or reasonably effective as it is in other countries.

Just read the balderdash you wrote... So a woman should sit at home quietly and accord a cheating husband all his privileges Why are painting us men to be such insipid 1diots

If it were developed countries were divorce is an expensive endeavour for the man, you won't spew such thrash. Cos after divorce (especially when infidelity is involved) the man loses half of everything he has, he leaves his house for the woman and her kids, he then pays her alimony and child support. Trust me the wife won't mind his side chick moving in with him, since she will be taken care of...


Abeg OP stop preaching this nonsense and grow up

Na u make sense die, cos i wondering why a learned person could think like this in dis 21st century. Indeed some of us needs alot of growing to do. As for d Op, let me reserve my comment cos na dis kind topic they bring out the madness in me. Gracias.

Omo see jamb question oooo, b4 i tender my opinon, how old are u?

kennyman2000:
You should expect that.. The rate of prostitution in portharcourt. It may have been one prostitute who was unlucky with her sex protection.


By God's grace.. She'll never hear the cry of a baby in her life, talkless of breastfeeding one.


Amen.

Awww, we are always fast to draw our conclusion. Never u judge another until u ve walked in her shoes. Gracias

nairalife2013:
My wife despises domestic chores. Before She did them under duress. Cooking, cleaning the house etc. This is the only dark spot she has. If she sweeps the floor, it's most likely the maid would have to sweep that same floor again that same day. Cooking, hmmm. But I love her and she is trying hard to make amends where necessary.We have washing machines and maids and I eat at work more, except on weekends. Her natural ajebo is yet unseen by anygirl. She is very light in complexion and has a very naturally black long strands of hair and, above all,well endow front and back with a 5.4 ht - she has a striking resemblance to kim . She is goo at her books, her work, me and my kids! Datz d consolation.

Pray ur consolation lasts forever, Gracias.

Ddonoflife:
. What about weekends or come to think of t,she might be a bad cook....

Being a bad cook is nt d worst scenario, what are catering school for? Some of we ladies did not get the opportunity of cooking at home while being single, so d husband has a role to play in making her d best cook. Gracias.

I believe wen u get to the bridge, u device a means of crossing it. Alot of things has being said abt marriage or should i say, a successful one. Whatever rocks ur boat might not go down well wit another. God’s grace and wisdom is all u need. Gracias.

Since the lady is always tired wenever she comes bck from work, d man should atleast try and be of help to her in d kitchen in whatever way he can. Btw this story get as e be, d lady no dey cook on sundays abi she dey purchase food ni on dat day? Gracias.

U ve to seriously talk to ur friend, i dnt mean jst talking, insist that he tells d girlfriend to stop buying all those household equipment afterall no be her house be that and also pointly tell ur friend dat u will nt be in support of him housing girl if he ever plans of doing that, though. Btw, get a girlfriend too . Gracias

Gosh, ve had enough of this

I dnt see anything strange abt the egg, besides ve bought egg like dis before. Gracias

Ezemarcel:
another genuine reason oo....Babe I think u hv nailed it

U jst said my mind, Gracias

I beg to differ with the op, like say the burden of marriage lies solely on d woman, no wonder our men folk misbehave anyhow. Anyway whatever rocks ur boat sha, Gracias.

@ poster above me, u might ve a point, but i will need more than that to justify it. Would u mind sending me a mail. Gracias

Nice one

Why is it only d women dat needs wisdom? I tire ooooo, everything women, women, God so suppose make us d head of family, so that we will knw that everything lies on our shoulder. Women dis, women that, God pls make me a man in my nxt generation. We will talk dey will say we commanding them, and if we dont talk, yawa don gas for there. Let me stop here, Gracias.

omaa4:
Then the spitting issue am not a crazy person that will quarrel with someone spitting while taking a bath. It's usually while he pooing he jus keeps spitting into the bath area sometime pee's on the bathroom floor sometimes there by leaving d bathroom in d room always smelling. It hurts me cuz I knw it can be better I have been as rational as possible. I get him water to flush most times I flush for him I clean up the toilet he messes up with tissues buh I guess I complained cuz I want him to atleast be a good example to our baby.

Awwwww, some men can be sooooo........ I dnt even knw what to say, well, if u ve a help instruct him or her to always come and clean up d place after ur husband but if u dnt ve, u re sure to be standing on a long thing cos u’ve got to be one cleaning the mess which will always upset u.

U alone holds the key to ur hubbys heart, find the key look for that part that can be opened, use that channel and ve a heart to heart talk, pls keep pleading with him on d issue, and also give him some time to change. Gracias

Story for the gods

omaa4:
Hello house, please I will like your input on this issue I had with hubby. This morning he was in the bathroom making use of the toilet. Suddenly I heard him spitting on the shower (tiled) floor (a habit he has and does even when I jus wash the bathroom) and I find it disgusting. He also does get into the bathroom with a bathroom slippers therafter matching water around the room. Though he makes use of the footmat in front of the bathroom though that's not very effective. Each time I try to let him know it's not hygienically okay to do that he always picks offense with me. I called out to him this morning while he was in the toilet and here is our conversation....
Me.. sweethert are you spitting on the shower floor? asking twice then I started to say: u shouldn't be doing that, I find it disgustin and besides I will end up hiding ur bathroom slippers so you walk barefoot around the house that way u understand how it feel (though I also wear bathroom slippers in the living room, kitchen and bedrooms when I feel the house is sandy as there are also other people in the house who contribute to that)
Him.. in btw my comment he is saying it's not appropriate to be addressing him while he is in the toilet


NB; this issues has been discoursed at various times in the past, please tell me my offense?

My dear we all ve bad habbits that in our own eyes we dnt see any big deal in it.

Well as for the bathroom slippers, it is called a bathroom slippers for a reason, jst for d bathroom alone and not for room. Gently wit luv, if possible try taking a shower wit him den tell him to always leave his slippers in the bathroom rather than wearing it insidie the room.

Then as for his spitting on d floor, if he normally washes it out will taking his shower, then i dnt see any problem wit that, but if he does not, calmly tell him to remember to wash it out. Gracias

jonaifame22:
if u can't see the meaning from wat I wrote as simple as the question is,and also understand it, then I guess every exam u've eva written was written for u by someone,and besides ur suggestion is no longer needed cos u've made it already,Gracias

Thank u for saving me stress, but u could ve at least answered my own question since u wrote all ur exams by urself.

Oops, then again i forgot u aint married, but until then i shall only keep my fingers crossed. Gracias.

Well at poster, i wouldnt say i feel ur pain cos ve neva bin in ur shoes. But one thing i can deduce from ur comments so far is that u still love dat guy dat is why u hurts u d more everyday, everytime u remember his shortcomings. U said u can’t forgive him but u and i knw that there is a big diff btw u cant and u wont. But i implore u, be it as it may, since he has asked for ur forgiveness, pls try, i knw that it is very difficult to do that but, pls find a place even if is the smallest portion of heart nd forgive him and give him benefit of doubt.

But if u feel u wont ever forgive him, u guys can go ur seperate ways nd u try nd stop shedding tears. Gracias