3 letters, hun, DNR (Do Not Resusitate!!)

@topic women want to marry up for the same reason that men want to marry fine!

Urhobo lady from London giving you a shout-out

@desodgi , Naive!

@ade.f - i doubt you need me as your muse to get your juices (creative) flowing

@IBdat - yep I am certainly hoping to be there.
PS - I AM a memebr of londonnaijas

noooo i hardly think being friendly should be interpreted as being flirty.

The world would be a hery dreary palce to be if everyone stopped being friendly to others, stopped smiling at others, simply becos they do no want to be classified as 'flirts'.

one can be friendly and still have clearly defined boundaries laid out.

Besides, a little bit of harmless and innocent flirting now and again can cheer up soemone's day and make you feel better - just do it in a tasteful way that does not harm anyone (inluding your existing boyfriend or girlfriend) and that does not give out the wrong signals

oh very loooong story

good to see you, too

ade.f:

@IBDAT

Have you seen tega lately? She seems to have gone AWOL?

Missing me already?

@ade.f

I never pass off myself as early twenties (i am 29 and proud ), but a lot of people never believe me and they all think i am 22-24.

I was not even allowed into clubs without an ID till i was 26!!!

life has tuaght to make the most of every moment and make every second count

wink

IBDat:

Okay,

Tega - hope u've invited him to the Naija carnival, for some more of his stimulating, mentally challenging conversations.

Hmmm, am not sure carnivals are his thing. Perhaps you could have a man-to-man chat with him

@IB, hope to see you there. They had better have some stalls selling naija food, o

ade.f:



Youre probably in your early to mid 20s and maybe even born in the early part of the year (don't want to sound psychic) .

Woww, poetic and psychic!
Is there no end to the many faucets of your personality?!
A man of many faces most interesting and intriguing.

Hi there Ade.f

I am afraid I have to disagree with you a bit here. I was born in the early part of the year (March) and I am in my mid twenties (okay late 20s), but i consider myself a very much together person. I know what i want and most importantly what i don't want in life and relationships.

I am not someone that will necessarily put myself down or dress down and dowdy so as not to 'attract undesirableattention'. I dress tastefully and appropiately Fair enough, a girl who wears practically next to nothing when she is not on the beach o other appropiate place is only asking to be harassed.

At the end of the day, it may not matter how one dresses, they would still attract attention from some undesirable elements. Maturity, tact and class is shown in the way such a girl/boy handles the situation.

@ London Cool: my couch is verrry lumpy LOL

I would certainly be interested in the Nigerian Carnival; sounds interesting

Life is too short to waste hating someone

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woooow, and wow again, dear Ade

Thy sweet illustrous rhymin just blew me away

What a poet!! What a man!  This fella I see

I am truly lost for words-----completely

I search and search for your presence online in vain

Hoping to meet-----and rhyme with you once again

Till when next you return, i bid you sweet adieu

Never goodbye----simply this  ---from me to you

First of all, withcraft in the real sense of the word is nothing like the African view of witchraft. Witch is an ancient German word used to describe a wise woman --------withces were normally women who were alternative threpaists and healers----they udnerstood the movment of the stars in order to plan thier lives (kinda like a farmer knowing the right time of the year to sow his seeds). Witches were astrologers, herbalists, midwives and so on.

In modern times, a witch is strictly someone (man or woman) who practises the ancient European religion.

The word witch today is used to describe someone who does evil----witches indeed do practise magic----magic is natural energy that is all around us---when yoou have a cold/flu and you decide to use natural herbs or drink mint tea etc---you are practisng magic. Magic is simply using the natural energies around us to improve our lives----it is only pure energy---neitehr good nor evil----it is what you do with it that makes it evil or good. It is a bit like a doctor who has extensive knowledge of human anatomy and how to cure many illnesses----he can use his skill for good to help and cure people and he can also use his knowledge of poisonous substances to poison and kill people=------this dos not mean that all doctors are bad. Therefore, magic in itself is not bad----people who practise magic are not bad---it is what you do with it that matters.

Magic has even been practised in the Church----yesss it has! Look at the catholic church and its many rites and rituals----hardly different from ceremonial magicians. Even so called Pentecostal churches that pray down Holy Ghost power (simply invoking energy from a higher source)------and my favorite---the blessed hankie---you know the one----the pastor orays over your hankie and it is blessed and suddenly miraculous----yep, witches and magicians everywhere have been doing that for ages (empowering various objects & hankies) for centuries!.
Even Jesus practised magic (as well as many biblical prophets) he healed the sick, turned water to wine, walked on the sea---he even cursed a fig tree! He had magick power/energy that he could use to both bless and curse!!

Long story , magic is everywhere in life and in nature------- and it is available to all people who take time to study and understand the natural world---whether they are Muslims (and yes there are muslim magic workers), christians or traditional religous people. Magic is simply pure energy that can be used for good or for bad------kinda like electricity---it can be used to save lives in the Operaing Room and it can also be used to extinguish a life in a Texan death room

Witchcraft is strictly the practise of an ancient European religion----just like Africans will practise their own traditional religions of Orisha worship.

Finally, good witches exist-----and so also do bad witches----but not all witches are bad or evil.

Hmmm----see wot happens within this threadin

Without Ade and I to keep it movin

Seems to me, creative juices are no more fllowin

And this threadin now is truly dying

Perhaps Ade may be persuaded to return and stay

Ade---oh Ade--wherefore art thou, dear Ade

spoilt:

good men to carry home to mama in london is harder. truly most of them are flying squatters from one council flat to the other. perching about and eating women down. then they have to guts to talk smack about naija girls. ive been to london. they live like roaches. cudnt wait to run back to the united states.

Abeg---make you tell them o jare!!

But in defense of de good naija men wey dey London------not all the naija men for london be like that sha o

The One:

@tega78

Ndo. No vex, I understand now. I just dey wonder before and since i no wan turn to wanderer i say make I ask.

I come like your nature sha, only say I don marry I for ask say where you dey live maybe we fit hook up

Cheiii, you dey married?!   Na that reason you dey call youself The One, plenty girls for this forum go dey have hope ooohh with that kin name.

Anyway sha ooo-------me i no vex------only becos you guys dey gang up on poor little me   that na de reason i say make i defend myself small.

yaaaawwwwnnn

lafile:

when they stood before the altar the woman was asked if she knew of any reason why they shouldn't be joined together and she lied. She said 'I have no reason'. Therefore in my opinion, the marriage should be annuled.

EXXACCCTLLLYYY!!!!

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@LondonCool and TheOne - i think you guys should read my post PROPERLY.  I said

tega78:

jobless, flat-sharing man (black, white or naija) who will only sponge off them,

I have nothing but respect for Naija JJC-men who are trying to survive in a strange country with different set of rules on a low income.  I truly admire the man who comes here to better himself and is a student----whilst also working at the same time---whether or not he is a naija-man.

The men i cannot simply abide are those who have been here for yeeeeeaaaarrrss!  They can't or won't get a job---they create a bad name for naija peoples everywhere---and all they do is flat-share with someone who is foolish enough to accomodate them, whilst they keep an eye out for the next poor babe they can sponge off.  Next thing, they profess undying love---move in with the girl---continue to sponge off her and live off her earnings. 

I know it is hard---in my 1st year in this country, i flat-shared----fair enough, with my sister---but i understand how it is.  I have been here for about 9 years---struggled and worked---i am currently working and yes, also a student---so i KNOW how hard it is.  Respect, admiration and love to all my fellow naijas (MEN AND WOMEN) who are both working and/or studying and improving upon themselves.

Regards to my situation: I live in a one-bedroom flat---ground floor--with a garden---am not rich by any standards---in case you might be wondering that i am some rich, spoilt kid.

At the end of the day women (especially african women) admire----(i mean, for me it is an aphrodisac!!!) a man who is ambitious and has clear definite plans for his future, whetehr or not he is a flat-sharer or mansion-owner--------rather than a jobless, high-life-living, sponging-off-his-woman NFAiste flat-sharer!!

I mean, come on---you think about it!  African men and especially Nigerian men want to be king of their castle----alpha male----leader of the pack---and i do like men with strong personalities---but it is really reallly reallly hard for a woman to RESPECT a toothless lion who is roaring" I am the man! I make the decisions, blah, blah, blah!"  yet this "man" is being kept, fed and housed by a woman.  It is okay if it s a short-term thing---and not something that we women would want go on for years and years and years.

Respect breeds love and it is hard to respect (let alone love) a man who is not man enough and has a woman continually caring for him in one way or the other

The woman definitely knew what she was doing---------after living a reckless life, she decides, "oh i know------i'd simply go to some pentecostal church----and turn 'born again'----i'll marry the 1st sucker that comes along and tehn tell him AFTER the wedding. He will not be able to divorce me as it is forbidden in the church" Poor man---poor fool.

I was brought up catholic and if they were in the catholic church (rather than penteostal) the man could apply for annulment on the grounds of absence of procreation (catholic believe that marraige is first and foremost for procreation and that is obviously not gona happen wihtout her womb!) and also on the grounds of deception (she SHOULD HAV told him everything so he could have made n informed decision BEFORE marrying her.

So------what should they do? Well----short of escaping the marriage by pretending to be dead----he can stick with her and have a child via surrogacy (veeeerrrrryyy expensive!)-----he could make another woman pregnant and claim the child (baaaad for his reputation in the church and he would incur the severe wrath of the girl's family)------and last but not least, he could pretend he has backslidden----get out of that church and the marriage----become a christian again----join a CATHOLIC church---have his 1st marraige annuled and marry someone else. Catholic churhc would happily marry him to someone else as they would recognise the 1st marriage as invalid due to deception and sterility


GOOOOOOOD LUUUUUCCCKKK!

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ade.f:

Tega,

Shame i missed your posting
Indeed, was sleepin and dreamin
'Cos i had to be driving
Much early, next morning.

twas a shame i couldn't talk much yesterday
I had a lot of work come swinging my way
Hope to see you online again today
If not---well here's wishing you a very good day

Razorr:


The funny thing is that most of the guys who say they want women with perfect features are the ugly ones.
They want to marry Goddesses so that they can have beautiful kids.

yeah-----it's like they are trying to suppress the ugly gene----LOL