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We may swear heaven on earth in our vows to love someone, but it still not enough to trust the person who boasts, brags and claims to love you. Because, only God is absolutely trust worthy. But humans cannot be trusted, because they are not perfect and often fail when the chips are down.

Always beware of humans 24/7.

You cannot even trust yourself.

I love, but I do not trust.

You do not need trust to love anyone.
What you need most is TRUTH and not TRUST.

I am an american born Nigerian and my boyfriend of 3 months was born and raised in Nigeria. I think because of our differences in upbringing, we have many miscommunications. We  have been having problems for about 2 weeks now because I felt that he does not do enough to include me in his life such as tell me things thats going on and I have spoken to him once before about this.  Two nights ago, he went missing and I did not hear from him so the next day I called him again and he text me to tell me that his step grandmother who came from Nigeria for surgery was very sick and that he stayed at the hospital with her all the night before.  This was the first I was hearing about this so I got upset because I didn't know what had been going on.  He called me later that evening and we walked but he seemed agitated and quickly rushed me off the phone saying he was tired. I called him back and he didn't anwser so I sent him a text saying "it seems as though talking to me and telling me stuff and making time to come see me is stressful for you and I do not want to stress you out so maybe we should just be friends from now on"  I only sent the text because I was angry and I didn't mean to break up with him.  I text him the next day apologizing and saying I wanted to talk with him and he did not respond.  Then I called him and left a msg also apologizing.  Later that evening, I called again saying I was coming over to apologize in person, still no anwser.  Then I went to his house and knocked on his door and no anwser although I think he may have been home.  I left him 2 more voice msgs and a text to tell him I came to his place to say I'm sorry for what I did but he never responded.  I left his place yesterday feeling sad and text him to say I was sorry again and that if he wanted to talk to me, he should call me but if not I understand.  Still no anwser. I am sad and I love and miss him. Is he done with me?  Is there anything I can do to get him back.  I miss him so much.  Any advice would be helpful.

Dont blame it on that, Ok?? Search yourself and solve your problem!, OLODO

op
report him 2 d nearest police:

he used u and dumped u.

Why are u crying now? Are u the husband to the woman?
What will u do? take the cash and calm down?

No he popped her.

Whoever is supplying you the ''ogogoro'' does not like you at all@190

@ Brown Jay,

You hit the nail on the head.
Your answer applies to the woman too.

Quoted by: tellwisdom

so what happens now?

Your meaning exactly?

@poster
there is no such thing as a "real man", thats the garbage people come up with to try to act/look better than others. even a man who has absolutely NOTHING to his name can be a man(real man)
some biatches will try to use that on you to belittle you:"you cant buy me a BB, you are not a real man because wale could" etc dont fall for this crap!!!!!!!

just because you cant pay your bills, it doesnt make you less than a man.
just because you can drive a fancy car or own your own home, it doesnt make you less than a man.
look at yourself in the mirror every morning and, as long as you are proud of the person you see, then all is good!

dont believe the damn hype, as long as your are doing everything in your power to live a righteous life then ALL IS WELL.
stop trying to fit where you dont belong.

Anyway she told me that the guy initiated the conversation and in the beginning she was actually weary (actually she's shy). I and her friend warned her that plenty wayo people dey over the net, that guy is sleazy (he too dey toast any babes over the net sha) and that she should kuku eliminate contact from said guy now now.
She come dey do yanga for us whilst that guy started doing yanga for her. In the beginning he used to call her up (yep she was even mumu enough to give him her number - smh).When the calls started to cool she began calling him and the funny thing is he hardly answers her calls. I told this girl to stop disturbing the guy that he is probably busy anyway - I mean there is an age gap between them.
I ain't gonna lie, she's my coz and I love her but part of me feel she deserves it for being mumu

But you sounded more MUMU, judging by your post No aaffencel

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Why are you downcast my cassava?
okay buy me pepper soup,scratch card,mmh wht else, phone,shoes,nail polish,bracelets and then i will agree.   
why are we not meeting under the mango tree today? is it the weather?
I have an old torn umbrella tht can shield us from the rain.

hahaha okay let me inform the elders that your on the way

i lik dis girl i think she likes me too.i told her we will talk 2moro,but am scared to ask her out becus.im afraid she might say no & i hav never bin said no to by a girl am just scared dis time.i no dis is a common topic but nid advice ppl

, I hope your mind aint playing tricks on you??

Here is a lady approached by a married man (without her prior knowledge of the marital status). He trips her, spends money on her, and promises her marriage to sleep with her. She caves in and becomes deeply emotionally involved. Then comes the bombshell, she finds out. She becomes distress and seems justified to curse and rain abuses on him but she remains emotionally messed up. She becomes skeptical about men that come her way and resolves in her heart not to allow such happen to her again. No matter the shade of men that comes her way, her perspective is never to go through the same emotional pain again, so she tries not to get involve emotionally until she is sure.

Same problem you girls face month after month, Year after year, That gurl has been beclouded by the pepper-soups,recharge cards, malta guiness and little little miscellaneous gifts she gets forgetting to ascertain the fact she so crave for in d first instance, Its so pains me when a gurl feels ONLY BIG MEN CAN DO WONDERS and proving her smartness when not necessary, while dying for a life partner

Now, she is lost in the middle, seeking for the right path to tread on Its really a pity

Right it isnt my first time going to Nigeria, Ive been several times, its just that my family are so boring LOL!
I need a change of Scenery!!! Like cinemas, restaurants, clubs anything and some new friends!
Lemme know any ideas or if you live out there!
If you have a Blackberry LEMME KNOW TOO  !I live in the UK, and will be going to Lagos,

I can show you some nice places you can hangout, DURING YOUR STAY HERE if only you gon do the spending  :d

Who started this thread? Potato of course so I guess everybody can post whatever they want.
So long as it doesnt turn into a battle zone. cz al be off b4 anyone can say Bolt!
Now Wisdom demands tht u dont get envious of any man complimenting me.
Thats very healthy and mature by the way, besides its simply a thread on a forum!
Dont chase guys away lol. you still havent paid dowry ok?

I really need to shed my weight, can sumone give me reasonable tips, please.

Engage in practisn water therappy. Drink lots of water daily and reduce your daily carbohydrate content. Exercise is also important like taking a jugging 4rm house 2 breweries


sensless talk

A ROUND OF APPLAUSE
STANDING OVATION
END OF SHOW.

@OP shes the only chick I gat my eyes on here ~no strings attached~ I love her personality and I think shes cool.

His eye is on the sparrow

I thought he was drunk  when he was saying,she has aborted up to 15 times,He claimed she confessed to her and want advice from us if he should go ahead and marry her,the guy claimed out of wish only 3 was from him but 12 before he met her,I do not know what to say as I was speechless with my own bottle of STAR while friends was giving their advices[b],I ended up with two bottles[/b] with no advice maybe some things on Nairaland  will make me think of what to say when I meet at Bar Joint on or before next friday again

Now, becos he don buy you 170naira beer, 2 bottles 340 naira, why u no collect d money go take chop??,  You wldnt have bin  drunk by now

I still love my e-girlfriend what can i do oo ?

Am 29, a virgin and never had a gf b4. There is dis gal i met a month ago in my office. She is 23, a student and had dated 2 guys b4. She claims to love me. Now she is asking me to pay for her hair, and to also buy her a BB. She seems ok to me. But am nt comfortable wit d fact dat she is nt a virgin and her monetary precipitate material demands.

^^^
Not really .I used to ask such when I was 13-19 years old. Thts why.
I was expecting smthing else.
I am sure somebody will define for him. I am jst in a different paradigm and school of thought.
I may confuse him the more.

Oh you really made my heart go gbam gbam.See, I even made you my password to my heart!