Oluwadamilare118:
Once fallen to a pressure, winning the race requires the Grace of God.

My brother I'm telling you, it's always stressing

Funmmyastic:
Nice one

Funmi you are fantastic which makes you funmitastic. Thanks dear

carter009:
Nice one dear,,, how are u doing.

I'm fine dear.. U?

charlsecy:
I don't think Nairaland is meant to be that way. Post the whole article and then put your link at the end.

They will just read and never click on the link. So if u want to know more about it, just click on it

INTROVERT:
Age pressure..

If u click on the you will see that I mentioned it.. Thanks dear..

Pressure, can be described in different forms but in this context, it is seen as botheration, fuss, worriment, aggravation, annoyance, pest, perplexity, difficulty, drag, molestation, exasperation.

To be pressurized is to be frustrated, to be aggravated, in a lame man's language it's to be disturbed against your own will. The direct opposite of it is to be at peace.

This kind of pressure has led many people to be self destruct and it has made them make wrong and odd choices because they were cajoled or forced to do them.

When "Marriage", comes to mind, patience is the right word for it but the urge to get into it before preparing for it will always have calamity as the end game.
In this article, I'll be describing the different form of pressure that makes people choose wrong maritally.

4 different pressure vices that makes people choose wrongly maritally.

1. Family pressure:- This has always been the main reason why people make the wrong choices either about their marital life, education, occupation. What have you?, parents have a way of poisoning the minds of their children against their will because of their own selfish reasons.

Especially extended family members, they too believe they have a say concerning the lives of every member of the family, thereby flaunting themselves as a proper example to make you feel victimized and pressurized to get married so you can attend family meetings and flaunt your children too. That is a very wrong reason to get married.

Some parents will say "I want to carry my grandchildren, what are you waiting for? Can't you just get a man and hook him up?". This is very alarming, what if the man is violent?, what if the man is very promiscuous?, they do not want to know they just want a grandchild.


2. Peer pressure:- This sort of pressure can be humiliating, when you have a social gathering with friends and all they talk about is marriage related issues

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MichaelBukamzy:
yeah.wonderfull feeling.

My dear I know the feeling of love, it's actually one of the most beautiful feeling ever

I personally don't understand why women should be generalized. You cannot say that all women are the same because you're including every female member in your family too, including your daughter.. If you have not traveled far but you're basing it on what some people are saying or what you've seen, it's not still a strong reason to conclude.. Travel, explore, read books, remove the mindset that that we are all the same, mingle and search for the differences, I wouldn't even want anyone to be too defensive or rude about it.. We don't want you to perambulate we want facts

HealingHeart:
I prefer a woman around my age. Roughly +/-3 is my sweet spot. I don't like women too young because they are usually more vain and immature.

I'll agree with you on that.. True

MichaelBukamzy:
I am 24 and my lover is 25. She was my primary school crush(hahahaha).now,we have been dating since 2015.a nice girl,no demands(not toxic like all these self acclaimed femists wey full here),serious girl(you know all these medical students)respects me to the core(na daddy she dey kul me since day 1)No drama at all,true definition of maturity.over all a perfect Woman,a rare gem.i can marry her so i see no wrong in dating older ladies.

Hmm... I can see that you are in love with her and she too... Mutual affection.. That's great

LINTUNE:
In fact my ex is 3 years older, I enjoyed my relationship with her, the maturity, didn't have to spend much, in fact she took me out once in a while, but definelty as the man, I do show her love(financially) in my own little way.. Had the highest round of sex in my life with her, 5 rounds in one night... Can't forget... We broke up cos she went for service and obviously, u know what comes to such girls mind after graduating from the uni.. So I had to back down..

I understand... Hmm

nicerod:
35-50 clean and petite u welcome

Hmmmm

dot5baba:
for me i prefer older lady; i dated one for 7 years and i really enjoyed it but the younger ones have made me lost alot of weight

Dot5baba....��... They made u lose enough weight... I guess older women win

Powersurge:


Well, I may not be able to marry older woman. Emphasis on may. However, I had an experience that made me love older women. There was this woman in my hostel in school (off k). she was not a student. she was working. she was older than me. she was around 35. She was beautiful though. we got dating. The level of her discussions, responses, etc was amazing. she wasn't looking for marriage, for the record. I don't need to mention the care. And oh! She never pretend that she was doing me a favour by having sex with me (either through words or action). if she feels like asking for it, she does. As a student, she mostly took me out (covering my face). But once in a while, she tell me in plain words to take her out. and she will made me understand that the bills will be on me. In one word, maturity.

That's a great experience I must say..

ubunja:
meaning what exactly

I tire for the person oh

Lonestar124:
Older women are good for marriage, but always jealous in relationship with young men.

I prefer to marry old woman than dating, she will stressed out your life, especially africa ones.

Hmm...

I was reading an article and this guy was protesting and saying he will rather be with an older woman. His own reasons were, they know how to cook, they have their own money, they don't have drama, they love sex, they don't want more children, they are not on the streets, they like to travel and they have more experiences to share. But to me I was feeling as a "man", like a proper man, you wouldn't want to be running errands and be sitting at home like a gigolo and no drama sometimes makes the relationship boring.. But that's just to me oh.. Guys tell me, who you prefer

Undertaker001:
you and temmywrites

bunch of overweight slobbering sluggish stupid poachers..

you are a fat hippopotamus

Well is that all you have in your stocked up skull filled with maggots... Nincompoop.. Did they teach u that or did you check the dictionary to check that? I'm sure you're suffering from elephantiasis of the brain that's why you cannot lift your thoughts and think well... I'm not surprised or puzzled or alarmed by your comment you this misogynistic fool... I'm sure everytime Your mother thinks about you, it brings tears to her eyes, disappointment child... I hope you grow up and have a life... Jobless fatso, scum bag with shit as filters all over his head... I'm sure your your village people followed you here..
I'll go and call brocklesner for you now... Fake undertaker oshi.. Ode buruku... I'm in my room.. Comman beat me... He he he he he....

Lonestar124:
It is never the wish of God for women to deliver with painful labour, Eve brought plight upon womanhood.

I prefer to deliver in pain as a man than to lose the gift of enternal life God gave to man from the begining of the world.

You're thinking faculty is like nepa light... Oga use your upper... What are u even saying?

Lonestar124:
This is intriguing, if not for the fact i was birth by a woman i will say women are insignaficant in our society today, A world without men figure, only female dwellers will be worstest but who am i to question God. .......If i was there with God when he was considering of creating women i will contest against it, now look at what they brought upon humanity, suffering, low life expectancy, sickness e.t.c.

What will happen if what God gives Adam a well elastic anus to bare children by himself and direct a spiritual wife for service when the sexual urge arise, they said man need companion, a monkey will would've done the work well if adam nurture them well instead of women.

Biblically, women are firstly antogonist to men and God from lucifer the devil that want overtake her creator, jezzebel that kill men for her selfish purpose, vasthi the arrogant queen that wanted to cross bounndary in her husband house, sapphira that compelled his husband ananias to commit the sin of lying, delliah ensnared the great samson and many of them in the scripture.

Women are blessed in gossiping which is the root of hatred, wickidness, greedy, malice, intimidation, mockery and so on.

I must say as a man, women are devine curse to mankind but we have to accept them that way, and keep it in our question note, i will never fail to ask God why he decide to gives us women as companion.

How I wish God gave you that elastic anus make u born quadruplet....you go just die before they do naming ceremony ode... You think to give birth is easy?
You already questioned God already.. I hope he forgives you for your mumu comment.. So what you're trying to say is you're useless coming from a woman...
I'm sure you came from your father's elastic anus... You're both a slowpoke and an oxymoron.. Contradicting what you're saying because if women brings low life expectancy how did your mother give birth to you... I wish your mother could see how she wasted her uterus for all the crap you're saying. She should have flushed you out with her menses... U must not marry oh... Just find a fellow man like you with a elastic anus so you can give birth to the next generation and let's see how they will become.. Humpty dumpty.. Spongebob dumb pants..

AwkaetitiBabe:
Stop interacting with women naw. It's simply not a must to relate with ladies with you feel this negative about them.

carter009:
Please take it easy, why are you so pained, I did not see anything wrong In what she said.

My nairaland crush, carter009
Thanks love, his sense is below the earth, his brain is short, he cannot understand, it's not possible for him, it's too huge for him to handle... I'm sure he must have not heard of me.. Because my typing fingers Stings more than a bee. Thanks for taking my place

Altern8:


You have an axe to grind with her? Take it easy.

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Op, yes, it is a big reason. But is it a VALID reason?

On a side note, women STOP using sex as a tool for punishment. We both enjoy the pleasure. Konji dey catch you too but na lie, you must do shakara just because somebody offend you. So you won’t mind suffering the konji as long as he is suffering too. That’s witchcraft abeg.

The day I heard a married man complain that his wife stopped having sex with him for weeks, I knew witches were real. She knew he would not cheat on her so she was confident to starve him. Nobody should try it with me o. I’m not a saint. I go fall for temptation o.

Lol... I'm feeling you my guy

stupidity:
exactly what am saying. My gelfien haven’t been satisfying me 100% lately. So I can cheat on her and not feel remorseful, correct?

Sit her down, explain the needful to her, I'm not going to do like an hypocrite and be like u must marry her.. Yen yen yen.. So sit her down, ask her what's really going on.. Like a real conversation not an argument, hear her out. In a relationship sacrifice is very essential. So she has to understand that there are so many things you wouldn't normally do but because we are dating you have to do it to please me because I am your man and you too have to please her likewise. If she's still adamant, make her know you'll be getting it outside, if she doesn't change, then make her a little jealous for a while, she'll come around. She might be going through something and sex is not even near to her at all be patient with her... But to validate my point properly. Marry her to show her that you really want her, so no matter reason she comes up with sex starving u, it won't still make sense

stupidity:
So you are saying if she doesn’t allow me dokk, it’s justifiable to go out and dokk some nicer pvssy, correct??

I'm saying she could lose you if she doesn't allow you dig in. Whether you should dig outside or not is totally your choice

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I think I'm alarmed at your personality, I try to ignore your messages but you keep craving for attention so I'll give it to you right now.

Uncle MY POST IS NOT FOR YOU. IM TALKING TO THE MATURE MINDS HERE, NOT SOME EGOCENTRIC, EGOIST DO YOU UNDERSTAND ME.

I FIND YOUR ATTITUDE RATHER APPALLING AND BELLIGERENT, I wouldn't call you a nincompoop but I said it already and if you really want to come at me, you've got to do better than memes.. I feel you're an empty basket full of oranges with fly perching all around it

But then, this is just a tip of the head, when I go all in. I will bite your balls.

Don't even bother because with the last drop of blood I will come at you. I think I forgot to give you your size, it's not my fault sha, when you're invincible nko. Like this nigga kept sending offensive memes, where did u germinate from? U better uproot yourself.

AntiMCU:

Like?

Uncle I can see you're really jobless which I find very alarming.. But I will reply you just to open your thick blocked skull.

Now the same way I didn't generalize things that I said some men.. Because I'm still alarmed at how "some men" became "men", and affected peeps here oh

Responsibilities of women but some women still fall short of it

1. Women are pioneers of the nation which automatically makes them give birth to children who holds down the nation. She has to be a mother. Being a mother comes with a whole bunch of responsibility which limits her freedom and makes her nuture her children that are looking up to her to be better in the society. Most of us were brought up by a single mother and here we are today, trying to build what's left of the society.

2. Being supportive in the home :- A woman should be supportive of the husband, most women dodge this kind of responsibility because of some insecurities, which is very bad.
There's nothing there if we actually get foodstuffs with our own money for our kids, take them out on a proper treat without the father, the man would go to work, she would go to work too, the gains from both side is supposed to make the family fulfilled.

3. Get an education or vocational training :- Like I said being a woman, it carves a woman naturally into being very responsible, thats y at an early stage, a girl child is taught so many things about life and her roles to play and that shouldn't skip going to school because when the father isn't around, she would be there with the children to guide, tutor, train and explain difficult terms with them, help them with their assignment, follow up their I.Q and thinking faculty.

4. Knowing how to match the family and the social life of everyone in it:- Naturally when matters arises with puberty, I don't know how your family works but for a few people, we run to our mum to explain things to us and elaborate why we feel those changes in our body.
Or "when you hardly awake to meet your father probably because of his work and late night shifts and woman would be the bond there, an emotional handbag to receive your pain and doubts.. Kudos to mothers.

5. Irrespective of how bitter and rude some women are, part of the responsibility of being a woman is to inculcate words of wisdom into their children's mouth, its to pray for them, while everyone is sleeping at night, it's to sacrifice her precious sleep and attend vigils to make sure her family is purified spiritually.

Now writing this down, I remember a lot in the past and I see that if you have never come across a responsible woman or sensible one, then change the way you generalize things because if u keep saying "it's a donkey", even a lion will pass and you'll still call it a donkey.

Not every woman is a "woman", some just aged really quick, they're yet to find their goals and achievement and aspirations in life. It all deals with how you were brought up if truly you collected the training. And the way you think. After all is said we are all human inside.. Only, our gender both male and female, naturally writes down our roles and responsibilities for us.

So please when I say "some", I didn't generalize things and I would really like it if some men just stop talking somehow on this platform, no one knows anyone here, we are all mature minds. I'm not a feminist.

I'm a woman and believe me sometimes I get hooked up in situations I wish I were a man. In fact most of my friends are guys and when I mean responsibility I know what I'm saying, I wasn't talking to all the guys on this platform.

Now any woman that wants you to have sex with her without condom and says "sebi you'll collect the pregnancy", does not understand so many things and if you check well you'll see it started from her background now as a man.. That statement is alarming. You don't know if she has herpes or that's how she's been having unprotected sex around or if you're the third person she's coming to see.. Why would u still bleep her? Did she use jazz to talk to you? Simple, no oh... I can't.. That's all.. If she wants to go she should go... At least it's saving u of an unplanned pregnancy and unplanned STD.

let's be guided please. No one is forcing you to love a toxic person as long as u know this person is toxic and you keep being with them, you alone will suffer for it.

So saying no to some kinds of demands and standing your ground is a kind of responsibility.

Most people don't understand that intimacy is a certain kind of love language, so is quality time.

I understand work has taken half of your schedule but don't let it ruin your relationship, believe me once your spouse stops disturbing you for intimacy, she's getting it elsewhere.

Yes, sometimes, I feel most women don't even understand their sexuality, they just find out that they crave more and more, because of this, they try to initiate sex first.

While some will be pretending but once the game starts they are the coach, having this kind of woman with a high taste of sexual fulfillment and just making love to her once in a while might make her cheat.

Women, hold your property tight, why would you stop giving them food and expect them not to eat it outside.
It's as basic as that.

Being sex starved can make a man do so many things... Don't starve your man.

So if he eventually cheats, the blame wouldn't be about you always squeezing body like orange.

Most people don't know that relationships deals with change. Which means it keeps evolving. That shows where circumstances come, you don't expect it, it just happens and you go back to where you started in the past and it still doesn't change a thing.

If you guys met in the church, it doesn't make her modest or religious, thieves also attend church services. So basing the relationship on the fact that you guys met in the church is pointless because you will be really disappointed as how some people behave.

If he's a club baller and you guys met in the club doesn't mean he'll take you seriously, u might just be the only side chick that really loves clubbing like him so he's always reaching out to you EVERY weekend. Don't think you're the wifey oh.

Lovers meet anywhere and time, and so many factors determine the relationship not the location. Even after getting married you'll still be wondering what the purpose is. Because you expected more.