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We all should know that divorce is always an option. Marriage is never for better for worse

saintkel:
U haven't answered me....I said if dis happened to u....what will u do?

You've gotten an answer from me. A personal opinion but still want to argue which has no point here. Please hold unto your opinion while I hold unto mine.

The lion in the picture above is likely suffering as a result of inbreeding, which can be extremely harmful to lions. It often leads to reduced reproductive success, physical deformities, and a weakened immune system—factors that ultimately threaten the long-term survival of isolated lion populations. These negative effects, known as inbreeding depression, are a major conservation concern, particularly for populations with limited genetic diversity.

Domestic animals like German Shepherds also suffer from inbreeding, which can lead to a range of health issues, including joint problems and genetic disorders.

saintkel:
so what will u do?....allow them get killed?

It's difficult but once we keep on paying them, the it'll keep on getting worse. As we've been paying, have it gotten better??
There is a reason why most European countries don't negotiate with terrorists and or kidnappers

It's simply cash chasing. Even the single ladies currently prefer dating a married man because they believe he'll have more money to throw at them. I remember when I was single, if I approached a lady and she's feeling uninterested. I'll lie that I'm married, that lie brings thier attention. Niaja girls and street hustling shiitt

favor914:
Do not twist the facts. Jonathan nominated Buhari to negotiate. & he declined.

Why will Jonathan even make or bring up such a statement in 2025? That man still remains clueless.

Now he is saying o, I didn’t mean it as such, I was misunderstood.

Don't twist the story. Boko Haram nominated Buhari ad he declined. It's as simple as that. And we know that Goodluck it because it was in his book. If you follow the article more you will realized the statement was more about how complex Boko Haram is rather than painting Buhari black.

Adeboye should be arrested for killing innocent dogs....

After misbehaving almost throughout thier lives, they now need an Adam? It's unfortunate that most of them still get bad character

Only if this will ever see the light of day.
Unfortunately, the money involved in Nigerian politics is overwhelming — so much so that it corrupts the minds of almost everyone who gets involved. It's sad to know that the lawmakers, who should be driving change, have no interest in doing so.

This system can only change when the masses rise and force the decision.

Not saying he is guilty on this one but his track records shows that he is sick to that effect. I think he needs to be diagnosed, either medically or lawfully

Good times coming. If these happens then the importance of women in the life of a man could be underestimated. Meaning a man can make babies. 😂 Wahala

NassBoy:
If your loved on is kidnapped today, God forbids it, wouldn't u pay ransom to save their lives?.
Some of u just talk because you're not the one involved.
It's well o

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I don't pray it ever happens. But I'll hardly pay. It's a personal opinion. There is a reason why in developed countries, people hardly pay these ransoms. It'll only encourage the monsters to do more

Paulscholari:
Come let me pray for you
That HIV will dissappear.
Your body is not meant for sickness
Divine health is your inheritance
And you must receive it.

Let’s Set the Record Straight About HIV 🚨

Enough with the fear-mongering and misplaced pity. HIV is NOT a death sentence, and it’s about time we stopped treating it like one.

Yes, prayer is important for many — but let’s be real: prayer doesn't manage HIV. Science, medication, and support do. When taken properly and consistently, HIV treatment (ARVs) makes the virus undetectable — and untransmittable. That means you can live a full, healthy, and long life like anyone else.

💊 HIV is manageable. Stigma is the real killer.
Many other illnesses are more severe, yet people don’t get shamed for them. So why the hate toward people living with HIV? It’s ignorance. And it needs to stop.

To every PLHIV out there: ✨ You can
1. go to school
2. You can work in tech, on a farm, in an office — anywhere
3. You can fall in love, get married, and have healthy children
4. You can travel, dance, create, and build your future
5. You can live boldly, freely, and fully

💥 Your life is not over. It’s just different — and that’s okay.

Don't internalize the stigma. Don’t let society’s ignorance shape your self-worth. Your diagnosis does NOT define you. What defines you is how you choose to live after.

So take your meds. Hold your head high. And know this: you are not broken. You are powerful.

So Nigeria Wants to Host the Commonwealth Games? Cool. But Let’s Talk.

Every few years, we hear the same sweet pitch:
"Hosting an international sporting event will boost Nigeria’s global image!"
"It will develop infrastructure!"
"It will inspire the youth!"
"It will transform our sports sector!"

And now — it's the Commonwealth Games knocking. On paper, it sounds like a dream. But here’s the thing: we’ve seen this movie before. And we all know how it ends.

Remember the FIFA U-17 World Cup?

Yeah — Nigeria hosted it in 2009. You’d be forgiven if you forgot. Why?
Because there’s barely any trace of legacy.
Billions were pumped in, stadiums renovated, temporary excitement everywhere…
But where’s the lasting impact?

How many of the upgraded facilities are still in good shape today?

What’s the ROI — return on impact — on our young athletes and sports ecosystem?
Where’s the evidence that it changed anything long-term?


Spoiler alert: Most of the stadiums are ghost towns now. Paint peeling. Grass overgrown. Gates rusting.

Until we stopped paying these ransoms, kidnapping will continue to be on the rise.

Why come to social media and post it. Anything for the clout sha. Abi is this how they pray to thier social media god?

Jennyclay:
I have never for one day had such an ill mindset.

Me, suffer with a man? God forbid .

If you don’t have money to take care of me don’t even dare come close to me.

You should take responsibility of taking care of yourself. Are a child, or a disabled person? If not, then quit the lazy mindset of irresponsibility and this country would be a better place...

Absolutely! It’s refreshing to see a policy that actually works for the people, especially when it comes to something as crucial as food security and affordability. Look, no one’s saying FG has been flawless—far from it. But this move by the Tinubu administration, reversing the previous strict border closure on food imports, is a game-changer.

Remember when Buhari shut the borders aiming to boost local farming? The idea sounded good on paper—support local farmers, reduce dependence on imports. But the reality? Prices skyrocketed—like, over 400%—hoarding ran wild, and ordinary Nigerians were left struggling to put food on the table. It wasn’t sustainable, and it certainly didn’t help the poor.

Then comes Tinubu’s 180-day waiver on staple grains, and BAM! Rice prices dropped from a staggering N110,000 to N65,000 per bag. Beans fell from N4500 to N1800 per mudu. Groundnuts went from 60,000 down to 25,000 per bag. This isn’t just numbers—it’s relief, it’s breathing space for families who were previously priced out of basic nutrition.

So how can anyone oppose a policy that directly improves the lives of everyday Nigerians? It’s not just economics; it’s about dignity, stability, and giving people a real chance to thrive without being crushed by inflated prices.

This is a policy that gets it—showing that sometimes, pragmatism beats ideology.

Stupidity of the highest order. Can't they discuss and agree to marry on the phone.
Two boofoons can't make a good home...mad pipo everywhere

Politically speaking, it’s clear he wants to silence the clerics — to stop them from calling out the failures of poor political leadership. But on the flip side, there's an objective benefit: it could help the government expose fraudsters and scammers who hide behind religion to exploit people.

Just last week, a so-called man of God publicly declared that Opay loans are “from Hell fire.” Imagine that — a multi-millionaire preacher, someone who could easily offer interest-free loans to his own church members, yet he chooses not to. Instead, he condemns platforms that are actually helping the average person get by. The irony is wild.

It's a reality check to know that 99% of single ladies are in the market(waiting for the highest bidder). A woman hardly/never loves. They fall in love with things you provide. No wonder most of them will leave when you are not able to provide anymore.

Softmirror:
Nigeria also ranks very high among the top 3 in the world when it comes to number of Churches. The irony is this, none of these Nigerian churches ranks among the top richest in the world. But when it comes to the richest Pastors in the world, at least 3 Nigerian pastors are found in the first 10 while many more in the next 10. That is food for thought.

I am a Christian and this not far fetched from the truth

They are adults. They decided to do something that pleases them and they look so happy. Who am I to judge them??

casualobserver:
thats why he shouldnt have removed it.


nobody noticed the 5% tax on telecoms services and thats why they wont notice its removal. Govt just losing revenue for nothing.

it wasnt the tax that was the problem but the 50% tarrif increase.

Don't be naive. The fact that you probably didn't notice the 5% tax doesn't mean more 200m other Nigerians didn't noticed. Even in the villages people just realized that thier credit don't last as it used too. That's common sense

Rather than educating people on financial literacy, he resorts to calling names like 'Devil.' It’s hard to understand what he takes people for. He has a large congregation and has amassed billions through offerings and tithes. The least he could do is establish a loan platform with interest rates far more reasonable than what currently exists—not mislead his followers with falsehoods.
What’s truly unfortunate is that some people still believe this bollocks he is said

Gerrard59:
I agree with the bold, but many of these women wouldn't agree with it. Besides, some ethnic groups and Christianity (even though it wasn't stated) frown at polygamy.

That said, the side chic model benefits men as polygamy requires responsibility for the new woman and her child(ren). Why pay for the milk when the cow is free?

😂 The person paying for the milk isn't complaining. And some cows get coconut head

Saao:
😆 😆 🤣 God is in heaven so I laughed. Abacha did worse but God showed him the way out. Nigeria is a country of prayers despite our recurrent mistakes, God still fight for us. We will see the finger of God in Nigeria

Let’s stop deceiving ourselves — prayer is not magic.
We keep acting like divine intervention will fix a system that we ourselves refuse to confront. Abacha didn’t die because of karma — if that were the case, why do millions of innocent people die every day while the corrupt continue to live and loot in peace?

It’s easy to talk about “Abacha’s loot” now because he’s dead and the money had real value back then. But let’s be honest — what’s being stolen today under this APC government makes Abacha look like a learner. The difference? Today’s looters are alive, protected, and enabled by our silence.

Until we rise and take real, physical action — not just prayers and hashtags — nothing will change. God does not descend to fight the battles we’ve been equipped to fight ourselves. This is a man-made crisis, and it demands a man-made solution.

Enough is enough.
Let’s stop waiting. Let’s start acting.

SeeWahala:
HAAA! Kaduna again today?

So today alone, attacks in borno, kwara and kaduna? Just in one day over 100 souls kpafuoo just like that?

Tilumbu is still chilling on his vacation oh, hahaha 😂 I don cry taya already jor, make I laugh small 😏

Yet some APC Tinubu naive fans will say insecurity issues have reduced drastically under Tinubu. The only difference between now and then is that we've gotten used to banditary attacks that the news don't shake us as it used to... Nigeria is filled with wickedness from the LGA, STATE to Federal level.

Gerrard59:
Unfortunately, a significant proportion of our men think like that. Buying houses and cars for side chics rather than their wives who birthed children. There are many reasons spinsters would rather remain single or be side chics because they benefit a lot without investing proportionately.

Are you married? If not then you are not speaking out of experience. Most men buy cars for thier wives. And let me give you reasons why some cheating men buy/rent houses for thier GFs. It's because they would have the privacy of visiting these girls at anytime. And one thing is certain, he'll have sex whenever he comes. She'll never deny him. Not even once.

Personally, I think any African rich man who wants to marry more than one wife is free to do so. Instead of hiding everyday with different girls all around. Since he's got the resources to make them happy. No wahala

Kobojunkie:
I am shocked you still regard him as your husband, assuming this tale is real in her case. 🙄🙄

Clearly, you are the wife material/good wife/submissive wife your husband settled for to build a home for his sake, while his side-chick is the woman of his dreams, whom he maintains and builds up.

Your comment has a lot of assumptions. You could have asked before concluding that she's submissive, whether the husband doesn't support her financially and otherwise. Most times it's the wives who send thier husbands away to the GF with Thier coconut heads

It's sad being a Tinubu supporter. This man have been feeding the poor masses hopelessness back to back. He indeed a tax master Please can someone tell me this is a good decision? 😭

Kobojunkie:
He cancelled the marriage because he could not get his own sister into the woman's bridal train? 😏

Anyways, red flag na red flag! They both dodged a bullet there and should count themselves lucky.

Women, please stop marrying controlling men. Your worth to these types of men comes down to whether they can control you or not. And the end is never good as your beings are reduced to near nothing by all of that control. Go ask your mothers and grandmothers for details on that.

This analogy feels one-sided. I wonder why, in many cases, women are primarily concerned about control when it comes to marriage. It’s also important to consider the other side — the sister is family too. Including her in the bridal train wouldn’t stop the wedding. After all, the bride isn’t the one buying or sewing the clothes she’ll wear. It’s important to recognize the value of relationships. Honor and respect your spouse’s family — especially here in Africa, where their involvement in the wedding holds deep cultural significance.