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orimahspence:God bless you too. ![]() |
kikky91:I don't think you pay the SEVIS fee to the college. As long as the "someone" can send money via westernunion, they should be able to make the payment. |
Now, a few tips for those going for interviews. |
RoadAnimations:Congrats!!! Straightforward interview. I hope you have a good time in Iowa. For those sitting at the back, look at the words in bold. |
Smartconcept1:I'd assume it's possible. When I was in Nigeria, fixed deposits used to have a letter/document (is it called a certificate?) that stated the duration of the "fix", when the money would be available, the clauses, etc. If you can prove that this fixed amount would be available to you at the start and during your studies, you should be good. This is a topic I am not sure about, so don't quote me on it . This is merely my opinion. |
baani:This could be the wrong thread but no, you can't file anything for your mom when she visits. Wait until you become a US citizen. She's not eligible to adjust her status upon getting here if you're just a permanent resident. Go to the uscis page and read more on eligibility. There's none for "parents of a permanent resident". |
lockupman:This is wrong. She is NOT eligible to adjust status. |
Spygadgets19:That's good! Start reading about what it takes to get here and achieve that dream. Use google and read lots of stuff you find about it. |
brave1773:It's too late to take standardized tests if your interview is fast approaching. Did you take any standardized tests? Simple answer: NO. You won't be denied or approved SOLELY because you didn't or did take a standardized test. Don't let that bother you too much at this stage. Don't let what you don't have or what you can't change weigh you down, let what you have cheer you up. Keep preparing and you'll be fine. |
oluezekiel:This is true. |
EZEIGBO1OFIMO:Of course. ![]() |
chinemomah2020:I'm just glad I can help. A little encouragement to someone goes a long way and that's all I try to do. At the end of the day, everyone's free to either listen to "You can't do it" or "you can do it" advice. I walked the path of studying here to citizenship. I know the number of "you can't do it", "you'll come back to your senses when reality kicks in" comments I got. In the end, I did it. Others can do it too. ![]() |
LagosismyHome:Of course. ![]() |
LagosismyHome:This is what I said initially: Know your strengths and weaknesses, and plan your life according to them. If you have a background in creative arts or Insurance, don't let anyone fool you into thinking you'd be a complete failure here unless you switched to an engineering or nursing program. Life comes with NO guarantees. I asked you a very simple question and intentionally asked for no additional information. You added more info trying to push a narrative that can only work with the gullible. Nice try. If truly, that's the ONLY person you know who has made it here without going the STEM route, I'm afraid to tell you you shouldn't be making bold generalizations with so much authority on the subject the way you're speaking about it. You need to do more research and keep an open mind. Of all examples to use, you talked about someone who did something completely illegal and tried to spin it to make it sound great. She came here on a visiting visa and conveniently "saw" a job, lol. I'm sure she had it all planned and again, had a bit of luck. I'll leave it at that. Different strokes for different folks. I'll say this clearly, life has no guarantees. It's all planning and a bit of luck. Going for OPT/H1B using the STEM route is a good idea, my point is... that's just one way, it's not the only way. Those who can't go that way are not doomed. There are countless student immigrants who did nothing close to STEM, there are also countless STEM graduates who never got a job to sponsor their greencards and got stuck in the end. You already answered my question and confirmed that yes, there's at least someone who immigrated as a student without STEM. I encourage people who plan and stay positive. There are different ways in life to solve problems. I'll keep my opinion open until someone proves it wrong. People defy odds! See: Obama. Have a nice day. ![]() |
LagosismyHome:I have only 1 question. Please just answer yes or no. Can someone come here as a student and make it here without studying a STEM course and going the OPT/H1B route? Don't explain, just say yes or no. |
sheke01:We'll leave it at that. ![]() |
cruchenutii:It gets a little more complicated when you're not single. Now you'll have to consider your partner when making any decision(s). Lucky you, no kids yet so you've got time to make bold decisions and take risks. I hope things work out for you. I don't know as much about European migration as I do about here so I can't say a lot on how it's done... and sure, you're welcome. |
Chidinho10:Of course, I always welcome sharing ideas. One more thing, if truly that poster knows your real name, social media pages, phone number, etc. and that's what they posted, do the right thing and talk to them to remove it. The Internet never forgets stuff, you don't take chances with things like this. It's a very small world. |
@Femi321 I'll let the matter slide. The first thing when giving a counter-argument is to understand the point of the original argument. As you have stated that you didn't understand the point I tried to make in what I wrote, I'll let it go. ![]() We've both made our points known. You're saying going for STEM courses would help someone's odds of achieving the American dream, and that's good. I'm saying people who can't go that path shouldn't beat themselves up and think they'd never succeed here, that's all. Like you asked, "does THIS law favor students in those disciplines?". You're right, it may not favor them. I'm sure you know there are other laws that could favor them and this is where thinking OUTSIDE the box comes into play. Thank you. ![]() |
tensazangetsu20:You made 3m in 7 months from nothing? That's remarkable and super impressive. If the business isn't expanding yet, is it possible to give it time to maintain the pace, while you save enough to be able to expand it slowly but steadily? It's just a thought. I wouldn't go as far as saying Africa is cursed lol. It just doesn't work out for some people. |
DEGABA:It's sad you feel this way now, I hope you find a way to get what your heart wants and things work out for you. |
femi312:This is exactly the mindset I criticized with my post. Saying you "disagree with the bolded" simply means you're saying having a creative arts/insurance background means you're sure to fail in the U.S if you don't change to Engineering, IT or Medicine. I will NEVER accept that. Changing to those things guarantee absolutely NOTHING! Again, not thinking outside the box is the reason people fail. I'll simply remind you that at the time of VISA applications/interviews, everyone tells the VO they ONLY wanna go study and go back to their country. All the ideas about OPT/H1B visa etc plans after school (if we're strictly going by the book) ARE ILLEGAL. I'm sure you know that having/hiding an immigrant intent during a NON-IMMIGRANT visa application is illegal and that's already a reasonable ground for denial. If you don't believe me, someone here should go for a visa interview and when asked why they chose the program/school, they should say: "because it's a STEM program, after graduation, good companies will hire me and I stand a better chance of getting H1B visa". My point: people who sit on the moral high ground with the same IMMIGRANT INTENT, should not come here discouraging a section of people who wouldn't do things their way and encouraging others. There are other ways to become an immigrant and have a life in the U.S., it's not just for programmers/nurses/engineers and that's why I always say leave people to think outside the box and have a plan with their life. Let's be consistent! If we wanna advise people to come here to study, let's do JUST that! Encourage them to study and go back to where they're coming from. If we wanna start advising people on how to achieve their American dreams (whatever the dreams are), let's level the playing field. The American dream is NOT only for students on scholarship, first class graduates, engineering/IT/Medical majors. Anyone in life can be successful in anything they set their hearts on with good planning and a bit of luck. |
NiklausAkins:Ask your mom why she wants THAT school. There has to be a reason and that reason could be good enough. An answer such as "Of the 3/4/5 schools I got into/applied to, x school was worth the investment. This is because..." could do the magic. Don't stress over it too much. Just try not to make your answer sound generic/scripted and you'll be fine. |
ATnTMartz:Please DO NOT use your brother's address. You don't want that problem. It's going to raise a very unnecessary red flag. |
I have said it many times, the problem with Nigeria is not just with the corrupt politicians, but with the mindset of the average Nigerian citizen. Looking down on people/places/things in 2018? *sigh* @thegrandchemist put it absolutely spot on!!! "KNOW THYSELF". Know your strengths and weaknesses, and plan your life according to them. If you have a background in creative arts or Insurance, don't let anyone fool you into thinking you'd be a complete failure here unless you switched to an engineering or nursing program. Life comes with NO guarantees. Not everyone can score 320+ on their GRE or 110+ on TOEFL to get into top programs/schools. Don't look down on people who can't get into those programs and go to lesser known schools instead. As @Femi321 put it, the country has changed. Most of the employers now lose interest in hiring foreigners who need to be sponsored to get legal status to work. Going to study at the white house guarantees absolutely NOTHING. Getting into top programs is great! I encourage people who have what it takes to shoot for them, but let's encourage others who cannot. A friend of mine went to a school no one knows about at age 32 and got a Bachelor's in finance. She works for Microsoft now and makes $120k+ per annum. Another friend with a Nursing Masters degree makes so much less than her. They are both happy with their lives. Other examples, a truck driver friend went to truck driving training for 8 weeks or so, job he got now pays him about $60k, CNAs (after 6 weeks of training) get jobs that pay $14+ per hour. Happiness in life is subjective, let's encourage people. You have no idea how difficult it is for some people to even get into those schools you laugh at and the joy on their faces when they finally see the admission letters from them. Encourage people to believe in themselves and think outside the box. |
@cruchenutii I read your comment and completely agree with you. Of course, there are cases of people who succeed in Nigeria and make money setting up businesses. You cited cases, successful stories and I smiled reading them. I'm happy when I read happy things like that. Just so you know, I can also cite 5 cases of people who invested in these same businesses you mentioned and cried bitterly afterwards. How many people have 1m cash to make any investment? How easy is it to have 1m in an average man's account? That being said, the 4m Naira gist was a mere subtopic. Making money or owning a house in Nigeria or anywhere else wasn't the main theme of the thread. I was majorly talking about why people go abroad to live a better quality of life. Most people who travel don't do it only to amass wealth. They just want quality life. Most of my counter-arguments on the business-idea topic is that it's not really a black and white world. People vaguely say: "instead of going abroad, why not use that money to set something up here" and they'd be unable to say anything meaningful regarding what business to set up. It's personal opinion. I really appreciate your contribution and it makes so much sense. Life in Nigeria no matter what the attraction is, is just not for ME anymore. I don't wanna go over the same issues, but the main point here is quality of life and it depends on what we see as a life of quality. In conclusion, I'm sorry if some of my posts give the impression that I think NO BUSINESS can thrive in Nigeria, that's not my position at all. |
Business is not for everyone. Some people aren't just cut out for it, and not all business ventures are successful. Again, everybody has their own life/decisions to live/make. Some people can start a business with 10k Naira and over time, it becomes a multi-million Naira venture. Some people start with even 50m Naira and in the end, it's a total waste. In the current economic climate in Nigeria, what business can you do with 4m Naira that guarantees success? It's a honest question, I'm curious. |
femi312:I guess we'll have to agree to disagree. I still want you to tell me the relevance of that part I highlighted. I'm just confused and wanna know what you were trying to say. The same way I rolled my eyes when I saw "...maybe he's just a waiter", so don't think I'm personally attacking you, or anyone. I'm not bullying anyone into silence, I'm only questioning statements like "You're one of the unfortunate souls who have been denied visas many times", and a lot of other statements I can't even remember. I mostly ignore things I don't agree with. I simply talked to you because I respect you and trusted you to reply without insults and settle disagreements like adults. You're fine. I don't wanna dwell on this topic. Let's move on to important issues... ones that involve students and visas. ![]() |
femi312:I respect you a lot but this post disappointed me a little. It would have been ok to stop after that first sentence and you would have made your point in a clear, straight to the point and objective manner. Secondly, what is the relevance of the third part in bold (working in a large oil company)? Good Lord, respect is reciprocal (and I don't care about age, status in life, etc.) and you should understand there's a limit to what everyone can take. Bullying is bullying. Call it what it is. Remember someone owns an oil company, or THAT oil company. Will that give them the right to bully him as an employee? I agree with some of his opinions for example, over-dependence on God when someone is not prepared, discouraging people who just want to lie to get a visa, etc. but I do NOT support bullying. I'm sure this person doesn't talk to colleagues at work in this manner. That being said, I agree with you on the posters not doing what they're criticizing. Name-calling, etc. should be discouraged. Again, be fair and objective with matters. Let's get back on track as to why this thread was created. Have a nice day. |
VECOH1:Your dad's property? Not so much. Unless it's yours. I would say a study leave letter would do a good job... I assume it shows you intend to go back to that job especially if you've been there for a long time and the pay is really good. Another factor that could work in your favor is if the course you're coming to study is directly related to your current job/if the current employers are the ones sponsoring/if the letter says upon your return and completion of studies, the job's waiting for you with a raise in wages/promotion. Thing is... there's no one thing that absolutely serves as proof of home ties. Burden is on the applicant to be prepared to provide as much proof as possible. Finally, you should try to communicate these things without having to show any documents. A VO hardly has enough time to read through letters, etc. and you'll be helping yourself if you can use words in such a way that showing documents wouldn't be necessary. |
cosxzbay:No, you got me completely wrong. I didn't say she should have said what I wrote word for word. She claimed her husband was financially capable, which was a very vague statement. I suggested breaking it down and putting it in dollar terms. It was an example and that's why I wrote: "a better answer like ..." |
James89:Different schools want these done differently. Some schools have portals where you can upload to, some want them sent via email, or via courier. You should read the "admissions" page of the school you're interested in. Most times, the information is there. |

) nod whenever someone is explaining things to us. A nodding VO does not mean you're convincing him or he's agreeing with anything you're saying. It simply means: I'm listening. If you're saying crap and the VO is nodding, don't dig a grave for yourself. Smile and stop talking!

. I am 22 years going to 23 and I don't want to waste any time. Before you know it one is 30 years old without anything tangible to show for it.