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So what makes many of the women liabilities in marriage?

Truvelisback:
So, u think men don't face disrespect from women, right? As for sex b4 offering ladies job, i hate it. As for the sex object or Child bearing sake, that's what many of them are. That is the result of Liability to men. Only a very few of them are Helpmeet.

His comment is a good example of the disrespect I am referring to. How can a human being say that there is nothing special about women, yet same woman carried him in the womb for good 9months, nurtured and made so much sacrifice for him, just for him to be better person in the society and he will now come here to make such comment. His sisters will also get married and men will also say to his face, "There is nothing special about your sisters." What is good for Greece is good for Uganda.

virginprincess:
,Zonefree,why didn't you agree with the op when he said there is nothing special about your female relatives,why did you keep shut?Nonsense.

With all due respect, does this comment of yours make sense to you.

Oxala17:
You got to make up your mind.on the things you want, do you want respect, or you want your pussy sucked?

You can't have both hahaha

I hope there are also nothing special in your mother and your sisters too.

Zonefree:
There's nothing special about women, don't be a fool!

I have noticed that men in this part of the world do not respect ladies. A good example is a employer who want to give a lady a job but will first demand sex or the husband who feels the wife is a sex object and for child bearing or men who goes into a lady's dm and start initiating sexual talks, asking for naughty video calls and nudes. All these and many more are what women face from the male folks everyday. Women are special and demand respect from men from this part of the world.

So women that use toys, how effective is that for them.

If you need a sexual mate, why not hookup with a call girl or better still get yourself a baby mama. Women are treasures and not sexual toys.

onumadu:
I often quarrel with that word "friend" in a marriage. A man should not have his wife as best friend. She is his SEXUAL MATE.
A man's best friend should be another man who he's known for years, maybe from childhood.

As for companionship, YES, a wife should be the best COMPANION for her husband.
It means that she knows everything that the man fantasizes about (ie sexual fantasies) and is willing and able to deliver on all of them in the interest of the union. If she fails to deliver them, it may push the man to go outside. That is why those who blame Yul Edochie are clueless, but let me not digress ...
In the olden days, women (wives) HARDLY questioned their husbands on sexual matters. These days, things are different, hence the problems!
If your husband LOVES YOU, you should do whatever he tells you to make him happy. Mark the proviso -LOVE.
But if you are not sure of his love for you, then you should not care about what he wants, because he lacks basis for his demands.
Most women know when a man loves them. So this should be easy for them.

So what makes you believe most women are liability. Have you met all the women in Nigeria?

Truvelisback:
U are hurt because u are one of them and can relate to what i am saying. And if u mum, ur sisters and other female relatives of urs have been doing that(of which i am very sure they do), advise them to stop. It is very bad My Candid advice to u and ur female folks is that u shouldn't be a liability to any man, rather be an asset. Sadly, many of u aren't willing and ready to be an asset. This is the major reason many of u rarely get serious suitors for marriage. Nowadays, no man wants a liability for a wife. Gone are the days when men would do almost everything for u. As a lady, there are things u should be able to do for urself. No be everything man suppose do or buy for u. Sister, abeg rest, no cry follow me. Just accept the truth.

I have been curious to know how women whose husbands live abroad satisfy themselves when h0rny.

Since you said most women are liability, hope your sister is also a liability.

Truvelisback:
Childbearing and Sex, that's all. Most of u are liability, Only very few u are helpmeet.

I thought I could have a mature conversation with you until I realise you can't make a point without insult.

BlueAir:
If it's a house I built with my sweat and money,there's no justification to try and kick me out,mind u, I said try because no woman will try that with me anywhere in the world over my own house and succeed.. reason with ur head not hole. Some women are the ones who bring out the beast out of a man,quote me anywhere motherF. Best is to get rid of such woman before she can sneeze. Such women are most manipulative

Men are created to spread their seed to one woman

InfinityFabric:
This is a female thinking. You're never a man nor did u bother to research.
Cheating for men is physical.
Have u wondered why wives stay with men even when they found they cheat ? And when a woman cheats it's a wrap.


You can't put the three together. Women can't cheat unless she's either a: HOE (emotionally disturbed) or doesn't love her spouse anymore (she has to detach from one to be with another).


Oh, so it's now a case of discipline now. Truly this a WOMAN speaking.
Madam:
1. Men are built to spread their seeds and have as many women as they want. Women only want the best they can get, women generally don't want be smashed by many men - and that's why the ones who does are known as HOES.

2. As for the discipline part, I never supported cheating so...

I am convinced you are the type of man that would cry foul when your wife kicks you out of the house in abroad and you will come to social media to label Nigerian women living abroad as "wicked and heartless." Do unto others what you will want them to do unto you. No woman should ever be subjected to any physical abuse for any reason by her husband.

BlueAir:
No need trying to make a reverse point. They're daunce

Why should the men the beware, do you have a hidden agenda with the lady

imagrg:
Men too should beware of women who think they know these rules mentioned.

I hope you will be happy if your daughter receives the same woto woto from her husband when she gets married.

headbasher96:
go and ask the ones that have collected woto woto from time to time to te u

I am sorry I have to disagree with you. Let me ask you, why is that when a man needs a lady for flirting, he knows where to get them but when he wants to marry he looks for recommendation from families and friends. What happens to the girls he has been flirting with. Are you saying the man will build better companionship with a girl he got recommended to for marriage than the girls he spent most of the time flirting with, or are you saying or the girls he has been flirting with are not marriageable. This scenario boils than to the man's intention. The last time I checked, 99.9% of 9ja girls don't believe marriage/relationship is a poverty alleviation program. If you come up with this figure, that means ladies from wealthy homes are inclusive. I don't know how you came up with this figure.

Savedday:
The primary purpose 96% of 9ja guy get married is companionship (love) that's why B4 getting married, they never care how much the lady has, the social status of the lady, or if the lady has a job or not. But instead they check if they are happy with the lady.

On the other hands, 99.9% of 9ja girls believes marriage/relationship is a poverty alleviation program.

That's why when the guy has the children/sex he can have, he dump them.

That's why in few years time, the number of divorce in 9ja will be on high alarm.

9ja girls are simply greedy thief's, wanting so live off and leech on a man because they brought kpekus.

Men who still knack outside do not see their wives as companion and they know it. Cheating, whether physical, emotional or spiritual can't happen if the man is disciplined and that discipline can only come when the man's intention for the marriage is for companionship.

InfinityFabric:
Worst advice ever. This is female think /chick crack you've been brought up with, now u think it's ideal.
A woman should love more than a man, when it's the other way round bad things happen.

Men are not supposed to be emotionally ridden, this your advice help them get there real fast.


So how do u explain men who still knack outside even when their wives are what u described ?


This is definitely a woman speaking.
Cheating for men is physical, for women it's emotional. Men don't care if their married to the most righteous, beautiful and intelligent woman, when another opportunity comes he spreads his seeds. It's called BIOLOGY.

This your number 3 shows why WOMEN and SIMPS should never be advising men.

If the lady is unhygienic as you said, then why will a man even thrust his dick into her.

MALIGNANTGuest:
Frankly, because of ODOUR.
most Ladies especially the unhygienic ones experience increasing Odour with increasing fore-play, so in order to avoid stories that touch, tilt & plant your seeds as quickly as possible before the heavy downpour comes dripping.

The integral parts of fore-play are the lips & genital cores. Now, imagine having a bumper pack of mouth & genital odour in same individual. That means a calamitous end. Simple!
That's one of the reasons u see a man sticking to one facially ugly lady over a seemingly pretty lady. Simply because the ugly one took hygienic practices very very serious.
Most MEN who started the journey as comedians ended p in Tragedy. Be wise!

Some MEN are pigs too. In fact, some Ladies dey try too. How can a quality fore-play occur between a Pig and a Cat? Can u imagine such?

Please mention the things the ladies are doing that make them deserve physical abuse.

headbasher96:
everyman with his own doom


Are u saying our forefathers been no know wetin them been the do then u the see all these yaaaayayyaaaa wey our women the do now

Are you justifying domestic violence? Where is your conscience?

headbasher96:
Some men na the woman the go wake the sleeping beast o


Woman the need beating from time to time to grease her thinking no offend no be battering o na one slap here and there the do the trick make u for remember your place

Make una come for me na sermon i drop so

Quality s£x has nothing to do with time. A man can satisfy a woman even under 20 minutes.

Thank God you are a lady. So what's your thought.

Nia69:
Here to read comments.

One of the main causes why many marriages are ending is due to lack of quality s£x and I am curious to know why most men don't fore-play with their partners. Could it be ignorance or selfishness on the part of the man.

It will be unfair to conclude that most ladies knows these things. No man is an island of knowledge and that's why this thread is created. It's just like saying "All Nigerian girls are the same" certainly they are not the same and I am happy to tell you that I have met exceptional Nigerian girls.

Ajens1991:
The interesting part is that these generation of ladies, are akin to the generation of vipers as alluded in the bible: they know all these things, yet will still go ahead to do what's on their mind, and still be crying foul later ...
From tomorrow we'll hear different heartbreaking stories from them. Let's watch

Maybe this could have been a better statement "Exactly, ladies should pay attention to these before getting married." How about that.

Persephone1:
Perhaps you can explain why the focus of your thread shifted from men to women in an accusative / condemning tune in nano seconds then.

Falling in love is always a beautiful thing but it is worst when you fall in love with a monster who is a wife beater. Here are signs to know them when dating them.


1. INTENTIONALLY MAKE HIM ANGRY: Stop trying to always pet your your man always. Sometimes try to do things that will get him angry and watch how he will react. This is the best time to know who you want to marry. Don't get carried away by the goodies he buys for you always or his constant love text messages.

2. HE NEVER ACCEPT HE IS WRONG: Any man who never own up to his mistakes is a potential wife beater. He believes he is the man and for that reason he is always right. Never sweep his unapologetically attitude under the carpet if not, you will be meeting the real monster in marriage.

3. HE ALWAYS REMINDS YOU HOW HE PICKED YOU UP FROM NO WHERE: Never take such verbal abuse softly, if not it will get to a time you won't bear it again and you will want to reply back and certainly the next thing he will do is to physically abuse you.

If only you love yourself as a lady and notice any of this, better leave such relationship in peace.

I am not in any way blaming the ladies. We all learn every day and that's why this thread is created.

Persephone1:
Y'all should cut women some slack and stop blaming them for not being seers who sees the minds of men. Seriously? A woman is now to be blamed for a a man's silence or deceit. Really? Aside number three which man would boldly tell a woman he wants to get married for other reasons? Tell me.

Many women in their relationship or marriage today are not happy due to one reason or the other. Don't die in silence, speak up, there could be someone who has passed through what you are passing through now and will be in the best position to advise you.

Exactly. Funny enough, many ladies don't pay attention to these before getting married.

youngmd:
Number 3 is best