youngmd:
Number 3 is best

theInfinity:
Exactly. Funny enough, many ladies don't pay attention to these before getting married.

Persephone1:
Y'all should cut women some slack and stop blaming them for not being seers who sees the minds of men. Seriously? A woman is now to be blamed for a a man's silence or deceit. Really? Aside number three which man would boldly tell a woman he wants to get married for other reasons? Tell me.

theInfinity:
I am not in any way blaming the ladies. We all learn every day and that's why this thread is created.

Persephone1:
Perhaps you can explain why the focus of your thread shifted from men to women in an accusative / condemning tune in nano seconds then.

man should marry his best friend, someone he can't live without

man should marry his best friend, someone he can't live without

In this kind of marriage, you have known so much about your husband, knowing what he likes he like and what he hates.

A man who marries his best friend will hardly have a reason to cheat.

InfinityFabric:

Worst advice ever. This is female think /chick crack you've been brought up with, now u think it's ideal.
A woman should love more than a man, when it's the other way round bad things happen.

Men are not supposed to be emotionally ridden, this your advice help them get there real fast.

So how do u explain men who still knack outside even when their wives are what u described ?

This is definitely a woman speaking.
Cheating for men is physical, for women it's emotional. Men don't care if their married to the most righteous, beautiful and intelligent woman, when another opportunity comes he spreads his seeds. It's called BIOLOGY.

This your number 3 shows why WOMEN and SIMPS should never be advising men.

InfinityFabric:

Worst advice ever. This is female think /chick crack you've been brought up with, now u think it's ideal.
A woman should love more than a man, when it's the other way round bad things happen.

Men are not supposed to be emotionally ridden, this your advice help them get there real fast.


So how do u explain men who still knack outside even when their wives are what u described ?


This is definitely a woman speaking.
Cheating for men is physical, for women it's emotional. Men don't care if their married to the most righteous, beautiful and intelligent woman, when another opportunity comes he spreads his seeds. It's called BIOLOGY.

This your number 3 shows why WOMEN and SIMPS should never be advising men.

Savedday:
The primary purpose 96% of 9ja guy get married is companionship (love) that's why B4 getting married, they never care how much the lady has, the social status of the lady, or if the lady has a job or not. But instead they check if they are happy with the lady.

On the other hands, 99.9% of 9ja girls believes marriage/relationship is a poverty alleviation program.

That's why when the guy has the children/sex he can have, he dump them.

That's why in few years time, the number of divorce in 9ja will be on high alarm.

9ja girls are simply greedy thief's, wanting so live off and leech on a man because they brought kpekus.

IMAliyu2:

Mind presenting a case as to why it's the worst?

Your wife being your best friend also, is the goal.

Most marital complaints come from people who married partners they didn't know enough, and never asked themselves if they could live with that person.

Emotions are part of the natural human experience. A proper man should be able to acknowledge and healthily process his emotions, not suppress them.

They simply lack selfcontrol.

You're just making excuses for cheating men here. Part of being a man is knowing self control, everything about ourselves is biological in nature, it's still not an excuse.

If your entire goal in marriage is merely to have sex, then there was no point to being married in the first place, why no just be single and have as many hook ups as you want?

theInfinity:
Men who still knack outside do not see their wives as companion and they know it.

Cheating, whether [b]physical, emotional or spiritual [/b]can't happen.

if the man is disciplined and that discipline can only come when the man's intention for the marriage is for companionship

InfinityFabric:

This is a female thinking. You're never a man nor did u bother to research.
Cheating for men is physical.
Have u wondered why wives stay with men even when they found they cheat ? And when a woman cheats it's a wrap.


You can't put the three together. Women can't cheat unless she's either a: HOE (emotionally disturbed) or doesn't love her spouse anymore (she has to detach from one to be with another).


Oh, so it's now a case of discipline now. Truly this a WOMAN speaking.
Madam:
1. Men are built to spread their seeds and have as many women as they want. Women only want the best they can get, women generally don't want be smashed by many men - and that's why the ones who does are known as HOES.

2. As for the discipline part, I never supported cheating so...

Persephone1:
Y'all should cut women some slack and stop blaming them for not being seers who sees the minds of men. Seriously? A woman is now to be blamed for a a man's silence or deceit. Really? Aside number three which man would boldly tell a woman he wants to get married for other reasons? Tell me.

Truvelisback:
Childbearing and Sex, that's all. Most of u are liability, Only very few u are helpmeet.

Truvelisback:
Childbearing and Sex, that's all. Most of u are liability, Only very few u are helpmeet.

Persephone1:
including your mother?

Truvelisback:
The truth hurts, right? I only said most u, i didn't say all of u. Or are u among the most of u?

No sleep for the wicked truly. I didn't say your mum is part of the most or few ,did i?

You labeled her yourself

theInfinity:
Men marry for different reasons and more reasons why you should find out why your current fiance wants to marry you, Here are some of the reasons:

1. FOR CHILD BIRTH: This is the most common reason men especially those that are well to do want to marry. They simply want to marry a beautiful woman so she could give birth to cute children and after that, their business with the woman ends. This is when the woman will begin to complain of the husband having several side chicks outside. It is true that men are hunters in nature, they want to have a taste of every woman they come across but certainly a man can discipline himself not to be that way.

2. BECAUSE THEY ARE THE ONLY SON OR AGE IS NO NO MORE ON THEIR SIDE: When a man is the only son, he is pressured by the parent(s) and this kind of marriage happens due to desperation which leaves so many questions about the man unanswered. This is where the woman discovers the man he married is a monster who physically and verbally abuse her always. Marriage is about compatibility and as woman, you should endeavour to find out his good and bad sides before deciding if he is the kind of man you will want to spend the rest of your life with.

3. FOR COMPANIONSHIP: This should be the best reason for a man to marry. A man should marry his best friend, someone he can't live without. In this kind of marriage, you have known so much about your husband, knowing what he likes he like and what he hates. A man who marries his best friend will hardly have a reason to cheat.

So as a woman, what kind of man will you want to marry?

Persephone1:
No sleep for the wicked truly. I didn't say your mum is part of the most or few ,did i?

You labeled her yourself

3. FOR COMPANIONSHIP: This should be the best reason for a man to marry. A man should marry his best friend, someone he can't live without. In this kind of marriage, you have known so much about your husband, knowing what he likes he like and what he hates. A man who marries his best friend will hardly have a reason to cheat.

So as a woman, what kind of man will you want to marry?

Truvelisback:
U are hurt because u are one of them and can relate to what i am saying. And if u mum, ur sisters and other female relatives of urs have been doing that(of which i am very sure they do), advise them to stop. It is very bad My Candid advice to u and ur female folks is that u shouldn't be a liability to any man, rather be an asset. Sadly, many of u aren't willing and ready to be an asset. This is the major reason many of u rarely get serious suitors for marriage. Nowadays, no man wants a liability for a wife. Gone are the days when men would do almost everything for u. As a lady, there are things u should be able to do for urself. No be everything man suppose do or buy for u. Sister, abeg rest, no cry follow me. Just accept the truth.

This your tears plenty oooo. Premium tears

Sorry ehn

Truvelisback:
U are hurt because u are one of them and can relate to what i am saying. And if u mum, ur sisters and other female relatives of urs have been doing that(of which i am very sure they do), advise them to stop. It is very bad My Candid advice to u and ur female folks is that u shouldn't be a liability to any man, rather be an asset. Sadly, many of u aren't willing and ready to be an asset. This is the major reason many of u rarely get serious suitors for marriage. Nowadays, no man wants a liability for a wife. Gone are the days when men would do almost everything for u. As a lady, there are things u should be able to do for urself. No be everything man suppose do or buy for u. Sister, abeg rest, no cry follow me. Just accept the truth.

onumadu:


I often quarrel with that word "friend" in a marriage. A man should not have his wife as best friend. She is his SEXUAL MATE.
A man's best friend should be another man who he's known for years, maybe from childhood.

As for companionship, YES, a wife should be the best COMPANION for her husband.
It means that she knows everything that the man fantasizes about (ie sexual fantasies) and is willing and able to deliver on all of them in the interest of the union. If she fails to deliver them, it may push the man to go outside. That is why those who blame Yul Edochie are clueless, but let me not digress ...
In the olden days, women (wives) HARDLY questioned their husbands on sexual matters. These days, things are different, hence the problems!
If your husband LOVES YOU, you should do whatever he tells you to make him happy. Mark the proviso -LOVE.
But if you are not sure of his love for you, then you should not care about what he wants, because he lacks basis for his demands.
Most women know when a man loves them. So this should be easy for them.

theInfinity:
So what makes you believe most women are liability. Have you met all the women in Nigeria?

theInfinity:
Men are created to spread their seed to one woman