Most, if not all those girls know what the guy they are dating are into, but they decide to turn blind eyes because they are benefiting until they become the victims.

rdsco:
So you're blaming the girl, the victim?

The popular saying of "Show me your friend, I will tell you who you are" still remain golden till eternity. The rate at which young are using their girlfriends for ritual killings are alarming. You date a guy whom you know his friends are yahoo boys and those his friends have influenced him to go into such act, but you remain in such devilish relationship, all because you feel he is "caring". Never date any guy who can be negatively influenced by bad friends or what they see on social media, as a lady, you are sitting on a time bomb that will son explode. Date a man who has a positive future plans for himself. Unfortunately, urgent 2k will not allow many girls to think clearly. A word is enough for the wise!

Some years ago, I met a young female friend of mine who was a talented writer. She came from a well-to-do family and had the ambition of building a successful career as a renowned international writer. However, after she graduated and got married, things took a different turn, and she became a full-time house wife even before giving birth. Her husband seemed to have married her solely for the purpose of having children, without showing any interest in nurturing her talent or supporting her growth.

I can't comprehend how men who engage in such behaviour can sleep at night, essentially extinguishing someone else's dreams and ambitions for their own selfish interests of having children and a full-time house wife. I believe in having a partner who is goal-driven and working together to ensure each other's success. Ladies, it's crucial to understand yourself and the motives of your partner before accepting a marriage proposal.

You only chose to read and comprehend what suit your narrative rather than being objective. Congratulations!

Jewessgratitud3:
You're calling a woman selfish because she no spend 5naira for you. She be your papa abi your guardian? It's this kind of mentality that make many of you enter marriage with zero naira in your account expecting the woman to bring to the table otherwise she'll be tagged selfish.

Look, never expect anything from a woman or use that a bases to chose a wife otherwise disappoinment will just be smiling at you all the way. As a man make your own money and be financially stable and bouyant to a level where you won't need to look on the woman's money.

Na wa o. Na so e dey start. If she starts giving now, any day she doesn't give, na wahala

I have written threads that are against the men but I have never seen where you ask me, what's my grudges against men.

ahnie:
What's your grudges against women?
You guys makes me sick of coming to this forum.

It's applicable to both genders,same way I don't believe all marriages are bad/all men are bad.

But you targeting only the female gender is appalling.

No gender on planet earth can conceal their true character than women most especially when have found a man that's ready to settle down. Here are the few characters to look out for:

1. Disrespect: It takes the grace of God to find a selfless woman and this is the most common character women hide when dating and it manifest when they finally marry. If you want to know the true character of a woman, look out for how she treats people less privilege than her eg. the gate keeper at her house or her office. Does she always talk to them rudely. If you don't take note of that as a man, the day things go bad for you and you are in same strata like the gate keeper, she will treat you the same way. Women generally respect men that are financially stable and men that are in power. If you don't fall into any of the these categories and the woman respect and talk to you politely, better hold her tight.

2. Selfishness: Beware of any woman finds it difficult to spends even N5 on you as a man. You are dating a girl, you take her to the beach, take her fancy restaurant or you take her to go see movie but she has never for one day given you a surprise treat or gift and yet she is working and earns good salary. Just know that you are dating a selfish woman who only wants to milk your resources and add to her own so she could spend it on people that are most important to her. In-fact, you are just dating yourself and she doesn't have you in mind. If you finally marry such woman, she will never regard your parents or siblings as hers even her house help will not be spared, the house help will be badly maltreated. and this is one the major causes of marital issue. When the woman doesn't regard her father-in-law and mother-in-law as her own parent, there may be gang up against the woman from the man's family who will be looking for every possible opportunity to make sure the the marriage doesn't work out.

3. Ostentatious: Dating and marrying a woman who is always after luxury and doesn't discuss ideas or opportunity is one of the easiest way for a man to go from grace to grass. Avoid such women like cancer, they will never will be valuable.

Are you lucky to date a faithful guy or did you marry a faithful husband, what made you believe he is faithful and can never cheat on you. Share your experience.

That means the man married the woman because of her body. This is why I created this thread alongside this onehttps://www.nairaland.com/7855392/confession-time-why-did-marry

Jewessgratitud3:
Everyone is just beating about the bush even though the reason is obvious.

Once a woman starts having kids, she loses her attractiveness as a result of all the body changes that come with child birth. This puts the man off or gradually makes him lose interest in her especially when he still sees young girls with perky breasts, plumper and firmer bodies out there. This is the whole truth.

A married man used to disturb me some time ago and I'll always shun him. One day he saw one small fine girl that came around and told me to him talk to the girl and I asked him what of your wife and he said " that one na condemn property now" .. chai!!! Laugh wan finish me that day. This is a man with 5 kids o.

Why actually are the reasons why men change towards their wives after having kids. Could it be that the unwritten contract between them and their wives has come to an end after she has put to birth or what exactly. At that moment, no more sweet name calling, no more petting. They now see their wives as rivals at home. What is the cause?

Is very common for most Nigerian men to marry their wife because she is beautiful and curvy, while many Nigerian women chose to marry their husband simply because he has money. So tell us the truth why you married your wife/husband.

I don't have problem with a man giving a lady money, only have problem with the woman who have to tell lies to obtain money from men and who don't even care to know how much the man earns and to know if he facing any financial difficulties. Many women will argue that's asking for money from a man is just a test to know if he will be stingy when you both eventually marry. Why will asking for money even when you don't care to know the financial standing of the man, be a test. Have you tested how he react to anger, have you tested how he react to adversaries, have you tested if he is a man that can easily be influenced by friends and families. All these tests doesn't matter to women, only the test of him giving you money that matters and we keep wondering the causes of high rate of divorce in the society. Aunty, you are not testing anything, you are only selfish, self-centred and want only want your own needs to be met and don't give a damn about the man. We certainly can't love without giving but certainly money shouldn't be used to buy love either. I always wonder why many Nigerian women are naturally selfish.

There are two sides to this: from the men's side and the women's side. I will start with the men side. A man will approach a lady, after exchanging contact and talking briefly on phone, the next thing the man will ask will be "When are you coming to see me" or starting to have a naughty conversation with the lady, it's visible to the blind that such man is only coming for nothing but sex. Also men that their selfish agenda is to collect money from women can easily be spotted. They will always sweet mouth a lady about one multi millionaire naira business/contract with no single evidence. It's always so easy to spot a man who is approaching a woman only for sex or to milk her financially which are selfish agenda but for the case of women it's totally different. They use emotional game to obtain from men.

A man will approach a lady, you start getting acquainted with the lady. The moment you try to show care and concern, it becomes and avenue to get money from the man. For instance, the man tries to ask the lady how was her day, that's when she will cook up a story of how she is not feeling fine and doesn't have money to get medication. Out of the good will of the man, he will send her the money. This is the just one many lies women cook up the moment a man start showing care and concern.

I actually don't know what is fashionable with women putting on waist beed or even ankle. Sincerely, I may not date such person talk more of thinking of getting married to her. My decision is far from any spiritual notion or what so ever. I just dislike it with so much passion.

I am here to learn

In my last post, I talked about how many Nigerian women have made relationship to be transactional and I was thinking if legalizing prostitution can separate Nigerians girls who are in relationship for material gains from those who genuinely wants to be in a relationship.

I have come to realise that many Nigerian women think that the only way for a person to prove their love is by giving them and they stylishly tag it being "caring".

Even a criminal can spend on you when dating you and deal with you when he finally marries you.

Funny, most men may not be able to give because they are struggling but that doesn't mean they don't care.

Why has friendship with many Nigerian women become transactional.

A sugar daddy can still give a lady but the truth remains that he will go back to his back at home and will never divorce her to marry you.

Please beautiful Nigerian women, let's stop making a relationship a business transaction.

Why didn't you also mention the part of the body the Gynae deals with. Is only your mind that tells you that a masseur pressing your body for relaxation is bad but a Gynae that presses same body is Good.

fyzaila:


Hmmmm professional indeed
Gynae is different and only deal with a part of the body.
But masseuses press press all the body both private and public parts

You don't justify a wrong doing with another wrong doing, this is where the maturity of the man comes in. Because your wife nags doesn't mean you should verbally abuse her. There are other mature ways of handling a nagging woman without inflicting emotional or physical injury. Maturity of a man is not by what is between his legs but how he handles problems without inflicting pain.

sholatech:
A lady requesting Male Masseuse can be worrying. Oga Masseuse, if you are married then you should know you need hear the husband's version. You will be shocked what the woman earlier nagged to the man that made him say those words to his wife. The women nag and take peace away from the man. As human, he would respond with those words to have his peace of mind.

Hope you will take permission from your husband before a male gynaecologist will attend to you in hospital. You guys are making our profession to look like an abomination. We are extremely professional with what we do.

fyzaila:
May God not bring the day another man other than my husband will be pressing my body in the name of massage. I can't imagine . I don't think those women seek consent from their husband before going for massage more so from the opposite sex. Because no sane man will allow another man to be pressing pressing his wife

Sincerely, many women especially the married ones go through a lot emotionally. I can communicate this because this is faceless forum and I'm bounded by the virtue of my career to respect my client's privacy.

frozen70:


You are giving this advice because your job involves women and over time you have realized that women are just fragile, forget about their sharp mouth

When you treat a woman well she will be happy and your relationship or marriage will be healthy and successful, you too will experience peace

But the moment you treat a woman bad or abuse her, she will definitely look for who will listen to her predicament and before you know it, loyalty will shift, that is how you will loose her to who will keep her heart warm

There are lots of women out there who are not happy in their marriage, they go out to get their lost happiness and once they find it else where, Otilo!!!!

No man wants to see his woman in another man's hand

If you treat your woman very well, you shouldn't be worried who does the massage on her. Massage does not only relaxes the body but also the mind. We are not into the business of sleeping with people's wife but to make them better than we met them.

MrsTwrite:
Omo, the rate by which these so called f***ing massage therapist are increasing ehn... And they're mostly men, their amiable customers are mostly married women, if you check Facebook reels and TikTok you will see a large number of them.

And when you read comments you will notice that most people commenting are females, most of them are asking for location and how they can't wait to get full body massage.😂🤣

Dear men, take caution!

I discovered many women who engage my service for massage therapy are women their husband treat badly. Getting a massage relaxes their mind and make them forget their worries. A client lamented bitterly how her husband verbally abuse her, telling her how he brought her out from poverty and cleaned her up and I am like, why a man will say such to a woman. Women pass through a lot and I plead with men to value and cherish their wives.

I have contacted them already through their online contact form, It's the same with emailing.

jaeyking:
Send an email to them reporting the case

Then tomorrow go see customer care

Na wetin I fit advice be that

I logged in to my internet banking and discovered that another customer's account was added to my internet banking profile. I made a complain to the bank online and later found out when I tried logging in that my internet banking has been deactivated only to log in back today and it logged in successful but the other customer's account with huge amount of money is still profiled in my internet banking. Please if you are a banker, please let me know what to do next because this money is not mine and will never be mine.

I like these points you brought. Please tell us about them so we can all learn.

Fahvvy:


Do you also wonder why women will ruin a man's life by pinning another man's child on him? ...

Do you also wonder why women will dump a guy who sponsored her to school and took care of her for years, immediately she graduates? ...

Do you also wonder why women will treat broke and nice guys like trash, fall for toxic men and then turn around to blame men for their wrong choices? ...

Do you also wonder why a girl suddenly becomes an orphan the moment a guy says "hi" to her? ...

And have you also told women that "another woman will do it to their sons and they won't be happy about it"? ...

With all due respect, You don't have reputation. Sexual exploitation against is immoral and a crime, desist from it for your own good. I do hope you will be happy if someone sexually exploit your sister.

JackDaAlienz:
I no wan cast my reputation naaa
If my youth group see their leader in brothel no respect again. People sabi me for my city.
Now 90% of guys that go on date with girls
want to Bleep the girl. Simple
And brothels don't have the type of girl you are attracted to.
If I like a girl, of course,I want to sex her too
All in asking is how to I tell her I want to fvck with sounding awkward

Lol. Those ones still have small spirit of lies in them. The worst are the ones that would lie that their wife is late just to gain the lady's sympathy.

Enny2013:
Some wl even say they are on divorce process.

I wonder why many married men has to ruin a lady's love life by lying he is single and wants to marry just to be sleeping with her with no intention of marrying her. This is very bad. If you don't find your wife physically attractive, discuss and agree with her on taking a second wife instead of engaging this inhumane act. Another man may end up doing it to your daughter in the future and you won't be happy as father.

I wanted to respond to you until I saw the last 3 letters of your name.

DONFRANSKID:

Why should I respect them?

The solution is very simple. Narrow down what you want in a woman, if she doesn't have what you are looking for, then move on not to date/marry her and start complaining and start disrespecting her. By the time that lady find out there is something she is lacking, she will work on herself.

Truvelisback:
U know what i am saying. Many of them are self-centered and selfish. And they aren't supportive in relationship/marriage even with the little they earn. This has made relationship/marriage a burden to men. Some of them don't even have skill or jobs doing. As a lady, u don't expect men to do everything or almost everything for u. Gone are the days when men will do everything for u.

So what makes many of the women liabilities in marriage?

Truvelisback:
So, u think men don't face disrespect from women, right? As for sex b4 offering ladies job, i hate it. As for the sex object or Child bearing sake, that's what many of them are. That is the result of Liability to men. Only a very few of them are Helpmeet.

His comment is a good example of the disrespect I am referring to. How can a human being say that there is nothing special about women, yet same woman carried him in the womb for good 9months, nurtured and made so much sacrifice for him, just for him to be better person in the society and he will now come here to make such comment. His sisters will also get married and men will also say to his face, "There is nothing special about your sisters." What is good for Greece is good for Uganda.

virginprincess:
,Zonefree,why didn't you agree with the op when he said there is nothing special about your female relatives,why did you keep shut?Nonsense.