There are three main reasons that makes a man obsessed over one girl.

1. Investments made on the girl raises the value.

You would naturally value that stuff you spent so much effort getting. When you spend so much time, and energy on one girl you will want to easily forget her careless behaviour and get her back.

2. The girls who came after her were not as good looking.

Some men don't learn or develop the skills to attract girls they really want. So let's say the previous ex was a 7, and all the other ladies after her were 6's and 5's it's going to be hard forgetting about her completely.

3. The man believes in the soulmate myth.

There are 3 solutions to this.

1. After the break up, focus on getting ladies who are more attractive and have more to offer you.

2. Develop yourself into someone of high value... Get your body in shape, start having many options and have multiple interests.

3. Realize there are some good ones, there are some bad ones but there is no "one".

bignoisemaker:
i know my problem (too much self-service). I hardly get erection these days. Even early morning own that should be constant, is no longer there. It's now irregular and doesn't stay erect for long.


Please help. I need a solution

Younger, hotter and more attractive ladies will do the trick.

mespusinglez:
Guy Can You Give Your Girl 70k (someone's house rent) to make her hair?


lets hear your opinion guys

Can you give your guy 70k to have a haircut?

It's that time of the year again!!! Soon it will be the "Be Romantic For Absolutely No Reason Day", otherwise known as Valentine's Day. Our Favourite day of the year.

That day where the woman (or women) in your life cross their arms and wait for you to buy them things, take them out, be on your romantic behaviour and spend as much money on them as you can. Why? Because the calendar says so.

For people in long term relationships, open or multiple relationships here are some tips.

1. Don't spend V-Day with someone you aren't really into... She must have spent at least 4 months with you.

2. No expensive gifts.

3. Don't make a big deal about it. No need to post 50 photos of it on IG. It's just a nice date with your special lady.

4. For people in multiple relationships, fix dates during the week and weekend.

5. If you don't normally go out on V-Day, then communicate it to your lady.

For the single men, Valentine's Day is ripe with opportunities, in fact one of the easiest days of the year to pick up attractive ladies.

There are million different venues you can hit, all with single ladies going out to chill and group of ladies having their "girls night out" in expectations of socially savvy men making moves on them.

Don't play the "pity friend" or "friendzoned date" with any friend on V-Day. Call out your "wing man" or "squad" and make moves on the best night of the year to pick up attractive ladies. Wedding receptions aren't even as good as V-Day for this.

It's often the man that gets blamed for bad sex.

He came too fast.

He forgot about pre-intimacy.

Didn't make me come.

In and out, roll off. That was it!

He only knows one position.

Women can also be attributed to it too, but when it's the man's fault two possible reasons come to mind.

One, he was Inexperienced... Women mostly blame all bad sex on the experience of the man, there might be some truth to that but inexperience accounts for very few poor sexual encounters.

The second, and most frequent reason for bad sex is that the woman wasn't pretty enough to stimulate the man to answer the call of duty with enthusiasm and passion.

The way your body responds to a woman during sex tells it all. The more attractive you find her, the better the sex all else being equal. It's all human nature and biomechanics.

Unexciting sex from easy lays would have a bad effect on your bedroom skills. With time the man's staying power will grow weak, his zeal for finding the location of the G spot will disappear and soon, he will forget what it's like to drive a woman into ecstasy.

The way to become great at sex is to have it with women who motivate you to be great at it. You'd be surprised at the extents you can go with the right girl.

Set nice standards and don't settle for less.

Have you ever heard those songs that talk about finding that girl who was specially made for you and who your life can't be complete without?

That's the Soul Mate Myth. I have personally seen Men stick in clearly abusive relationships all because they feel their partner is the "one" that was made for them and who their happiness hangs on.

There are some good ones, there are some bad ones but there is definitely no ONE. There are lots of special ONES for you, just ask the widowed person who shortly remarried after their "soulmate" died.

Many guys ruin their lives and stunt their growth because they invested heavily in this "Only One" myth. They relocated somewhere that wasn't favourable to them because they wanted to be closer to the soulmate, they chose careers or universities that they really want to be in or jobs that clearly didn't favour their growth because they wanted to cater to the soulmate.

When they eventually lose the "soulmate", they feel bad not just for the time and energy wasted, but for the fact that they might never get their life back on track because they lost their "one and only." You have to realise that there's no one and only. Some people get upset when I tell them to start with self development and improvement.

Going to the gym, looking for better opportunities for your career, making more money, learning new things, networking constantly are more likely to make you a better person and give you lots of options in various areas in your life.

When you're in the dating phase with a self development mindset, you come to realize your actual value and the abundance of options that you have.

But someone who has spent their entire lives having a "one and only" or soulmate mindset would likely not focus on developing themselves but focus all their attention on the "soulmate" partner that will accept and correct all their flaws.

Having this knowledge won't make break ups feel like the end of the world to you, it would be a sign that both of you aren't on the same page and would definitely not be a good fit.

lefulefu:
believe it or not.men who spend excessively to get a woman's attention are suffering from low self esteem. Its not about being nice.its about compensating the woman financially for taking her time being with them cos they believe they ain't good enough for the woman. There are lots of rich guys with low self esteem.even the money dem get no fit boost their confidence.

I dey tell you my brother. Money is important no doubt, but there is more to it. Being dominant in and out of the bedroom, having options, being fun, having social intelligence and lots more.

Gangster1ms:

Girls that will eventually reap u off... supposing the girl said yes then what next? We are still in the loosing end cos the highest we fit gain na pussy. We guys too mumu abeg...

The only way we can lose is if we invest what is above our means... besides sex is good for the body

JayIlych:
This is another reason i rarely approach girls again directly. Bunch of rude, self-centered bítches.

That was how i was with a fine gal at an atm, the machine wasnt paying, 2geda we walked to another bank to withdraw. On the way, we got talking. Found out we were from the same local govt, she laughed at my jokes and all.
Oya after she finished withdrawing, she waited for me. Then i asked for her number, she just smiled and told me she was scared i'll ask her that, then politely declined.

I quote "if God designs us to meet again, i'll give you my number".

AFTER ALL THE GREEN LIGHT?

Confused humans!.

I still don't see myself being abusive or threatening a gal when jilted/rejected.

Personally, i've always known that the secret of making a girl give u her mumu button is NEVER to ask/collect number on the first meeting.

Nah, first meetings are good... Especially when you might not come in contact with the person on a regular basis. What I do sometimes is to fix a meeting or hangout... If she agrees to it then I collect her number. That way it looks natural. If the girl is boring and doesn't want to hang out I don't collect the number. It saves me time, energy and airtime too

biacan:
Lefu you sabi better thing sugar daddies are the best people to date........ the op is confused

It's your pussy that is confused... Poverty is a bad disease

lefulefu:
op, sugardaddies that spend millions and build estates for their sugar girls just to sleep with them and treat their sugarbabies like eggs ..can u call them nice guys?

They are nice mumu's. For that same amount they would have gotten a better return on investment. Do you know that number of attractive, smart and independent ladies those sugardaddies can score on a regular basis if they had some form of social intelligence? Building estates just to sleep with a girl is pathetic... They don't have any game.

1. Women are smart. They know this is a give and take world, people aren't just "nice" without expecting something in return. Which in turn makes the "nice guy" come across as not straightforward, insincere and suspicious. "Why is this random guy so nice to me? What have I done to deserve this overly nice treatment. Something's fishy about it, ugh, he probably just wants to Bleep me..."

2. Because niceguys excuse women’s bad behaviors. How many guys would excuse bad behaviours from a lady just because she's beautiful? The lady isn't dumb, she probably has brothers who call her out on her bullshit immediately.

3. Women also want a lover, not a child. There is nothing more repulsive to a lady than a man who looks to her as the decision maker in everything. You've got to lead and also know how to stand out. From when you approach her to the other room.

Now, I'm not saying that you shouldn't be nice to a woman. Being nice to a woman – occasionally – is part of the whole thing, your being nice is a consequence of her good behaviour towards you and not otherwise.

If she gets all she wants when she wants then you are her niceboy robot…and she will leave you for a more high value masculine man.

Being an high value masculine male means standing up for yourself and for decency. Women don’t want a niceboy robot, regardless of any claims to the contrary. Women want a challenge. A man who will call them out on their bad behaviour. And high value masculine males are the men who give them that thrill.

I probably don't have to tell you how important testosterone is to being a man.

Testosterone is the key male sex hormone that regulates fertility, muscle mass, fat distribution, and red blood cell production.

High testosterone levels make us feel strong, confident and assertive. But lifestyle choices, predominantly our exercising habits, food choice and more can affect just how much of the manly hormone that we produce.

Here are some tips for keeping your T levels high:

1. Exercise regularly

Lifting weights, calisthenics, push ups, pull ups, deadlift and lots more. Don't lift everyday though. Overtraining can lower your testosterone.

2. Sleep

Consistently getting a good night rest is another way to ensure your T levels are high. Get 6-8 hours of sleep each day.
Fewer than six hours or more than eight hours is linked with increased mortality.

3. Drink Less Alcohol

Excessive alcohol use has been shown to have a negative impact on testosterone levels in several case studies.

4. Don't sit so much

Sitting for long periods may lower your testosterone. Even if your job requires sitting, occasionally stand up from time to time. Prolonged sitting has many effects on the body.

5. Eat more nuts, vegetables.

Groundnut, cashew nut, coconut etc...

6. Take fish oil and vitamin D

Fish oil and vitamin D raise testosterone levels.

On a final note, testosterone is the fuel of vitality. When you act to keel it high you will notice more energy than you previously had.

Low T = low stamina, less energy, low motivation to meet women, low confidence.

High T = High stamina, High energy, High confidence and motivation.

mymoneygrows:


can you elaborate please? My husband's staying power is growing weak and im worried.

In respect to that, he needs to work on his testosterone levels... Testosterone is the key male sex hormone that regulates fertility, muscle mass, fat distribution, and red blood cell production. 1. Exercise regularly 2. Sleep 3. Drink Less Alcohol 4. Don't sit so much 5. Eat more nuts, vegetables.

Groundnut, cashew nut, coconut etc... 6. Take fish oil and vitamin D

Low Testosterone = low stamina, less energy, low confidence.

High Testosterone = High stamina, High energy, High confidence and motivation.

gbosaa:



Answer this question.

Would a more attractive woman with better pvssy make you to cum too soon or too late??

Would a tighter pvssy make you to cum quicker or later?

So you are saying that a wowo woman would make you to cum too soon?

Delete that calculation fast before you mislead novices and the op.

You forgot the theory that a beautiful lady would extract the juice quicker.

You even wrote that a woman with an attraction rating of 1 would be 2/6

Fact...with a very unattractive woman aka wowo or fugly lady...in one hour, you haven’t even cum.
Consider a Genevieve, Omotola or Mercy and compare them with ugly women from the street, which group would make you cum quicker??

The truth is you will be more motivated to bring your A game when having sex with a very attractive lady, your boner wouldn't lie. You can't deceive your hormones.

Let's look at it in a scientific manner, personal experience backs this too.

hotness of woman               size of load               squirt distance
0                                            *                                *
1                                            *                                *
2                                            *                                *
3                                            pre-cum only           had to be squeezed out
4                                            droplet/little drops       1cm              
5                                            <6grams                  3 cm
6                                            fills bellybutton        4 inches
7                                            1 tbsp                         8 inches
8                                            2 tbsps                       1.5 feet
9                                            1/4 cup                       3 feet
10                                          gallon**                      5 yards**


Very few cases of erectile dysfunction are health related. The attractive ladies I have had sex with all received the banging of their lives, all clitorises excited, all proclivities gratified, all G spots perused.

stphil:
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That's the reason why... How your body responds to a woman during sex tells the tale.  The hotter I find the girl, the better the sex is, all else being equal.  It's all human nature and biomechanics.

Unexciting sex from easy prospects would have a bad effect on your bedroom skills. With time the man's staying power will grow weak, his zeal for finding the location of the G spot will disappear and soon, he will forget what it's like to drive a woman into ecstasy.

gudvibz:
Open please add that it's not applicable to all women cause some of us are straight forward

Yeah I know but the *some* is in the minority

stphil:
It was a shame for me last night, there is this lady, she love me so much she can't do a second without me, she has visited 3 times now but no sex, until last night, she asked and begged for it but i couldnt satisfy her because i didn't even spend up to 3mins before i cum, and she was like are you donein just 2mins?i was ashamed of myself since last night she has been acting cold towards me PLS MY FELLOW NAIRALANDERS, HOW DO I SATISFY HER NEXT TIME I WANT TO F^CK her, do i need to take any drugs before sex? Pls advice, No insults pls!!!

There is a natural solution for staying longer and having a stronger erection. Have sex with more attractive ladies. How attractive is that lady on a scale of 1 to 10?

Some people complain of women sending them "Mixed messages" or "Mixed Signals"... More than often there's nothing mixed about it, rather it's a failure to read what a woman is communicating to a man.

Here are a list of words, phrases and behaviours from women, and their corresponding translation.

Behaviour: going from hot to cold and back again.... Translation: You're not her first priority, she's deliberating between you and another prospect(s).

Sentence: Being single sucks. Translation: "There's one particular type of man I want to get intimate with, I can't seem to find him."

Behaviour: Cancelling dates... Translation: Weak and low interest level.

Sentence: "I want a romantic man." Translation: "I want a man who spends money on me."

Sentence: "So... are you still seeing other women?" Translation: "I know you're seeing other women. Pls stop."

Sentence/Behaviour: "I am really tired today. How about we having sex on Saturday instead? Translation: "I don't feel sexually attracted to you any more."

Sentence: "Where is this going?" Or "What am I to you?" Translation: "You have not asked me to be your girlfriend yet and it makes me uncomfortable. Other guys asked after the 3rd or 4th date. What is your problem? Please get with my plan and be my official boyfriend so I can can finally relax, be myself and start bossing you around."

Sentence: "Don't ever talk to me ever again!" Translation: "We'll talk as soon as I've calmed down."

Sentence: "I want a nice guy." Translation: All the men I dated were fun but I never had control or could settle down with any. Now I need one I can easily control and settle down with.

Sentence: "Never" translation: occasionally

I could go on with more real-life examples but you understand where I'm getting at.

What most guys think are "mixed messages" or confusing behaviour coming from a woman is just an inability to understand why she's behaving in such a manner. In a dating or relationship situation you must always ignore what women SAY and only watch what they DO.