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Financial instability can lead to emotional instability my brother. Notwithstanding however

SoftP:
This Nigga has a monopoly of buying women even with his uncontrollable aggressive attitude;
I wonder why most women are so quick to embrace a home with financial security as against their emotional stability
& yet they complain of abusive relationship.

If a man is drowning, he doesn't care who shows up to rescue him, whether such is a male or a female.

dhardline:
No matter the amount of do's and don't you preach a heart that has not been renewed can't not work out this things that is why what you are 'preaching' is not the gospel but a cosmetic man centered teaching. Please ma, step down from the pulpit you are not supposed to be there and not just you but also all women who call themselves pastors and all preachers of 'prosperity gospel' . The Bible you teach from does not permit it but you ignore its teaching for the sake of your pride and introduce psychology and motivation. Giving men hope in their sins and proclaiming men to be safe when they are close to eternal damnation. This is part of the reason men make gest of the gospel of Christ.

I don't understood you. "Religion should be scrapped", on what basis please? That will be violating Basic Human Rights

"or heavily taxed", for what?? On what grounds should Religion be "heavily" taxed??

IgweBUIKE1:
how pls don't come here with that touch not my anointed bull crap...all man are equal before God...religion should be scrap or heavily taxed

I just hope they are paid well. It won't make sense employing First Class brains and paying them stipends.

It takes maturity to apologize even when you're not wrong, but it also takes more maturity to know when not to apologize and instead stand your ground. You must learn to be loving and firm at the same time, if not you'll have to deal with this for a very long period of time. It will be difficult in the beginning when she gives the silent treatment but you'll have to deal with it and ensure that she calms down and get the point. It's almost instinctive for women to take advantage of the gentleness of their man. Be firmer bro

manos:
I am a very calm person actually, shouting comes from frustration because the moment i try to correct her she gets angry and lashes back immediately raising her voice. So naturally i raise my voice to match her tone so that she hears me and so that i can make my point.

On the other hand, i apologize because, sometimes when i wait for the apology for too long and it is not coming, i decide that i cant continue living like that and look beyond my intention to correct so that we can have some peace and move forward, probably push give her more time to evaluate her actions, while we continue living in peace. I cant imagine living with anyone for a week in the same house and not be able to communicate with the person. I dont know how other people do that. I personally try to resolve issues quickly.

The man has already stressed his attachment to his mom to the extent that he doesn't want to leave her. Your sister should be careful here because his mom obviously means a whole lot to him and he looks like a man who'll go through great lengths to please his mom at the detriment of anybody.

One challenge here is that, your sister's fiancee may not be man enough to handle marriage problems on his own. He's likely to discuss almost every marital problem with his mom and even go to the extent of reporting your sister to her. This can be very uncomfortable.

If he still insists on staying with his mom, then your sister should discuss with him and get involved in the Building plans. There should be a timeline and plan for how long he'll be staying there. It shouldn't be left till further notice.

I pray for God's wisdom for her in this very sensitive issue.

[quote author=YoungandDepress post=92495202]My story is quite a sad and long one.
I wish I could write it all out. My life has been a terrible mess.
Where did it go wrong for me, I have no idea.

I am writing with so much emotion, my heart is full and heavy.
Life is bitter.

I am a 23 years old guy.
My life all started to go in the negative direction when I gained admission at age 16.
A 16 years old boy in the university, so much freedom and exposure.
I messed up my life, I became addicted to bet9ja virtual gambling I lost focus, Gambling killed me, I started failing exams, at the end I dropped out without my parents Knowing, but the truth came out when I was supposed to graduate, I could not hide it anymore. I told them the truth, my parents forgave me like the prodigal son.

They still believed in me especially my mom, she keeps reminding me of how intelligent I used to be.

Well I'm not here to talk about my past life but here to talk about how it is still affecting me today.

Ever since I started university all over again, I have been miserable and frustrated. Nothing has been working in my favour. I'm currently now in 200level hoping to graduate before 25.
All my mates I started with have done their NYSC.

I'm still stuck in the same stage.
I have no idea what I am doing with my life. I'm young, broke and depressed. I get irritated over little things. I feel disgust at how I uselessed my youthful life. How gambling destroyed me.

By the grace of whichever god exists, I am no longer addicted to gambling. I have quit the addiction for almost a year now but nothing changed, I still feel miserable. I hate having people around me even my family members including my mom.

I have no true friends. Nobody checks on me, nobody calls me.

At this age, I can't boast of having 500 naira in my account.
I'm broke and miserable.

I have started hating God and question my belief in God. I hate Sunday's. I hate hearing about God, I don't blame God for my troubles but I'm angry at the fact that despite my parents being dedicated Christians, things are not working well in my family.
My elder ones are graduates, but no solid job yet.

Only my eldest brother who is doing quite well now and I thank God for his life but we don't talk. I can't remember the last time I called him on phone. They don't hate me, I hate myself.
I have disappointed them a lot.


I just lost the last #1000 I had in my life today and I cried. The money fell out my pocket when I went to get something.

At 23 years, I have no idea what I will do with my future.
I still live with my parents and I have never rented an apartment of my own even in school.

What is wrong with me, why am I miserable?

I have no good clothes. My clothes are all worn out.
I have nothing doing, i live off my parents.

Since schools were shut down, I have been at home doing nothing.
Completely broke, damaged and miserable.

Can my life be any better. What do I do. I am depressed.
I keep asking myself these questions but there
Seem to be no answer.



[OP you'll be fine. In my case, I also felt frustrated that I couldn't earn any money. Because of the lock down on schools I had to come back home and stay with mom and she'll go to work everyday while I stayed at home doing. I thought of doing plenty things to make money including going to every big house in my area and offering my service as a errand Guy, to do anything they wanted me to do for a token.
Finally I decided that I'll be leaving the house and strolling round my area to see if there were any business opportunities. To God be the glory in one of my strolls I came across an employment opening as a sales promoter and after going for interview I was employed.
In the book Acres of Diamond, one thing that has been common for ages is that wealth is all around us and especially where you are. Just for us to open our eyes.

There's God dear brother and He loves you so much. I pray this situation draws you to him instead of farther away.
God bless you.]