sometimes if a relationship is over, it might be for the best. you will surly get a better person. most campus affairs are really meaningless is only very few that survive that may lead to something permanent. age differences esp if the woman is older does not mean a relationship with a younger man will not lead anywhere. i am a living example because i am older than my husband with 2yrs. i am just a housewife 4now. he earns more than me so he didn't marry me because of something else. cheers lady your man is coming.

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i felt i must join this thread, pafum i agree with you 100%. am a graduate with two masters. i lost my job with Oceanic but i have been thinking along your side. people are making lots of money with ideas and a little capital if only they are willing to take the risk. there are no easy way to make money. there is money in the fish and chicken because it is a stable commodity which Nigerians eat a lot. many prefer to work for some else because there is little risk attach to it. but it feels good if you are your own boss.

I talk about the fact that men tend to panic
as a relationship starts to get serious. This is usually a
result of the "infatuation" phase running its course (this is
not a bad thing and it's no one's fault -

The next phase is "attachment," where your commitment to one
another is solidified, you're on the same page emotionally,
and you can start looking toward your future together.

Unfortunately, most guys need to make a little pit stop
between "infatuation land" and "attachment ville." When a man
feels himself getting in deep with a woman (even if he's sure
he's crazy about her), he sometimes will get overcome by fear
and pull back for a while.

Now mind you, this is his fear of the CONCEPT of commitment,
not fear of a commitment with YOU. he's probably using experience
as a frame of reference (i.e. "marriage might mean I'll be
hurt or rejected"), so now that the two of you are getting
really close, he might be worried that now's the time he'll
screw it up.

Okay, as for what to do, I recommend keeping your life busy
and full (which sounds easy to do with your wonderful family)
so that you resist feeling "needy" about the outcome of your
relationship with this man.

Give him a little time to sit with his feelings and sort
things out. chances are he'll come
to the conclusion that he can't live without you on his own.


Just the reassurance that comes from him knowing that you're
willing to take things one day at a time might be enough to
help him settle down, process his fears and concerns, and
come to the realization that you're a total keeper!

Good luck, to all THE NAIRALAND ladies.

well i was also dating a guy and i tot things were smooth, then all of a sudden the guy stop seeing me.i tried all sort of things to get him open up to what happen.then i tot how can i get him back.i kept on sending beautiful cards and lovely text messages but all i got was " morning love" every morning . what can i do and he does not want to talk about it