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What To Do When He Freaks Out by timaus: 4:29pm On Jan 29, 2007 |
I talk about the fact that men tend to panic as a relationship starts to get serious. This is usually a result of the "infatuation" phase running its course (this is not a bad thing and it's no one's fault - The next phase is "attachment," where your commitment to one another is solidified, you're on the same page emotionally, and you can start looking toward your future together. Unfortunately, most guys need to make a little pit stop between "infatuation land" and "attachment ville." When a man feels himself getting in deep with a woman (even if he's sure he's crazy about her), he sometimes will get overcome by fear and pull back for a while. Now mind you, this is his fear of the CONCEPT of commitment, not fear of a commitment with YOU. he's probably using experience as a frame of reference (i.e. "marriage might mean I'll be hurt or rejected"), so now that the two of you are getting really close, he might be worried that now's the time he'll screw it up. Okay, as for what to do, I recommend keeping your life busy and full (which sounds easy to do with your wonderful family) so that you resist feeling "needy" about the outcome of your relationship with this man. Give him a little time to sit with his feelings and sort things out. chances are he'll come to the conclusion that he can't live without you on his own. Just the reassurance that comes from him knowing that you're willing to take things one day at a time might be enough to help him settle down, process his fears and concerns, and come to the realization that you're a total keeper! Good luck, to all THE NAIRALAND ladies. |
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