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Modarun:
my dear with this one, you are not looking for a good man, just a fine boy
my dear with this one, you are not looking for a good man, just a fine boy

Save me bro.. I even gave her my whatspp digits. At least if u check and I'm not handsome to your taste, u can easily walk away

Cc: Millenniumlady

Millenniumlady:
Upload your pics here

Try understand me but I think I said u shud not quote me... I wunt be able to remove my number again...... Chai nairaland number Hunters don get me at last....

Millenniumlady:
I can't call you upload your pics here

Didn't say u shud call me. Just hit me up on whatspp... At least u will see my face on my dp.... Are we good to go??

Mikepenny5:
No one is meant to judge anyone, I'm proud to be a good man

Ur good deeds will speak for you.... Meanwhile no one is judging u...

Millenniumlady:
You're sounding disrespectful right now

I didn't put faceless... Zero

[quote author=Millenniumlady post=71087865][/quote]Someone changed my number... Did u get my number zero

Mikepenny5:
I'm a good man and single,let'shook up,serious minded

A good man doesn't publicize who he is, so it's obvious u r not a good man.... Watch out

lefulefu:
eating poo with bread kwa iyam dead

The fear of lefelefu is the beginning of wisdom

Millenniumlady:

I take that as a yes... * add me Cox I'm gonna edit it now.. Meanwhile don't quote

Millenniumlady:
1000 lady indeed

Can I send you my whatspp digits or IG?

Millenniumlady:
1000 lady indeed

Can I send you my whatspp digits or IG?

Millenniumlady:
I tell you girl same thing is happening to me right now.....you see a guy shoot his shot at me next thing in my mind will be maybe he's a yahoo guy I'll just let him pass

Can we hook up, 1000 lady??

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PatrickOkunima:
You want to choose a "carrier" in Journalism. I strongly advise you to consider other options.

Savage
Dem suppose curse you but it's too early

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Daeylar:
what do you feel you should do? you're the one living the life. so ask yourself that question, what will make you happy? doing what you used to do or cutting her off?
if you feel like you can handle it. continue. if not, then just bow out. stop talking to her. move on

you've already courted her by the way, and she refused. nothing else you can do.

besides, I don't understand your love for her. you keep complaining about the way she is free with guys yet you met her like that, did you expect her to change for you or to fit your standards of what you consider appropriate behavior ? that's not right and that's controlling behavior,
try and take people as you meet them, don't try to change them in any way, either you can handle them or you can't. it'll help you alot

Nah.. Twas during our time together I started to discover that she gat male frnds.... But I will just cut off Sha, that's just all.. Ain't trying to change her but a lady that is so responsible shudnt be hanging out with guys at night.. Inclusive of me too, she shud limit herself.. If she could spend nights with me outside, then she has been doing it to everyone... We both school in Bayero University Kano. She is a kano based but moved to Lagos...
Anyways thanks so much

openmine:
Bro U have already been friendzoned by her!
The moment she said she wasn't interested should have been the right time to take a walk!
She was even the honest type......
Since she is a carefree person who doesn't want any kind of commitment like a relationship, let her be..!

Yes U can start by cutting of all kinds of communication with her...So that you can focus on better things!

Since you are still studying,I will recommend that U put all ur efforts on making good grades and aiming to be something great in life!

Be successful though legally!

Don't settle for less or for people who can't see your worth!
Just move on with your life!

Trust me,there are better ladies out there!

You will discover later on that the lady you were breaking your head for was not worth the time and was only just a distraction to your main objective in life!

Thanks bro...

Saff:
100%. Dont stalk her on social media, keep yourself busy. Block her if possible. Do this for at least 2 months and you’ll get over her completely. She may come back to you and beg, but don’t give in.

If you go back to her, don’t come back here to ask us for advice again. Thanks

Thanks

Trottle:
Bro, delayed gratification/self discipline is one of the hallmark of a MAN. I'll advise you to just cut her off COMPLETELY. If you linger on by calling and chatting, those false emotions caused by proximity which is falsely interpreted as "love" will not die off.

Since you've told her your feelings of wanting her (as a POTENTIAL wife) and she's still indecisive (more like IMMATURE) and she seems to want to inappropriately exploit to the fullest the very fleeting power of youth, attractiveness and beauty (which many later regret doing), plus she's very free with guys (something we both greatly detest and dislike in a future wife); kindly cut off all communication. You'll be surprised and thank yourself that you did sooner than later, as your self respect and esteem will be intact.

Don't go to her hostel again for such. Kindly divert that time to other productive efforts, and you may be surprised at the outcome.


Kindly keep us updated o.

Thanks much

sacramento1212:
No, stop doing all that but that doesn't mean you should keep malice with her. If she calls, answer her calls but you should try and be more focused with your studies.

You still have a long way to go than to bother yourself with an inconsistent girl. Do not call her again, i repeat, don't call. If she has you in mind and notices that you aren't doing the things you used to do, she will be bothered and try to reach you but if she doesn't care, then she wouldn't.

Cheers

Thanks so much.... I'm grateful

Sacramento

Saff

I will cut off since she is not interested... Thanks

Saff

I will cut off since she is not interested... Thanks

TOMSY:
You can NEVER get over her if you keep on making effort to get close to her by going to her hostel or something. If she wants to see you, let her make all the effort. The key is to just treat her like you would a male acquaintance. Just drop it. Think about it. Will this girl matter in the next two years? I doubt it. Even if it works out, you'll go for your service, and it will become a long distance relationship, which is difficult to maintain. Me personally I discovered that when I get a bad vibe from something at the ery beginning, then it's not likely worth it.
So, in conclusion just MOVE on.

Thanks.. In the next few months, she wunt matter again sir even in few weeks or days... Thanks much

TOMSY:
OP. Please follow this man's advice, and you'll win in two ways. One, when you don't have time for her anymore, shell be the one fighting for your attention. Two, your grades will not suffer. Remember you have a primary objective in school, and it must ALWAYS come first in any decision you make. God bless you.

Advise me as a guy, shud I just cut
communication with her totally and move on or I shud
still call her and talk Sha...
Seriously to me, I don't Wana be friend zone Cox I
truly wanna court her..... But she on the other side,
is damn too free with guys and I don't think I can
take it...... BEFORE I told her how I feel, I use to call
her to meet outside her hostel and we talk for some
hours.
But now that she is not ready, do u think I shud still
be doing all wat I use to do to her or I shud just cut
her off and move one....?

geezyk:
If a lady tells you she doesn't want to date you cos. of her freedom, Oboy just let her be oo, cos if you pressure her into dating you you'll surely regret it.

I met a girl like that, she told me she values her freedom, but whenever I call we talk a lot and not a single attitude is given, so I concluded she was into me, so I forced her in to dating me, Atleast I thought I did.

I started noticing the attitude and she was always with guys in the school, I acted like it didn't get to me, but with time I became frustrated cos there's this guy he's always with, always!!

finally, it was her friend that told me not to kill myself over her cos I was so madly in love with her, that she has another that controls her like mugu, Na when my eyes clear be dat, but the love didn't die, I had to wash her off my system like someone in rehab, fell sick and all before I pulled thru..

So oga, don't tow that lane oo, BTW is her name Emmanuella or Progress?

Advise me as a guy, shud I just cut
communication with her totally and move on or I shud
still call her and talk Sha...
Seriously to me, I don't Wana be friend zone Cox I
truly wanna court her..... But she on the other side,
is damn too free with guys and I don't think I can
take it...... BEFORE I told her how I feel, I use to call
her to meet outside her hostel and we talk for some
hours.
But now that she is not ready, do u think I shud still
be doing all wat I use to do to her or I shud just cut
her off and move one....?

Lizilicious:
When I was ur gals age, I told a guy the exact same thing she's telling u now..
I wanted freedom... Didn't want any guy calling me on the phone and asking me where I was, didn't want a guy telling me my dress is too short or way too tight..( on a general note, I didn't want a monitoring Spirit of a boyfriend)..

I think that shit comes with the age..

But along the line, I realized I needed someone that'll call me and ask how my day was, or if I arrived safely from my journey..
I didn't need friends, I needed a friend and a soulmate..


What am I even saying sef, don't rush her.
Just take it slowly, she'll definitely come around..

Advise me as a guy, shud I just cut
communication with her totally and move on or I shud
still call her and talk Sha...
Seriously to me, I don't Wana be friend zone Cox I
truly wanna court her..... But she on the other side,
is damn too free with guys and I don't think I can
take it...... BEFORE I told her how I feel, I use to call
her to meet outside her hostel and we talk for some
hours.
But now that she is not ready, do u think I shud still
be doing all wat I use to do to her or I shud just cut
her off and move one....?

Ishilove:
Op, you sound like a pussy. Stop cramping her style

Advise me as a guy, shud I just cut
communication with her totally and move on or I shud
still call her and talk Sha...
Seriously to me, I don't Wana be friend zone Cox I
truly wanna court her..... But she on the other side,
is damn too free with guys and I don't think I can
take it...... BEFORE I told her how I feel, I use to call
her to meet outside her hostel and we talk for some
hours.
But now that she is not ready, do u think I shud still
be doing all wat I use to do to her or I shud just cut
her off and move one....?

openmine:
bro that's the point the lady you quoted is trying to make!
U must value and respect yourself enough to move on....that's giving her the space she needs since she is afraid of losing her freedom!

infact giving her the needed space by reducing ur calls to her and social media chats can actually make her see what she has really been missing which will influence her decision to change her current stance!

Please don't force urself on a lady who is not ready for a relationship!
U are too important and sophisticated to even hang around someone like that hoping for a change of mind from her!

Advise me as a guy, shud I just cut
communication with her totally and move on or I shud
still call her and talk Sha...
Seriously to me, I don't Wana be friend zone Cox I
truly wanna court her..... But she on the other side,
is damn too free with guys and I don't think I can
take it...... BEFORE I told her how I feel, I use to call
her to meet outside her hostel and we talk for some
hours.
But now that she is not ready, do u think I shud still
be doing all wat I use to do to her or I shud just cut
her off and move one....?

Cocao:
Nope.

She's not ready to date you.
When a lady begins to tell you stuff like that, let it go. Else, you will get hurt and cry foul. Save yourself today.

Advise me as a guy, shud I just cut
communication with her totally and move on or I shud
still call her and talk Sha...
Seriously to me, I don't Wana be friend zone Cox I
truly wanna court her..... But she on the other side,
is damn too free with guys and I don't think I can
take it...... BEFORE I told her how I feel, I use to call
her to meet outside her hostel and we talk for some
hours.
But now that she is not ready, do u think I shud still
be doing all wat I use to do to her or I shud just cut
her off and move one....?

akiOYIBO:
Why would u meet a girl for 3 weeks without making ur intention known? Its obvious she friendzoned u, forget the "not ready" of a thing. Its the word they usually use. She friendzoned u and wouldn't want to lose u as a friend. Just know u haven't done anything to trigger her sexual attraction.

Advise me as a guy, shud I just cut
communication with her totally and move on or I shud
still call her and talk Sha...
Seriously to me, I don't Wana be friend zone Cox I
truly wanna court her..... But she on the other side,
is damn too free with guys and I don't think I can
take it...... BEFORE I told her how I feel, I use to call
her to meet outside her hostel and we talk for some
hours.
But now that she is not ready, do u think I shud still
be doing all wat I use to do to her or I shud just cut
her off and move one....?

blackgold2018:
Campus love.. puppy love. Lol back in the days we play mum n dad romance in uni. My friend face front to your CGPA.

Advise me as a guy, shud I just cut
communication with her totally and move on or I shud
still call her and talk Sha...
Seriously to me, I don't Wana be friend zone Cox I
truly wanna court her..... But she on the other side,
is damn too free with guys and I don't think I can
take it...... BEFORE I told her how I feel, I use to call
her to meet outside her hostel and we talk for some
hours.
But now that she is not ready, do u think I shud still
be doing all wat I use to do to her or I shud just cut
her off and move one....?

unyted:
My brother, you did not make your intentions known earlier. You came as a friend and seems to have been friend-zoned. All the crap she said was just an excuse in order not to hurt you.

Just leave her for a while, don't call her. Maybe when she misses you, the situation might change.

If she gets back to you, don't say anything about love. Take her out on a date, hold her hands, get close to her, go for the kiss! Stop deceiving yourself that you only want friendship when you truly want more!

Brother, date other girls. When she notices that you have options, she will become jealous, and will most likely come back to you. To make a woman want you, psychology is involved. Cheers!

Advise me as a guy, shud I just cut
communication with her totally and move on or I shud
still call her and talk Sha...
Seriously to me, I don't Wana be friend zone Cox I
truly wanna court her..... But she on the other side,
is damn too free with guys and I don't think I can
take it...... BEFORE I told her how I feel, I use to call
her to meet outside her hostel and we talk for some
hours.
But now that she is not ready, do u think I shud still
be doing all wat I use to do to her or I shud just cut
her off and move one....?