MKKO:

Which location did you apply ? and wia are you writing the test ? i did apply but no invite.

1cor2v9:
Google and download all you can on APTIS TEST. it includes writing speaking listening and grammar test.
I wish you the best
NB: I applied for an accounting role so I am not certain your test may be same as mine. Just gave you the summary of what I wrote last year

frozen70:

First of all, you need to be strong, when I mean I strong it means bringing brave, be courageous.
Don't allow yourself to be wallowing in pains life goes on. Go ahead and plan for yourself and your family, you are the only one they have on earth so why do you want them to be stranded because on one person that never valued his family because if he did he won't back his family.
Tell your children the truth before they get to know it from outside.
Give yourself joy and make your self happy with all you can.
Your husband wants to enjoy himself and he needs a breathing space so allow him to do what pleases him.
Concentrate on the development and welfare of the children, don't ever cry because of him he doesn't deserve it. Pamper yourself so that you will be stronger for your children.
Don't feel bad about the whole thing rather use the opportunity a focus in your children.
I don't want to know what happened or what lead to the separation you are not the first person and won't be the last. Get some thing doing and get some to make you feel like a real woman aftrall he has moved on so why won't you move on. Lastly pray for the grace of God to see you through.

shaybebaby:
I'm so sorry you are going through this @OP.
Yes it's not always going to be easy but you can take some solace that you are not alone, others have been through it and some are facing the same thing as we speak.

Since your union is dead, it's okay to mourn the loss of what could have been. But never ever think that's it, your best years for you and your little ones are yet to come.

I know it is heartbreaking to hear them ask for their dad, do not shatter their little hearts with the truth whilst they are too young. Tell them, daddy is busy finding himself but loves them. Take the time to reassure them that you will always be there for them.

Don't worry too much about being mum and dad, love them to the best of your ability and surely that will be enough.

Now is the time to decide the sort of future you want for yourself, refuse to be a victim of life. Reaffirm that you will never let another dictate the outcome of your life. This mindset will give you the strength to overcome challenges as they come.

I am a single parent too (ish as in divorced) with a son. Since the time it happened, I have cried, been frightened for the future but I have still forged ahead. In the middle of divorce proceedings, my child was diagnosed with autism, but I somehow managed to keep going, returned back to get a degree, graduated with a first class, bought my own home, found love again.

Maintaining a civil relationship with ex is tricky but I always tell my child his dad loves him and still make sacrifices daily so they can have a relationship.
I do not know what the future holds but each day, try to find a reason to be thankful. Give yourself credit for the littlest things you do for yourself and your kids. From keeping them safe for another day to making sure they do not go to bed hungry.

We often take these things for granted but they are enough reason to hope for better things. Stay strong mama bear.

bukatyne:


Thank God.

Continue leaning on them and appreciating them.

@husband: is there no hope of reconciliation?

edoman2016:
What did you do why your ex-husband abandoned you and the children? Hardly will a father just abandoned his children without any serious reasons. Especially if the said children are his pure blood.

It could be that you have changed as a loving wife to troublesome wife or you made the house unbearable for him to come to.

There are many questions that need answers from OP.

bukatyne:


God will be with you and strengthen you.

If you can, please be closer to your parents for support.

yettymuse:
Are you financially stable? This is the one way to drive the singlemotherhood train with ease. If not, you really need to get get something doing. You need money! Consistent cash flow to avoid complete breakdown. This too shall pass. Hugs

Aim07:
I read ur story and felt like crying for u cos I am in similar situation right now, the only difference is that my is domestic violence related. I understand what you passing through and am happy that u have ur family support.

Yes, single motherhood has its good and bad days, but u need to prayerful, bold and courageous for the sake of yourself and kids. Get something doing, if you can teach, find a teaching job but if not venture into business. It doesn't matter even if it is 1k that u have as capital but be hopeful that better days lie ahead.

Don't let depression set in for u, believe that u will survive it... if kids are still young, whenever they ask for their dad, just keep hopeful on that, as they grow old share some stories that led to ur separation with them that does not mean u are painting their dad as bad person but for them to learn lessons from it.

I pray God will see u through your hurdles remember tough time never last tough people do...

nana228:
This is so sad, I hope you feel better soon. I don't know exactly what you are going through but I know it gets better every day. It's just like a wound, you'll feel better and your life will be easier. Time is a healer and it gets better.

Some days will be harder than others but try and get help from people that care about you, go out, exercise and stay in shape, if you have a little money to spare go ahead and spoil yourself and your children. If you will feel better after crying, lock your door away from your kids and cry but you have to be strong for them.

My thoughts are with you.

ifyalways:
One day at a time.

Cry when you are down butvremember you have two souls depending on you so you must get up, wipe your face and push on.

Don't rush to date. Take your time.

You need money, plenty of it,so get something doing.

You will be fine last last.

Lalas247:


Your number one priority should be your kids...
Some people think money solves all but showing your children LOVE is key .... remember that ! Always do what you can for them
My mum is a single mum even though situation is different because she had a job so finacially was stable and didnt have that burden ...but we love her so so much for her strength .. so dont doubt yourself as a mother .

[this is why i advocate for ladies to have something doing before they marry , having kids just because one man said he will do everything doesnt work anymore you have to have something to fall back on ... ]

So just keep pushing your children will see all the struggles and love you more for being strong, it will build them up . As for their father just leave it to God ... later on in life he may change and have a better relationship with his children .

Never too late
Be strong and know alot of women pull through this

OmoAlata1:
I am a single mother of two. I left a very very abusive relationship. So I did not choose single motherhood but that was what life dealt me.

It is very tough on the children. I have been single mother for 4 yrs, the first 3 yrs was really really tough on them. But please you need to make them feel very love. Let them have a fatherly figure in their life, like your brother or father, any male figure that you trust very well. You don’t necessarily have to start dating again if you are not ready. They will adapt but I will not lie, it will not be an easy road at all. They might lash at you sometimes especially if you have boys.

Deji63:
Men! Let's open our eyes and hearts to see good women and not put harlots in our homes as wives when there are so many caring and truly loving women out there looking for love.

Bluffly:
Nailed and no blood

NothingDoMe:
This is why I'm against 2 months dating

Cc NwanyiAwkaetiti

madridguy:
With No No everywhere like MTN Love is pain.

Tinamoore:
Hello house,

I have a BSc in government and public administration and wants to go for an MBA(master of public administration). My question is whether I need to take both toefl and GRE exam or will only toefl be OK.