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[quote author=harday27 post=70602510]please hows the interview like, what are the likely questions and the preparations generally? going for one in few days[/quote


OK, contrary to the thinking that the test is Ielts based,it is just a simple test of English language.

You will have sentence completion( choosing the most correct option), synonyms and antonyms. I think its about 60 questions( not so sure) to be completed in 30 minutes. Its hand written not computer based.

Be very mindful of your time.skip to the next question if you are not sure of an answer. You can always go back to it as the test is hand written

The above is basically what the test I took in PH looks like.

Wish you all the best.

Try to set a side time on a regular basis to do something fun with your child.

Never disagree about discipline in front of the children.

Never give an order, request, or command without being able to enforce it at the time.

Be consistent, that is, reward or punish the same behavior in the same manner as much as possible.

Agree on what behavior is desirable and not desirable.

Agree on how to respond to undesirable behavior.
Make it as clear as possible what the child is to expect if he or she performs the undesirable behavior.

Make it very clear what the undesirable behavior is. It is not enough to say, “Your room is messy.” Messy should be specified in terms of exactly what is meant: “You’ve left dirty clothes on the floor, dirty plates on your desk, and your bed is not made.”

Once you have stated your position and the child attacks that position, do not keep defending yourself. Just restate the position once more and then stop responding to the attacks.

Look for gradual changes in behavior. Don’t expect too much. Praise behavior that is coming closer to the desired goal

Remember that your behavior serves as a model for your children’s behavior.

If one of you is disciplining a child and the other enters the room, that other person should not step in on the argument in progress.

Reward desirable behavior as much as possible by verbal praise, touch or something tangible such as a toy, food or money.

Both of you should have an equal share in the responsibility of discipline as much as possible.

Copied from child development institute.

ProfGday:
Wonderful masterpiece

Yes it is indeed a masterpiece. That's why I shared it here.

A wise man once said that the future only belongs to those who have the ability to foresee it and sacrifice the pleasures of the present in order to gain it.
As I read through a financial report that Apple (Company) has entered the trillion dollars realm, I was curious to know more about the company. In my search, I stumbled into a pathetic story concerning one of the co-founders of Apple by name, Ronald Wayne. This man co-founded Apple Computers (now Apple Inc.) with Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak. He drew the first Apple logo, drafted the first original agreement between the founders and wrote the first manual for their first computer. He held a 10% share in the company but soon decided to relinquish it for $800 and was given additional $1500 to forfeit all right of ownership two weeks after the company was officially registered in 1976. His reason for that decision was that the company was financially demanding. Today, if Ronald Wayne had kept his 10% share, he would have been worth over a 100 billion dollars. That would have made him the richest or second richest man on earth. But the total value of what Ronald Wayne collected in 1976 stands at $ 9,498 in 2017. Today Ronald Wayne is worth $ 300,000 less than the million dollar mark, yet the agreement he drafted was sold for over a million dollars after he left. The first Apple product he ever owned was iPad 2 given to him in 2011.
Ronald Wayne said it was demanding on him financially. If only he saw today, his decision of 1976 would have been so different.
Everything of lasting value is highly demanding. Greatness is not a product of convenience. The greatness of tomorrow begins with the sacrifice of today.
If you need to live in a one room apartment today to own an estate tomorrow do!
If you need to ride a tricycle today in order to distribute a Rolls Royce tomorrow Pls do!
If you need to patronize fairly used clothes today to own a boutique tomorrow Pls do!
The pain of knowing you had the opportunity at a point in life to change the course of your life is the greatest pain of regret to live with.
Today Ronald Wayne in his right will be said to be financially OK at $300,000 but hearing the news that the company he cofounded is the first company to hit the trillion dollars mark will send many thoughts to his mind. And the children? Had our father....... Only God can describe what will be going on in their minds.
My counsel:
Where you see a future don't fail to invest
Where you see a future don't fail to sacrifice
Where you see a future don't fail to endure.
Where you see a future don't fail to persist
Where you see a future don't fail to believe.

The future truly belongs to those who can foresee it and give all it takes to get there. If you don't remember anything I have said so far, don't ever forget that " Greatness in life is not a product of convenience.” It takes sacrifice.

Copied/Edited.


https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ronald_Wayne

Thanks so much OP.seems you had me in mind when you made this post

NairalandFAYOSE:
being with the mum means being with me. I don't think I want that.
have read so many comments here where people are calling me names and saying am selfish without even considering if I have the means to take care of her plus my kids. but no one is blaming the useless father who abandoned her daughter because he is married.
I know for sure my woman won't take it if its the other way round.

I only seek advice and if you want to blame me, I will say you should first put yourself in my shoes

Sir, so many advises have been proffered to you since last night you made this post but at the end of the day the final decision lies solely on you.

Don't be too sure your woman won't take it if its the other way round.even if she won't take it, you must not behave insensitively like her.like I said in my earlier post, do unto others as you would like them to do unto you. Not the way you perceive they will do unto you.

Some people here stated that the girl may not remember the sacrifices you made in the future.even if it comes to that, thank God you have your own biological children.you are not accepting her that she must be there for you in your old age or that she is your responsibility.you are accepting her because she is your wife's flesh and blood, because she deserves all the love she can get and because you are a human with conscience.

Don't let the irrational behaviour of this girls biological father affect your decision.rather see it that it could have been your own daughter in this "unwanted" situation. I know it may be hard for you because it wasn't the initial plan.but please for the sake of your wife and her innocent daughter, reconsider your decision.

If you need more time to emotionally prepare yourself into accepting this girl, discuss it with your wife.I wish you well.

You were fully aware that your wife has a daughter before you married her not that she kept it a secret from you.Agreed that the daughter living with you was not the initial plan but then circumstances have changed.

In this case I think accepting the girl will be the better thing to do because:

1 From your write up, she is not going about it in a forceful way but pleading. She even sent the girl to her mum pending when you have a change of mind.

2 Sir, if the table is to be turned around and you find yourself in your wife's position, what exactly would you want her to do?

Please reconsider your decision.I know it may be hard for you because it was not in the initial plan. But then the girl in question is your wife's flesh and blood.how happy do you think she will be in your home knowing fully well that her daughter is homeless, all thanks to you her husband.

One of my guiding principle in life is " Do unto others as you would like them to do unto you".
Apply this principle Sir and you will wholeheartedly accept the girl.

iLegendd:
When you tell these men to learn how women and relationships work, they'll scream, "Mtcheew. Make money and you'll get any woman." Now they've made money and can get any woman, but there is still something missing and that is: knowing how women work.

The moment they see a beautiful woman, especially lightskin, they fall madly in love and neglect all her bad behaviors. They're afraid to lose her. They spend all the money they made on her and neglet their siblings, parents, and extended family.

Some years later, they'll finally lose her (because they have no idea how the dating world works) and she'll take 50% of all they own if it's in the US.

I don't pity these men. A relationship can only last if the woman loves the man more. Otherwise, it will crash. Those men who love their women more will always cry or be cheated on.

We have done the research for you. Read our relationship books and you'll know better. We teach men nothing but the truth.

@bolded, very wrong assumption hence I wonder how good your so-called relationship books will be.

Just surfing the internet.saw this and decided to share it.

Noodles, porridge and okra soup

sKeetz:
It's an old format, they will ask you to pay some fees for visa processing after 2 of 3 mails.

Lol,then they won't get me because I won't even pay one Naira to them.let me just follow up till there's a demand for money.

Jethrolite:
More like a personal butler. It is a great job. Google carnival cruise, they are big. The company is not popular here because Nigeria's tourism is dead.

Get the job and have your lawyer go through your letter of employment.

OK.thanks. wanted to ignore the test fearing its escort job but with the replies I have gotten so far, I will give it a trial but will have to be very careful

MrBrownJay1:
thats not entirely true because many cruise company go through recruitment agencies to get employees....the catch is to make sure that these recruitment companies are legit. again, so long as she does NOT have to pay for anything, and they are taking care of all the visa/flight issues, then she is all good.

remember, although the recruitment process could be via some agency, the interview and confirmation of employment will always be done by the cruise company, unless they tell you that they are a 3rd party recruiter/headhunter (aka the cruise company pays THEM, and then recruiter pays YOU, after taking their cut)

Yes they are using a recruitment agency

enemachris:
You have to thread carefully dear, Go to their site and confirm their official email. Email them to confirm the authenticity of the invite you got. I was nearly scammed with the name of Costa Cruise some weeks ago, if not for he fact that i was smart to have gone to their site to get their official mail and contacted them.

OK, this is a nice one too. Will do just that
Thanks

Blakjewelry:
escorting job is not something they will force you into, when you go for the interview you will definitely get a clear picture of scope of job

You may be right.guess I will just take the shl test and just be very careful in the entire recruitment process.thanks

[quote author=MrBrownJay1 post=69850522]carnival cruise line is a very sound cruise company, and the job would certainly NEVER be about being an escort. some of these cruise have thousands of guests onboard and you will only be helping them with their queries... just make sure that you are indeed in contact with carnival cruise, and not some deluded scammer.

just so you know, they will NEVER ask you to pay for anything and THEY will arrange for visa and flights to the nearest port where you will board the ship (if you get the job)....so if they ask you to pay ANYTHING to them, then its a scam!


go to carnival.com for more infos[/quote

OK. Thanks for your contribution

Few days ago, I saw an advertisement on quora site from carnival cruise lines, a company with head quarters in Miami .I applied for the post of guest care agent and just today ,I got an email that I have been selected for the next stage of the recruitment process( shl test).

I just went through their site and honestly the job ,coupled with the position I applied for is striking me as a call girl/escort job.

Please any idea about this company especially the position I applied for?let me not go and endanger my life in the name of a job.

Few days ago, I saw an advertisement on quora site from carnival cruise lines, a company with head quarters in Miami .I applied for the post of guest care agent and just today ,I got an email that I have been selected for the next stage of the recruitment process( shl test).

I just went through their site and honestly the job ,coupled with the position I applied for is striking me as a call girl/escort job.

Please any idea about this company especially the position I applied for?let me not go and endanger my life in the name of a job.

patani:
Go to ieltsonline.com. Many practice questions there. I hope ure fine now. My tought and prayers are with you !

Thanks. I have long taken the test and was successful.done the interview and now in waiting mode for the outcome.

I am still going through the quora link you posted and must say I am finding it so interesting and helpful. Thanks so much.

patani:
Hey, read this on quora. You will see a lot of women going through thesame and thier suggestion my help.

https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-best-revenge-against-a-cheating-husband-and-his-mistress

OK.thanks a bunch.
I will check it out.

realtalk19:
What will u describe of a man who does not want to work or fend for the family even when u make efforts to get him a job he rejects them and sleeps all day but feels comfortable with d wife hustling with a heavy stomach and accuring debt just for the family to feed and on top still insults his wife and says evil tins about her to his family.even when living as a family wit the man the wife lives like a Married single mother coz she caters for everything and still waiting on the wife to pay rent.

This epistle was a tip of my horrible experience in marriage.

Oh!!!! So sorry Sweetheart.continue to be the strong woman that you are.
Trust me, there is better days ahead.
Hugs to you.

Mindfulness:
Tinamoore, these words are a lesson and a blessing. Let them sink in deeply.

Sure.her words are so true

KanwuliaExtra:
Indeed!
In that case, you have been CONNED!The reason “it hurts”! You failed to protect yourself.
Women like you go into marriage with a lot of fantastic ideas. When the HARD KNOCK of reality slaps you, you still keep dreaming.

Are you telling us you LOVE A MAN more than YOURSELF? WHERE IS HE NOW? With another woman BREEDING MORE KIDS! And here you are.


Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeew!

Next time, make sure “your love” has some emotional BI-FOCALS in place, so you can always see CLEARLY, even when THE RAIN IS NOT GONE. This is 2018, not 2008!

Love is not to be wasted on nonentities. Put ALL the love on you and your kids. SIMPLE.

@bolded, you don't even know me, and you can easily read me on a faceless forum.

Your words are food for thought to me.

greatcrown:
Take heart.

All will be well.

Take one day at time as others have advised.
Look for something doing so you wouldn't have to be lonely for a long period of time.

Don't neglect prayer too.
You will have to force yourself to pray as there may not be any motivation.

All will be well with you and your children in Jesus name , amen.

Thanks dear.

KanwuliaExtra:
When people get married, they forget no condition is permanent but CHANGE! They also forget to forget to ALWAYS to have a PLAN B, PLAN C and PLAN D!

Especially in this day and age when marriages break up faster than wooden toothpicks.

Anyone going into a marriage without any alternative plan is delusional. You can wake up one day to find yourself single again WITH KIDS!

Depression has set in because marriage is a DO OR DIE AFFAIR to you. Instead of restructuring your life to nurture you and your kids, you are spending time to STAY IN MOURNING of a failed marriage. The man has moved on and here you are.

If a man never asks for his kids, you cannot force him to. The kids are your sole responsibility, so please WISE UP and SHAPE UP!

You are the only key to your peace of mind. You have to minimize the effect on your children by staying focused. Your plate is going to be FULL for a long time. . . . Please, get to work and take care of yourself and children ALONE!

The world is full of SINGLE MOTHERS! They are not dead! It is not the end of the world.

Good luck!

Hmmm!!! Bitter truth.

I am finding it hard because the kind of love I have/ had for him is one that may not be completely erased till the day I breath my last.

Really love can be pain at times.

Thanks

els0nm0rali:
Naah. Not yet. Plenty time for that after you've raised your kids and helped them raised theirs too.

I'm sure you are stronger than you know. Take each day as it comes. Before you know it your kids are graduating from college and you are a proud grandmama.

Don't give up on those kids now. They need you now more than ever.

I know this sounds like empty platitudes but if you feel like crying, go into the bathroom and cry your heart out. It's good for the soul and for your eyes too. (Some of us don't get the opportunity to wash our eyeballs every now then, forming superman and wonder woman)

Clean your eyes and put on your best smile (for the sake of your kids, but more importantly for yourself) and be prepared to conquer the world. Be the woman that conquered the world with a smile.

You'll do fine, I'm sure. Now's the time to lean on the shoulders of close family and very close girlfriends.

After all said and done, you'll need to get a job o.

Wish you the very best.

Thanks so much for your encouraging and kind words.

els0nm0rali:
So sorry for your situation. I can't claim to know what it feels like, but I know it will get better.

The good life you lived before marriage wasn't so that you have a good marriage per se.

It is so that when you draw your last breath and close your eyes to this side of existence you hope that the credit side outweighs the debit side when you open your eyes to the other side.

Wishing you the very best as you nurture and train your kids to be the best versions of themselves.

Thanks. Talking about the other side of existence, I sometimes wish I can just go over there .maybe I can be emotionally at rest there. I just manage to keep going for the sake of my kids.life is not just fair

enabledgoddess:
The last place a woman wants to be is to be a single parent, but then life happens. Dearie you will be fine although is not going to be a smooth ride , but brace up there's light at the end of the tunnel.
As others have said , get a job or start something no matter how little. I tell you what , your kids will grow up to be proud of you. They understand and are watching you please do not fail them.
Cry if you want to , take a bath and see a movie. Go out and make friends who are of strong characters. I sent my prayers

Thanks dear.its just so hard.you cry so much at times and still don't feel any better.

shaybebaby:
Tina Moore, how are you hun?

I am good dear but down emotionally. I sent you a pm.I need someone to talk to.

Talk of when God decides to lift a man.

vivypretty:
these people should stop making me scared of marriage.

No dear, don't be scared.marriage is so sweet when you get a good and compatible partner.I have some marriages that you can't help but envy.

Jochabed:
That's why i hate this Issue of BF/GF. And[b] why let a man who is not your husband see your unclothedness? Too Bad.

Even though it may be unconnected to the story, I must say this is one truth most people hate to hear.