OgogoroFreak:
Let me see her pics. Clearly Showing her asset. I will let her stay for as long as she wants without taking a dime from her.

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Back off if you have nothing reasonable to say.

My niece is in dire need of where to put up.preferably ajah or lekki.won't mind sharing a room with a fellow female.willing to accept short stay of 2 months or more till she gets her own place.

My niece is in dire need of where to put up.preferably ajah or lekki.won't mind sharing a room with a fellow female.willing to accept short stay of 2 months or more till she gets her own place.

CheeZena:


My dear,
In the Nigerian version of marriage, the men clearly benefit more.
It seems you're in a great marriage. Good for you.
But women take a lot of bullshit in the name of marriage especially here in Nigeria.

You want to know what makes it even more pathetic, many of them have been brainwashed to believe that they should be happy to be Mrs this or that.

So they stay because the society will see them as failures that cannot keep a home.

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No dear, on the contrary I am separated from hubby.I had a very bad experience in my marriage.but that does not change the fact that there are good marriages in Nigeria.I have proof from my sisters, brothers and some friends.my bitter experience in marriage cannot change my general view of it.

However you are right when you say some women take a lot of bullshit in the name of marriage.it shouldn't be about what the society will say.personally, I cant stay in a marriage that I am emotionally and psychologically abused.

From my personal experience, I will say yes Marriage still makes sense when its with a compatible and nice person.

The emotional & psychological needs coupled with companionship offered in marriage is second to none.there is a deep bond between couples which cannot be experienced outside marriage( my personal opinion).hence my opinion that marriage still makes sense.it all depends on the kind of person the marriage is entered with.

But a marriage that makes sense may loose its flavour and head to either separation or divorce when a partner changes completely from what he/ she used to be.

There is an adage in my place that says" marriage is like a parcel, you only get to know what's inside when you open it". I have come to believe this adage so much.at times, despite several years of courtship and studying our spouse to be , we may end up seeing a different package either immediately or some years into the marriage.

Some people argued on this thread about who benefits more in a marriage.I don't believe any gender benefits more.marriage is a symbiotic relationship. Both genders benefit and compliment each other.The issue of who benefits more springs up when one party is trying to play smart/wise.

This is an accident waiting to happen and we have FRSC.

Lack of Maintenance culture is a huge setback in Nigeria's infrastructures.hope this won't be in shambles soon .

Wilfredpat22:
The truth is that you deceived him. Well we all deceive men one way or the other. You started dating when you were 29, what happened between 21-28, you were sleeping around with married men I guess

This is as a repercussion for the evils you must have done in school and to other women’s homes. Now yours will be shattered. We ladies don’t hear or listen and eventually it will lead to our downfall


Let your husband look for some one fertile and responsible. By the way Are you sure those kids are his?

Gush!!! what a cruel and insensitive utterance

Realberg:
His ears tho, It could hear the trumpet sound on the last day.

Lol, what a hilarious comment

Exponental:
Don't get scared. All may be easy for you. Just be positive! Joy of motherhood should be your priority!!

Yes I have experienced it.the joy of motherhood sure supersedes.

donbachi:
Sleep

Lol.I can relate. Sleep disturbance is one way fathers get caught in the web

I can't even say anyone in particular

A lot has been said about youth involvement in politics cum political leadership position. How the older generation should give way for the younger generation to take over.

Now,this is my opinion about the so called younger generation who supposedly have the solution to every problem in the land.

The current set of political leaders are insensitive to the people's plight,some of them are criminals and very callous,but unfortunately the younger generation have the potential to be more... A generation that has legalized frauding,prostitution, etc cannot be trusted with running the affairs of the country.

Before my granny died at 94 years old,I used to be very close to her. From stories she shared with me,I can comfortably say that no generation had worshipped money the way we do now. Most girls/ladies wants to date you once you're certified 'rich' by their standards,regardless of what you do for a living and your marital status, some men voluntarily engage in sexual escapades for financial benefits.

Some 21st century parents admonish their kids to get married,only when that union guarantees financial security,unfortunately more than 50 years down the line,late Professor Chinua Achebe's phrase is still relevant in our society... Things have really fallen apart!


Just a few in my generation believes that a pretty lady can achieve success through hardwork and persistence, without having to spread her legs, and vice versa. as a result, prostitution, internet frauding etc became the order of the day.What world do we even care to leave for our kids A society so broken that they become ruthless to one another?? A society where they can easily prostitute their values?? A society devoid of moral uprightness??

Sometimes I think we deserve the kind of leaders we have. They steal from the coffers of the state and when we see them, we make them chairmen and women of our weddings,parties, etc,we reverence them for stealing,diverting public funds,receiving jumbo salaries in a country where the minimum wage is 18k. All because we worship money,regardless of how it is made.

A little struggle people change for the worst these days,when u meet them,they will start sounding like.... 'I don't blame internet fraudsters and prostitutes because they have to survive'. But how about looking at the bigger picture that fraudsters get rich at the expense of other people's life savings (which most times can lead to the victim's death or some severe/terminal health challenges) and prostitutes are the main agents of marriage destruction,our generation will rather say, 'they will have to survive and they're the breadwinners of their families too'.

The current politicians might be stealing from the economy, but I have every inclination to believe that our generation might sell this country for our love for riches and wealth,and we will wake up one morning, having no country to call our own. A generation that will rather ridicule a man that is making an honest living through waste management and adore a 'yahoo yahoo fraudster' can't be trusted with the mantle of leadership of a third world country that is desperately in need of an unprecedented development.

No regard for dignity of labour,education has been relegated as an unserious journey for those that wants to 'carry last',integrity has far been driven away and I'm shocked for what we are fast becoming...


I did this post to remind us that a young Nigerian like me,who is yet to achieve up to 80% of his dreams can be steadfast in upholding his values in this pursuit of happiness. I don't care if I'm the only one standing on this, I don't need people's validation. I only care about the positive rethink this post can infuse in all of us.


We can do good and succeed.
We can work hard honestly and that dream will be achieved.
We can stand by our values and posterity will remember us for that.
We can choose to drop internet frauding, prostitution,stealing,kidnapping etc, and our kids will have a better country to call their own.
Let's wear this face...
A face of honest hardwork, dignity in labour etc.
A face of a new generation looking out for one another in love. God bless us.

Copied.

Beautiful wedding gown!!!
I love it so much
Happy married life to the couple.

Ope4Christ:
Hello tinamoore.

I am sorry to ask you personal question.

Please can you share your qualifications i.e B. Sc etc to assist others in application of job vacancies at British Council.

l actually saw the advert but I felt I was not qualified.

Thanks.

I have replied your PM

harday27:


thank you, but I've done the test, I asked about the interview

Oh!!! Sorry for the mistake.
The interview was a ver friendly two women panel. Questions varied with each individual.some of my questions:

May we know you,
Have you worked with children before,
What was your experience working with them,
What qualities do you consider necessary in dealing with them,
Tell us about a time you showed dedication to duty,
Are you willing to travel at times,
Are you willing to work late some days and also on weekends ,
Finally any question(s) for us.

There are few other questions I can't remember.
Best of luck to you.

[quote author=harday27 post=70602510]

please hows the interview like, what are the likely questions and the preparations generally? going for one in few days[/quote


OK, contrary to the thinking that the test is Ielts based,it is just a simple test of English language.

You will have sentence completion( choosing the most correct option), synonyms and antonyms. I think its about 60 questions( not so sure) to be completed in 30 minutes. Its hand written not computer based.

Be very mindful of your time.skip to the next question if you are not sure of an answer. You can always go back to it as the test is hand written

The above is basically what the test I took in PH looks like.

Wish you all the best.

Try to set a side time on a regular basis to do something fun with your child.

Never disagree about discipline in front of the children.

Never give an order, request, or command without being able to enforce it at the time.

Be consistent, that is, reward or punish the same behavior in the same manner as much as possible.

Agree on what behavior is desirable and not desirable.

Agree on how to respond to undesirable behavior.
Make it as clear as possible what the child is to expect if he or she performs the undesirable behavior.

Make it very clear what the undesirable behavior is. It is not enough to say, “Your room is messy.” Messy should be specified in terms of exactly what is meant: “You’ve left dirty clothes on the floor, dirty plates on your desk, and your bed is not made.”

Once you have stated your position and the child attacks that position, do not keep defending yourself. Just restate the position once more and then stop responding to the attacks.

Look for gradual changes in behavior. Don’t expect too much. Praise behavior that is coming closer to the desired goal

Remember that your behavior serves as a model for your children’s behavior.

If one of you is disciplining a child and the other enters the room, that other person should not step in on the argument in progress.

Reward desirable behavior as much as possible by verbal praise, touch or something tangible such as a toy, food or money.

Both of you should have an equal share in the responsibility of discipline as much as possible.

Copied from child development institute.

ProfGday:
Wonderful masterpiece

Yes it is indeed a masterpiece. That's why I shared it here.

A wise man once said that the future only belongs to those who have the ability to foresee it and sacrifice the pleasures of the present in order to gain it.
As I read through a financial report that Apple (Company) has entered the trillion dollars realm, I was curious to know more about the company. In my search, I stumbled into a pathetic story concerning one of the co-founders of Apple by name, Ronald Wayne. This man co-founded Apple Computers (now Apple Inc.) with Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak. He drew the first Apple logo, drafted the first original agreement between the founders and wrote the first manual for their first computer. He held a 10% share in the company but soon decided to relinquish it for $800 and was given additional $1500 to forfeit all right of ownership two weeks after the company was officially registered in 1976. His reason for that decision was that the company was financially demanding. Today, if Ronald Wayne had kept his 10% share, he would have been worth over a 100 billion dollars. That would have made him the richest or second richest man on earth. But the total value of what Ronald Wayne collected in 1976 stands at $ 9,498 in 2017. Today Ronald Wayne is worth $ 300,000 less than the million dollar mark, yet the agreement he drafted was sold for over a million dollars after he left. The first Apple product he ever owned was iPad 2 given to him in 2011.
Ronald Wayne said it was demanding on him financially. If only he saw today, his decision of 1976 would have been so different.
Everything of lasting value is highly demanding. Greatness is not a product of convenience. The greatness of tomorrow begins with the sacrifice of today.
If you need to live in a one room apartment today to own an estate tomorrow do!
If you need to ride a tricycle today in order to distribute a Rolls Royce tomorrow Pls do!
If you need to patronize fairly used clothes today to own a boutique tomorrow Pls do!
The pain of knowing you had the opportunity at a point in life to change the course of your life is the greatest pain of regret to live with.
Today Ronald Wayne in his right will be said to be financially OK at $300,000 but hearing the news that the company he cofounded is the first company to hit the trillion dollars mark will send many thoughts to his mind. And the children? Had our father....... Only God can describe what will be going on in their minds.
My counsel:
Where you see a future don't fail to invest
Where you see a future don't fail to sacrifice
Where you see a future don't fail to endure.
Where you see a future don't fail to persist
Where you see a future don't fail to believe.

The future truly belongs to those who can foresee it and give all it takes to get there. If you don't remember anything I have said so far, don't ever forget that " Greatness in life is not a product of convenience.” It takes sacrifice.

Copied/Edited.


https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ronald_Wayne

Thanks so much OP.seems you had me in mind when you made this post

NairalandFAYOSE:
being with the mum means being with me. I don't think I want that.
have read so many comments here where people are calling me names and saying am selfish without even considering if I have the means to take care of her plus my kids. but no one is blaming the useless father who abandoned her daughter because he is married.
I know for sure my woman won't take it if its the other way round.

I only seek advice and if you want to blame me, I will say you should first put yourself in my shoes

Sir, so many advises have been proffered to you since last night you made this post but at the end of the day the final decision lies solely on you.

Don't be too sure your woman won't take it if its the other way round.even if she won't take it, you must not behave insensitively like her.like I said in my earlier post, do unto others as you would like them to do unto you. Not the way you perceive they will do unto you.

Some people here stated that the girl may not remember the sacrifices you made in the future.even if it comes to that, thank God you have your own biological children.you are not accepting her that she must be there for you in your old age or that she is your responsibility.you are accepting her because she is your wife's flesh and blood, because she deserves all the love she can get and because you are a human with conscience.

Don't let the irrational behaviour of this girls biological father affect your decision.rather see it that it could have been your own daughter in this "unwanted" situation. I know it may be hard for you because it wasn't the initial plan.but please for the sake of your wife and her innocent daughter, reconsider your decision.

If you need more time to emotionally prepare yourself into accepting this girl, discuss it with your wife.I wish you well.

You were fully aware that your wife has a daughter before you married her not that she kept it a secret from you.Agreed that the daughter living with you was not the initial plan but then circumstances have changed.

In this case I think accepting the girl will be the better thing to do because:

1 From your write up, she is not going about it in a forceful way but pleading. She even sent the girl to her mum pending when you have a change of mind.

2 Sir, if the table is to be turned around and you find yourself in your wife's position, what exactly would you want her to do?

Please reconsider your decision.I know it may be hard for you because it was not in the initial plan. But then the girl in question is your wife's flesh and blood.how happy do you think she will be in your home knowing fully well that her daughter is homeless, all thanks to you her husband.

One of my guiding principle in life is " Do unto others as you would like them to do unto you".
Apply this principle Sir and you will wholeheartedly accept the girl.

iLegendd:
When you tell these men to learn how women and relationships work, they'll scream, "Mtcheew. Make money and you'll get any woman." Now they've made money and can get any woman, but there is still something missing and that is: knowing how women work.

The moment they see a beautiful woman, especially lightskin, they fall madly in love and neglect all her bad behaviors. They're afraid to lose her. They spend all the money they made on her and neglet their siblings, parents, and extended family.

Some years later, they'll finally lose her (because they have no idea how the dating world works) and she'll take 50% of all they own if it's in the US.

I don't pity these men. A relationship can only last if the woman loves the man more. Otherwise, it will crash. Those men who love their women more will always cry or be cheated on.

We have done the research for you. Read our relationship books and you'll know better. We teach men nothing but the truth.

@bolded, very wrong assumption hence I wonder how good your so-called relationship books will be.

Just surfing the internet.saw this and decided to share it.

Noodles, porridge and okra soup

sKeetz:
It's an old format, they will ask you to pay some fees for visa processing after 2 of 3 mails.

Lol,then they won't get me because I won't even pay one Naira to them.let me just follow up till there's a demand for money.

Jethrolite:
More like a personal butler. It is a great job. Google carnival cruise, they are big. The company is not popular here because Nigeria's tourism is dead.

Get the job and have your lawyer go through your letter of employment.

OK.thanks. wanted to ignore the test fearing its escort job but with the replies I have gotten so far, I will give it a trial but will have to be very careful

MrBrownJay1:


thats not entirely true because many cruise company go through recruitment agencies to get employees....the catch is to make sure that these recruitment companies are legit. again, so long as she does NOT have to pay for anything, and they are taking care of all the visa/flight issues, then she is all good.

remember, although the recruitment process could be via some agency, the interview and confirmation of employment will always be done by the cruise company, unless they tell you that they are a 3rd party recruiter/headhunter (aka the cruise company pays THEM, and then recruiter pays YOU, after taking their cut)

Yes they are using a recruitment agency

enemachris:
You have to thread carefully dear, Go to their site and confirm their official email. Email them to confirm the authenticity of the invite you got. I was nearly scammed with the name of Costa Cruise some weeks ago, if not for he fact that i was smart to have gone to their site to get their official mail and contacted them.

OK, this is a nice one too. Will do just that
Thanks

Blakjewelry:
escorting job is not something they will force you into, when you go for the interview you will definitely get a clear picture of scope of job

You may be right.guess I will just take the shl test and just be very careful in the entire recruitment process.thanks

[quote author=MrBrownJay1 post=69850522]carnival cruise line is a very sound cruise company, and the job would certainly NEVER be about being an escort. some of these cruise have thousands of guests onboard and you will only be helping them with their queries... just make sure that you are indeed in contact with carnival cruise, and not some deluded scammer.

just so you know, they will NEVER ask you to pay for anything and THEY will arrange for visa and flights to the nearest port where you will board the ship (if you get the job)....so if they ask you to pay ANYTHING to them, then its a scam!


go to carnival.com for more infos[/quote

OK. Thanks for your contribution