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OmoAlata1:
I am a single mother of two. I left a very very abusive relationship. So I did not choose single motherhood but that was what life dealt me.

It is very tough on the children. I have been single mother for 4 yrs, the first 3 yrs was really really tough on them. But please you need to make them feel very love. Let them have a fatherly figure in their life, like your brother or father, any male figure that you trust very well. You don’t necessarily have to start dating again if you are not ready. They will adapt but I will not lie, it will not be an easy road at all. They might lash at you sometimes especially if you have boys.

Thanks so much.yes , I am already seeing that it won't be easy.trust me,single motherhood was never among the plans I had for myself.

I try to show my angels so much love while at the same time not sparing the rod.

Thanks a lot for sharing your own story.

@ jennyswtie, thanks

[quote author=Olalan post=66903455]Sorry Ma, about your troubles you need to be strong for your kids so they turn out well. Pls you need to get closer to God at this trying times for His strength to uphold you.


Thanks

I just want to let out some of my pains and fesrs on this faceless forum .maybe it will give me some sort of relief.

I know that I am not a perfect person but i know that i gave my all to my marriage to make it work but it didn't work out.the whole thing is gradually wrecking me emotinally because of my two innocent children.

When I look back at the " good girl" life I have lived, I begin to wonder if its worth it.most times, I just want to do some "very bad things", so that the pains I passed through in my marriage will make sense to me. Why does bad things happen to good people.

Most times, I am scared if I am/ will make a good mother to my kids.can I successfully fill the vacuum of a father in their lives? Why my children? Why must they be caught in this web of ' single parenthood'.God!!! I am so scared of what the future holds for us.i worry about what will happen if my children dont turn out well.I try to be strong especially for my kids but at times I break down. This was never the plan I had for myself. What happened to my dreams?

For how long will I answer questions like: mummy, I want to speak with my daddy; mummy, why is daddy not living with us anymore; mummy, I miss my daddy.this are questions my children ask even though they haven't spent so much time with their father as he was abroad.In as much as I don't want to paint their father as a bad person, I also don't want to give them the impression that I am deliberately keeping them away from their father.so the questions get hard to answer.

How can a father abandon his own blood? No calls, emotional or financial commitment. I can deal with it, but its not easy for my kids.maybe its about the belief that" my children will eventually look for their father, their root".how about their education? Don't you care if your children are in school knowing fully well I am unemployed. God!! Please answer my prayers.

It's worse because I can't and will never go back to him. For if i do, he may cause me to commit suicide oneday. Twice , his actions made me raise knife to take my life. I loved him so much that he was my obsession. He was my first and only love.do I hate him now? No, I can never hate the one I once loved so much.I gave him time to change but it got worse.I know we all have our faults including me but not when a man makes his wife an " intimate stranger".

Life itself is not fair.so many questions and questions in my head that beg for answers.at times you need someone to just listen to you. At times i t gets too much for me that I just want to scream out loud.you cry so much and still don't feel any better.its worse because no one else truly knows what I am passing through emotionally.God bless my family for me but then my emotional pains is beyond them.

Do I feel any better writing this? honestly I don't know. Just want to write about how I am feeling. At times I want to loose faith/ hope in God but then I know its only him and myself that can help "me".

I am not new on nairaland.my old moniker is saponification but changed it when I lost my former email.

Deji63:
Men! Let's open our eyes and hearts to see good women and not put harlots in our homes as wives when there are so many caring and truly loving women out there looking for love.

Nice One.

Jeez!!! this is so hilarious.pictures 3,5,6,8 and 9 made my day.

Thanks OP. Nice one.

Bluffly:
Nailed and no blood

Yes I noticed it.but even if its true, is it really necessary?

Religion- one thing that mankind have given diverse interpretations. So impossible to have a generally acceptable belief.

Hello house, I intend applying for a masters programme .please I would like to know if its ok to use my aunty in USA as my sponsor.will this pose an obstacle as my status is reading "married"

Hello house, I intend applying for a masters programme .please I would like to know if its ok to use my aunty in USA as my sponsor.will this pose an obstacle as my status is reading "married".

NothingDoMe:
This is why I'm against 2 months dating

Cc NwanyiAwkaetiti

On the contrary, knew him way back in the university. Married him when he had no money.Sacrificed my chance to travel abroad to him.but when he started making money, he changed completely.have now abandoned me and the kids probably for his white girlfriend

So no, mine was not about two months dating.it's about a man who acted like he loved me cos he was poor.but showed his true colour when he started making money.

madridguy:
With No No everywhere like MTN Love is pain.

Yes, from my own experience, love is pain.wouldn't have married him if I knew what I know now.

Hello house,

I have a BSc in government and public administration and wants to go for an MBA(master of public administration). My question is whether I need to take both toefl and GRE exam or will only toefl be OK.