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I hope that after the testimony in church, some well-to-do church member offered him a job.

[quote author=*dhtml link=topic=889994.msg10367568#msg10367568 date=1331336377]@OP, i remembered my first infertility gyne clerking in med. school - the patient had about 6 complaints and none of them was inability to conceive.
By the time i was presenting, i felt like a goat, and my consultant just asked straight - do you have children, and i was just watchin like a real GOAT.

And another interesting thing that never fails to amuse me is the fact that you.

Doctor: Have you ever had any operation before?
Patient: No

Doctor: Have you ever had a c/s before?
Patient: Yes

I wonder why so many women never count c/s as operation?? Is it like a sort of tabooo[/quote]Honestly, it can be so embarrassing to clerk such a patient. And if it's in exam situation,

mgbogo:
I am a medical doctor and I find this post disgusting and infantile. The poster might as well stay at home and deliver his wife.I wounder any thrill anyone will find in the womanliness of pregnant woman.People dont bother about the stench coming out wich doctors have to endure in the name of work and the responsiblity therein.At a time a womans life is at a border between life and death,all u care about is her womanliness.How caring!

Don't mind them. Please continue trying to save lives, no matter what dirty thoughts people think.

@OP and all those concerned: If you have the cahones, you can go to Medical school and learn how to do it yourself. Or even Midwifery schools.

jedisco:
@op
This is a very funny question. You should try and visit a teaching hospital and see up to 10 people looking while your wife is being examined. Your wife is even an obstetric case where most of their privates and body overall look quite disgusting. I wonder what you will say about gynaecological cases esp infertility where they are quite young and beautiful. Moreover its not advisable for a doc to examine a woman without another lady there.
Do you think you think its only your wife that has privates? That doc must have examined countless number of privates while in med school.
 Have you heard of exams like DRE (where you put your hand into a persons anus) or scrotal exam. I've seen these done countless times by women with most of the guys having no qualms about it.
  You talk about sharia law. I think its because people like you that northern nigeria has one of the highest maternal mortality ratio in the world.

All-in-all you have the right to refuse medical care from a doctor or not to allow a particular exam to be carried out on you. But you should use it wisely and not over trivial issues.

To those asking what goes on in the docs mind.
Let me say med students start learning about these structures from 2nd yr using texts and teaching aids and its not until 5th year they really start vag. exam. By then most of those impulses would have be suppressed or absent within the exam room. He would have done countless b4 graduating and specializing. Its just like asking why do docs have no feelings toward dead bodies. So most times they feel NOTHING. But there would always be perverts.

May you live long.

I don't understand how some people think. Vag. examinations do not even take up to 3 minutes on the average, yet these dudes are on here complaining out of some misplaced sense of modesty.

You have a choice o, to select a female Ob/Gyn over a male. Sadly, males outnumber females in the medical profession in Nigeria, especially in O/G. So good luck to you in your Gulder Ultimate search.

The uterine artery (that supplies blood to the womb), when injured, can bleed a woman empty in ten minutes. TEN minutes. So feel free to spend time looking for a female obstetrician/gynecologist. When the woman in distress dies, I hope she haunts you from the Great Beyond.

*hiss*

[quote author=~Killz~ link=topic=887033.msg10344917#msg10344917 date=1331070339] [/quote]

Tafiki:
Find time and go and marry punching bag or cushion so whenever u get angry, u can punch away.

Your SO should be proud of you.

And on a tangent, a WWE wrestler guy called Chris Brown out for assaulting Rihanna, basically told CB to come fight his mate (the WWE guy) and not a woman. And another guy offered $1000 to anyone who could beat up Chris Brown and provide proof of the beatdown (pics and video). Hm.

Sad how this thread degenerated to insult-hurling.

By the way, the thread was about slapping/beating/violence in the context of a relationship or marriage, wasn't it? What is all this talk about mad women trying to bite off ears, and mad women holding knives and trying to kill children?
Na wa o, y'all are just looking for a reason to condone violence. Surprising to see a female with that viewpoint, too.

Like someone said, I hope it's not somebody's wife that is biting his ear, because it means he didn't know who he married, and/or didn't check for a family history of mental disorders before marriage.
And if a mad woman is threatening a child- by all means, do what you have to, to protect the child. Self-defense is not a crime; neither is protecting an endangered life of a child- the self-proclaimed [London] lawyers can bear witness to that.

All this mad-woman talk is creepy. Sheesh.

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=887033.msg10342730#msg10342730 date=1331051226]I give up! It's easier said than done. Jesus lost his cool.  

A woman is about to set your car on fire, and you're there punching the walls and breaking dishes. Classic!

If only we could see what people do in their private abodes. If only we could know for sure that the folks carrying "never beat your wife under any circumstance" placards,  haven't killed up to 10 people in their lifetime.

Hm. If only. [/quote]Yes, if only. Fortunately for me, my assassin hit list remains classified. I couldn't resist coming out one last time, you could say I lost my self-control.

One last post and then I'm back to lurking.

The summary of my viewpoint is (and this applies to both men and women):

I do not believe that violence is ever the answer. Whether male or female, people hitting each other is just wrong.
Violence against women, who are generally physically weaker than men, is cowardice.
Know who you're dealing with, and know how best to handle them without resorting to violence of any kind.
If someone provokes you, do whatever you have to do to avoid physical combat.
If someone seems bent on making you lose your sanity and self-control, DTMFA- Dump The M*****F***** Already.

Peace.

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=887033.msg10342571#msg10342571 date=1331050063]Dude, you really think everyone want an unhappy union? Lets be Realistic abeg.

PEOPLE CHANGE. . . for the better and for the worse. Ok? People snap! What sort of yeye argument is "people do not change"? Listen to yourself.

You've never seen a hardcore Jesus-hater Muslim convert into a Christian?

You've never heard of a 50 yr old man that has been good all his life end up spending the rest of his life in prison because he snapped at the wrong time?

If you haven't, then this back and forth should be terminated. You live in Mars, I live on earth.
[/quote]I'm sure nobody would like an unhappy relationship, but I'm not sure what that has to do with this particular conversation.

People snapping is not equal to people changing. People snapping = people reaching their elastic limit, people losing their self-control.

Self-control is key, like I said in an earlier post. Walk away, break the dishes, punch the drywall- but never a fellow human being, and especially never a spouse.

And, if you're with someone who constantly pushes you to see how far you can go before you push back (which in itself would be an unhappy relationship), then rethink the existence of that relationship. There's no point in letting someone turn into a monster.

Loss of self-control is the reason for crimes of passion, like 'snapping at the wrong time' as you said in your post.

rekeson:
This dude u are alwaz coming across like a kid. Cos u are so out of touch with reality. Ur type will make a very horrible husband or father. Grow up dude

If Killz's point of view in this discussion is not in touch with your reality, I wouldn't want to be living in your 'reality' world. Pity the poor soul who ends up with you.

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=887033.msg10342252#msg10342252 date=1331047750]Yh right.  You've never seen/heard of a very obedient and "Godly" child becoming an Assassin at the age of 27?   

Anger and peer pressure know no bounds, my friend! [/quote]No, I've never heard of such. And please leave 'Godly' out of this, we've heard of pastors who beat and pummel their wives.

Speaking of anger knowing no bounds i.e provocation, it comes down to self-control. Grabbing your keys and walking away, clenching your fists, punching a wall, But never another human being, and especially never a spouse or significant other.

People do not change.
People should be able to know what they're getting into, who they're saying 'I do' to. Don't marry a goat (thanks, Killz) expecting some supernatural events to change the goat into a prince/princess.

For those who are trying to rationalize Violence against Women by saying, What if she slapped your mother, or rained abuses on you, or whatever ish, Why would you wife a motorpark tout, an 'agbero'? A normal, decent human being wouldn't do that.

And no, PEOPLE DO NOT CHANGE. A usually quiet and well-behaved woman wouldn't just up and slap your mother or rain insults on you or whatever (even when there is serious provocation, it would still be rare). Likewise, a toutish woman would always be toutish. A leopard does not change its spots.

It's never a good idea to beat up on your wife. If not for anything, remember she sees you when you're sleeping. She could stab/castrate you in your sleep, or put just enough rat poison in your food to send you to the emergency room.

Abortion is not a mistake, but a choice. Right now, your girlfriend needs your love and support more than anything else. That said,

If she has gone for an ultrasound scan that says the pregnancy is completely gone and there is nothing in her uterus (womb), then the major problem is over.

Prolonged bleeding is a side effect of the drug, and AS LONG AS THE SCAN SAYS THE PREGNANCY IS COMPLETELY GONE, it would stop by the time her next period starts.

It takes about 4 to 6 weeks for the pregnancy test to become negative following the procedure, so in about two weeks from now, your girlfriend should do another pregnancy test to confirm.

If either this confirmatory pregnancy test or the ultrasound scan says she is still pregnant (i.e retained products of conception), then the options are to:
- take the drug (Cytotec) again
- go to a hospital

If you both choose to go to a hospital:
- ask for a gynecologist
- DO NOT ADMIT TO HAVING AN ABORTION - you and your girlfriend could possibly go to jail.
- Instead, say that she had a miscarriage. Abortion and miscarriage have the same clinical picture, and no-one can tell the difference. They may not believe you, they may insist that it was an induced abortion, but DO NOT ADMIT to it.

In the meantime, if she develops other symptoms like fever and chills, GO TO THE HOSPITAL IMMEDIATELY because these symptoms could be due to infection of the retained products, causing sepsis.

I wish your girlfriend the best of luck.