₦airaland Forum

debosky:
Beeni, sugbon ti oun ti o ba fe so ma fa ki tiredi yii ja kuro lona (derailment) ko wa allowed.  

Lol . . .omo dada ni mi o
ema bami ni oruko je o

debosky:
Ti oo ba fe wahala ma gbe railuway tendencies e wa si ori oro yii o. Mo ti so wipe mo ma fun enikeni to ba derail tiredi yii ni egba mefa ni idi. 

Lol . . . . oya kini threadi yi wa about?
Sabi yoruba loni ka so . . . . ikon to ba de wun wa la le so

Sissy are u sure u r a female sef?
Why do men always think women are nagging when she tryin to say something?

debosky:
Kilon pa Tope lerin? Ooto ni mo so - eni ti o ba fa wahala ni adugbo yii, mo ma ko eni naa logbon ti ko ni gbagbe laye laye. 

Emi owa fa wahala o
Mo ko fe derail topic yi die ni o

~Sissy~:
for me i think for a marriage to be successful and fruitful it needs

     *  Love
    * Support
    * Tolerance
    * Communication
    * Realistic expectations
    * Caring
    * Nurturing
    * Sense of humor
    * Commitment
    * Respect
    * Knowing how to handle conflict
    * Problem solve together
    * Interdependence
    * Caring
    * Enjoying one another
    * Having fun together

There are no truer words

~Sissy~:
communication is a big key to any successful marriage and relationships and honestly i tell you most marriages/relationships fail cox of lack of communication and it amazes me how often ppl tend to neglect it.

most of the ones here imo is lack of communication

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm . . . . , i think the women always try to communicate but the men always seem to be tired to talk
Like they say women talk too much
Communication is a two-way thing . . . .so i think most men shud make an effort to listen to what their wives have have to say

Lmao @ debo

~Sissy~:
sweeties nah dnt b scared every marriage/relationships gets their bumps just got to handle it probably.

marriage is not a bed of roses for anyone

I know but just the way some ppl are going on abt it . . . .is kinda scary
Guess communication REALLY is key

I am waiting for ugly betty's new series but for now i only watch dirty sexy money

rheel:
hi ,

i have been married for almost 2 years, my marriage is becoming boring day by day

my spouse comes home late in the name of work and traffic, he complains when i ask him to drive me somewhere, but never complains when he has to go extra miles to pick people out of his way to work, his newspaper is his best companion at weekends even though i try to chat with him and so on.

he hides in the car to answer phone calls, i cant touch his phone any longer cos am scared of what i will see after i once read a message sent by one girl, and to crown it all he acts like a saint.

folks, please advice me

Oh gawd !!!!!
Not another boring marriage, u guys are really scaring me o

C2H5OH:
This tope girl sef.  Still as gorgeous as ever.  If I catch you for boskoro ehn. .

Lmao . . . . u r not serious

klassyguy:
Are u the alter ego of sillyme?

rofl

C2H5OH:
Two weeks and no call?  Something is surely wrong.  Do not contact him anymore.  Wait for him to contact you, and when he does be sure he has some explanations.  If he dare tries to skirt around the issue, tell him you want to end it.

I couldnt agree more

virgie:
for two weeks and no call?
Not even to send messages?
What reasons does he have than to show his dis interest in the relationship?
As far as I am concerned, he is good riddance to bad rubbish!

Hehehehehe. . . . two weeks n no communication

silat:
men get bored of marriage for a number of reasons:

1. Boring sex: most women become uninterested in sex after a while in marriage. Naturally the man feels she has become insensitive of his needs and gets bored. Sometime he might get tempted to look outside. If everywoman will give her husband good sex, it will go along way to reducing boredom in marriage.

2. Unforgiveness: If you are married, you must be willing expect offences from your partner.And if you are smart , register your disappoinment and forgive him or her without dwelling on it for so long. Try to see how you can help the person. If you don't forgive and try to see the good in your partner, you kill love and gradually become bored.

3. Financial pressure: When men are not able to meet up with their basic responsibilitythey get irritated and start regretting why they got themselves into the "mess of marriage". Ladies should be supportive at such moments and encourage their men instead of putting more pressure on them.

4. work pressure: women should be smart to know that pressure at work can affect the man's behaviour at home. Smart women should know when their husbands are under pressure and try not nag on them at such times. See if you could help him talk about it and assure him that everything is gonna be just fine.

There could be more reasons, but these are the ones i could immediately share.

Goodluck to all of you in marriage. Believe me its really fun if you are willing to work it out.

I think u have said it all

190, stop dating whores

Put foot down on what??

glory mary:
I have been in a relationship with this guy for some months, but he never one day take me to his house, is he for really? So when i ask him the day i will know his house, he keep teling me be patience.
for how long girls.
But i ask him why, he say his xgirl friend is living the same compound with him, that he want to parkout from there before i can go to his house. that he did not want her to insult me. but the problem now is my brother say the Guy should not come to our house again and the guy now change. about a weeks now we are not speaking with each other i refuse to pick his calls because he lied to me.
so pls am trouble because i don't want him to go i love him so much. pls i need your advice
thanks.

Ti e ti baa e
I bet his still screwing this 'ex gf' of his

ifyalways:
@Tope,what do u mean restoring?words have it u are already in it with sauron da sexy

Lol . . . .he divorced moi

A-town:
Why won't "most" naija women get bored when all "most" of them do is to lay on the bed like a piece of freaking wood.
"Most" naija women assume the man is supposed to be "Mr 30 minute all night pleasure kind of guy".
They forget that you get what you put into it. It takes two to tango.

Lol  . . . . I think the sentence in bold is excatly what im trying to say

If you take a rough statistic, you will realise that in "Most" naija marriages, it is usually the man that initiates sex/love making.
Women make it seem like it's just the man that wants it when in reality they both want/need it.

Thats true actually and i agree it shudnt be but marriage is not just based on sex though

ifyalways:
Being cold and withdrawn after marriage is a little bit normal.IMO
They are gradually passing through a phase. . . .adjusting to living and sleeping together,7 days a week.I must say communication plays a great role here.
The thrills and fun of dates,seeing each other after a long time etc fades cos they see themselves everyday.The body,soul and mind of the couple are being rudely faced with accepting the fact that they are stuck together for life.
It goes with time,esp when the wife gets preggie.
Note:it does not lead to cheating in any way. . . .if there are cases of cheating then that is another case altogether

Thanks for restoring my faith in marriage again
The poster got me scared for a min there