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Lukmanraji:
My gf of seven years has been giving me attitude recently which I noticed sometimes last year. I observed that she always check my phone to look for something to hold against me. Yes, she suspected that I'm having something with someone. So, every time she's around me, she always find one or two thing that will lead to argument and all that. Aside that, the respect, love and intimacy between us reduced drastically.

Fast forward to this year, She successfully read a chat on my phone where I was talking dirty with someone. That's the genesis of the whole mess I'm in right now. She just walked out quietly and decided to end it all. Since then, I've not been myself because this is the person I have planned to live the rest of my life with. So, I started begging her but she's not giving me any green light. I called, messaged her but no response. I asked my Junior brother to beg on my behalf but she didn't succumb to that not until my dad intervened to apologize on my behalf.

So, she call me that we need to see. I rushed to visit her and apologize again and again. She agreed to continue with the relationship but she hasn't forgiven me. After few weeks of the whole issue. I suspected that she's hiding something from me. Then one fateful night, I spy on her phone when she was unlocking her phone. That night, I was able to access her phone while she was asleep.

I checked her WhatsApp, I discovered that she has been clearing her chat with one particular guy who happens to be her friend from NYSC since 2021. They became close as they both work in the same financial institution but in a different branch. Then I went further to her Instagram page to see what's going there.

To my greatest surprise, I discovered that they have been having an affair since 2023. My gf has been throwing herself to this guy, they have been going to the cinema together and other places. On her birthday, my babe and this guy went out together without my knowledge, they both book uber to somewhere without my knowledge, they were both sharing their feelings online, talking about marriage, how to raise their kids irrespective of their religion differences and my babe even throwing herself to the guy for sex. Everything thing I found in their chat especially how my babe has been treating this guy with love and respect is the opposite of how my babe has been treating me lately.

So, I screenshoted all the evidence and save on my phone. I then challenged her that she's cheating on me with that guy but she blatantly denied it. Not until I showed her all the evidences with me before she began to cry fowl and started debunking all I saw. She claimed that they are not true, they were just playing and not into any thing serious. They are friends and that's how they banter each other online. All her excuses were not genuine but I still forgive her on one condition that I don't want to see her with the guy again and she should cut off any form of friendship or relationship between them because I had done something more than that to her just recently and she forgive me.

Meanwhile, during the cause of this issue, I proposed to my gf that we should take this relationship to the next level by seeing her parents this year and maybe by the end of the year, we do the whole thing. The shock response I got from her was that she's not in a rush to settle down with me. Not even this year as she's just healing from the heartbreak I caused her and I can't use marriage to tie her down then I continue breaking her heart. There's no how I tried convincing her that I am a changed man now as I am ready to take responsibility and be a responsible person.

After few weeks, I logged into her whatsapp on my system and then again I found out that she's still talking to this guy and they were even planning on going out again. I got angry and send proof to her but guess what, my babe para for me for cloning her whatsapp on my system. Hell almost let lose that evening. This time around, she felt unapologetic about the primary issue that I warned her to desist from. Funny enough, after close observation, I learnt that they move their chats from whatsapp to Snapchat where their chat is just "view once". Then I knew that this lady is not ready to stop talking to this guy. I have shouted over and over this matter but this time around, my babe is now feeling lackadaisical about this issue.

Right now, my babe is now comfortable with the guy and she's now sitting on defense about this matter. In our last conversation, my GF literarily told me that she doesn't love me anymore. And then she started rewinding all my past during the cause of the relation and using it as an excuse for not been able to love me like she used to. In our conversation, the only thing she didn't mention is that we should go on our separate ways (break up) but everything she said to me indirectly simply means that she is done with me.

I felt unloved as this is the woman I never placed anyone above, this is the woman I've nurtured when we were in school and outside school. I respected her and love her so much that she has become part of me. My parents, family and friends are expecting us to tie the knot soon but here is my babe telling me she's not in love with me anymore. I felt unloved about this whole thing and I'm heartbroken.

I am lost and crying inside silently as I never expected someone I have sacrificed something huge for before to be acting like this to me. I'm depressed. I need mature advise from you guys. Thank you.

Mumu SIMP,gtfoh and jump off a cliff pls..you disgust me. It's I'd.io.ts like this fvcker that give females the guts to do what they do..someone practically told you she isn't feeling your dumb ass anymore and you are here whining like a b.it.ch. A simp is a danger to himself and EVERYONE around him..I hope she videos herself getting fvcked in the ass and send to you.

Dpharisee:
Please blur her face. she is still a minor who faced abuse from her father using her for stupid content creation.

In a similar case of sexualising children for online content involving divorced dancer anf influencer Kora Obidi some pedo-perverts are donating to her GoFundMe account to enable her fight her husband in court over his court injunction that their daughters should be taken off social media and stopping her from using them for her twerking content.

Someone that said she will be going to Hawaii for vacation after her gofundme stunt and the fools who donated to her are angry🤣🤣..she replied that she can't pause her life na🤣🤣..foolish Nigerians with their useless eye service donating to someone who doesn't even give a damn about their existence,yet they have not finished with their own suffer head and have never even gone on ANY vacation before in their lives lol.

nabiz:
yes as a worker it is better unlike a man with family that will live tx on from morning till night.

Also pray that you don't get addicted with watching high definition content like me

I dumped Dstv since the increase before this one last year and I watch 4K content too but I am able to manage sha and I still think it’s a better alternative to the useless DSTV even though it could be just as expensive depending on how much you watch your tv because internet tv gives more options unlike Dstv who have the monopoly of Cable tv market so they feel they can just wake up anyway and start misbehaving and nothing will happen. Them go shock the kind customers them go loose with this one.

naijaboiy:
The girl was not at fault at all...

I don't see anything really wrong in dating at 16...things are not like before again.

She is just unfortunate to have met the wrong guy.

I disagree with you because a responsible 16year old child should have no business going to any night parties. Decent 16yr old girls would have been comfortably sleeping in her bed in her parents house so she played with fire and got burned.

Lol these clowns just don see us finish..oga do you know what 2billion dollars is?even if you are building a new one sef two billion dollars?just to revive it?Kai we don suffer for this country Sha.

fuckJones:
Naija are too funny

}You get cash from POS easier than ATM machine

} People who hawks drink in the traffic have colder drinks than people who sell in the shop

}you see fuel to buy easier in black market than filling station

} you can access dollar in BDS than banks

Such a shame honestly and I am so disgusted by it..I am more disgusted by the fools who put us into this mess because of tribal bigotry. Well we will all suffer it together.

VTJN:
interesting

So you guys have been cohabiting for years with 2 kids? Like seriously? You probably took advantage of her because her father is either late or not together with her mum. And all of a sudden she's no longer a good woman? Your supposed wife to be left the house with the kids and you didn't deem it fit to visit her family to inform them what is happening? You came to nairaland to seek opinion and gladly someone who probably don't know what marriage is was telling you not to accept her back again like seriously? I can also add more fuel to what those guys told you. Do you know what? I'm a bloody single guy with no intention of getting married any time soon. The same me will come to nairaland and advice a supposed married man or a married man to be. I'd make sure i scatter their union. Isn't that what they're doing right now? End it as they say and probably they'd give you one of their sisters to continue from where you stopped

Sadly. they can't give you their sister because they've seen clearly the red flag in you. Cohabiting with someone's child to the extent of producing 2 kids. They can't give you their sister or daughter obviously but they can push you to end your supposed marriage to be and go out looking for your next victim or probably remain single like them.

If that lady was their sister or daughter. Trust me, you'd hear a different thing entirely from them. You'll be seriously lashed and whitewashed. Unfortunately, it's not their sister or daughter so they care less about her.

Btw, how i want my sister or daughter to be to be treaded same way I'd treat ANY lady known or unknown to me.

All the best

Baba you need help..you have psychological issues seriously.Some of the things you said made small sense but mehnn you be bitter human being .

Kukutente23:
You think it's a good thing? Peter Obi has money to pay o. He's speaking on your behalf o

The guy no get sense at all..very fo0lish human being..if you investigate now you will find out maybe he is a laborer at building sites or someone who can't afford a decent meal and life,yet his stupidity and senseless tribal sentiments has blinded the Ode.

benuejosh:
Something has come for Peter Obi to spew nonsense again. Just wait for like three days and see him kick the whole thing into the bush.

You are been informed of how the government wants to reap you off and take your hard earned money and instead of focusing on that, you are dragging Peter obi into the matter?if he drags against it, is it not for your good and the good of every customer of the bank? How una dey take reason somethings for this country is baffling.

Why them no show us him picture but will be quick to post that of petty thieves?

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CUMIN:
Whatever...no be me go marry her. Everybody get his/her skeleton including you and I.

I have banged a lady customer when I was doing Uber.

Abeg drop the Uber bang story

A simp is a danger to himself and people around him..how can your wife be acting this way and you have let it linger this long?more than 4 times over little issues?you don't need anyone to tell you that your wife doesn't love you and value the marriage and commitment,one day she can just decide to jump out. Now you have to go back to the start,na money you use marry am come snatch am from her bf or what?

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Some people have no business been parents and raising kids. Just look at this rubbish…kids will never be normal again.. traumatized for life.

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What stigma is that?I am surprised at this age and level you still care what people say?just dey play.

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longetivity:
I saw a video where one of the aunties of the bullied girl slapped sense into her head😂

Abeg share link to video

1000Capacity:
The week shall be eliminated. Life is seen as a constant competition in which natural selection ensures that only the “fittest” win, while the weak and the clumsy fall by the ...

You sound really dumb trying to sound cool..The brightest minds in the world are not the big strong looking athletic build,but the geeky folks..Bill gates,Mark zuck, Elon musk Albert eintein,Steve hawkings etc. So in your world only savages should be alive living in chaos and savagery?Change your mentality

And Nigeria police wonder why people hate them so much. Just look at this disaster they brought upon this family,death that could have been avoided but their wicked corrupt hearts want to extort money from the poor masses. This is why a citizen can stand and offer no help to a stranded police man. The developed countries police no do half of wating this shithole country police do.

Johnjustice:
An Abuja Court has...the point is, the state court have no powers to bar an investigating agency...the judge was being nice to Yahaya, because, obviously, he works for them(kogi state court judge).

Your local kogi people can be naive and foolish but not Nigerians.

He knows all these things you are saying,he knows the Kogi judge is under Bellos payroll,he knows the state cannot fight the federal govt,they know all these things but normal corruption will not allow Nigerians do the right thing. And NOT all Kogi people are naive and foolish but yes a lot of them there in Kogi state are.I am from Kogi state and I know majority of us don’t like Bello and he and his party were not voted for even in the last election.

Ododo isn’t the choice of the people,he was forced on them by the wicked Bello man just the same way he forced percent salary on them. I just weep for my state and the foolish people because I can’t understand or believe APC will even get a single vote there but the corruption and hunger has so twisted the brains of the poor bastards that they sold their votes on the Election Day for 2k,just imagine o..that’s why I pray and hope they all die because they and their likes in other states are the real problems of Nigeria

Johnjustice:
He has to submit himself to EFCC. You cheap paid agents need to tell him to come out and face his crimes. A higher court upheld the EFCC's right to go after him, and besides a state court can not bar a constitutionally recognized institution like EFCC from doing its job. That state judge obviously is trying to be nice to Bello.

Don’t mind them,they have been paid to speak up for a wanted man and criminal. Even they themselves know that they are supporting rubbish but they must do the job they are paid for.

[quote author=Kewtt post=129545419]You're being unreasonable just like the EFCC. What makes him unreasonable? When he sues the EFCC for declaring him wanted we'd be alive to


You dare tell him he is being unreasonable while it is you who is unreasonable? Was he not wanted by the authorities?did Ododo not go and take him away to evade arrest?is that not harbouring and aiding a wanted man/fugitive? So to you aiding a wanted man evade justice is being reasonable?

irapson2:
Lies and propaganda. ISRAEL doesn't like you Nigeria Christians neither they knew about your existence. Be guided bunch of fools

Stfu retard..and you think your Arab masters care about you?you are no different from an Orangutan to them ,lower than a slave so what’s are you saying?your submission sound really dumb.

SaturnNick:
What is this guy saying

Don’t worry go and ask Iran they will explain better since you didn’t get the guys own explanation. Iran got the memo so they will break it down for you.

Phantom233:
Loan wer dem no allowed make dia useless website verify person NIN number, las las na dia household d loan go enter🙄

Abeg which site you dey use to apply?

AllenSpencer:
That’s not hidden! It’s in the news!

They are claiming it was a light damage when the videos are all over TikTok 🤣🤣🤣

Israel and propaganda are inseparable. When you could see rains of fire and explosions on the base, they will tell you little happened.

Iran already confirmed that over 40 mossad agents were killed, but Israel has not accepted one🤣🤣🤣

Oga you no hear the news well..it was 40000 MOSAD agents that were killed na and Netanyahu ran away from isreal,pls get your facts right,the news is all over tiktok and Facebook na..🤣🤣🤣🤣

DeepSight:
What is it with you people and this "I can slap you but you dare not slap me back" attitude? ? ?

Is what Iran did not in response to something Israel did? ? ?

Are you not aware that Iran wants Isreal wiped from the face of the Earth?are you not aware that Iran has been sponsoring Hezbolla and other terrorist groups to fight Isreal and unleash terror?even Saudi Arabia doesn't want to be associated with Iran. Why isn't Saudi and Isreal fighting war up and down? Oga you can't keep stoning someone or asking people to stone someone and not get a response from the victim na.

Confirmedzombie:
Pure propaganda. Israel already begging UN to call Iran to order.

I beat my chest, Iran will destroy and level down Israel.

You cant provoke the Arab world and go scot free.

May Allah be unto our Iranian brothers and give them the strength and power to seal with Israel.

Insha Allah
Amin

Oga terrorist abeg who be your weed plug?your delusion deeep wella

jibrilELsudan:
ISRAEL IS REALLY VERY STUPID TO THINK THAT THIS THEIR IRON DOME WILL FOREVER PROTECT THEM AND NOTHING CAN PASS THRU

ALL IT TAKES IS FOR IRAN....HAMAS....HOUTHIS..LEBANON...
SYRIA...HISBOLAH...ETC TO SEND A COORDINATED BARAGE OF MISSILES AT ONCE AND ALL YOU FLAT BRAINS WILL WATCH IN DISBELIEF HOW ISRAEL WILL BE WIPED OFF THE FACE OF THIS PLANET

🤣🤣Painment...all bark and no bite,dey play,just dey play.For your info before Isreal is 'wiped off' the face of this planet(Your delusion)Iran would have been wiped out 10times over, including their spirits go join collect wotoporously..Your fantasies will NEVER be a reality.

Epistasis:
Israel should never retaliate, Iran will be totally decimated. A long term dream of the Sunnis.

Hmm but what do you think is best way to handle this if not retaliation?

You can't keep stoning a man's car and running to another neighbor to hide when the man comes to confront you for stoning his car,at some point when the stoning becomes a habit and the neighbors hiding and aiding the one stoning you will also be dragged into the issue,I'll break your gates to get the guy stoning me, hence the embassy attack from Isreal,now Iran wants to escalate the matter damning the consequences.

Most Iranians don't want this war and never liked their rulership.

Elsueno:
Shut up U freaking Israeli Goyim, I understand why some Americans worship these genocidal maniacs in occupied Palestine.. what I still can't figure out is why niggers like U worship thier dirty a##. Cause to them U are even lower than a monkey. They would actually choose to shoot ur black ass if U stand close to Hamas or Iran even as U claim Ur status as a bonified slave of Israel.


FYI, Israel attacked Iranian embassy first, Iran is just retaliating. let's hope they get satisfied after blowing up Israel a bit. Cause once real war start & they close that strait of hormoz. s whole world go feel am, especially our black ass in Africa which has alot of incompetent leaders

Stop barking like a rabbied dog..so you think Iran and Palistinans don't value Orangutans more than your black ass mumu?

Where was your terrorist ass at when it was all over the news and internet the video of Palistinan terrorist butchering a black student at the border when they started their attack?he wasn't an isreali and had no business in their conflict,he was even a muslim but as usual na your people thirsty for human blood didn't care and he was violently killed so don't come here with your racism card crap.

Bbbwings:
This obeidient supports Iran.

STFU we know who you are..go back to grilling your vultures for you and your fellow low life Agbadorians and stop posing and impersonating Obidients,Now crawl back to your coven evil people.