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dalass:
You didn't think of that before sending the children packing with your wife.

Mumu man, you waited till she dropped 3 kids and you came here to tell us you wanted to be sending money for public school education. Why can't you take them to the public school yourself and register them? You can not at least rent a separate apartment for your childrens sake instead of staying with an ogogoro seller Dey watch as your children become touts and ogogoro guzzlers

Thanks!!! We live in a 4 bedroom apartment (I'm a landlord), I enrolled the children in public schools here in ILORIN and I always tutor them everyday: maths, English, Basic Science

Kobojunkie:
If you really truly care for your children as you would love for us to believe there, then the sensible thing for you to do would be to take full custody of them since the woman by not putting them in school has more than shown she is not a capable parent or guardian for them. 😩😩😩😩😩

If, however, you plan to take them only to then hand them off to your mother or family to raise, then I suggest you leave them alone and simply continue to support them where they are.😩😩😩😩


Poor children....caught between two adults who don't seem to know their left from their right. 😩😩😩😩

My mom is late. The law stipulates 18 years

Kobojunkie:
You took a person with no previous record or success, and you decided to push a business, 3 times, on this person,n expecting what, exactly? Why didn't you simply invest in and marry a woman who already had somewhere she was going?

It is easy to pretend she is to blame for it all not working out, but you are the one who chose to invest money in someone with no real business acumen here. And worse, you expected her to support 3 kids while at it.

Thanks for your contributions

Oyindidi:
Are trying to say she destroys those items without provocation?

Honestly, she care less

Firebox123:
show evidence or proof

I'm a red Marker, do u want me to show you my CLAIMS FORM? I mark biology I (practical). I started in 2014

Kobojunkie:
Are you for real? I do hope you are not already thinking of marrying another wife with all your current kids living as ogorogoro sales reps with your mother-in-law? 😩😩😩😩😩

Lol

Kobojunkie:
If you really truly care for your children as you would love for us to believe there, then the sensible thing for you to do would be to take full custody of them since the woman by not putting them in school has more than shown she is not a capable parent or guardian for them. 😩😩😩😩😩

If, however, you plan to take them only to then hand them off to your mother or family to raise, then I suggest you leave them alone and simply continue to support them where they are.😩😩😩😩


Poor children....caught between two adults who don't seem to know their left from their right. 😩😩😩😩

I'm waiting for the set date but the LAW stipulates 18 years

dettolgel:
No mind the mumu he go marry IB girl with big nyash and breast. He will learn the hard way that there is more to marriage than big nyash and breast

Lol!!! She no even get yansh, the breast is PUFF PUFF SIZED

nedekid:
Bros, what is the 30k for, upkeep or school fees for the 3 kids?

Public schools here in ILORIN pay #2,500 old students while new intakes pay #6000

joezyni:
Op, I took a look at the miserly items you sent your wife and kids out with, 5 kg of rice and #30,000, will that money be enough for their transport or upkeep ?

How long will the 5kg rice feed them, you are not financially stable to run a divided home, if you can forgive your wife, bring your family back and take care of them yourself !

Only 2 kids are if school age, the 3rd child is just 7 months old

deltateam:
Despite your spending are you saying your wife doesn't make her own contributions except squandering the money?

You sell your car and give her the money and she can't account for how she spent it?

Whatever the case may be, any man that has the heart to sell his car and give the proceeds to his wife is not only a responsible, considerate man but a thoughtful man.
It was after his efforts at setting his wife up failed that he had to rely on his own efforts which isn't enough.

He was just unlucky in marriage.

Thanks so much sir.


Pls, read my other comments. I was not allowed to modify the post

Berankis:
Your story is not balanced. Else, you won't be begging to take your own children. May be you did somethings wrong initially. Your way forward is also not specific, you sound like a man with financial constraints or you are a confused person.
What do you really want? To take your children back and live with them or have your wife or mother-in-law take care of them?
From your narrations, both wife and mother-in-law can't take care of them children, they are most likely not educated themselves.

My family members have been calling the MIL but she always ignore the calls, sometimes she would pick the call without saying anything, always wasting their airtime

spartachico:
Na u wan spoil your children life ... Will it kill u to raise your kids by yourself if ur wife is not cooperating with you ... Omo you better carry those children and join body and raise your offsprings... If na to pay ur own mama salary to look after them while you are away to work go and do it

My mother is late and I'm the first child.

They are not even ready to release them, I was not allowed to c them when I visited on 18/4/2025 (good Friday)

beejay85:
sales rep...
Very sorry for your plight and the challenge you encountered to ensure your Children got enrolled in school..
I will want you to personally take up the enrollment of your children to a school close to where they live that you can afford.
And checkup on their feeding and ensure you get value for any upkeep funds you send if you don't want ur children to suffer from what they know nothing about

Thanks

Kobicove:
His mother-in-law did not just start selling ogogoro, OP knew all this before he married the woman

She ventured into the business late last year. She was selling shoes at BODIJA market and I met the girl here in Ilorin, she was a student at KWARA STATE polytechnic

dalass:
You didn't think of that before sending the children packing with your wife.

Mumu man, you waited till she dropped 3 kids and you came here to tell us you wanted to be sending money for public school education. Why can't you take them to the public school yourself and register them? You can not at least rent a separate apartment for your childrens sake instead of staying with an ogogoro seller Dey watch as your children become touts and ogogoro guzzlers

I put them in public schools here and I always tutor them for 1 and half hour everyday. I'm a biology teacher and a postgraduate student in university of ILORIN

fmlala:
Seems you don't understand how marriages work, the man would have tried effortlessly, all possible means to bring the woman to the right path which eventually did not work. During these periods, the man would not have need to abandon his conjugal responsibilities.

I enrolled her in a computer center but she complained about the starting of the generator after 3 months, I asked her to learn hairdressing but she told me it's NOT in line with SUNNAH of prophet Muhammad, I had wanted to set-up a UNISEX SALON because I'm a barber, teacher, an examiner

TechBaron:
That man doesn't have money. Simple!

I'm a civil servant; I teach Biology in one of the public secondary schools in the state. I have a side hustle too. I'm also an examiner (WAEC and NECO)

fitinwell:
Reasons why i don't support rushing to have too many children....

If u just marry.... 1 child is enough space between them like 4yrs at least before shooting next shot.. Not 3 - 4 children Every year in the name of whatever...!

Now if u had a Child with your so called destructive woman.... This would be very easy for you to crack....

But u knew she was destructive and yet you impregnated her 3 times....

Now you have successfully destroyed the future of this children....

My first child is 11 years, second child is 6, and 3rd child is 7 months old

Karleb:
Maybe you should not have married Iya Ologogoro's daughter.

See wahala untop marriage.

The MIL just ventured into OGOGORO business late last year

She was a devoted Muslim when I did the introduction in 2013

Bittersweetnig:
Abi o, e sent wife parking alongside his own children, who does that? And what is #32k for in this economy? The man sound like irresponsible

The 32k is for the enrollment of 2 children in public schools. The 3rd child is 7 months old. I sent 50 exercise books, textbooks, 2 mathematical sets, dictionary, school bag etc

I'm a teacher in one of the public secondary schools in the state

Toosure70:
Get your children back before you raise another terrorists for us again biko

Lol

luvme0702:
Where you beating her, cheating on her? What did you do to her that made her bring civil defense corps to you? Sending 30k to her to use for 3 kids in this present economy would be difficult for her to manage. She has 3 kids for you and you're yet to marry her, that shows you are irresponsible. No matter how small the wedding would be, you should have just formalized it. Go and beg her for forgiveness and do the right thing.

She's destructive like I said, many household items were destroyed e g fan, phone, hotplate, thermoflask etc. I'm tired of paying for a repair

I slapped her out of frustration and she went ahead to report at the civil defence office

EbereGod:


Wrong use of punctuation marks. Didn't know where the sentence actually ended and where there's a pause.Lol.

Managed to read through.

It's difficult to win cases like these.
5kg rice for 3 kids
God Abeg o




Three kids no bride price? Irresponsible lifestyle.

The 5kg rice was just for last small SALLAH

Fiscus105:
But it would have better if you go to family court straight. Many people don't know family court is existing. In family court, they would compel her to do the needful and if she fails, she might go to jail.

NB. Ministry of women affairs doesn't have power to compel her, they can only advice and if she fails, they will now ask you to charge her to family court.

I have not heard about family court, can u put me through?


Can u put me through? I mean family court

Fiscus105:
But it would have better if you go to family court straight. Many people don't know family court is existing. In family court, they would compel her to do the needful and if she fails, she might go to jail.

NB. Ministry of women affairs doesn't have power to compel her, they can only advice and if she fails, they will now ask you to charge her to family court.

Can u put me through? I mean family court

OboOlora:
Werey say sales rep on top agbo, sales rep kor Marketing Executive ni lol

Very funny

Bahamas95:
Jobless/destructive and you still allowed her have 3children for you.......Are you ok at all?

Did u read the part where I said that I established a business for her in 3 different occasions?

adecz:
Your children don become 'area'.....




The background of a spouse is very key in
any relationship... 🤔

U understand my plight

They are not in any school in IBADAN, they are now SALES REPS in her OGOGORO shop

illicit:
Do you have a problem with people who sell ogogoro, that's what the woman who raised your wife sells, and now she is raising your kids...

Why are you worried?

My children are not in school, they are helping her to sell OGOGORO in her shop.

They are not enrolled in schools

Good evening, ma


Is it possible to file for divorce through Ministry of Women affairs and social inclusions?


I have been manipulated by my "wife", in quote because I didn't pay her bride price, I did an introduction and they collected an EMPIRE BASKET full of fruits

We had 3 children together but my wife is JOBLESS and DESTRUCTIVE at the same time (double tragedy) I had set up a business for her on 3 different occasions but failed, I even sold my car and gave her the money without taking a dime.

We had a misunderstanding on 26/11/2024 and she went to bring civil defense officers to my place of work, on 27th/11/2024 I sent her packing.

They are currently at BARIKA, UI second gate, Ibadan, living with the grandmother. I told her to enrol the children in public schools in IBADAN, I gave her #30,200 in addition to 50 exercise books, school bag, 5kg rice, SALLAH clothe, school sandals. The items were sent through a commercial driver but she lied. I went to IBADAN on 18/4/2025 only to discovered that the children are not in school, they are helping the grandmother to sell OGOGORO in her shop.

I knelt down and begged the grandmother several times, I left IBADAN around 7:20pm and arrived ILORIN around 11:37pm due to heavy downpour. The grandmother is not responding to calls from my family members, even as I speak

I went to SANGO police station but I was told to go to the ministry of women affairs and social inclusions.

A date has been fixed 5/5/2025. I want the children to be enrolled in public schools and I will be sending the necessary writing materials and school fees through the School principal and class teachers