₦airaland Forum

ycmdng: I pity guy wit sibling like a football team, as for me- any parnt dat fail to plan d family well wil bear d consequenc.
We four kid in our family graduatd frm d uni b4 any of d parnt retire frm thr wrk. LOBATAN

well, you were lucky and maybe middle class.

not every family has that opportunity.

delpee: An understanding and patient fiancee can make things happen. It depends on her relationship with the family,her earning capacity (full time housewife is a no-no in this situation) and the ability of the man to convince his mum. The reality is that you cant have peace if your mum and siblings are not assisted one way or the other.

well said.

more so, if the shoe were on the other foot, the lady will have no problems asking the man to foot her parents and siblings' bills.

ie if it were the woman's family who needed assistance.

^ a lot of your posts are in riddles, hopefully i'll get to them later, especially the oduduwa comment.

but for now, why do you say you think yorubas were not originally black?

btw, saying "original yoruba" doesnt automatically correspond to an assumption of "fake yoruba".

we are speaking contextually, and this is a sw point of reference, not elsewhere.

zoelife1: @op: How should xtians use social media?

With fear and trembling.

That place is sure a jungle that spares only the brave-hearted.

very true.

alpha conde: My advice is that christians should use social media like it is a social media. If u can't use a social media like a social media, don't use the social media.

you probably have a point, even though i dont understand your post.

He went into the sanctuary to sit down in the front of the church and was asked by the ushers if he would please sit n the back.

luke 14:

go and sit in the lowest place, so that when your host comes he may say to you, ‘Friend, move up higher.’ Then you will be honored in the presence of all who sit at table with you.

11 For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.”

something's off, just saying.

the pastor had a point though.

prexios: i don't believe Yoruba were originally black people,

can you explain.

do you mean the oyo axis (original yorubas).

@ topic

does she have an AA mum?

btw, seems she was an mbgn contestant last year, congrats then.

are cars still a luxury in nigeria?

i noticed its considered newsworthy whenever someone buys a car, is given a car, or wins a car.

just asking.

okpanachil: @ biolabee Thank you joor,some of us actually make contributions like we don't understand our environment.While I do no support d idea of birthing kids you can't take care of d truth is ds tns happen.You rili think d@ d poster and d would be wife would have peace if he doesn't yield on ds matter. Do you guys know how much sacrifice d family wld have made 2 make sure he is where he is today and d resultant expectation frm ds sacrifices,to tell u d truth d poster wld neva b happy whenever he luks back and sees those family member he wld have helped not making d cut in life? Marriage in d african community transcends just d two couples,have u guys ever tut of wat d relationship btw the family of d guy and d wife would be . I have seen ds tns happen firsthand and to tell you d truth its never fun. some of us don too stay oyinbo land so we no even knw wassup for area again.My advice is d guy should just do his best and prioritize the projects that would improve the lot of d family but watever d case is never easy.

true talk.

However, if he opens a shop and makes the mother financially independent for instance, that would take a lot of responsibilities off his shoulders.

not sure why nlers tend to feel opening a shop equals financial success.

it doesnt always work like that.

if the business doesnt move as well as predicted, then you start heaping blame on the shop owner.

his opening a shop for the mother doesnt necessarily mean his responsibilities wont remain.

Tuntheycr7: The gist wey we talk say make popsy no hear na dt popsy go later settle am.......
Only 4d wise

very true.

There are nigerians in tunisia?

Am i the one who likes wahala?

Sea in yoruba is okun.

So, lord of the sea would be olokun ie olu okun.

It might seem to be stretching it to assume a yoruba word would be joined to a foreign one in the manner suggested by Olodumare, so its more likely Olodumare would have 4 or more morphemes, not three.

Ie its Olo Odu Mu Are.

maclatunji: Have you ever found yourself getting along with someone on virtually everything without really knowing why?

thats actually a "danger sign", so to speak. There has to be some type of conflict in every human interaction, else there's a chance of this happening:

onegig: chemistry can be faked.. I could always agree with everything you do...just to please you. .just joking..

if that's not the case, then something is still off somewhere, since even siblings or twins cant say they always get along all the time.

It might not be related to romance but you just get along effortlessly with a person (male or female)...that's chemistry.

chemistry implies romance, maybe affinity is what describes the situation with no romantic overtones.

either way, i dont think its something that should be embraced especially if its outside one's social circle/comfort zone, or unless its within one's social circle. If your guard needs to be up, doesnt pay to let it down on the basis of an emotion, just saying. Besides, people read all kinds of meanings into such, trust nigerians/metaphysicals.

^very incisive questions.

verbiose too.


why so few comments on the thread anyway, i was expecting to see a lot of posts here.

that would be the ideal, no doubt.

but for some reason [maybe because there's always a curveball], a lady with all those attributes together would now be considered "intimidating" by an average suitor.


i guess perfection might be unrealistic?

was naira the currency mode, and why?

you might need a regular paying job on the side.

God bless him for doing the right thing.

well, i do see where you're coming from.

lets say a guy personally wants a spouse who is very knowledgeable about Islam and meets his requirements as per practicing the religion [they both agree on this].

if his family is not as knowledgeable in Islamic matters and are perhaps laidback somewhat, would this lead to some conflict between his intended spouse and his relatives?

just curious, and how would he intend to address such matters? Prior to the actual wedding- after the wedding of course the fiancee isnt so much with the family per se.

i'm asking because i'm particularly thinking about this part:

Relying on parents/family elders for a choice of spouse might translate into selecting a not-so-good spouse in terms of Islam because factors such as social status, wealth, beauty and even "modernity" may be favoured whilst the degree of understanding and practice of Islam of the individual may not be considered at all in making such a decision.

all the other things you mentioned, is it necessarily a bad thing if the family [or guy] factors them into the choice of spouse, ie it possible to want to eat your cake and have it.

like look for or have a partner who is all of the above AND as religious as you want her to be.

note: all my questions are theoretical, @ whoever is reading.

yes, he's bored.

too bad they didnt keep you longer.

people should forgive themselves for dating each other.

too much ex wahala in nigeria.

all these "morning after" threads, smh.

how does this concern nigeria?

are you looking to ship some criminals there?