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Terrible twos preview

You've been warned about the "terrible twos," but you may be unprepared for this rite of passage if your child has been cooperative up until now. The stage doesn't always begin exactly on your child's second birthday. Development experts say it can strike as early as 18 months and as late as 30 months (though some angelic children never go through this phase). How do you know if you're in the midst of the TTs? Look for new signs of assertiveness from your toddler. Hallmark behaviors to watch for: He may insist on doing exactly what you've told him not to do or throw himself down on the floor in a fit of temper if he doesn't get his way. His demands may alternately frustrate and amuse you. At times, for example, he'll likely ask for something that he doesn't even want, just to see if he has enough power to get it.


What you can do

Though you may be tempted to cry and throw yourself on the floor, too, the best thing to do during a temper episode is keep your cool, stay close to your child, and let him release his feelings. A hug and a shoulder to cry on may be all that some toddlers need to feel better, while others may benefit from the distraction technique — offer him another activity or toy.

If you're in a public place or at someone's house, pick up your child and take him someplace where the two of you can sit calmly until the feelings subside. Save the time-outs until he's old enough to understand and follow rules, sometime between ages 2 and 3.

Every day, I suit up for battle. It's not just the usual twice-a-day stuff like "I don't wanna go." or "I don't wanna eat that for breakfast."

I'm talking about something every hour. Telling me that all the tags in her clothes are itchy and that she hates toast, even though she had eight pieces the day before. Getting up in her brother's face like The Gooch, ripping anything and everything away from him so that he'll never enjoy a moment of his childhood. Falling to the ground, claiming her "knees hurt" when I ask her to walk up the stairs, as I stand behind her holding eight grocery bags and her brother around my neck. Protesting that something is too cold or hot when it's the exact opposite. Refusing to get in the bathtub because she thinks the flower petals from her bath fizzy are dirt. And reenacting Indian war dances as soon as I get on the phone with my student loan reps. Screaming, pushing, punching, biting, spitting, back-talking, karate kicks and testicle head butts. All in a day's work.

So, you could imagine the joy I experienced a few months ago when we began sending her to preschool two days a week.

Anyway, Ava's parent-teacher conference was yesterday. I had to go. Not that I HAD to go, I WANTED to go. I WANTED to see what her teachers had to say about this straight-up bullsh*t that was going down. I wanted to count the wrinkles and gray hairs that she's given them since September. I wanted to confirm that she made short work of them, as I strutted around the room like a rooster, bobbing my head, flapping my elbows and cock-a-doodle-doodling in your face!

But I kept my cool. For a few minutes, anyway.

My wife and I walked in and sat down. We exchanged a few pleasantries and the teacher began...

"Your daughter is amazing. Your daughter follows directions and always cleans up after herself. Your daughter respects and gets along with the other kids. Your daughter shares well and is courteous. Your daughter is a good friend. Your daughter is a joy to have in this class."

I looked over at my wife with a furrowed brow and with only my eyes, said, Who in the hell is this girl she keeps calling my daughter?

Clearly, this woman is on drugs, or maybe she's got Alzheimer's, God bless her.

MY daughter boycotted bananas because she once saw a housefly land on one. MY daughter pulls and stretches the hell out of a brand new shirt, throws it on the living room floor and then tells me it doesn't fit. MY daughter screams at me like Sam Kinison to not look at her while she's pooping.

So, who was this Jekyll n' Hyde? Where did she come from?

According to her teacher, this is somewhat common. Kids learn quickly how to manipulate their parents and know exactly what buttons to push and when. Perhaps it's an early stage of rebellion rooted in her trying to find her independence.

Fine. I get it. That makes sense. I need a helmet, some Kevlar body armor and a therapist for the next few months. Done deal.

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demelza: Thank God SpongeBob is still on cos I will go batshît crazy if they contemplate it.

most of the things we debate here are not relevant for salvation

Uyi Iredia: @ benalvino: You have a point. Those loud atheists and deists are destroying the faith of some. My pastor appears to share this sentiment which is why he hardly uses the Internet other than to send and read e-mails. I rejected the faith and Nairaland did play a part. The topics on Religion section contain lot of atheist topics and less of topics that edify Christians. Which was why I supported the E-grace convention. That said there has been lots of faith-building topics here and matters of doctrine, especially tithes, have been roundly dealt with here. I think it's safe to say you have gotten a bit more informed from your experiences here. Farewell.

Baybe: I saw one at the bank yesterday. The child should be about 2 years old. He refused to be carried by the mum preferring to seat on the floor blocking people's way. If the mum tried to carry him, he started to cry. I felt like spanking him real hard . I pitied for the mother shaa, see disturbance .

chucky234: OP you never born and you don already dey do the mathematics how you go take dey spank the pikin, abeg take am easy, comot dat spanking grammar for your dictionary make the pikin get peace when him or she arrive .
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The best way to deal with a child is to develop a healthy communication culture with the child from toddler,that way the child understands when you say intend to "stop" and mean it.
My daughter understands that,I dont spank her because there is always no need to.