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my friend is scared of reading books apart from the bible because too much knowledge can make him backslide.

i wonder which type of books he means, since many other people [including myself] read virtually almost anything we lay our hands on.


however, nothing wrong with his decision, people are not the same.

what's the nigerian-ness you're referring to?

your nl girlfriend who looks like them, isnt nigerian.

ok!

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batu:
@babyosisi,
Well, I can see that out of maybe 10 contributions, 8 are from 'sisters' in the house; and I am not really surprised at the 'emotional' solidarity. By the way Davidylan has no right to contribute as a 'man', he is not married yet
But on a more serious note and with all due respect, what you hear from my dear sisters above are the sort of rather narrow-minded feminist advice typical of Oprah Winfrey show. For example, listen to this:



A lot have given examples of "similar situations" always involving "somebody they know", but NOT themselves; but I wonder how many will really really give themselves the same advice they are giving now if they are in the same situation,,,,,uummmhh . Believe me, just as others have seen 'similar situations', I also have seen seemingly "hopeless, end-of-the-road" marital situations of many years brought back from the brink by godly wisdom and not the 'hairdressing saloon' "go-girl" suggestions .
With all due respect to my sisters, you've all done the obvious; what a clinical psychologist will call "victimization syndrome": we now have a 'victim' (the wife) in a 'situation' (her marriage), being oppressed by the 'oppressor' (the "big jerk"; and such have taken the obvious decision to to play the super hero who comes to the rescue of the 'victim' naturally. The three parties involved here needs invidividual consideration and analysis: the wife, the husband (yes!!) and the kids. A careful consideration will reveal that the above suggestion quoted is rather unfortunate. The kids are already in anguish, and their mother leaving their father will definitely worsen their anguish, emotional stability and most likely their future levels of achievements. So, let's do away with Oprah thinking, this is real life situation, not soap!!!

Is it possible that the wife is not a saint? If we get another angle of the story from the 'husband's friend', is it possible we might be a little sympathetic to him too? Is it possible[/] that their is no other woman involved, unlike what our dear sisters seem to have conclusively concluded from 'telekinetic' or from 'experience'? Is it [i]possible that the kids love their father very much despite his 'acclaimed' shortcomings? Is it likely that the kids will prefer mummy and daddy working out their "mid-life crisis"? Is it likely that,,,,,,,,,,,,? and so on and so forth. If you can answer "yes" to at least one of the above questions, then we need to have a 'sisterly' re-think.

As a "man" (a married man is the real man ), Babyosisi, whether in Africa or US, or UK; every "man" has somebody that he respects and listens to. As a friend, you should try and find out from the wife who that is for her husband; and see how to get him or her involved in the situation. He/She might not be the 'pastor' (in the meantime) and I can see that it's not your husband (he definitely has others who respect and listen to him though). Dont anybody call any situation hopeless and unredeemeable, because you are not God as of the last time I checked. Somebody is already asking if she 'has a job' for the post divorce life; may God deliver us from 'technical advisors' like that.

do you mind babyosisi the wandering witch?

if only this rat of an op hadnt been chased [or ran] out of nvs. . . . . . .


now nl is her only succour

she will bring the place down just like she did over there.

lunatic.

9jacrip: What has my user I.D got to do with forming surprised or looking for trouble? Abeg oo as a Ny**n I'm nt after problems with anyone other than to flex!

keep acting ignorant, na you sabi, but stop complaining when you get what you're looking for.

do you think people are s.tupid?

Excellentspirit: Cultism is one bad thing. There is no way out of it,once a cultist is 4eva a cultist. QED. Bt then u can mak peace wit God

true, i get your point.


you are free in Christ, however, you cant just undo what has been physically done.

samobaba: You don't need to change school or leave the environment. If its a school cult, go to the most powerful campus fellowship and denounce your membership, give your life to Christ genuinely and take part in most church activities. Join groups in the church like prayer warrior band. They will leave you alone, and never engage in any of the vices you are used to in the past. They will run from you and leave you alone. Na mata of leave one church another and being active in the new church. Talking from what I have seen in handling friends who were cultists in my school days.

this isnt always guaranteed unless you say you're a sleeper member in the church ie there to spy on others for the cult.

although i could be mixing other cults with the school ones sha.

besides, with the increased communication/information technology these days, makes it easier to track your every move. Quite a number of cultists are online and into the aforementioned.

giving your life to Christ is necessary, but escaping cultism genuinely, involves you realising just exactly how deep it is.

what makes those women nigerian?

just because you said so?

and why cant you folks carry your trafficking business elsewhere?

must it be nl all the time?