₦airaland Forum

coogar:
he could be the step father? where's the real father? a woman committed an act of paternity fraud. husband discovers he's not the real father and went to court with his facts - and the family court insists he must pay, that's fair to you?

how come women are never forced to pay for a child that isn't theirs?

coogar:
there's no such statistic anywhere. children from stable homes cope quite well. obesity, suicide, child abuse, health problems, etc are common issues with children of divorce. they suffer it more than kids living with both parents.

raumdeuter:
If she continues to pay the mortgage, The wife gets a 100k property for a discounted price of 70k.

If she fails to pay the mortgage, she has nothing to lose but the man loses his initial 30k investment in the house

Nonso23:
Some people are paid just to think.

LostMermaid:
Why? Because slutty is something like eye color and you can definately detect on the first date?

I explained why she is slutty. She tricked and she cheated.

No need to make an insulting comment. Watch your tongue.

pickabeau1:
Hmmm..


men and irrigation factor

Deep......

coogar:
shymexx isn't fibbing.
the family court favours women more than men. it's not even disputable - i can churn out many links stating this. read this one.....


The percentage of lone parent households that are mother-headed in the UK is 91% [General Household Survey]. There are some 40,000 disputed custody cases every year which are decided by family court judges.

These judges will listen to recommendations from court welfare officers who visit the family and write 35,000 reports every year. The welfare officers work in the probation service which deals with mostly male criminals, this makes it difficult to see fathers in a positive light. The result is that family courts award mothers sole custody in 71% of cases and fathers sole custody in 7% of all cases, joint custody is awarded in the remaining 21% of cases.

Many fathers report giving up an expensive custody fight for their children after advice from lawyers who say they can't win. It is very common for mothers during custody battles to receive state funded legal aid. A custody battle is therefore a very unequal war of attrition.

Many fathers report that efforts to have contact with their children are blocked by mothers, and the courts will not enforce the right of children to have contact with their fathers.




and in some cases where the man isn't even the biological father of the child, should the courts force him to pay as we have seen in many cases in the west??

SirShymexx:
Say no more, bredin. Errthing bless. Deya.

What are we going to do about these new generation of women? - they're a pain in the ar.se!

A nyggah gotta marry one day, but I ain't finna wife up a sket I'll end up killing, once I get to that breaking point where anything goes. These plonkers need to change the darn law asap for me. Else, I might go on baby mamas spree.

koyyess:
If the foreign life is too hard to experience, what's the point of remaining there?

raumdeuter:
If for any reason your man divorces after taking half your wealth and later told you that you need to pay him to maintain the lifestyle you introduced him to while he was still living with you.

I'm sure we wouldnt be saying the same thing

humilitypays:
The latest news now is that majority of Naija single ladies living abroad (especially in USA, UK, Canada, etc) are turning to lesbians out frustration after several failed dates with guys

coogar:
and what if he has finished paying off his mortgage?

you mean it's fair for him to be homeless while another man is enjoying the fruits of his labour?

would you wish the same for your male sibling?

he could have bought it on auction, he could have finished paying for it.

even if it gets returned to the dealer cos of failed payments, it's his credit score that would be ruined, not his wife. should he continue to pay for a car he's not driving? that's fair to him?

abeg, get some perspective..

AreaFada2:
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The problem is we look down on our tradition. Luckily enough it's all there for anyone curious enough to know.

It doesn't make him feel dead, it KILLS him. There is a case going on right now. A young man suddenly got seriously ill on returning from visiting his wife in 9ja.

Even the best medical docs in Europe can find no reason for his illness. Meanwhile he's in hospital for months now. I have gone to see him and examined him too. All parameters seem ok. But he can't eat or get up from bed.

The wife, a Christian never believed when her in-laws warned her about her suspicious ways.
She thought she could mess around anyhow, under guise of born again.

Let me tell you how they say it works. It's not magun style.

A woman commits adultery. The man is safe if she doesn't cook for the man or sleep with him. That is, no wifely role towards him. If she does, problem.

Look, I spent over a decade having clinical evidence & empiricism drilled into my head. But there are things we see that confound science. One can believe it or leave it.

I know a man who went through a similar thing, His life savings, His highbrow neighbohood house, his range rover his daughter was taken away and the wife brought her new lover into his house.

WHen he goes for his once a month visit, she wont even allow him into their gated community rather he would wait at the gate for up to 2hrs before she rides with her new boyfriend in the husbands range to drop the daughter. The man contemplated ending it all and going to jail until his mom prevailed on hm and told him to leave town for them

Eluwilussit:
Do you think the men don't think about all these points you raised? It is difficult to be a black man out there. Men risk everything to get papers and make dough, after which they go home and look for wives.

in many of the cases, the woman has threatened divorce, coupled with white lies that the husband has been abusive to her and the kids so as to win custody or slam a restraining order against him to see his own kids.

it gets messier when the hubby realises the money he sends for the kids upkeep are converted into the wife's personal use which she then squanders on her new boyfriend.

manny4life:
Please, let's forget the argument about where you live... If you claim not to live here, so be it.

I don't know how many murder trials you have watched, followed, or read about, but in some cases, these are NOT premeditated. Good lawyers have presented facts about threats, physical and mental abuse, although the murderer will not go free, he has a reduced sentence. It has happened and still happens. Instead of getting life in prison, he get 10 - 15 years with option of parole... Look it up. I won't argue this.

manny4life:
Exactly my point... It will be easy if the women just walked away with nothing, but when I lived in DC, I saw a bitter marriage pushing this far. The woman threatened to deal with the man because the man lied on some papers that brought her to the U.S., how callous can people be? She threatened hell and what not, it took the grace of God for the man not to react to killing his wife. Imagine losing your children, your money, house, everything you have labored for...

manny4life:
You have lived long enough in this country, you know how these things work

There is NO justification of murder; unfortunately, the law recognizes such lapses that led to murder. I get your point and all I am saying in short is, folks should ALWAYS try to resolve issues with their spouses before it gets out of hand. There are marriage counseling, family intervention, or even legal advisory...

ITbomb:
Nah, I get immunity

manny4life:
He never said it is a Nigerian culture, murder isn't a culture. I agree that these wives are people's children, but the point is that something led to the murder. Until such issues are addressed, these murders will continue. I did not see his post as a justification of murder (IMO).

carefreewannabe:
You are funny.

anyanwustanley11:
someone advice help a guy depressed tirés oh