manny4life:
I believe we have been through this before, personally [b]I WILL NOT share my assets [/b]with ANY woman. If my wife decides to divorce me as a result of her doing, we will sure have a messy divorce that will yield her pain and bitterness and at the end of it, probably nothing.. But defintiely not murder.

AreaFada2:
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The problem is we look down on our tradition. Luckily enough it's all there for anyone curious enough to know.

It doesn't make him feel dead, it KILLS him. There is a case going on right now. A young man suddenly got seriously ill on returning from visiting his wife in 9ja.

Even the best medical docs in Europe can find no reason for his illness. Meanwhile he's in hospital for months now. I have gone to see him and examined him too. All parameters seem ok. But he can't eat or get up from bed.

The wife, a Christian never believed when her in-laws warned her about her suspicious ways.
She thought she could mess around anyhow, under guise of born again.

Let me tell you how they say it works. It's not magun style.

A woman commits adultery. The man is safe if she doesn't cook for the man or sleep with him. That is, no wifely role towards him. If she does, problem.

Look, I spent over a decade having clinical evidence & empiricism drilled into my head. But there are things we see that confound science. One can believe it or leave it.

raumdeuter:


WHy are you backtracking now when the expenses are laid out?

Both sides took hits for the other while they were in the wedding. There would be times the husband has had to do inconvenient stuff just to make the marriage work.

WHy should anyone be paying the other anything? Should he list the number of times he mowed the lawns, changed car tyres, changed electrical fittings, did heavy lifting in the house. The way some women talk you think they are the only one doing stuffs in the house

Everytime couples fight you hear, I gave my body, I gave my career, I gave this I gave that, I did this for you I did that, Let everyone start listing and see who has done more

I would support a system where no one stays at home and the kids go to a paid baby sitter so there wont be claims of I could have been Alakija or Bill Gates if not for this marriage

Take what you brought in plus what you contributed while in the marriage. I think this is fair enough

aisha2:


I can't even deal with this line of thought, all women abroad are not evil, marry who you know and stop running to marry girls you don't know just so you can act like a barbarian abeg.
This is sad coming from someone abused so all thosr times you got beaten shebi you provoked your ex? You make it sound as if these women earn their deaths did you earn every slap and belt you received

coogar:


do i need to subtitle my last reply to you or something? you don't have to talk to me to call out your idiöcy - my freedom of speech guarantees that.

when they say women are their own worst enemies, you scream like a rhesus monkey. you are using another woman's past ugly ordeals against her in public just to make yourself feel cool?

how could you stoop so low?

Fhemmmy:


So when marry a woman, are you not marrying her with all her wahala......Have you ever gone through the marriage vows? Go through it and see that she is entitled to what you have and if you were in Nigeria, you would have done more than you are doing in abroad sef, cos you will even pay school fees for her siblings . . .

manny4life:


Believe me, there are divorces that have lasted years and years, in fact, the divorce started when they had small kids and lasted through when the kids become teens. Divorce is a painful experience and costs more than marriage itself, so the best way out of it is for the woman to WALK AWAY. As for asset sharing, that is the reason why we have experts in the field to do all that... No woman will share my assets.

tpiah11:

is it highbrow neighborhood house overseas where everything is on credit? Meaning he's paying a huge loan which btw could also place him in serious trouble should the economy go bust? Does housing crisis ring a bell?

as per range rover, does the same not apply, or did he pay cash for it as if he's in nigeria? If he does not have money to pay his range rover bill, wont it be returned to the dealer? So what exactly is the so called "gain" the ex-wife is having here?

AreaFada2:
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The problem is we look down on our tradition. Luckily enough it's all there for anyone curious enough to know.

It doesn't make him feel dead, it KILLS him. There is a case going on right now. A young man suddenly got seriously ill on returning from visiting his wife in 9ja.

Even the best medical docs in Europe can find no reason for his illness. Meanwhile he's in hospital for months now. I have gone to see him and examined him too. All parameters seem ok. But he can't eat or get up from bed.

The wife, a Christian never believed when her in-laws warned her about her suspicious ways.
She thought she could mess around anyhow, under guise of born again.

Let me tell you how they say it works. It's not magun style.

A woman commits adultery. The man is safe if she doesn't cook for the man or sleep with him. That is, no wifely role towards him. If she does, problem.

Look, I spent over a decade having clinical evidence & empiricism drilled into my head. But there are things we see that confound science. One can believe it or leave it.

Fhemmmy:


It is all about orientation . . .

soulglo:



You are just typical. Let me teach you what I teach 5 year old children since no one bothered to teach you. Your emotions are your responsibility. Whatever you choose to do with them you should take responsibility for. This is just a basic life truth. A 1 year old already understands the consequences of smacking his mother because she's not shoving food fast enough into his mouth. We have full grown men here talking about its someone else's fault that they grabbed a knife and chopped a human being to pieces. Some people should just kill themselves. I'm so disgusted with this thread

CFCfan:

Are you sure?

manny4life:


No when I marry a woman, I am not marrying her wahala but her only and her parents (by extension). I haven't gone through a vow so I don't know, but when I do, I will know. Besides, when men take care of their in-laws, it's a privilege NOT a right. I will do that because it's not a problem, but it's not mandatory.

manny4life:
I believe we have been through this before, personally I WILL NOT share my assets with ANY woman. If my wife decides to divorce me as a result of her doing, we will sure have a messy divorce that will yield her pain and bitterness and at the end of it, probably nothing.. But defintiely not murder.

Fhemmmy:
The divorce takes so long cos both party sometimes could be greedy, if they are NOT, it wont take that long . . . people wanna take out their pain and frustrations in the divorce and no need for that, except the demands are outrageous and the court will determine a lot of these things.[/b]

aisha2:


Okay, now I must admit you need mental help. This is sick, so its okay to kill her because she is rude. Mutter with all due respect you are not sane. Your own ex husband didn't kill you, but because you are alive and living you can spew this for other abused women justifying their murder. This is sick

humilitypays:
Fhemmmy, all I am trying to say is this: our Nigerian women attach money and material wealth to everything. They often times sell their emotions instead of going for what's right!

I have plenty friends living in various countries of the world- US, Uk, Canada, Germany, Spain, Netherland, Australia...and they all complain the same thing- that our Nigerian ladies consider money/material wealth first before anything and that's y its always difficult for Nigerian guys born in Nigeria who migrated abroad via Visa lottery, sponsored immigrant visa, illegal migration, etc with no secured high-paying job to find a good/decent Nigerian girl abroad to marry; because the ladies they meet abroad usually don't want to marry Naija guys who came abroad to hustle...they only want to marry Naija guys there from high class family or those with high-pay job, reason most Naija guys run back home to get a wife to marry.

And on the contrary, our Naija sisters abroad will rather remain single for life warming the beds of different men than to come back to Nigeria to marry a guy and help him come abroad and join effort with her to raise a decent family; no our ladies won't do it; only insignificant number of Nigerian ladies come back home to find husbands- because to them, guys at home who isn't rich, famous or from rich family isn't up to their class!

But is that how life operates Is that how white ladies and other ladies from other nationalities behave Is love all about money and material wealth

Isorait sha

manny4life:


Lol... My broda, I am very sure.

There are very sneaky ways to hide assets, do you think if I am rich like that I will allow my wife to take 50% of my asset? Mbanu, I will enlist the financial firms to swing into action...

coogar:


and what if he has finished paying off his mortgage?

you mean it's fair for him to be homeless while another man is enjoying the fruits of his labour?

would you wish the same for your male sibling?

he could have bought it on auction, he could have finished paying for it.

even if it gets returned to the dealer cos of failed payments, it's his credit score that would be ruined, not his wife. should he continue to pay for a car he's not driving? that's fair to him?

abeg, get some perspective..

Fhemmmy:


How do you define destroying you . . . She will walk away with half of what you own . . . there is a law to ALL these and we all know that, if you smart enough to know that she is not the one for you within a year of being together . . . look more into the law that she will use to take all you have . . . BUT assuming she has been with you, fed you, warm your bed and carry your kids in her womb for like 10 years, and TELL ME IF SHE DOES NOT DESERVE HALF OF WHAT YOU OWN . . . besides, what you think you own are jointly owned . . . . Most men wanna do Nija style - Get out of my house, Na lie, it is a family home that belongs to you, her and the kids, and God forbid divorce, but if it happens, you want the woman to now go and look for a house with the kids, while you reside in the house like a king? Na lie . . . wont happen.

coogar:


better don't marry....
the moment she signs the dotted lines at the registry, she has full access to your assets. even if you cohabit, common law applies in some jurisdiction after a certain number of years.

there's a reason simon cowell isn't married!

manny4life:


Still proves my point.

If the woman WALKS AWAY with nothing (she did not contribute to the asset), and the man pays child support with visitation rights or whatever, I think that's fair. The greed portion is what leads to murders.

dammytosh:


God Bless Your Mother.

This is not you talking but years of good training and thank you for accepting the training.

No man Should Kill A Lady For Any Reason. Let Her Go. There Are a lot of Better and Right Thinking Lady like mutter

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:

'half of what u own to you' i guess means the money and other assets. what about the kids? many men think of their kids who they will not get to see frequentlt because of a woman they workes hard to train. that is bad enough to make a man sucidal.

tpiah11:


your story does not make sense plz.

where in your own bible did you see the words "christian", "born again" and "mess around" used together?

carefreewannabe:
Divorce is such a lucrative job when you are not the one who is working. I wonder why not more men stay at home, take care of the kids, divorce and get rich.

AreaFada2:
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Sure, it won't make sense. Reading is not same as understanding.

Some of these born again people believe our traditions don't matter. They pretend as Christians but in fact uphold no Christian values. They are everywhere around us.

I hear some people even do prayer warrior stuff before going to armed robbery operations nowadays. And even pay tithes from crime proceeds.

Is it news to you that modern miracle & wealth-seeking Christianity is a joke?

Anyway, fake Christianity is expected before the conclusion of things.

This is not to condemn all Christians.

Only that a good Christian today would have been a good person as an Olokun or Sango worshipper.

CFCfan:

Hmmm.. You've got a point there, but if your soon-to-be ex-wife enlists the services of top-notch family lawyers, forensic accountants etc against you, there is a possibility of the court ruling in her favor.
Anyway, in CA ALL assets acquired before marriage belong to you and can't be split. But assets acquired during the course of marriage have to be split.

Fhemmmy:


I read your comment and i see the reason why the law will award the kids to the mother, cos if a man cares for those kids, he wont do something foolish.

cococandy:
Backtrack?

Seems you didn't get me the first time. You ended up agreeing with me and than said I was backtracking when I pointed it out to you.

No one is made to pay any thing as form of repayment for what the other did for them during the marriage.

The payment made is not as repayment but for dependent spouse to find their feet and be able to sustain a standard of living similar to what they have always been used to during the marriage.

CFCfan:

Hmmm.. You've got a point there, but if your soon-to-be ex-wife enlists the services of top-notch family lawyers, forensic accountants etc against you, there is a possibility of the court ruling in her favor.
Anyway, in CA ALL assets acquired before marriage belong to you and can't be split. But assets acquired during the course of marriage have to be split.

tpiah11:


your story does not make sense plz.

where in your own bible did you see the words "christian", "born again" and "mess around" used together?

now you are saying someone's wife is in naija yet you or him still has a problem, if the wife is with him elsewhere, it is still a problem, i mean are you people gay or something, you're too anti- women.

Why are you only meeting witches in your social circle?