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Hi nairalanders, I'm pete(pseudonym), I'm 22, and a virgin, I come from an average family, I won't say I'm too handsome but I'm averagely good looking, they was a phase in my life where I was hyperactive and always drawn to the opposite sex that mere looking at a pic I get erection, this made me chased a lot of girls with different tactics( sweet mouth, dressing, money) they all rejected me despite my looks and money, I resort to porn but find it disgusting, I switched to masturbat,ion it didn't work infact nothing is enjoyable about it and sex workers are a no no for me,

after trying desperately for years to get a real girlfriend for the first time in my life I gave up on searching, I kept loosing intrest in girls, now I never get sexually aroused anymore, even when I see naked women physically or we get locked in a room I will feel nothing, the only erection I get now is the early morning erection, I'm not gay but I am really starting to get worried

Lalasticlal.a please help a brother

KingsJohnson:
I don't get you

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KingsJohnson:
Put down ur number codely n I will mentor on WhatsApp till you are gud

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[quote author=KingsJohnson post=63633673][/quote]I don't mind

Rubbiish:
Self love isn't enough in our present day society...Even mad people got self love...
Your thread already suggest your level of wealth...There is a level of wealth u will maintain & them b!tches will chase u...

lol how did you know my level of wealth

Rubbiish:
@bold u think so?
Have u ever seen a wretched man more confident than a rich man in an occassion?
Countless times we have seen ladies coming out from all over d globe begging wizkid to impregnate them, u think there are no dudes in their hood?

lol what happened to self love

dmgr:
Nah..not at all,what I meant was,u should change the way u view those super cute babes u get nervous approaching...U said something up their that u don't have problem talking to girls except the once u admire right? so changing the way u view those girls u admire will help to boost your confidence to approach any kind of lady.

makes sense thanks

dmgr:
step out of your comfort zone,interact with the opposite sex,and i think one of your major problem is u see the girls u admire above your class yeah that's how u view them from what I could pick from your write up...
Try to change the way u view this super cute babes which your inner self keeps telling u they 're above u, just see them as normal people u could approach and start a conversation with I know it not going to be easy but u just have to step out of your comfort zone.

there's sense in this, but it looks like you're suggesting I become puffed up with pride or start looking down on girls

Rubbiish:
@Bold How much are u worth, that money won't move u?
B!tch!!!

easy bro, she doesn't necessarily need to be worth a penny to know herself or make that comment

jamariwolf:
Only you all these symptoms?
Have you tried taking alcohol, just a little that won't get you drunk, just before talking to a lady.

and how long can someone keep up with that, what about the risk of alcohol addiction

Kylestone:
nigga ur problem is solved...get dis

don't tell me its another ebook on how to get laid and fool girls

Dimples129:
That was the female I was talking about. You're association with love is to shut down, ask yourself why? Why do I associate these feelings with this experience. Everyone reacts differently, find out why you do what you do... just reflect a few minutes per day, feel the feelings and understand them instead of rejecting them.

I become mean when I have a crush on a guy... I reject it's self defeating and I'm trying to understand why So.. reflection helps and being mindful instead of auto-pilot mode where you're emotions drive you...

lol thanks, your contribution is kinda different like you aint nigerian

Edopesin:
What A Damned Country, I'll Advice You To Live Your Life Bro Hopefully Things Will Fall Into Place

lol thanks

ariyebaba:
Op, join choir or unit and be active.
Dress well and wear trendy wears.
Be friendly , smile , wear good perfume
Girls will be attracted to u n they start calling u
BROTHER TEE

lol

makydebbie:
I understand why you guys have this weird mentality. I see some stupid comments from ladies here.


If I cannot vibe with you on a certain level, then i see no future for us. I don't like boring and dumb people, so have all the money in the world. If I'm not interested, I'm not. And besides I'm working, my brother is working. So even if I don't want to use my money, I've my brother to disturb. At least he's obligated to help me.

so wisdom and fun is all you seek in a potential partner

Edopesin:
Very Very Possible Cos Nigeria Has One Of The Highest Rates In The World, You Should Visit A Doc

therapy aint a nigerian thing

Dimples129:
Nature is preserving you and /or you have an emotional blockage, internally. You need to reflect and ask yourself, why you have these feelings attached to this kind of scenario.

Look at your relationship with your mother. Maybe you have certain ingrained values and morals. Anyway, what I'm saying is stay true to yourself, because everyone is sleeping around doesn't mean that if you don't do it, there's something wrong with you. Just follow your bliss and everything else will fall into place. You are a blank page and the author so... Trust life to happen.

#Trust in life

wao brainy and wise advise, but I have a normal relationship with any female I'm not romantically intrested in but immediately I start liking you it starts.

Edopesin:
Jeez! That Serious? Dude Girls Are Human Nt Your Apex Predator

now you know why I said its a problem maybe its PTSD

makydebbie:
Okay.

I'll just advise you to work on yourself, don't be rigid. Start cool conversations and you'll be surprised.

The reason why I'm asking if you know her friends is because, I wouldn't want you to crush and waste emotions on someone who isn't single. You get me?

sure thanks for your invaluable advise

NLevents:
A woman will only follow you when you are rich. This same makydebbie will runaway when money ends. Don't listen to her. Work on yourself Op. Don't be fooled by a woman

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lol

Dimples129:
You're being preserved,

lol mind elaborating?

biafraisdead:
u again? no be u open one thread come talk say if u want toast girl say u dey shiver and ur legs go dey shake? so now na ur teeth u come complain for here again.

running a blog for relationship and health problems, the moniker is troubledmind for obvious reason

makydebbie:
But I'm laying emphasis on this current one because she's the one you like and wouldn't want to lose right?

Or you want to go back to the previous ones?

any of them is preferable, I'd be overjoyed since its a first time thing

Edopesin:
I Doubt Bro And Its Much Better If You Have Friends That Taunt You About Uhr Being Single This Way You'll Want To Prove Them Wrong
Besides Whats The Worst That Could Happen

the worst that could happen is me fainting and waking up in an emergency room

Edopesin:
Don't You Have Friends To Boost Your Morale? I Remember The First Time I Asked A Girl Out I Was Experiencing The Same Symptoms But I Couldn't Fall My Hand So I Went For It And What You Prob Dont Knw Is, If You Can Man Up Once, You Are A Man
Modified
Abeg Keep Sex Out Of Your Mind And Try To Win The Girls Heart Cos Its When You Av Her Heart You'll Have Her Body (unless she's a hoe)

I might have a heartattack trying to overcome it

makydebbie:
But if you really want her, you have to find the guts nau.

Do you know any of her friends?

its not a particular girl its anyone I fancy

JasonScolari:
Very correct.

Same here beautiful.

this is a serious problem stop derailing please

makydebbie:
You're just having butterflies because you like her. Are you guys friends already? Or you're just admiring her from a distance.

don't even have the guts to befriend her and it happens to me anytime I approach any girl I fancy

QuietHammer:
Just picture her on a toilet bowl taking a shit.

lmao

geesunge:
When there's money there's confidence

not true

geesunge:
When there's money there's confidence

not true

makydebbie:
Don't mind the two above me. With money, you can also get gold diggers and the joke will be on you. Work on your self confidence.

actually I'm bold and outspoken with everyone except a girl I fancy and money is not a problem with me I live alone and earn a decent salary