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its really sad..

from all you typed, you showed love.. and made this girl a better person, inwardly and outwardly.

but eh, i smell a rat. that girl still loves you. she quit drugs and that life because of you, she asks for forgiveness when she offends you.

the first poster could be right. her dad would not have gotten involved if he didnt say something to her. or maybe he didn't say anything. maybe someone else said something.

so let me get this straigh.. she just up n left like that? no signs?

so sorry

HornyTiwa:
This is the problem I have with busybodies.
That your opinion of what the OP should do differs from mine,does not make mine wrong or flawed.

Did I say anything about my school daughter not completing school/dependent? btw is schooling and independent the new measurement for marital bliss and happiness
Do you know my school daughter to suddenly make all the assumptions you just made? this is outrageous.
You just brought your self under my mentions amd jumped into conclusion,even overlooking where I typed "different strokes for different folks"?

And what is your definition of God's time? Is God's time when the OP is 30 or 60 years old?

I really tried to understand the dust you yarned there,there is no iota of sense in it

then don't understand it. just tell yourself the sad truth my dear. different strokes for different folks yea. that's the only sense you made here

ritababe:
@the bolded
is exactly why some girls are still single now, what makes you think there is a better man for her out there?
no guarantee, and from what she said the guy is caring and loving.
I don't understand some girls.

i don't understand some girls too. let's face it. you're dating an awesome guy. he loves you and you love him. you're in a commited relationship. but then as time goes on, you meet new people, exciting, sophisticated people. some might even treat u better than your boyfriend does. but as a loyal girlfriend, you understand that love is not just about that. its about commitment.

so you stick to him. the fact that u chose to stick to him doesn't mean there aren't better guys. everyone has flaws. understand the point first bae

classicB:
Marrying later doesn't mean you are happy either. As long as you find the right partner. That to me is the real deal. Some people that married later married the wrong person due to desperation or pressure, but as young lovers, I perceive sincerarity. You think she would cheat cos she's young? How will getting old bfr marriage prevent her from cheating? Check your first post

yea as long as you find the right partner and at the right time for you. if they married out of desperation then its unfortunate. they saw others getting married and felt left out.

think of a lady getting married at 18.. realising she wasn't emotionally ready for the responsibilities that come with marriage. she looks on at others.. her mates young, fresh out of school. what would run thru her mind?

anyone can cheat. depends on WHY you're cheating

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#00cccc] you've said all I wanted 2 ,I cosign this post!!
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expect on the level of his sincerity,i believe he's genuine. [/color]

thank u dear

classicB:
I suppose you are extrovert, cos for an introvert like me, what do I want to see in the world? Travel places? I'd rather watch movies See the world in what context? I don't mind getting married at 21 as long as I am a successful woman that doesn't need to depend on my husband. I have always pictured myself getting married young, nurturing my kids and have a full blown time for my career afterwards My point is, the OP might not need to leave him, I don't think he wanna tie u down, he loves u enough for only himself, I have worked enough with guys, and I can say that only a crazy in love guy would do that. Just spend more time together and postpone getting married. There are wolves out there while u try to see the world o

lol lady, you're funny.

but no, I'm actually a big introvert. the context i mean about seeing the world is meeting a wide range of people. then she l have better choices.

you can't sit at home watching tv n reading novels then decide to get married cuz u have a job. like.. your thinkin is kinda 'myopic' in a sense.. guarded.. safe.. kinda secluded.

content with the piece of bread you're handed kinda. yea.

but you see.. a lot of women that married early tend to wish they didnt. i know a lot.. trust me and they don't like it.

HornyTiwa:
Accepting his proposal does not mean you must marry him immediately,saying NO to him in the presence of his friends is the worst ego killing any man can cope with(I really pity him right now)
You've been dating him for a year and you don't think he will make a good husband,or you just consider yourself too young?
My school daughter married at 18,she is doing quite well 2 years after with a beautiful kid.

Well different strokes for different folks,but I don't really see the problem here.
Let him cool off and explain your point again,then assure him about your believe.

I just hope its not too late,he might end up proposing to your friend to spite you,yes some guys are crazy like that

what's your point now. it worked for your school daughter at doesn't mean it will work for another person. she is doing quite well? don't be too sure of that. did she even complete school? before the teen marriage.

she z probably wishing she didn't get married when she did. she l smile when she sees you. that doesn't mean she's doing well. somebody that is entirely dependent on her husband.

maybe what you're referring to is the children. my dear, children are gifts from God and will come in God's time. stop fussing

falconey:
explicitly what I told her, she should take her time and persuade the dude to understand she isn't ready cognitively.

yea.. and he should try to understand too.

Tolulope95:
Well said, Thanks so much

anytime

my dear, don't listen to all these people telling you to get married to that guy.

okay look at it this way, what guy would sincerely want to marry at 24? like, from the bottom of their hearts, parents are not forcing them, they want to settle down, have kids, responsibility..

shine your eyes! its not genuine. some guys can do that. dont get me wrong. but your boyfriend! I'm sorry to say, he is definitely trying to lock u down babe. why would he insist you sleep over the night you say no to his marriage proposal? babe you get liver. you're lucky he didn't stab you in your sleep. some dudes can't take it when their ego is bruised.. especially in front of their friends.

now coming to you. you're 21, working. you got a bright future ahead of you. do you wanna start having a family now? 21 is too young my dear. travel. go places. you l find guys better than ur boo. then when youre married, you ll start cheating and become miserable??



my point is, see the world first. then agree to be locked down.. cuz that's the reality of life.. lol.

be sure that's what you wanna do. and you're pretty, don't listen to certain ppl saying you look old

this op sef.. u broke her hymen doesnt mean love.
this is something a lot of people dont understand. the fact that ure her first doesnt mean its meant to be. i can see that's why u loved her, cuz she was a virgin. but now u ve learnt ur leasons.

niffymizzy:
Now she won't stop texting!

warris this one saying? me i don't understand

modified..

oh i get u now. lolzz, lemme guess "I'm sorry.. the devil made me do it"
you caught them in the act, don't be blinded by ur feelings. u should ditch her.

it's painful oh. Good u let them know u saw them. its simple, leave them to continue from whr they stopped. Drive home n throw the girl out. She shd move in with ur 'best friend'.

Yell, shout, vent as much as u can. it helps

Climaths:
madam i knw what i want but, should base my love on physical appreance or charater. Or d both of dem

my dear, the both of them. Yu can't look at her everyday and wish u were with someone else. there are 'bigger' girls with good characters. leave this girl alone, ure not for her. she deserves better, u are just managing her

ive always disliked this freeze of a guy. right from when he expressed his "thoughts" about tiwas marriage.

and I'm here in the hot sun.. incredibly hot sun for that matter

wow, this is beautiful. simple and classy. i wish u eternal love and understanding between you n ur wife.

Achorise:
Sorry miss, your thought was well structured and matured, you are a girl with a difference

You're welcome anytime

Toks2008:
We can never question God neither are we to add or remove from his words.

Till I was 21 or thereabout I seldom think sex but after that age I began to feel something else a out my sexuality so what is my point?

It was never in Gods desire that the world economy will make full grown men and women to still remain single..please let's be real..how can you expect a full grown man or woman to be without sexual urge.

If the economy has made it easy for people to marry at 18 or 20 I guess there will be lesser noise about masturbation.

Yes let us be real. Every human has sexual urges which is normal as humans. Let's look at it as our cross to bear.. to not satisfy these urges till we are ready for marriage.

truthsayer007:
Exactly, we shouldn't question God.

Ever wondered why God left the fruit and knowledge of Good and Evil in the Garden, Since he knows Adam and Eve would eat it, isn't it safest to just remove the Tree, but No. the tree was left there.

Ever wondered why Men like sex so much, and then they patronize prostitutes. If the sex urge was removed from Men, All that issues will be over in a second. No more sexual harassment by your Boss, lecturers, pastors etc, No more rape, No more prostitution, No more masturbation....because then sex would now be needed for reproduction Only.

yea ure on point.

Achorise:
Thia is a matured comment, honest and straight, not judgmental or condemning. Thump up sir.I don't masturbate, stopped 7 yrs back.you are the best sir.

you're welcome dear. I'm a female tho.. lol, actually a girl. No need to attach 'ma'. Felt like sharing my thoughts on the matter.

whyx06:
Best response so far as for me... Thanks

you're welcome dear

Toks2008, i read everything n I'd like to comment. You see, the church preaches that it is a sin. I'm a catholic and honestly, I've actually thought about this before, why masturbation is considered a sin, cause a human being has urges, and fornication is not an option.

I hope you read everything tho

well it got me thinkin. the reason why its considered a sin is because, when you masturbate, you ease off pent up sexual urges, which should have been done with someone, and not something you should do alone.

now, a person can become comfortable doing this, easing off any day any time, but God's intention is for man to procreate. when everyone is comfortable easing off on their own, that intention is defeated.. and that is why the church condemns it.

i read ur write up tho. You made a lot of points. I mean, why create the urge in us when we should not satisfy it in any way.. till at least ure ready for marriage.

but we can't question God.

peter sef, that's the hairstyle Sia wears. Not Gaga. if anyone has watched the video of "I'm alive" by Sia, that's the hairstyle the lil girl in the vid had

marriage is a scam!

Motherfucker2:
Good for her

So, the male copper just woke up and decided to remove her teeth ??

do u have a conscience?? if that was ur sister, would u make a comment like that

ure pathetic. I'm sure ure a dude.

what kind of human being would wake up n remove another person's teeth! and with a hammer for crying out loud

Caprigirl.. maan, sometimes its hard to understand other people.

But bae, he's your fiance. I'm thinkin, pick a day he s in a really good jolly mood. cook his fav meal. then when the iron is hot, bring up d topic n watch his response.

if he can't stop such disgusting act, its ur choice to either walk away.. or live with it for the rest of ur life cuz u were well aware of it before marriage.

marriage means, u will tolerate his bad side n good side. so.. its ur call.

walk tho.. if he says he won't stop..