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Tupac10:
The cost of house rent is too cost in those areas, atleast 200k to 250k for mini flat should be enough

VeryWickedMan:
You are very stupid.
You dey find 24/7 light with 250k.

VeryWickedMan:
Ikeja
VI to Elegushi
Banana Island

Havemercylord:
Hello everyone, I am 34 years old and I am here to get honest advice from experienced people.

My story will be short and precise.

I met a girl in April, 2022 (this year), she already had 3 kids, TWO for a man and ONE for a man another man.

Before I met this girl, I have what I need at least, i can rent a house, buy my basic needs and even have savings.

But since i met her, i was turned down in all the places where i was promised Good jobs and contracts.

When we went to make consultation, we were told she belongs to water spirit that she refused to give sacrifices or relate well with her fellow water mates, that the more she didn't do the right things for them, my own Life Will be affected too.

She is pregnant for me right now and I have not had any child before.

My question is this, is there anyone here who has had similar experience?

We were told to appease her water mates, that afterwards, things will change for good.

And i have also heard from several people that most times after doing all the sacrifices, things might not change much for the man.

And all these sacrifices cost money!!!

WHAT CAN I DO?

SHOULD I LEAVE HER OR FIGHT THE BATTLES WITH HER?

Skyscapper:
Drop your email or your number. Or you mail me on skyscapper23@gmail.com

Demigod22:
Relationship is meant to be fun and loving when you are in it with humane and normal human with healthy emotional life. It's not meant to be stressful and frustrating.

I have a girl like that, very manipulative, selfish, cunning and gaslighting. She doesn't call unless when she needs a favor from me. Some other people complain about same thing with her.

I ended the whole thing by brutalizing her ego with bitter truth.

One thing I have as my policy concerning relationship is, anything that cost me my peace of mind is too expensive. I will never force love, if it doesn't work out I will leave, I won't allow someone love me out of pity, and I won't allow myself to be manipulated.

Skyscapper:
Pls e mail me on skyscapper23@gmail.com I have something to discuss with you. I saw your other thread

alhaji04:
I knw those river children are real..but could u share those bad characters with us.. someone may learn somethings.

Josywhyte:
I once found myself in such situation like u. I gave her conditions that,if any is broken, everything ends. Though i endured for over three years,i sent her packing late last year. She made that comment of 'am not ur mate and I've fed u for sometime now'. Baba,she no believe my action when i give am the last commando action of sending her away from her house.

Codes151:
your more ignoramus than I tot.

See, your a Baby!!!
The way you talk and reason.

Marine spirit, ogbanje, lesbian lol omo you b fish

sylve11:
Wagbayi!

casualobserver:
What is a water child?

Codes151:
your talking nonsense. Your either immature or sth.

RightToReject:
Balderdash. In your desperate bid to use the OP's position to shine/ruin him down and appropriate maturity and intelligence to yourself, you ended up showcasing your shallowness.

By your shallow position, you say that every woman is inherently conditionally just; in other words, once you, as a man, are capable of being good to her, she will automatically reciprocate good to you in all circumstances. Once more, your position is balderdash. A woman who has bad character, especially a domineering and opportunistic one, like in the case of the OP if his submission is the truth, will in the cause of the relationship try to subjugate the man, especially when the man is younger than her, regardless of how mature, intelligence and good in general the man is.

The OP is wrong, however, in generalizing that "You can never find peace dating an older woman" because; like I stated above, it all boils down to the individual ethical leanings of the parties involved and understanding in general that exist between them in general rather than age differences.

PeachtreeReside:
You were 30yrs old, she was 35yrs old...
The age gap is not that much to make it such a tumultuous relationship...

How could she manipulate you that much


Did you date out of love, curiosity or some selfish reasons.

She's ogbanje, marine spirit and lesbian I found out when I start living with her

Forgive her and yourself.

Angelfrost:
...And you created a thread to showcase your insecurity?!!

There are younger ladies far worse than what you just described!

Age has nothing to do with respectfulness and courtesy! Why should you even disrespect a woman whether older or younger?!!

omale88:
When an older lady begins to treat you like a junior it means she realise you are not mature enough for her,iv dated older ladies all my life and none ever treated me with disdain because they have no reason to,why should they? Or what have their age done for them? Because I date their souls not their body.doing so requires extreme intelligence.A woman at average have seen more men in her life ten times more than a man would in his life,so then imagine you dating a woman who is older than you in this regard? besides the fact that she finds you attractive she wants you to see in her those countless number of men who have gone through her to beat the odds and not just end like one of them.also if you are mostly dependent on her for everything then you chosen your position in the relationship,you don't ask a woman to do you favors you let her ask to do it from the efforts she see you making if she is capable. A relationship is between a dominant and submissive,dont blame a woman for taking the dominant side when you already submitted to her.

omale88:
When an older lady begins to treat you like a junior it means she realise you are not mature enough for her,iv dated older ladies all my life and none ever treated me with disdain because they have no reason to,why should they? Or what have their age done for them? Because I date their souls not their body.doing so requires extreme intelligence.A woman at average have seen more men in her life ten times more than a man would in his life,so then imagine you dating a woman who is older than you in this regard? besides the fact that she finds you attractive she wants you to see in her those countless number of men who have gone through her to beat the odds and not just end like one of them.also if you are mostly dependent on her for everything then you chosen your position in the relationship,you don't ask a woman to do you favors you let her ask to do it from the efforts she see you making if she is capable. A relationship is between a dominant and submissive,dont blame a woman for taking the dominant side when you already submitted to her.

Demigod22:
I never find women older than me attractive, I love to hang out with ladies of my age or younger than me. Girlfriend is a potential wife, so when I am doing any relationship, I do it with someone I won't regret when worst come to worst, if you know what I mean.

Everyone has a spec, but from your awful experience, I believe you have learned your lesson.

toujurs:
From the water? Like she is a river goddess or what , You still believe those nonsense of the past

Rozross:
Count your losses and move on. It clearly didn’t work in your favour.Do your mates or younger ones next time

Omihanifa:
You dated a woman from the water

Rozross:
This one hook you for throat � Or you thought she’s one of your old oyingbo woman client?

Rozross:
This one hook you for throat � Or you thought she’s one of your old oyingbo woman client?

Rozross:
This one hook you for throat �

Tupac10:
I date a girl who's more older than me in age of 5 years gap and also a water child, from Anambra tribe... In my experience start living with older women will exposed their true characters towards you, cos they're controller, manipulative, have higher pride, higher arrogance, jealousy, impatience and egos, a day will also comes they will tell you "I'm not your mate" I'm older than you... All the love they been showing is blind love and only want sex all the time... You can never found peace dating an older woman especially those with high numbers of age gap

Tupac10:
I date a girl who's more older than me in age of 5 years gap and also a water child, from Anambra tribe... In my experience start living with older women will exposed their true characters towards you, cos they're controller, manipulative, have higher pride, higher arrogance, jealousy, impatience and egos, a day will also comes they will tell you "I'm not your mate" I'm older than you... All the love they been showing is blind love and only want sex all the time... You can never found peace dating an older woman especially those with high numbers of age gap