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Hello mummys in the house, I have this issue of my vagina not being as tight as it was before I gave birth to my children, and recurring infections after the birth of my last born. I have also noticed vag dryness. My colleague at work told me about one Eve intimate magic stick that helps her to keep tight, works for infections ,odour and
dryness, she says that she has been using it for about 6 months now, and I would love to try it too if there are good reviews or testimonials from other users. Please, has anybody used it here? Please help a sister .Thank you.
Source: http://www.wivestownhallconnection.com/2016/04/how-do-i-make-my-vagina-tight-again.html

The mail below is not from me o, someone sent in to help her find a rich husband, her contact is there for any rich interested man. Koboless man keep off please oh:
Hello Aunty, Am from abia state
Am precious, a final year student at college of education
Am 21years
But was born and grow up in lag
I'm Female. Is it only wives you connect?

Don't you connect husbands too?
I need a rich husband that will take care of my school fees, my number is 08105872926.
SOURCE: http://www.wivestownhallconnection.com/2016/04/im-final-year-student-in-need-of-rich.html#more

Breastfeeding isn't easy in the first few days of life: Your baby will fuss and cry a lot because he is not latching properly. If you have a kitchen stool, sit on it, a chair that has firm back and bum rest, sit on it to breastfeed. Avoid sitting on cushions and your soft bed to nurse. Sit and hold the baby like shown on the image above. If your baby has a great appetite and can suck for hours "Foodious baby" try changing positions to avoid back ache. You can start with Cradle hold, then change to cross-cradle hold, lying on your side to breastfeed or doing the laid back method. These are the best breastfeeding methods taught at antenatal and post natal clinics. When you lie by your side to breastfeed, ensure that you do not fall asleep o. Your newborn can choke on the freshly loaded boobies. If you wake up at night to feed and still feeling sleepy, try your best to sit.

ALSO READ: How to give bath to new born baby
You need some new mom breastfeeding essentials like breast pads to keep the loaded milk from soiling your clothes, ask for either disposable or washable breast pads at the baby items shop. There's so much in the disposable packs that you may not exhaust all before your breast milk stops leaking. Remember that stale milk has an odour and as you breast feed, deodorants are very essential. If you must use anti perspirant in your armpits, let them be mild, not the ones with strong fragrances as the baby's nose is always close to the armpits while breastfeeding.
Personal hygiene is very important so you don't begin to suspect that the house is smelling or food is sour when it's you that's oozing. Bathing twice a day is a must o. Please remain shaven so that some nyama-nyama things will not get stuck in the "under forest". Sometimes, the nurses clean you up and shave everything down there during delivery, maintain the habit, it's a good habit. Abeg o,dear mom, don't let the shrub grow back as you nurse, keep it neat and tidy. If you bathe with medicated soaps, the pregnancy dark spots and areas appear to disappear and clean up faster than when you bathe with toilet soaps. Use good medicated soaps and bathe with sea salts. Sea salts worked wonders on my skin, I scrub some soap on the sponge, pour in some salt before scrubbing my skin and it just has a way of cleansing even dark spots that have been on my ankles and knuckles for donkey years. Not the salt we use in cooking pepper soup o, sea salt is different, not for cooking.
You'll have some challenges with excessive farting (passing gas), please eat less milk and sugar), sweating a whole lot at this time especially if you gave birth in the dry season or harmattan. Ensure that you change your bra at least once daily. Do not repeat the bra you used yesterday unless you want to start smelling like rotten fish. Even with breast pads on, sometimes milk still touches or drops on the bra, please change them daily. You don't need to own a ton of bras to change daily, even with just two bras, one can change daily if it's not rainy season. New moms wash daily so, while one bra is being washed, the other one is worn and washed the following day. It's best to wash your bras and under pants with detergents than with bar soaps, soak for at least 30 minutes before washing undies and remember to rinse with plenty of clean water or rinse twice sef.
This fifth point, hmmmm, I can't type here without mentioning it oh. My first girl suffered a lot with cold, we were always going to see the Doctor and giving different medications while continuously exposing her to cold with daily long baths. If the weather is not hot, bathing a baby daily is not necessary. With my other kids, I became wiser and started to observe the weather. If the mornings and evenings are very cold, bathe at noon and that's it. Your baby doesn't do any work yet, is neither a mechanic nor an engineer, just needs to be kept clean and warm. Sometimes just wiping without putting baby in water is enough. Never do the "baby must bathe twice a day" thing if the weather feels cold. If omugwo mummy says that's how you were taken care of, tell her to please postpone the bath to the following day. If your baby is coughing off and on and off and on, sometimes it could be cold from regular bathing in cold weather, watch it. If we had winter in Nigeria, will you dare bathe baby twice daily in December? This doesn't mean that we leave our new babies hot. Over covering and lack of ventilation too are not good, open the windows wide, let air in, the baby needs fresh air and in dry season, turn on the fan, air the room moderately, the fan should blow low or moderately, not high please. Leaving the baby hot can cause skin rash. I haven't mentioned Air conditioners because I nor get yet oh. I nor know which AC temperature is ok for a new born. I use fans in my house for now until God takes me from glory to glory next level, if you use AC, let the temperature not go below say 18 degrees, I hope I'm right sha.
If you have the time, choose breastfeeding over formula. Be baby friendly, even though I breastfed exclusively with just my first alone. The others didn't suck only breast mil because that my first show me shege, she refused to take solid food after the baby friendly ended. Formula isn't bad, but if you are fine and you are spending sometime home with the baby before resuming work, breastfeed as much as possible before introducing formula but again, one thing about introducing formula late is that your baby might reject it.
Be watchful and cordon the bay off with pillows even if you have to leave for a moment. You never know when they start rolling and this leads to accidents. At all times, ensure the baby has pillows blocking him by the sides, front and back, if your baby is in the cot, make sure it's latched properly. Don't let that first fall happen before you learn.You think she cannot move, she'll give no notice about when the first rolling and tossing will start.
You are a mother now, love yourself. Don't compare yourself with other moms o, our bodies are not the same, it was easier for my stomach to bounce back to flat with my first, second and third than with the fourth girl. This is your third or second, that's her first and you have been there tay tay. Stop being a self critic, you'll be fine. Just don't eat too much of pounded yam and eba, starch, plantain, fufu, semovita. If you can make corn fufu, great because corn has very low calorie content. Some women don't have that type of stomach that bounces back immediately, it takes a while so, be patient and do not be too hard on yourself. Your old clothes might not fit immediately after birth, get a few bigger sizes to use at this time as even boobs are heavier and bigger than normal.
Source : http://www.wivestownhallconnection.com/2016/04/10-things-you-must-do-as-first-time-mom.html

Have been almost a year now with no pregnancy,which I proceed for a checkup where I was told that I have tubal blockage,also I do feel pain in my right
abdominal,later I went to the doctor only to be told that I have PID,and immediately have been treating it,doxycline.flagyl,metronidazole,ofloxacin,can this hel? cos I really needs to be pregnant,my 1st born will be 10yrs by dec.pls help me.
Source : http://www.wivestownhallconnection.com/2016/04/im-taking-these-medications-for-tubal.html

My own very close younger sister is wedding in July and I have no clue what to give her as a wedding present. My
dear friend has made me her Maid Of Honour at her wedding which comes up next month. what can I give her too? What would be reasonable to spend? Please help suggest gifts that would be appropriate without breaking bank. For those already married, did your siblings give you wedding presents? Thanks in advance.

Source: http://www.wivestownhallconnection.com/2016/04/reasonable-wedding-gift-for-my-sibling.html

Good morning ma...pls I will like you to give me advice on this matter...am 18 and will turn 19 God will this month...
I work with one of the executive director of access bank as a nurse to her kids for 6months now but am dating her
driver for the past two month now and I told him am a virgin and we have sex of NO REAL PENETRATION...tho to me he is cute and he is kinda ladies guy although he told me is getting married soon this year and we both agreed that it just love and romance that no marriage but now he is planning to disvirgin me and I don't know maybe to go ahead with it...because I don't want anything that will affect his marriage cos am crazily in love with him tho I don't express to him well..he is all i want in a man...pls am confused I need Ur advice pls!!™

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Kachisbarbie:
No be you dey find male child just now?

No not the same same person, different people posting on wives connection blog. The source has been credited.

Harbeesawlar:
Tot I was the only one that noticed

The posts on the thread are from different people who ask questions on wives connection blog. The source is always credited. Your comments here will still help those posters.

carinmom:
Op weren't you the one who was about to commit suicide in another thread because you have only two girls ?

Nooooo, check the end of the post na, there is a source where the post is shared from. I'm only sharing what is posted there on that blog with Nairalanders.

I’ve had a close relationship with one of my friends since the days of Secondary School and we are now in our twenties and, graduated from Uni though none of us don get work. My friend has lost her father as a teenager and probably because of that she is close to her uncle (Her
dad's younger brother). Her uncle has just a son who is not living with them, he schooling overseas. My friend had told me that she felt lonely at times so she occasionally spent time with her uncle, who’s now in his late 50s. My friend and this uncle occasionally go to some over night trips either to see some relatives or she accompanying him on his personal trips and on their way they need to stay over night in a hotel and they share the same (tiny) hotel room. His wife works and resides in a different city and they only visit occasionally.
Maybe their relationship is more on the friendship level though I could never stay over night in a same room with my kinsman or uncle but who am I to judge them?
Ok, the thing is that years ago when we went for on an over night trip with this friend and her uncle for the commemoration of some family member, we were both teenagers then, but everything is still fresh in my memory. The uncle bought us some booze and stayed in the hotel room with us for a while. When my friend was out of sight at the moment he kind of started to sexually harass me like, touch inappropriately. I immediately left the room and never said anything about it to my friend. That’s not all. Earlier at the same evening my friend was saying something like older men can be really full of charm and very caring. Her uncle heard that and kind of got excited about the comment and replied something like how he is about to get an erection (!) if we continue to talk that way That might have been a joke and (perhaps the alcohol in his system) but I still find it very weird that who would say something like that to a niece even if it’s a joke. this combined with the fact that they are staying in the same hotel room...
I know that my friend feels lonely at times so she kind of enjoys the relationship with her uncle. From my friend’s point of view their relationship is sincerely just a family tie/friendship. But I also feel that my friend might be a bit naive and not realise it even if he assaulted her then since he's is family, and maybe it’s hard for her to think something “bad” about her relatives.
I don’t actually know why after so many years this came to my mind. But have been actually thinking about this recently. I have a feeling that I should tell my friend how her uncle behaved towards me years ago and “remind” her about the specific comment that her uncle made in order for my friend to probably rethink the closeness and if she really wants to share a tiny hotel room with him in the future anymore.
Do you guys think I’m blowing this whole thing out of proportion or being too sensitive? since we are adults now and this happened years ago, I'm confused and thinking ...Should I just forget the whole thing and let my friend be since she is not a child anymore?

Source:http://www.wivestownhallconnection.com/2016/04/my-friends-weird-relationship-with-her.html

bigfrancis21:
Male children are determined by the Y-bearing chromosome of the father. Mothers have no influence whatsoever in determining the sex of a baby as the ovum is by default, an X-chromosome. Sex determination of a foetus is determined by the father's sperm. It is not your fault at all if you can't bear male children.

Now, there are doctors that can assist in sex selection of fetuses. I strongly recommend that you seek the services of a doctor who specializes in sex selection of fetuses to ensure that your next baby is a male child.

Dear BigFrancis, I am really interested in these doctors that specialize in sex selection of fetus (es). How is it done, Is it through IVF/PGD? Where Can i find these doctors, I reside in Lagos. Can I drop my e-mail address here for you?

Eddygourdo:
You marriage is very young and being that you never had the fine tuning phase during courtship. You both are having it now. Too bad he is pulling away while you are pulling closer and it's frustrating you.

You need to do the reverse affection method, pull away in character too. I don't mean emotionally, but it's a game to get his attention. Whenever he smiles at you frown and be disinterested though give him Wat he wants. Ignore him alot and give him the cold shoulders without it being very obvious. Continue thus till you have his attention and he starts asking you Wat the problem is.

Even when he asks, tell him nothing. Give him more cold shoulders and hide ur cheerfulness. This character if it drives him nuts then it's proof he loves you and was going through a phase

Give him more cold shoulders till he gets angry at ur behaviour and flips out. It only then that you table his offences to you. Hopefully you both would have a heart to heart talk and he would open up to you on what u is killing him

This is a fine tuning phase and if handled properly will pass, making ur marriage stronger

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This is my first, scan shows it's a baby boy, I need help with essential items to shop for baby boys. Thanks in advance.

I am a mum of two girls too and my hubby says no more kids. I've been feeling very sad since I had my second daughter and any one I tell that I have two girls keeps punching it into my face how much I need a boy, etc. I am ready to try again but I'm really scared that if it is a girl again, my husband may then go
haywire. I have even heard of women like me who decided to try again and got twin girls. My husband's family wants more kids but I indeed know it is because they want a boy. And indeed, I can't take care of more than three kids should anything happen to my marriage tomorrow.

I'm really so sad and confused and have been this way for almost a year now. I do not know if these feelings will indeed leave me some day and let me live a normal life again. So it's not just Igbo people that have this problem; I think it is general. Most men and families in Nigeria prefer to have all boys (or atleast one boy) than all girls. My sister has three boys and her kids are often better celebrated than mine. She also carries herself with pride and so does her husband.

I even feel suicidal some days but if I die, who will take care of my kids? It has affected my faith as well because I stopped going to church shortly before I gave birth and even now my baby is almost six months old and I have refused to resume church. What can I do to lift my spirits?

Source: http://www.wivestownhallconnection.com/2016/04/will-this-male-child-feeling-ever-leave.html

Sorry to bother you all with my teenage drama but I really need help. I am the last child of my family, I'll be 18 this year, I live in South Africa, found your blog on Google search and I need some advice please.


I just concluded in my head and mind that I'm my mom's least favorite child. I know a lot of kids think this, and I might be overreacting but it's something that
has been a serious issue for me. I started noticing this different treatment from my siblings when I was 10. I always feel really worthless in my moms eyes and mind too.
So, my elder sister is 24 and very accomplished in life. She did excellently well in high school, was very popular, did loads of extracurricular activities, went and made a living for herself, and on top of it all she's absolutely gorgeous. She's basically every parents dream child or so I think.

Then there's my elder brother, who is also another dream child. He is very good looking, talented, got a scholarship to a prestigious university and now lives in the United States. He was bullied a bit when he was younger but my mom shut that down pretty quickly maybe because He was pretty much a child prodigy.
And then there's me. Clumsy, freckled, plain, "lumpy" as my mom always puts it,I score average marks in School, and overall I will assess myself as pretty underwhelming.

Just the way I look different physically and academically, I want to do something different, I don't want to go to university (or at least until I know what I want to do with my life for sure), I absolutely love children, so right now what I'm aiming for is to go volunteer to work with children in some underprivileged communities or work in an orphanage until I can figure out if I want to do something different butt my mom doesn't support that. she wants me to go to university, read Medicine or Engineering and follow in my two siblings footsteps. I understand that she might just be trying to do the best for me but it doesn't feel like it. It feels like she just wants another little prodigy to show off to the world and her loud circle of friends. I've tried to talk to her about favoring my sister and brother but whenever I try to bring the topic up she screams at me straight up and tells me that I'm lazy.

Lately my mom has been getting more and more harsh on me. Constantly saying I need to lose weight, that I'm too fat for my age. I'm 135 pounds and 5 foot 5. She says I'm lazy and constantly compares me to other more accomplished teenagers. I try my best at everything I do and yet it's never good enough. When I cook something, she'll find something wrong with it. When I clean up the house for her, she'll scream at me for something else. I have extra curricular activities 6 days a week including some weekends. Sunday is my only time to relax and socialize. She's started a new punishment system, for everything I get wrong she'll add 3 new chores to my already over loaded schedule and ban me from socializing until she's impressed at my actions. Currently I have to clean the whole house everyday on top of study time and after school activities. Just this morning she told me to write a two page essay from my English Language text on top of everything. When I asked her if I could hand it in tomorrow she told me to "stop being a lazy bitch". When I then said "Please mom, I'm only asking because I have a lot to do today and I;m pretty much exhausted" , she used the "F" yOU word, putting me down and making me feel like I'll never be good enough. I'm just a teenager for crying out loud.
I was once so motivated and happy about life, a bubbly young girl who loved life, and one day it just disappeared. I have no motivation to do anything anymore. I'm constantly tired and I've been getting sick a lot lately (my mom thinks I'm faking the ill health and still calls me lazy). She swears at me and tells me I look like a LovePeddler or a slut when I want to wear something that makes me feel good about myself or confident in my body. I've never been in a relationship and I'm terrified because of my mother.

I feel so tired and angry at my dad who sees all this happening and pretends he doesn't see just to not look for my loud mouthed mom's trouble. It's gotten to the point where I'm afraid to try anything new because I know (feel) I'll fail anyway. I read a few Nigerian blogs and can tell that Nigerian moms are very caring and kind, I just wish that for myself. I told my friends this but they didn't believe and thought I was making up the sentence. to make mom look bad but she actually says this to me ... Always says I'll never survive in the real world without her, that I'll always come back to her because I'll never be able to accomplish anything. I'm trying to be independent so that I can get away and far away from her , I've been saving whatever I can for the past one and half years and hopefully by the end of this year I'll have just enough to leave her home.

I have already worked out a financial plan and have found a suitable place to live in an affordable neighbourhood here in South Africa, I just need other people and other parents and mom's opinions on my decision. Am I overreacting? Is my plan to leave a stupid idea? If so do you have any other suggestions? I really need to be away from my mom and be truly happy in life. Thanks.

Source: http://www.wivestownhallconnection.com/2016/04/my-mom-prefers-my-siblings-and-she.html

I'm receiving mails from Etisalat subscribers who haven't been able to open wives connection in days even when the bar shows strong Network, it's not connecting at all and, it's not just this blog, some can read a few other blogs while others say they can't open any blog at all. I always replied that it's their browser type giving problems until I am seriously suffering it too. Imagine the frustration when a blogger cannot open her own blog not to talk of other websites. Hi 5 to Nigerian bloggers based in Naija, they are really trying, updating and uploading pics with Snail speed Network services. Some readers can't leave comments and I'm supposed to copy and paste for them from their mails yet blog won't open. It makes me so nervous and the message on the screen is scary. The first time it happened, I got a message like " site cannot be reached" the next time " Your network is blocked
and I'm like "The blood of Jesus" Network blocked by who? what did I do wrong here? What did I do wrong to Etisalat? ehn? I always have Data because of blogging, sometimes 30,000MB on the modem, had to add Wifi thinking that is stronger yet as I type, not only me, even my children's phones can't connect Online. Na wetin? Even Wifi? I am subscribed to 3 networks and have always felt like Etisalat is faster but now? I haff suffered, trying to go Online, getting frustrated and dumping everything for some "soothing candy crushing"

I feel bad now telling mailers to download different browsers when the problem is actually from Etisalat. I blamed poor network in my house, blamed my gadgets and even blamed my family for moving here but now I know it's not us, the blame is on Etisalat oh..
Someone please tell Etisalat to do something Oh. Their subscribers are finding it really hard opening blogs and I don't want us to port now oh. I hear Spectranet is doing great but haven't yet confirmed oh.

Source: http://www.wivestownhallconnection.com/2016/04/etisalat-but-why.html

Veektoria:
Can anything 'sneak in' when the hymen is still intact?

Yes oh. Hymen can't block liquid.

charix:
Lies.

Reading the whole post won't kill you but ignorance can.

More than 1,000 women are suing Johnson & Johnson company for covering up cancer risk. Just this week I shopped Johnson Baby products for my baby including
powder oh...
Read More at Bloomberg.Jacqueline Fox worked in restaurant kitchens and school cafeterias, cleaned people’s houses, watched their kids, raised a son, and took in two foster children. She was careful about her appearance and liked to tend the garden in front of her home in Birmingham, Alabama. She had been treated for high blood pressure, arthritis, and diabetes, but, at 59, she was feeling pretty good. In the spring of 2013, her poodle, Dexter, began acting strangely. He’d jump on her, he’d cry, he’d stay close by all day. Fox happened to watch a television program about a dog that sensed its owner was unwell. When she let Dexter sniff her, he whined even more.
A week later, Fox was diagnosed with advanced ovarian cancer. She had chemotherapy to shrink the tumors and surgery to remove her uterus, ovaries, fallopian tubes, and part of her spleen and colon. In December of that year, she saw a commercial from an Alabama law firm, Beasley Allen, suggesting a connection between long-term use of Johnson & Johnson’s Baby Powder and ovarian cancer. Fox had been sprinkling Baby Powder made from talc on her underwear every day since she was a teen. “I was raised up on it,” she later said in a deposition. “They was to help you stay fresh and clean. … We ladies have to take care of ourselves.” It was as normal as using toothpaste or deodorant. “We both were a bit skeptical at first,” says her son, Marvin Salter, a mortgage banker in Jacksonville, Fla. “It has to be safe. It’s put on babies. It’s been around forever. Why haven’t we heard about any ill effects?”

Fox died from the cancer in October 2015. Four months later, a jury in St. Louis concluded that talcum powder contributed to the development of the disease and that Johnson & Johnson was liable for negligence, conspiracy, and failure to warn women of the potential risk of using Baby Powder in the genital area. The verdict, decided by a 10-2 vote, included $10 million in compensatory damages and $62 million in punitive damages, more than Fox’s lawyers had recommended. Salter bowed his head and wept.
“People were using something they thought was perfectly safe,” he says. “And it isn’t. At least give people the choice. J&J didn’t give people a choice.” Among the most painful revelations, he says, was that in the 1990s, even as the company acknowledged concerns in the health community, it considered increasing its marketing efforts to black and Hispanic women, who were already buying the product in high numbers. Fox was black. The jury foreman, Krista Smith, says internal documents provided the most incriminating evidence: “It was really clear they were hiding something.” She wanted to award the Fox family even more. Imerys Talc America, the biggest talc supplier in the country and the sole source of the powder for J&J, was also named as a defendant. The company wasn’t found liable.

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Source:http://www.bloomberg.com/features/2016-baby-powder-cancer-lawsuits/

Playing around the genital area can result in pregnancy even without penetration. Spermatogenesis doesn't need penetration to sneak in.

I have this big problem which i've been unable to share with any one.
[18/03 20:16] ‪Before my husband and i got married, we did involve in some kind of stupid naughty plays, without penetration though. Along the line, i discovered that am pregnant. How? That was what we kept asking each other . We had no choice than to quickly plan for our marriage.And even since after the marriage, we've tried to do the real thing several times but to no avail. Am a very scary type. I couldn't bear the pain. And the most complicated part now is that am 8 months pregnant now and still the hymen has not been broken. And am so scared and worried now that if i have to do it now it will affect the baby or some complicated issues. Or can i deliver normal without having to do it?
Source: http://www.wivestownhallconnection.com/2016/04/im-8-months-pregnant-with-hymen-intact.html

The yummy recipes for the weekend are too many oh, wish I could copy all, Check them out, pick one to try this weekend.
http://www.wivestownhallconnection.com/2016/03/dodo-gizzard-nigerian-white-soup-okra.html

cionon:
Tnx for d advice

yes pray about it like you have never prayed before as I join my faith with yours right now. Father, the heart of her husband is in your hand and you can turn it to favour her. Do this for your daughter oh Lord. Have mercy on her and return her husband to her Lord. Let every chain of the enemy be destroyed, Le him be free from any strange woman in her marriage, let there be a restoration oh Lord.
Give him a strong reason to take back his wife and protect her marriage from the devouring lion in Jesus mighty name we pray.
Amen.

Talk with her first, then talk with your parents too to change her school ASAP.

Reported her to her family? ?

I need help with a strange woman contacting me and I can't find her anywhere, even on Social media to know the kind of person she
is. I spent long hours searching Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and other Networking sites but can't find this person anywhere.

I received long emails from a strange woman my husband dated right before we got married. She was telling me that he was cheating on me with her and that he'd been in her bed some weeks ago. She went on and on in the mail saying he cheated on her as well, that I shouldn't let him fool me with his looks and sugar coated tongue, that once a cheater always a cheater. I wrote back telling her to back off and mind her business, I told her to gerrout and leave my young marriage alone.but she won't stop replying... wrote back going on about how when he broke up with her he didn't communicate with her properly and even though she has now moved on that he still pesters her life all the time. Then the stupid woman is like, "bottom line, your new husband was in my bed last week"


I confronted my husband with the emails as evidence but he denies that he has had anything to do with this woman. He said their relationship was very brief, not serious and was basically a series of dates and yes they slept together. That he ended things with her before our wedding, he said also that she became obsessed with him, would email, text, call all the time but that I didn't know because we were not yet married then. She would show up at his office without notice, unannounced ...trying to get him back.

Well, hubby never told me about her. He was like, "why would I tell you I dated someone like this would you have wanted to date me? and I told him "that wouldn't have prevented us being together if we were meant to be together" He showed me some past emails from 2013 to 2014 where she was begging for him to be back with her and he was telling her to move on with her life that he is planning on settling down any time soon. He said for the most part he didn't respond to her at all. One email was her telling him how she became suicidal and how she was going to hurt herself if he dumps her completely.

There was another email sef asking about me and telling him she thought he'd end up with someone more glamourous than myself, someone more classy and all that. There's also an email wishing him a life of misery with his new found "Fiona Shrek"...she also showed up at his work which he did not tell me about! ( We had a short courtship, wedded last year).

I am angry he didn't tell me about this last visit by her, but i can kind of see why he didn't. He never thought she'd be contacting me to spill rubbish. I'm thinking too much about all these recently, please someone help! I just don't know why someone would make such things up. He said she obviously wants to ruin our marriage and does not want to see him happy with anyone else if not her. This all happened like some weeks ago and I never heard from her again. I didn't write her and she has not mailed me since then. Even though I shouted at her to back off, in my mind am worried, thinking.... Should I believe this babe or my husband? I'm very worried if he cheated on me already in a marriage that's not even up to one complete year.
Source :http://www.wivestownhallconnection.com/2016/03/my-husbands-ex-emailed-me-your-new.html

Starting a conversation is HAAAARDDDDDD

The photos are shared on Facebook with not much details. There are orphanages around, churches, different places of worship and public places. Why a toilet? Imagine the chubby baby covered in poop. This is wicked!
http://www.wivestownhallconnection.com/2016/03/bouncing-baby-boy-found-in-pit-toilet.html

I need help with a lie I told that's about to back fire. I've been with my fiancee for a year now and at the start of our relationship I lied to him about being a virgin. He was a virgin so he thought that we were each other's first. The only reason I didn't tell him was
because I was ashamed about what he would think of me. I had a boyfriend before and he had pressured me into sleeping with him and it's something that I regret everyday. The guilt has been eating away at me and there has been times when he has asked about it and I lied each time. He recently found out the truth and is understandably devastated. Since he found out I lied about being a virgin, I am terrified about what is going to happen to us. He is the love of my life, proposed a few months back and we have always been talking about spending the rest of our lives together.

He wants to try and mend our relationship but he is unsure about the future. He doesn't know if we should break up and I don't know if he will ever be able to forgive me for telling him such a big lie, I am worried that even if he says he has forgiven me and we move on with the wedding plans and all, in the future, whenever I step on his toes, won't he remind me of the lie? I don't even know how to talk to him at this point. Even though he says he wants to try, he is kind of cold with me and I know he can't get over the fact that I lied to him about something so big and for so long, if he wasn't a virgin himself, I won't be this worried, but I made him think that we are both pure. I am so angry at myself for covering up this many times and I really don't want to lose him. Everyday I am just thinking is this our last day together? Is he going to want to break up with me today? I can't concentrate on anything, my sleeping pattern is all messed up, I can't focus on assignments which I need to do, the semester is running fast and I think my Continuous Assessment is going to be affected badly. I don't want to graduate, go for my youth service and return back home to start depending on my parents for toiletries and other needs or to go start dating all over again. My plan has been going on well for me before this lie was uncovered. I had planned my life to graduate, spend 1 year in Youth Service, get a job, get married and start making my babies already. What can I do to try and save my relationship? I want to cry and beg but I'm not the type that easily sheds tears, am a very rarely emotional lady. I am scared of losing him, There no more good men around and I think he is in the 1 or 2 percent honest Christians still in existence. I honestly can't see myself with anyone else and hate myself for lying. I can't stop thinking that even if he eventually does get over it, this is something that we would have to live with for the rest of our lives and I don't know if he can ever be truly happy or even trust me again. I can't help thinking that he would be better off with someone else who hasn't hurt him this bad but the thought of losing him is unbearable to me. I don't know what to do. I feel

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To you it's a pagan festival, To me it's remembering the Resurrected King.
The mindset.

Everyone is free to celebrate their whatever today, that doesn't affect my celebrating the Risen Christ.
Easter Weekend is time to be home with family and celebrate the death and Resurrection of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. In Nigeria, we do not know much about egg hunting and painting and other Western stuff, honestly unlike Christmas, Easter celebrations are kinda boring in many families. People just dress up, go to church, come back home, eat Sunday rice and chicken, and... that's it. Some go nap while others get busy with gadgets taking and posting pics Online. Here is how you can make your Nigerian Easter
celebration more fun for the whole family.
Easter holiday continues till Monday, so, here is how we do it in my family: On Sunday morning, everyone goes to church, my gele tying always makes us late for Easter services anyway and because this is a special Sunday, we do not come back to spend the whole day cooking rice and sweating and entertaining guests. Well, we do cook when we invite friends for Easter Lunch or dinner but that doesn't happen every year. This year, my family already have plans for our Nigerian Easter celebration. No stress, we celebrate the resurrection and have fun together.

After church, we'll drive somewhere not too expensive like Tantalizers or Mr Biggs or my favourite Aunty Ajobi at Drumstix; eat lunch and go from there for an Easter movie at the cinemas. Aunty Eya, we live in Abuja too, so, after the movie, we spend some time at the galleria, if you'll be there please holler at moi. while the kids play fun games and do a few other things. By this time it should be evening already if not night. Home we go from here, eat some light quick dinner and that's it.

How to spend Easter Monday:
Because this is a holiday, we create fun but, basically not much... There is a general morning devotion in the sitting room where we all gather and praise God. We go for a picnic at noon, spend the rest of the day there, return and watch an Easter movie at home after Dinner, then it's a good night.
Please share on the blog in case others have fun suggestions for Easter in Nigeria.
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deflover:
easter is a fraud

To them it was Ishtar. It's all about the mindset dear. To me it is EASTER, The celebration of the Resurrection. I don't think about fertility and sex today, I think about The Resurrected King!
Happy Easter!