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PunkyVeer:
OMG, scariest experience ever. It started with never ending phone calls after I broke up with him. One minute he'd call just to call me the most horrible names. Telling me he never loved me. Yanno, hurtful things. Next thing, 5 minutes later, he'd call to apologise & to tell me he still loved me. Other days he'd call only to go off on me & tell me he never wants to speak to me again. Days later I'd get a call with him telling me not to get too big headed, he still didn't wanna speak to me, only wanted to hear my voice. That's when I started to notice he was volatile emotionally & that maybe I should change my number. When I changed my number that's when he started showing up in person, scaring the hell out of me one night when he appeared behind a tree. It was really late at night & I was from my waitressing job. He said he wanted to make sure I didn't bring men from work. This guy did everything you can think of, including stealing my clothes from the washing line. I don't have proof he did it but the jeans & top that were missing were what I wore when we 1st met. So yeah, I still suspect he did it. I still shudder when I think about what he might have done with the clothes. Did he wear them? Ha! Anyway, I just had to get a protection order & moved in with a friend just to feel safe from the nut.

ganiberry:
If you could remember vividly i posted to you wonderful nairalanders the story of my girl friend who was impregnated by her ex-boyfriend that came back from South Africa.

Here is the update on it. She later summon courage to call me and told me she needs to see me to discuss what happened. To cut the long story short, we met in one of the eateries and there she told me what really happened.

Don't forget i said i was on official assignment outside Lagos. She told me her friend was getting married and she attended the wedding. Meanwhile she had a relationship with her friend's brother that ended about six years ago. They met at the party and exchange plesantaries. So when the party was about to end, she realised that it was late for her to go home. So she told her friend she will need somewhere to sleep till the following day.The friend gave her a room in their house.

She did not tell me she was going to the party because she knew i will object since i have been complaining on the rate she attend parties. She said she had slept when and suddenly she realised that somebody lied beside her and was caressing her. She got up and resisted but at that time he realised that the guy (who was the former boyfriend) had locked the door, kept the key and increase volume of the radio. She said there was nothing she could do and the guy slept with her.

She later realised after some weeks that she is pregnant and long before then she had been warned not to abort any pregnancy. Now she is begging for forgiveness that she did not do it intentionally and that she can't marry somebody she does not love.

So where do i go from here. She begged me to be patient with her till she delivers.

If you are in my shoe, what will you do. Please i need your candid advise and not abuse please. It is a serious matter and i plead that you should not take it with levity at all.

Thank you.

Urbino:
Hello. I want to preface this by saying this is not one of those silly stories where the writer asks what to do at the end like some dullard. I know what to do and I've done it already. Just doing this to get some closure. I'm also going to change a few details to remain anonymous. Here goes

I met a young lady back when I was in school some five six years ago. She was really pretty and intelligent and we both played the same sport. I really liked her. We hung out from time to time. Nothing serious. I had a girlfriend then and I did some major playing. Had a few bucks and not too bad looks.
I always fantasized about this girl but for some reason I never asked her out. Initially I told myself it's because I was saving her for something much more serious but eventually I guess it was due to fear of rejection. I never asked her out till I graduated. But we still hung out a few times. Then I went for service. She was on bbm and we would chat quite frequently. I even hinted somehow that I was coming back to where she was basically because I wanted us to be together but she would just laugh. Subconsciously I never believed she would accept if I asked her out.

Now let me take you a few years back to understand the rest of the story. I've been in love once before. Never worked out. Wrecked me emotionally. But when it comes to flings, my friends come to me for advice. I know how to play the game to a perfection. But it's all a mental game. Not an emotional one.

Okay now I'm back from service, got a job shortly afterwards and a decent apartment. She came to my office a few times and we hung out. Up to this point I've not told her explicitly I wanted to date her but I was assuming we'll just blossom into a relationship. Problem was we never saw each other frequently. Maybe once in two months and I didn't call so often. Not because I didn't care.

Now to the beginning of the end. I called her one nonspecific day and we blabbed about nothing and suddenly I don't remember how but I told her I really liked her. I was not prepared for her response. She told me she's been in love with me for five years and what took me so long. She got all emotional and started crying. We rescheduled the call.
Now this is where my demon starts. I become so emotional I couldn't control myself. I would call everyday and send tacky messages. I tried to arrange a meeting but she always refused. Eventually we saw. I told her to her face I was in love with her and bla bla. She looked at me without any affect. It was really cold. Then she said 'did you expect me to say something'
I was befuddled. I couldn't understand what was happening. I would call her everyday afterwards and send messages, despite my tight schedule. She never called back nor replied. I got exasperated and asked her what the problem was. She said she was processing. That was where it ended. She became cold and distant. Not replying my messages and sounding like I was bugging her. On her birthday I offered to take her out. No reply. Send a birthday message, no reply.
That was when I actually realise how crazy I've been. I knew all my moves in reality were against the code of courting but they came from a part of my heart I had never explored. But I had crucified every bit of my self respect and I think I'm done. I deleted her number because the urge to call her was too much(luckily I hadn't memorised it). It's been about a week now. She's not called. I stalk her Facebook page but she's not so active there. I can't see another girl because I found she's everything I want in a lady. I know it'll take 3 months to heal but everyday is so painful. Perhaps I was a coward for not letting her know sooner I don't know. But every night I dream that she calls me and tells me she loves me too. I know this isn't going to happen and I'll probably never find someone I'll love that much. But I'll find someone.
I'm pretty sure no one would read this this typing it out actually feels a little good

onila:


u see why I wanna marry a chubby man
so I wont have skinny sons

only skinny girls are fine

SexyCeline:
It's simply the disgust feeling of not being hot enough.. Btw no guy can see me and go after my friends unless i sanction it.

Seandexter:
This story has gone on for too long and it has taken its toll on me. I have been on and off with this girl for a while now. Nothing official though. I am based in jand and she in naija (uni lag). We met in naija and exchanged details. She came to jand on hols and we hooked up. I made the mistake of coming on too strong for sex early on and which apparently turned her off and we argued a lot on this. But this babe still dey come see me and i dey take her out and spent on her but we just kissed couple of times despite me wanting more. When she left i actually had a breakdown. It felt like her rejecting my sexual advances was like me getting slapped mentally. I eventually moved on and dated after that which she was aware of. She tried to come around when i was naija again but didn't let her as i was dating.

Me and my GF broke up and suddenly i am thinking of her again (to be fair i never really stopped). We reconnected and started talking again. She claims she likes me but cannot jump into anything due to me knowing some of her family members and our fight history. But she still comes around a lot n we talked nearly everyday. we make out, fingered her once but she won't let me go further. She still managed to bill me while doing all this. Now i am back in jand and i have let her know she is just taking advantage of my feelings for her. We aint talking right now. I still feel that she has the edge on me or something. I feel down on it which is why i keep going back i guess. The question is how do i break this hold? I know have sex right?? but i think she also knows this and is playing her cards right.

Also the chick says she likes me a lot but think she is just playing me cos why would u like a guy and not have sex with him after all this while. She is not a virgin and she is probably sexual active. I don't know why but for some reason i feel cheated. Everyone is telling me to move on now that this is taken too much out of me. Everytime you and this babe have anything u end up feeling bad. I am just confused cos moving on means losing and no way to recoup the investment made. I know i sound cheap or rude but i am just saying it now as i feel.

CHoccolaTE:
My dear Scorpios are not moody, they are just being EXTREMELY observant and watching out for your weak points so they can't strike at it whenever they feel slighted.
And yes, their double standards is mind blowing. A Scorpio will tell you off, criticize you and walk all over your feelings and expect you to take it without complaining but woe betide you if you try even a third of what they do to do. They will embark on an endless mission of revenge to destroy your life completely and watch with pleasure as you suffer.
I avoid those people like the Bleep.iing bubonic plague.

Rep042:
Wow,nairaland family section is indeed a big family. Thank you all for your comments ,advice and suggestions.

I have already accepted all the blames,it was my mistakes,but then,there's no perfect human.

I will like to correct an impression that most posters had,though,it may not be necessary,but I will just have to say it so as to keep the record straight.
I'm financially independent of my wife, I pay all the bills at home, I only allowed her assist me when I had some financial challenges and that was immediately after our trad, I have since bounced back,
plz ,be guided that what I earn in a month,my wife earns same in 4 months or more.Thank You.

dude no one cares about how much you make... we are only worried for your safety. It seems like you are not prepared to leave this woman from your lack of acknowledgement. I just hope it works out well for you and we are not stuck here reading your obituary soon

jomile:
ask d rejected ladies

badoolee:
I don't know how it fels to be rejected

Famouspecky: GIRLS GO CRAZY IN THE NAME OF TRYING TO BE SEXY, BUH THEN WHAT IS THE DEFINITION OF

SEXY.

buttchick: People have a lot of reasons why they don't say 'yes' to a date or relationship. Or sometimes when they seem uneasy and fidgety on a date. Here are a few things that I find very irritating:

Bad english: I mean, like seriously, will it kill you to brush up yourselves? People get private tutors now you know. No one needs to know. I'm not saying that you should now be speaking through your nose like some mumu wey think say that sh*t makes them seem posh. Tufiakwa! Ile eko Agba is there now. Imagine on a date, and you just want to duck with the kind of blunders that's coming out of his/her mouth. Well, sometimes I just switch to the local language. But it annoys me.

Attention seekers: these people will call, text, email like a crazy person. I find it hard to even pick up my phone to answer calls, now imagine being called severally. It's not "I'm into you" ,dude, it's called "lame ass loser get a flipping job!" a correct guy doesn't have to be a pest to get her on a date. So we went on a date, it doesn't mean you have a free pass to invade my phone!!!!

Name droppers: these ones will start dropping names like that's supposed to get him into the pants faster. I don't get it. most times they don't even know these people they are talking about. It's either they are friends with the distant cousin who buys boxers from their store or they
work at the guy's branch office as an office assistant. Like, i'm on a date with you and all you want to talk about are people I don't even give sh*t about? I'm so gonna walk out on you.

That's me, now up to you. What pisses you off?