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Sending all my girls a gift basket. Already booked my flight outta town

To be honest. I am the same way as that guy and the reason is because I do not want to be in a committed relationship. Take my word for it that guy is being nice to you by reducing his level of emotional commitment so you should do the same

chai... I used to be a real ABF. Now if you no direct me to #9, I no dey send you anymore.

JackieMay:
I'm still looking for a guy that's 6 feet tall, cute, not fat, not necessarily with 6 packs, not necessarily rich, but not a parasite biko, sweet, charming, romantic, faithful, calm, smart, fun. and must speak at least three foreign languages. interested candidates, please apply

I am down to apply but what does your resume look like?

Gbadegesin19:
I'm a single dude in his early 20s, met this girl last year n fell hard for her... I like her like Donald trump likes rubbish. Anyways, I asked her out over n over again but she declined.
My Friends are telling me to give her enough space but the trouble is I really like her.

When I first her, I liked her as a friend n overtime we became very compatible in all ramifications. I really don't mind not dating her even though it's what I want, I just can't help it... I really like her n can't keep away from her.

Guys abeg, should I just free the babe or not... Well I've tried leaving but something takes me baq to her

Move on dude. We've all been there. You know how many girls wey done friendzone me upon sey I be fine boy

I see what you did there

Oliviaarims:
It's really ridiculous, but I've heard such stories before. Some women really do think it's "sexy" to be beaten up.

Honestly, that psychology beats me,.

There was never any love to begin with. Its time you leave before Nairaland hears stories that touch the heart.

uniqueB:
Got married to my husband three years ago and some months, but my three years of marital bliss is nothing but confusion...

I met him on Facebook in 2008 and we met in person late 2011 and we got married in February 2013, but the person I thought I knew was a total stranger.. After our marriage I got to know my hubby do bed wet, but I take it with a good fate and started praying along with him.

I gave birth to my son August 2013, after the birth of my son, my loving husband started his fornication in 3d without control, I pray I begged, and even fought with him to tell me what am doing wrong but all these led to him beating the hell out of me, leaving me with bruises...

In Dec 2014, I caught him with a secret phone with over 50 contact which is only female contact from Eskimi dating site and some other place...I was very hurt so will had a big fight over it, but later settled... but after everything there is this particular lady that my hubby refused to let go, for the reason known to them, he flaunts their relationship in a coded way but I do find out...the problem now is any time I confront my hubby with this girl's issue, he will deny it and even curse myself if he has anything to do with her..anytime we had any disagreement now first thing he says is I should leave him and go..

I'm really confused, is it man ego or there is no love left in my marriage?. This is the man I accepted in his darkest moment and I still keep my mouth shut abt his bedwetting thingz..pls note: we are still struggling to move forward, so money is not involved o...my son spent last term at home coz of money..

A but guilty of this. You have a particular friend in mind and I say it because I have been asked by two female friends. The truth is most of the women who my female friends think are 'great' are not really great but I am not going to talk shit behind their backs. Also I prioritize my career and making money which means my time and I am not sorry for it

layla129:
Have you ever seen a male friend push a great woman away?
Some men want a relationship and are usually happier when they are in one...but here is where it gets tricky. They like to love but have you ever noticed they seem afraid of it too
Have a friend with a great job, good looking, incredibly smart but he has a problem and don't know how to solve it...he could be caring, cool, aloof, critical and distant . He eventually pushed his girlfriend away with this attitude. He doesn't like that about himself but can't help it....he just doesn't know why.

why do some men mess things up? what are they scared of

Ask for an open marriage

NigeriaPresident:
Just read about a fool who killed and buried his friend for beeping his wife. I don't know why some men are just silly enough to commit crime just because he caught his wife cheating..

IF YOU CAUGHT YOUR WIFE CHEATING, WHAT WILL YOU DO??

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My Answer:: If I caught my wife cheating either with my friend, my older brother, my younger brother or any man in this world, all I will do is to Leave the spot immediately. No talking, no explanation cause this things will surely rise your anger.. The man is not at fault once he did not rape my wife.

Now, I expect the woman to pack her things without even telling her to do so. I don't give second chance to woman who cheat on me. THEN WE WILL ALL BE LEAVING PEACEFULLY. Female population don pass Male population. Nah to start bleeping other girl go remain for my mind. Others will suffer her sins. I REST MY CASE
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Illiterate and intelligent are not antonyms op . You should say educated

Your ex sounds very much like me with the last girl I dated and no I am not gay . I just wasn't feeling the girl. Also not hating gay people does not make you gay

hello guys,
i dated this guy for three months plus before he finally called off the relationship early this month. we met in January through a friend, we hit it off and got talking, fast forward to 6 months, he finally asked me out.. but i noticed he wont call (He can go on for a week without calling me, sometimes when i call he wont pick nor return the call, i practically always leave a "please call me back" message before he will eventually return my missed calls), most times i do the calling and chatting.. it just felt like he wasnt emotionally involved in the relationship and whenever i confronted him about communication, he would tell me that that's how he was structured and that he might not change, i asked him severally if there was anything fundamentally wrong as i was ready to help him through it, he claimed nothing was wrong.

I had a no sex policy when we started dating which he agreed to and we talked about the extent we were going to go to with romance..while this was what i truly wanted, i noticed that he never ever asked me for sex (normally i have a hard time convincing guys who have interest in me that there will be no sex in the relationship), he never ever spoke about it which was very strange and not because he is all religious.. what made my fears more profound is the fact that when i brought up a topic about gays, he was all defensive about them, saying that gays are not disturbing people from living their life and that he had nothing against any law being signed into Nigeria legalizing gay rights. I also showed him a funny video where gay activities were being made fun of, while i was laughing all through the video , he on the other hand didnt laugh, all he said was 'what is the business of the person who made the video, how are the gays disturbing him"..i was shocked to say the least but i never confronted him. He also told me about some weird people in his life, one of his friends based abroad who doesnt want anything to do with any lady and never wants to get married, and one of his cousins who just wants a contract marriage where the lady would just have kids and she will be paid off.. He also said that if he was to get married, his wife to be must sign a pre-nup before marriage in case of any eventuality.. i never understood what he meant by that

to cut the long story short he broke up with me because he said he cannot give me the kind of attention i wanted, which was calling and communicating with me regularly. i have searched and searched myself to see if i ever did anything wrong..all i did was love him with my heart, i called most of the times, i went to see him virtually every weekend, in our three months of dating we never went out as a couple, the birthday gift which i bought for him, he never bothered to open up till the time we broke up.

so i have decided that it is safe to assume that he is gay.. oh i forgot to add that he only dated one girl before me and the girl left because he wasnt given her attention(that's what he told me)... and he never let me freely access his phone all the while we dated.. he was either always on his phone chatting or plugged.. and i felt like i couldnt touch the phone....so what do you guys really think??

Lol going by this list I am never getting married Ni wahala

Mzdivacious:
The way some guys act clearly indicate that they
will end up as chronic headache for their wives in
the nearest future if care is not taken.
I can’t really blame guys who are involved in the
act of humiliating ladies in public and online
because these ladies in question must have
torment their heart but going to the extent of
destroying their intrinsic values is the major
concern here.
Therefore let’s take a look at signs that indicate
a guy will become an irresponsible husband.

1. Extremely stingy
Some guys are so stingy to the extent that they
can’t call their girlfriends for just 1minute in a
day. The only time they call for long period is
during free night calls or bonus awarded from
telecom providers. If they call for 30secs, they will
hang up and later explain through whatsapp/BBM
that it was network failure.

2. Highly promiscuous
This issue is common to perverts who has never
zipped up for once in their life by chasing every
tom and harry in skirt. These are the kinds that
will eventually become sugar daddy, chasing
ladies who are young enough to be their daughter
in future.

3. Very lazy
Some guys are so idle to the extent that they
have no goal, vision and purpose in life. They are
just too lazy to seize opportunities around them
as they are only seen in betting shops like
nairabet, etc. to make money.

4. Ridicule ladies
I hate when a guy beat or disgrace his girlfriend
in public just because she hangs out with a guy. I
consider this as a dysfunctional act because a
man in making will not stoop so low to involve
himself in this thrash. Meanwhile on nairaland
some consider all ladies as whores of which we
still have the rare and good ones like mhizkel,
prettythicksme, redgem, aminat508, midehi,
adeh39 and others.

5. Habit of alcoholism and smoking
For a guy that consume too much alcohol and
smoke probably in the bid to control his anger is
not a man. Such guys cannot become
responsible husbands to their wives because they
can use children’s school fee and other budgetary
money to drink and smoke.

6. Wrong lifestyle
Some guys rock and roll with the wrong peer
groups who have influence them to have
shameful lifestyles like yahoo yahoo occupation,
rape gangs and area touts.

7. Careless attitude
The way some guys behave can be likened to a
voracious animal. They dump and change ladies
like sanitary pads as they care less about their
emotion by suggesting abortion for any sex
journey that becomes foetus.

8. Poor financial planning
Some guys blow money like trumpet without
thinking about future investment. They spend
their money on vague things like phones,
prostitutes, etc. Such guys will eventually become
an irresponsible husband.

9. Bad listening habit: most guys have this habit
and it results in ineffective communication, which
usually have an adverse impact on the
productivity of the individual and their
relationships. Poor listening definitely make a
huge, negative impact on team morale and
productivity. This situation usually results in
conflicts and misunderstandings among partners ,
and it creates a negative environment.

10. Lack of Self control : some guys lack the
ability to control their emotions, behavior, and
desires. Guys should constantly be striving
towards self-control and discipline, because these
are foundations of integrity. One thing they need
to understand about self-control is that it is not
as much about saying no to certain fleshly
desires, lusts
and cravings but more about living and abundant
life free from addiction regret and shame.

11. Interrupting a conversation: guys are good at
Interrupting a conversation with improper body
language or inappropriate words and this has a
negative impact on their relationships. My bf does
this a lot and it annoys me… I’ve told him
severally yet, he can’t stop it.

12. Dirty: some guys are so dirty that if they
should pass you, oh my God! you won’t be able
to breathe for hours and most of them term it
sexy…. Imagine animal odour is now sexy ta…go
and sleep it’s a turn off to we ladies.. We love
guys that are neat, guys that organizes their
home.
13. Bragging : some guys brag a lot eg MrCork I
have no problem with a guy having money.
However, I do have a problem when you decide to
treat women like gold-diggers whose eyes are
bound to widen at the mention of “Bugatti”. Yes,
we like money, just like you men, but that doesn’t
mean you should also shout it…. Brags are a turn
off for me

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I don't usually have sex and when I do it it's painful hahaha. lol she no no say I no be learner. Leave am now she's trying to get back with me. I hate women who try to be manipulative

i guess too much of everything is not good. she probably already moved in with the side dude

mizquote:
A player is any guy who chases ladies with the aim of tasting her 'cookie'.

they re top signs of a player.

¶∆¶. he leaves long nails.

¶∆¶. he uses the 'F' word often.


¶∆¶. his phone password is usually a sentence.


¶∆¶. he picks imaginary objects from ur body.


¶¶¶. he teases and compliments your body shape.


¶°¶. he ask for your pant and bra size.


¶∆¶. he demands for your nudes.


¶∆¶. he doesn't respond or pick ur calls at night.


¶¶¶. he invites you to his house and make sexual advances.


¶×¶. he calls you pet names.


¶•¶. he always discuss sex and not marriage.



¶¶•••×¶°•°. and...dahs all.

It sounds like one bad guy played and left you and you are just listing his attributes. Truth is you'll never know a real player till you have been gamed or you would never have been played

hilaomo:
I go try...just hope say dem no go put "DUDE COMMITS SUICIDE AFTER BEING JILTED BY A GIRL HE SPENT HIS TUITION FEE ON" on FP,some time from now.

lol op we are very similar people. People call us 'stingy' but I would call us cautious. It isn't that I don't care it's that I have seen friends and family members get 'taken' by their 'boy/girlfriends' and so when I spend its got to be for a reason and within my budget. I also honestly hate the logic where because we have sex I have to give money like we aren't enjoying it together. I'd honestly just get olosho at least then I don't have to include emotional commitment.

I have had the same problem you are having. And honestly the best solution is communication . Like some people previously stated it may not just be about the money but the fact that she feels you only like/hit her up for sex so if you are truly invested in the relationship you can try to appreciate her in other ways..

WiLdFLame:
do you enjoy it? if not would you want to be unattractive(ugly) because of the problems you have had as a result of being handsome? in ith how do you feel in a relationship with a pretty lady? intimidated? with an ugly lady how do you feel? i know some suya-seller vulture will come here now forming porshe, forming finest...well make we hear ur voice

apparently not 'dateable'haha but man must chop

nevi12:
Sweetie let dem argue all dey want buh we both knw being frend zoned is totally d gurls decision

lol i don't know about that gt about three friendzoned female friends an yeah i have been friendzoned twice before

RealSleek:
it is wrong so wrong for women to get jealous...a queen should know when to allow her king to sow his royal oats

Gbam!! Abeg carry like

in this economy? It's seems like Ashi is cheaper than having a girlfriend and you are not even sure if your girlfriend is yours alone

esthersolomon00:
But I wish our society could see things through this same perspective too

Op I know it's difficult but the harder you fight the more depressed you'll be and you'll end up sad and breaking someone else heart. It's hard to be accepted in the Nigerian society for who you are so you have the choice to either leave or Live your life not giving a Bleep

pbs4real:
nah u and this guy dey dre shey? Am calling a lawyer

She is all yours man

Op do you feel happy doing it? If you do carry on... It's your life to live . We can't tell you how to live. My instinct tells me you posted here because you don't really feel comfortable with it

Kasimaramma2:
I know this post would provoke many Nls but i dont care.
When i was younger i dated a guy for three months he left me for my friend because i was not perfect and quiet immature. For two years the sore remained.
It was an inception of a new ideology ;that people who claim they are in love Stick with you when the grasses are in green and when they have something to gain.
I decided to follow that thread,date only wealthy guys. Yes, i was rejected because i had no perfection so i decided to use the same standard used on me by the guy who broke my heart on other fellows.
God understands my past pain so he is no furious with me for sapping guys financially and dumping them. My reason? I was hurt so i have to hurt.

sinaj:
lol xo if u were my husband u will blive me huh

As fine as you are.. Do I really have a choice

sinaj:
Itz not a selfie but a timed camera

Lolol nice try...

Wait so who took the picture? It's not a selfie.. Ina think say you get sense...

sinaj:
I will simply tell him I bought d shoes for him nd can't wait for him to come bak nd try it on







Naija babe's no de dull na

Your username make sense!!

Please let this man be! You are not really in love with him you are in love with the idea of him. If you were really in love you wouldn't even notice his eyes were crossed trust me. A relationship based on trying to change someone never works because when your ideal person comes along you are going to want to move on... So just let it go. There are beauty queens in love with classically attractive me. And they don't give a Bleep neither are they trying to change them

pinkiberry:
I met this guy that has been my friend for long on social network. we chat,I liked his ways and fell in love. he is cute,tall n handsome but there is a problem. he has crossed eyes (Strabismus)I mean half past 4 eyes. it's not too obvious but that was the first thing I noticed when I met him. am really worried cos I love him and our relationship may end up in marriage. I don't know if I should continue dating him. but please I want to know if Strabismus is hereditary? and can you marry a person that have Strabismus?

pls be sincere with your replies.

^^^you guys need to calm down lol. Let's play fair

What's the famous song again? "Dis ballads Go put you for trouble..."

Bruh I was once in your shoes. I had low self confidence tried my best but women always tried to friendzone me because I was always so nice and then I realized that a lot of women can smell the weakness from a mile away. I don't know of any women that want to be with a 'yes man' and so I hit the gym started taking care of myself sports, stuff I was interested in and gradually built my confidence. Never ever help someone because you want to gain something from them help them only when you have the ability to and out of your free will and women won't take your for a 'nice guy'

Godswillnwaoma:
It seems to me that I,m a nice guy especially to ladies, th because of my family background a well dedicated Christian family. It often happens when I.m asking a girl out, at this time my nice guy character will just automatically start to show up. For instance there is this girl I was trying to woo for the past few months, though she was a jambite and she put my school as first choice. As a nice guy wey I be I provides her with all the information she needs from what to read for the exam to and exam date etc. I also encourages and motivated her during those times she was preparing for the exam. As God did it she was admitted on first list. I congratulate her. So yesterday I remind her of my intention of dating her still this girl say NO. As often time when I read some topics here on romance section I saw many posts that says girls don't date nice guys that they love bad guy and nice guys finish last.so that reminds of me of my ex gf who broke up wit me with no tangible reason which I thought could be that I was too nice to her. So my friends I.m no saying that I want to be bad guy just because of girls. no no no far from it.I will continue to be a nice guy to my fellow guys. But as for girls I want to know how I will stop being nice to them. Your comments and contributions will highly be appreciated. Moderator pls help me push this to the front page cus I need advice form nairalanders

Omo brother e get one kind smell wet go come ooze sotay your third leg go just relax... D babe go set ask are you not attracted me. Na b.. I can't stand you

odinese:
No one even mentioned it in this thread, some are blindfolded with all kind of p*ssies.?

When it happened to me, after that day bro, that was the end of our relationship....but if they see u acting strange in whr they are, they starts crying ( ( saying after the smelly sex he dumbed me) not knowing the kind of pain they've caused to the innocent guy.lol