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MAN KNOW THYSELF...The three basic needs of a man.

It is important to know that the man is designed to give love. Hence the bible says husband love your wives as Christ loves the church. A man may not necessary need love the way a woman does but he needs something else which to him is greater than love and that is the first primary need of a man which is called RESPECT. This is the need that propels him to show love in an unusual way. Ephesians 5:33.

The first primary need of a man is respect; A man values respect, no matter how much you claim to love him, if you do not respect him then that love is nothing, your respecting him is interpreted as love to him. Please this kind of respect does not mean kneeling down before him or saying SIR! SIR! all the time, this respect is fulfilled when the woman reminds him of his capabilities and help him to maintain his self esteem, to her he should be the richest, the most hard working, the most handsome. She should be proud of her husband not out of duty but as an expression of sincere admiration for the man she has chosen to spend the rest of her life with. A man needs the woman to value his accomplishments no matter how small. Now if a woman meets this primary need of a man the man will do anything just to love and please her, it will help the man to even work harder. Don't you know that a man telling a man that he tried will make only a little impact, but when a woman tells a man that he tried then that man's ego is boosted.

The second primary need of a man is recreational companionship; Where the woman needs conversation the man needs recreational companionship. The man needs the woman to watch football or any other games with him sometimes. He wants the woman to share his sporting and recreational ideas, if he like computers, he wants the woman to like it too. Now the woman may not really like it but if you can just show him that you like it a little, show him that you like the games he likes or the things he likes to do in his leisure time. If you don't like his sporting activities or recreational activities, any girl that likes it may win his heart a little.

The third need of a man is sex; Please note that this is for the married. Where the woman needs affection, a man needs sex. He needs it because he is principally a driver, he is always ready, he likes the event of sex, while the woman is more interested in the environment, like romance, hugs, holds, touch and kisses. The man must learn to meet the need of his wife by satisfying her romance appetite then she will offer him the best sex ever. Husbands please don't think your wife reacts to sex the way you do, she reacts differently so take out time to show her enough affection first, through texts, calls, gifts, hugs, kisses. Please note that these are only primary needs. bb PIN 21322745.

IT IS ACTION TIME...FAITH, IF IT IS WITHOUT WORKS IS ALREADY DEAD, WORKS, IF IT IS WITHOUT FAITH IS DEAD ALSO.

I greet you in the name of Jesus Christ. I have been sent by God to stir up the faith you already have, I am here to redefine hope so as to help your understanding of faith. Hebrews 11:1 says, that Now, faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen. Many people operate hope but think they are living by faith. So they end up frustrated and confused. Hope is saying; that you believe God will do it some day, hope is saying you are believing God. But faith is to believe God has done it and take a corresponding step to prove that you truly believe He has done it. So faith must leave the confession realm to the action realm to produce result. If for example you believe your handset is under your table, wont you bend down to pick it up. You will because you believe it is there, so also if you believe you have gotten that healing and miracle, you will act like you have been healed. If you believe that you have gotten that breakthrough you will act in accordance. Applying actions to what you believe will not be a problem if you can see it, but by faith's principle you have to believe first, even when you cannot see anything. 2nd Corinthians 5:7.

The word of God is settled on all issues, so your faith must be on the word of God that has been settled, not on just anything or any man. Hope is only a substance, while faith is the evidence. Please understand this; You have been wired and programed by God to live by faith and not by sight, you have been wired by God to believe first in your heart before you see it in your hand. If the president of a nation promises to give you a car tomorrow, you will believe him because you know his capacity and ability. But when you doubt God, it is because you do not know the capacity of God; God is the President of presidents, the entire Earth belongs to Him, He owns the silver and the gold, the heart of every man is in His hand, He knows the end of a thing right from the beginning, He knows you will read this message on this day and at this time. So you see, to believe God is to your own advantage because, even if the president had promised you a car, if God says no, he will still not give you the car. Who is He that says a thing and it comes to pass, when the LORD GOD has not commanded it. Lamentations 3:37. Beloved, rejoice, because God has commanded your breakthrough even before you were born, go for that interview, you have gotten that job, go for that medical test, H.I.V positive has become negative even before you were born, go back to that place where you were rejected, you shall be accepted. If only you can believe all things are possible to him that believes. Be blessed, I await your testimony. BB PIN 21322745.

WOMAN KNOW THYSELF...UNDERSTANDING THE THREE BASIC NEEDS OF A WOMAN.

I will advice every man to read this short message, this will enhance your relationship as a single or as a married man. You need to understand the basic needs of a woman.

The first basic need of a woman is LOVE; A woman needs love just as the way she needs the air she breathes, she was programed by God to receive love, God designed her this way. she needs love, A man may buy her a house, an expensive car and she will not still be satisfied if you don't tell her that you love her, she wants to feel loved, she becomes scared if you become too busy to tell her that you love her.

The Second thing a woman need is conversation; She needs somebody that will listen to her, she needs a man to spend time with her just to listen to her, she needs someone to talk with. Not just talk to but talk with. She may not really like being alone, that is why she always talk. Husbands, if you shower your wife with all that she needs but if you are not there from time to time to discuss with her, she may look for someone else to fill that space. It is not that she does not love you, she does, but she needs conversation.

The third basic need of a woman is affection; She needs affection, not sex, but affection. She wants a man to hold her hands, she wants a man to hold the door for her as she enters a place, she wants a man to help her carry heavy luggages, she wants a man to hug her, but the problem is that a man may start thinking that she wants sex, she does not, she just want a show of affection. So please understand the need of your wife and she will help you to meet your own need. Now watch out for " MAN KNOW THYSELF" coming out almost immediately. BB PIN 21322745.

GOD IS A MISTAKE CONVERTER. HE CAN TURN ANY MISTAKE INTO A MIRACLE.

Beloved I like to introduce one side of God to you. Many are however unaware of this ability of God. In addition to everything that God is, He is also the MISTAKE CONVERTER. He knows that as humans we sometimes make mistakes, but He converts our mistakes to a miracle so that it will not be a waste of time. He does this because He hates wastes, Even our errors can become a mirror for others, also how we come out of a mistake can also inspire others in same condition. So my beloved, mistakes can be used as a yardstick to your rising.

Even if God converts mistakes to miracles, Romans 8:28 says why and when God does that. Not everybody enjoys this privilege. And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God and to those that are walking in His purpose.Romans 8:28.(Paraphrased by me). Do you love God? are you living your life for JESUS CHRIST? Unless you love God and you are living for Jesus, that mistake may be irrecoverable. So start living for Jesus and that mistake will suddenly begin to work for your good.

Another way through which mistakes becomes miracles is if you have learnt from that mistake.You will keep making the same mistake unless you learn your lesson.Have you learnt your lesson?

As the LORD lives,every mistake you have made and learnt from will work together for your good in JESUS PRECIOUS name. BB PIN IS 21322745

Jesus left heaven, came to the earth, stayed for a while then went to the cross, from the cross He went straight to the grave and from the grave, He went back to heaven giving us the Holy Spirit to remain with us, till He comes back again to take us with Him.

Lord Jesus I thank you for the cross, I and everyone reading this message glorify you for what you did on the cross of calvary. In fact you finished everything on the cross. John 19:30. You made us rich on the cross, you forgave all our sins on the cross, you healed all our sicknesses and diseases on the cross, you delivered us from the kingdom of darkness on the cross, you perfected everything that concerns us on the cross, you gave us a new name on the cross, you gave us our inheritance on the cross, you made us joint heirs of all things with you on the cross, you gave us your everlasting mercy on the cross. If you had not finished everything you would not have said so, you would not have resurrected on the third day. You resurrected because you had completed all, you will not start a thing without completing it. You gave us joy and peace on the cross. LORD you healed that incurable disease on the cross. But O LORD! there is a devil that don't want us to know what you did at all, that devil pollutes our minds with what is not real, yes he can generate symptoms and confusions but we have peace and solutions in you. You have done all for us, but if we dont live by the word we may not see all. So today, I and everyone reading this message will do all in the scriptures. Thank You Jesus For There Is Already A Turn Around, what YOU did on the cross is becoming real in Jesus name. BB PIN 21322745.

YOU MUST LEAVE MARCH TO CLEAVE TO APRIL.(READ WHAT GOD IS SAYING TO YOU FOR THE MONTH OF APRIL)

The month of march was a month of marching out, the month of april is a month of marching in. In other for you to enter a place you must leave the previous place. No matter how good the month of march was for you, the month of April is better, no matter how bad the month of march was, the month of April is better. Abraham had to leave His previous place to enter His super prosperous place. Moses had to leave Egypt to be able to deliver Israel out of Egypt. You are changing level, UPWARD AND FORWARD in the month of april.Proverbs 4:18. You have no other place to go than to go forward. I see miracle jobs, contracts, marriages, miracle babies, healings, restorations, I can see you succeeding beyond your expectations. I can see abundance, I can see reconciliation. God is about to do something better in your life. Ephesians 3:20.

You are marching out of the level of management to the level of abundance. But you must leave poverty to cleave to prosperity, you must leave lack to cleave to abundance, you must leave sicknesses and diseases to cleave to divine health, you must leave disappointment, you must leave your previous blessings to cleave to higher blessing, you must leave march to cleave to april, you must leave your past to cleave to the future. Are you ready to leave that lack and want lifestyle? are you ready to leave that level of just having enough to eat and to live on, YOU ARE MEANT TO BE LENDING TO NATIONS. In the month of April, you shall become the way God sees you. You shall be the head and not the tail. You are leaving the borrowing level to the giving level. Everything about you and your family shall change for the better. Be blessed as you enter into your wealthy place in Jesus name. BB PIN 21322745.

ENCOURAGE YOURSELF, THERE IS A WAY OUT, YOU NEED JOY TO SEE AND RECOGNISE IT, YOU NEED JOY TO BE STRENGHTENED TO MOVE ON.

I bring you yet another message of hope. Once your hope is dashed then your joy is stolen. Without joy you will remain on one spot, but this morning AS THE LORD LIVES, the JOY of the LORD will be your strength. There is going to be a transference of the joy of the LORD into your heart. Encourage yourself, it is not over until you give up. Don't give up, your miracle is just around you. But you need joy to see it, you cannot locate the opportunity God has brought your way without joy. God's presence only manifests through joy. Be joyful, encourage yourself, there is a way out, your case cannot be closed, God is working something out. And as you begin to rejoice, you will begin to see the way out and you will also receive strength to take that bold step. I see everything working together for your good today in Jesus Name.John 16:33. BB PIN IS 21322745.

Thanksgiving is the most powerful force on Earth,It changes your situation for the better without you knowing.

If there is one principle that will always work, it is the force of THANKSGIVING. Prayers will only be answered if done with thanksgiving.Philippians 4:6. Miracles take place on the platform of genuine thanksgiving to God not just when He does something, but at all times. This is because God is always watching over your back. That situation could have been worse if not for God.

Thank Him at all times and in all situation because of a truth no matter how bad a situation is,God can change it. For instance God can raise the dead through thanksgiving, Lazarus died and after four days, Jesus gave thanks and he came back to life, a little boys lunch multiplied and was used to feed above 5000 people with 12 baskets remaining. This happened because Jesus gave thanks with understanding.John 11:40-44, John 6:4-13.

You have not gotten that job yet, why not thank God that you are qualified at least you went to school. Thank God for the interview you were called for, even if you didn't get the job, thank God that at least you can be married even if you are not yet married. If you are sick,thank God that it is not incurable and that you are still alive, if that sickness is incurable thank God that it is still HEALABLE with God. Thank God for life, thank God that you can still see, you can still talk, you can still move and you are still alive. Once there is life there is hope. When one door closes against you, thank God that another one is about to be opened. Do you know one striking testimony in the bible, Jesus healed ten lepers and only one returned to say thank you and he was made whole. That means that man's body was fully restored as if he was never leprous. Practice how to thank God, let it become your most obvious habit. As you begin to thank God for where you are, I see God taking you to where you ought to be in Jesus Precious name. The next thing that will happen to you after reading this message is a testimony.REJOICE. BB PIN 21322745.

GOD IS SENDING HELP YOUR WAY TODAY. HOW TO RECOGNISE IT WHEN IT COMES.

It is so important to note that God sends help your way everyday. Psalm 68:19, but the problem is that you fail to see it or recognise it when it comes. By privilege and grace via this short message I shall be showing you how to recognise your help when it comes.

The reason why you do not recognise the helps from God is because you are looking up to man. No man can help you except God first helps you. God is the source, while every other person or thing or event is merely a channel. If God sees that you are looking up to the man who is just a channel, He will withdraw the help or delay it. Because if the man does it, you will give glory to that man. Jeremiah 17:5-8. This is why even when you were so close to your breakthrough you missed it. Do not see any man as your helper, rather see them as channels. God is the source. Psalm 46:1. He is the very present help in times of trouble.

Beloved, If you must see God's help today then you must not look up to man, no matter their promises, look up to God, He can use people, things, policies and events to give you that help. But let it be that you are looking up to Him.

You can also facilitate God's help to reach you on time today by helping others. When you see a need that you can meet please meet it and God will meet yours. I SEE GOD'S HELP REACHING YOU ON TIME TODAY IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME. Amen.
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HOW TO FORGIVE AND FORGET FOR GOOD.

Many people forgive but not everybody forgets, you may think you have forgotten the issue, but until you see the person in contention or the place of the event and you no longer feel bitter, you have not truly forgotten.

Forgiveness is not complete without forgetting. You need to forget as a proof that you have truly forgiven. But How You May Ask?

You cannot truly forget as you cannot delete the event from your memory. That betrayal, heart break, disappointment will always be in your memory. But you can change the way you now see the issue. This is how to truly forget; you must laugh about the issue when you remember it. See it like it happened for the better. You know when Joseph finally forgot what his brothers did to him was when he told them that God arranged the issue so as to take him to Egypt to preserve lives. They thought they were doing him evil but God turned it to good. Genesis 45:5.

Give that person a call to prove that you have forgiven and forgotten, send a text, if you don't know how to reach the person or if the person is dead, you can write an imaginary letter; addressed to the person and burn it. Unforgiveness does more harm to you than your offender. So forgive him or her now, forgive them. You will make tremendous progress today in Jesus precious name.
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YOUR ATTITUDE CAN BE YOUR BEST FRIEND OR IT CAN BE YOUR WORST ENEMY, the choice is yours.

You are responsible for your attitude, while your attitude is responsible for your altitude. That is; how far you will go in life depends largely on your attitude.

Your effort notwithstanding, If you work so hard but have the wrong attitude, you will only be laboring in futility. Attitude is that little key that opens great doors. Attitude is your reaction and action combined. Your attitude is how you see an issue. It is so important because as a man thinks in his heart so is he. Proverbs 23:7.

God asked Abraham to count the stars and the sands on the sea shore, he was checking his attitude. Your perspective about events determines your take home pay in the workshop of life.

For example some people see every little challenge as suffering, while others see challenges as a training ground, preparing them for greatness. Some people see delay as denial, others see it as preparation for a greater testimony. Some people see problems as set backs, others see problems as situations looking for solutions. Some people experience set backs and sit back, others see set backs as a stepping back for a higher jump.

God told Abraham that as far as he could see, he will possess. Jesus urged us to be of good cheer even in the midst of extreme challenges. John 16 :33.

My beloved, your attitude is key if you must possess your possession. Always have the attitude of seeing things from a positive standpoint. If you were not successful in that venture it means you only gathered more lessons for the success of the next venture. So keep smiling, always be joyful. The bible says you should give thanks in all situations, and you should rejoice always. This is just telling you that your life is controlled by your attitude. Be blessed. Philippians 4:4, 1st thessalonians 5:16. BB PIN is 21322745.

Nothing changes without engaging the force of prayers.

Prayer is the key to every change you desire. I don't just mean any kind of prayer but the prayer of faith, not a prayer of fear or uncertainty. It is the kind of prayer you DO with the word of God in your heart expressed through your mouth. 10 minutes is just enough to get the change you desire.

Prayer cannot work without faith. But faith will always work when expressed through prayers. Prayer is giving expression to what you believe. You can pray for something this morning and by the evening you will be thanking God for the testimony.

Prayer is a must, it is compulsory, The Holy Ghost would not have come down without prayers, Jesus prayed and even the disciples tarried and prayed for ten days in the upper room. John 10:16, Acts 2:1-4. Jesus could not have been born without prayers. The bible says a woman named Anna prayed and fasted till He came, also a man named simeon also prayed to see His birth. Luke 2:25-40.

Many people pray, but only few consciously pray the word. The word must be prayed before it will become real. Prophecies don't get fulfilled on their own, they need to be consciously prayed out. 1st Timothy 1:18.

Take out 5 minutes to consciously pray that delayed prophecy about to your life in scriptures to reality. In the name of Jesus Christ, the son of the Living God, you will receive the answers. BB PIN is 21322745

The next worse thing after Hell Fire is a Bad Marriage.

After salvation, the most important choice you will need to make is who to marry. This choice is so important that if you miss it, you will suffer for long, if you get it right then you will enjoy forever. A bad marriage can affect every other area of your life.
This subject is so important, so many married people are hoping to be single again so as to make the right choice. If you are single please don't just be in a hurry to get married, you have the best opportunity to prepare for it.

It is better to be single believing God to be married, than to be married believing God to be single. Two cannot work or live together except they agree. For two people to come together to live in peace and harmony, they must agree spiritually, mentally and physically. Just like an elephant cannot marry an ant so also an believer cannot marry a unbeliever. If an elephant marry an ant how would they live, if a goat marries a fish when would they meet? You must look for a Godly man or a Godly woman to marry, nothing can beat this.

The devil's primary target is the family. He knows that everyone belongs to a family and if he can make two wrong people meet then he has succeeded affecting the community and nations negatively. Ignore your age and the pressure for a moment, the pressure in a wrong marriage is far worse. God has somebody for you but you must set your priorities right. What do you need in a woman? What do you need in a man?

Marriage is not about what you want, it is about who you need, that will make you better while you make him better. It is about destiny. That is why you must know your purpose before you get married. Genesis 2:18.

You must pray before you choose. God knows the best person for you, it is only wise to seek His will. It is very easy to know God's will when sex is not involved. The moment sex is involved and you want to know His will then He will blank you out. Why? Because you have broken His first Law of NO SEX before marriage. Hebrews 13:4.

If you have had sex in the pass then you need to repent totally and stay away from each other for sometime then you can seek the face of God.

Your marriage will not be hell on earth. Your marriage will be honorable in the name of Jesus Christ.

Don't marry for sex, don't marry because you are of age, don't marry because you are getting old, don't marry because you are lonely, don't marry because you need someone to support you financially, don't marry because you mistakenly got pregnant, don't marry because you don't want to lose the person, don't marry because of family pressures, don't marry because you like the idea of marriage and admire every wedding gown you see, don't marry because all your friends are getting married.

But get married because you want to fulfill destiny. Get married because you want to be a help meet. As a man get married because you want to fulfil your purpose. God will help you in choosing wisely in Jesus Name.
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