₦airaland Forum

QMNIX:
I see juvenile delinquency at play; total lack of wisdom. The worst democratic government is better than the best military government. No matter the good intentions that drives the coup.

Johnrake69:
You have made your point but your conclusion was rather unnecessary. And from your statement I couldn't pinpoint how the performance of the civilian government dwarfed that of the military government. Colonization was the challenge of that time. Would you also call Fidel Castro a fool for getting involved in the Decolonization efforts in Africa?

Is it not a shame that we are signing away our future on loans? The civilian government experienced oil booms, what was the money used for? Since you mentioned that the infrastructural development achieved during the military government was as a result of the oil boom.

What exactly do you expect from Youths? When the civilian government has weaponized poverty against the people? And your so called generation did absolutely nothing. Tell me how you expect the youths to take back the country through the electoral process? Sowore has learnt the hard way. You don't change a system by working within the same system because at the end the system will make you conform to it.

In as much as we continue with this current system, there is no election that can produce credible leaders. You can take it to the bank.

kikero:
If only some people tend to forget that Army rule was a really harsh thing.

Stop longing for Army rule. Buhari is not good as a leader, but there are certian things as a civilian ruler that he cannot do, whereas if he was a millitary ruler, he would have passed a decree and backdated it....and done the illegality.

Plus we are in the middle of a war. The last thing we need is a potential cause of instability in the army ranks....as if we don't have enough already.

loneprof:
All I can say is that white garment 'churches' have long been infiltrated and some pentecostal 'churches' are now toeing that path as well, but God will keep exposing evil doers. I just know that no man can deceive this God on judgement day.

The true church of Christ consists of those who worship in spirit and in truth, let everyone keep playing mumbo jumbo...

Built2last:
I have a problem with number 6 and 10.

Why use candle at all when its celestial church of CHRIST. I never came accross an passage in the bible where Jesus told us to light a candle to pray. All churches that use candles or incense are fetish.

The bible is the rule book of christianity

Number 10 you said if you leave and talk harshly bad things may happen to the person. People talk harshly about our Lord Jesus everyday. He doesn't harm them because He is love. If atheists repents and come to Christ, with open arms He receives them. What then is a church that claims to be christ like doing with harshly making things bad for leavers. That's not God.

I have never entered a white garment church before and will never enter one. Their activities do not match what I read in my bible daily.

Your logo contains ONE EYE. You brandish the cross everytime. Jesus is no longer on the cross. He went to the cross not by choice but by Roman soldiers. Why do some churches hold the cross tightly and ignore the grave. Is the grave not as important as the cross. We dont need the cross or the grave or any symbol.

Jesus never told us to hold on to any of that or make reference to it.

Accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour. Believe in your heart, confess with your mouth and let God see that in your lifestyle. Period.

Christianity is simple. We just want to make it complicated.

ekestic1976:
PDP have so conveniently chosen to forget those months we would queue at the petrol stations day and night, waiting in vain for a drop of petrol which sold at N700 per litre! Nigerians are ever so forgetful. Even then, I don't support this obnoxious increase. I'm only saying that it doesn't lie in the mouth of PDP to ever criticise APC on any policy issue.

Golan007:
How many jobs have you created?

sassysure:
Which state and town and even village or autonomous community.

Let's educate you to educate your friend if you are telling the truth. If your guy is innoson son or rochas son, will the family remember he is osu?

Ponder on this

Mindlog:
Don't call OP a liar because subtly it is still a factor for some families and one of the things they "investigate" about families when issue of marriage comes up, even families you believe are enlightened.

LadySarah:
Op you are a liar. Mention your village and let me prove you wrong.

It has been abolished. If you and your pseudo friend believes a human like you is Osu then your existence, education, travels are wastes.

Nonsense

HRHQueenPhil:
She shld take it to the Lord in prayer
Camp in prayer city for 5 days.God will talk by force relax, dere Is a way out

kennyz247:
thanks for d advise,but I need job and money first before venturing in to d land of no return called marriage..

Gforce2015:
Your response is so dumb because you responded base on your minuscule knowledge. And it is obvious that your level of exposure is so small. In fact, I can bet with the two balls under me, you haven't left the shore of this country...

I don't have the luxury of time to educate you but lemme say this; you can stay single throughout your life and still achieve ALL your dreams and goals in life and you can get married and live a miserable life....

Get wisdom.

kennyz247:
guy leave dat super story, been single still remain d best any time any day....even Jesus enjoy been single das y he never boreda to get married..

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KingSatan:
As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus".

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.
So on point sir. You are indeed a man with so much experience. Just hope everyone will take time to read through.

Cheers!