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I know it isn't but then no one can blame you for not trying ur best and doin ur all. It's still a starter,good things dnt come for everyone on a platter of gold...only d extremely fortunate.

If society didn't always condemn babies outside wedlock (dunno her situation sha o) she probably wouldn't have seen the need to throw the child away. So maaybe she was thinking of the consequences of takin that child home (maybe her parents don disown am sef) or she knows she can't take care of it. Now before some of u get all self righteous not the use of IF,PROBABLY, and MAYBE.

add that the fact that he was only ffing two pple when he opened dis thread n Vivian was one of them.

Okay now.......dnt u want educational qualifications too? What of years of relationship experience?? And home abilities nko?? Na for national dailies u suppose put this one.

chineke mu!!! How she take be urs na?? U're here crushing and ur mates are staking claims n u still get mouth to talk love..mtcheeeeew i pity u

point of correction dBard...a man doesn't own a girl unless he's married to her. You men like deluding urself with the idea that just coz she's dating u then she's ur property.

Any marriage that doesn't last is that way simply coz there's no solid ground work. A house with bad foundation collapses. If i prepare myself for good things then i'll attract them to myself. If i don't then i take what i see....this is why ntn works out fine for some pple. U dnt have set goals, u just go wherever the wind blows u. Then one day u wake up n realise ur llife has just past by without ur achieving anything..then u make wrong choices in an attempt to get it back on track. If u fail to plan, u plan to fail.

before i jump into a rship now i need to know d man's goals,his future plans n compare them with mine. If we're on different pages then he's a no go area..chikena

If i want marriage before a particular age i start preparing myself for it. It must show in my appearance,the company i keep,my speech,attitude etc.
You dnt want a job in a big firm n go arnd hanging out with low lifes do u? Her first mistake gan was datin a man that had no prospects.

I'm surprised u homed in on the 30yrs thingy and yet have deliberately chose to ignore every other question posed to u guys. That's very hyporitical n funny in my opinion.


OP the best thing u can do for urself is to get rid of every roadblock abi obstacle stopping u frm reaching ur goal ie get rid of ur current if he insists u've got to stay wit him n not see other men period.

Laberry no one has asked her to jump into marriage,we've only said she shld explore her options n decide which is most suitable. There is a lot mor to marriage than love.so love is a mute point and if ur ex is still coming back to u after marriage theen she must have bubbles for brains.

Laberry sometyms u dey talk like say no be naija u dey.

How many guys are ready to marry a girl that's up to 30yrs?
Putting her life in order is not a bad thing abeg n doesn't make her desperate. It's with d same tenacity u seek admission,jobs,girlfriends that u seek a life partner..so why is it suddenly called desperation n termed bad all of a sudden?

We need to broaden our horizon in this country n start thinking outside this self-imposed box we've caged ourselves in.

kitty kat: He may not want to marry her. Also he may be like 190 who has 7 babes on his list and she is no. 3

Does she kip waitin since she wants to move forward.

absolutely not

carefreewannabe: which means: he is not ready yet. and there nothing wrong with it.

then there shld be ntn wrong in her seeing other men who are ready.

Lets make this simple for guys to understand. I'm currently 22yrs old n i've decided i won't be a spinster past 26 at most...that's planning ur life ahead. When i'm nearing 26 and my current boyfriend decides he won't be ready for marriage ffor another 3 to 4yrs does that mean i shld put my life on hold just for his sake esp when i have other suitors? What stops me frm letting him know i'm ready to settle down and that i'm goin to hangout with these other men to see if there's prospectts? Whatls my assurance that my life is goin to be perfectly ok if i decide to wait for my bf? Just what if among all these suitors is the man dat i'm rily supposed to settle down with? To bring in religion lemme say my God given guy?? Do i because of sentiments stay stuck with a man that's stopping me from moving ahead??

Did you even read the topic freecocoa? He keeps setting dates and keeps postponing.

so what do u suggest Laberry? That the OP sits home n waits for the current bf to finally make up his mind??

And the irresponsible men that cldnt take responsibility for their actions.

How about both in varying proportion. I have future generations to protect abeg..

lol he's bn noticed

sexkillz: [color=#000030]6 pm tomorrow. . .
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ok thnx. I'll assume it's Nigerian time

@Master_1 she doesn't know u'll be okay with her dating smeone else. I think it's sweet she cares enof 4 u not to hurt ur feelings. If u suspect she's alrdy dating n u're rily good friends maybe u shld talk to her about it and let her know it's ok. You may just give her a rezn to think u are a great guy afterall in ur favour.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Get out of my head. . . You just said what i wanted to say.
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i always knew i was psychic

You can go ahead and bombard her e-mail with love poems or simply open another thread exclusively for courting her.

When's the debate scheduled for?

hmmmmmmm hmmmmmmm

.....and if he won't pay ur bride price show him the door.