kpolli:



Now we have your real age

First things first, if u got a first class from a naija private uni. . . u probably dont deserve that position

Plus about your other post about your bf being confident to acknowledge u. . . . Reread wat u posted here and your other post, n u wud see y. . . .

Bad Belle NL's can kiss my beep

yuzedo:

Ok Uju, this is TMI! U'd be surprised what supposed strangers can do with all the info u have divulged thus far. . I hope your sha not lonely (I detect some measure of loneliness in your tone). . Sha easy and remain as anonymous as possible on the www,  Anyone who has a clue as to who u r can piece d supplied info and run a "program" on u. .  
Cheers!

Bad Belle NL's can kiss my beep

Did NYSC last year, but it was distance nysc, i have the certificate sha.

Bad Belle NL's can kiss my beep

damola1:

Do you just want to work for working sake?,, do you not have a dream?,

Bad Belle NL's can kiss my beep

st-kris:

If ever having your father's true respect means anything to you, then i would recommend going off and being a man of his own means.

"working for daddy" might appear convenient at this time, but trust me, if you go down that road, you'll be "daddy's boy" even at 50, and thats not remotely a compliment.

I'm a girl, Does that make it more acceptable?

I'm looking for jobs in nigeria its so hard, Suffering as per ppl trying to demand nonsense from you in exchange for a job/promotion e.g sexual favours, Not cool! Even the job market is not really transparent, Vacancies and all. Considering masters in jand b4 looking to secure a better job, Not sure what u can get with a bsc as there are so many unemployed grads!

Bad Belle NL's can kiss my beep

sexkillz:

OP!
Let's RAP! Now, There is absolutely NOTHING WRONG with you! The Guy loves You quite alright, and he sees a future with you! but Believe me when i say that he is scared of committing himself to you out of fear of REJECTION! He fears You may see him as a BROTHER! That would even BREAK HIS HEART TO PIECES! Now what i'll advise you to do is to OPENLY start seeing the other GUY that comes Around! DONT HIDE IT! If this Guy you are talking about REALLY REALLY cares about you, HE'll get the message, overcome his fears and then ASK YOU OUT! You have your reasons for not wanting to ASK HIM! You've thought of that and think it's a BAD IDEA! It's not always a BAD IDEA though, but STICK to your decision NOT to ask him! YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT! IF HE'S NOT READY, PLS MOVE ON TO THE NEXT AVAILABLE PERSON!

The rejection thing is making sense, because people see me as more attractive than him, and from a wealthier family, and igbo people aint the biggest fans of yoruba people in this town, and i'm more popular while he is quite shy, maybe he's scared,

I like this idea and I think I will give it a go, thanks.

M M M:

ok
u re already in 4 him, dats very good of u

Please if you have nothing valuable to contribute to this discussion, replying is not by force, there are a million other topics on the forum. Thank you and God bless you!

Goldieluks:

Pray about your future instead,and besides your still young and you have a lot of time in your hands,
you just have to make use of your time wisely,and if your a student,you might wanna focus more on
your studies,instead of allowing your mind to be bothered by a guy,at this stage.Don't get me wrong,that doesn't stop you from keeping friends though.

just my suggestion.

I graduated in ghana 2 years ago and I am currently working for my dad's company so no books to focus on. I am considering if this guy is a waste of my time and was just sharing the facts to get an outside opinion. I pray about marriage for the future but havent prayed if he should be my boyfriend or not as i dont think it warrants prayer. If in 2 or 3 years we are still going strong then maybe we would have heard from God, As he has not committed to building something I want someone I can build something with or is it normal for a guy to just be in a relationship with you in his mind without any verbal confirmation?

Goldieluks:

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oh well.

I was just seeing if anyone has been faced with a similar situation and how they handled it.  Some people believe in single till married so they wouldnt see it as out of the ordinary for me to start paying attention to someone who is saying the right things but then all that we have built over the last year will just be wasted and also someone saying the right things may not be the right person.

Still waiting for one mary or joseph to say 'pray about it',  thats not what i came here for.

M M M:

^^
Then get pregnant 4 d boy

-___-

M M M:

op
why not ask your pastor on mFIREm

The pastor has seen us as a couple, If I talk to him he will start to question the guy and it will be embarrassing for him and may push him away.

Mynd_44:

Without wanting to be insultive, you sound desperate madam but you can call him and talk with him, tell him your fears and how you feel and if he is still evasive then you should step

Desperate ke? More like the other way round he's d one disturbing me thought i made that clear.

sexkillz:

Op! How old are you? . . . . . Before i say my Thoughts?

I'm 22,   not saying he should propose or anything just that he shud commit to building a relationship or let me move on.

Goldieluks:

Maybe he doesn't want to commit himself too much.
You might wanna let him know how you feel,and you would get your answer from his reply.

He knows how i feel from the fact i make so much time available to him,  not gonna ask him out or anything i value myself and its not in my culture.

I met a guy one year ago now I would say that we are dating. We meet up 2 or 3 times a week and talk every other day. Everyone associates me as his girlfriend but he doesnt associate me himself.  He sends me bb messages and does all the calling. When my BIS finishes sometimes he tops it up so we can chart.  The main problem is he has not asked me anything or spoken of his intentions.  I do not know if it is because he is yoruba and I am igbo maybe he doesnt see a future.  When I ask him what we are or what we are doing he makes one excuse or another.  We are both strong christians and go to mfm  which is where we met.  I don't know if I should wait for him to say something or just move on as there is another brother trying to get on the scene as of one month now and seems more forthcoming.  Also he is only 27 so maybe it is that he is not ready for a serious relationship.

I just don't know. any ideas? advice will be good.