jnr prof:

not to give excuses fro him, but he may be trying to avoid temptation by getting too close to his gf, and he knows nothing can happen between he ans his female friends cos he feels nothing for them

Flashaldrin:

Overly born again But hugs opp sex tight and kisses them? In front of his gf??
Something is not right here.

desertboom:

@BABE!. You're 100% correct. No two words are the same no matter their similarity, some people should wake up from their little world to realise that "Farther" means physical distance: Mary lives farther away from us than James. "Further" means mental distance: Nothing could be further from the truth. The same is true for the other forms: Mary's house is the farthest away from home I've ever been; and, That is the furthest thing from the truth. @poster. I guess you learnt something.

Brightmind:

Guys, i just came back from church with a story that has refused to stop amazing me.
Pastor, talked today about a 'brother' n 'sister' caught in d act while sermon wz going on. They were cuddling themselves in the toilet section when an usher bumped into them, the usher said he was 'urged' to report the 'lovers'.
Pastor wz preaching on 'the death of conscience'.

BABE!:

This is contradicting your first post on the thread.

@ OP: Nowadays that everything is upsidedown and Stay-At-Home dads are becoming more rampant, whatever works for the couple is good enough.

BABE!:

^^

No, I'm not following you around.

When I asked my question, I wasn't referring to you in particular.

If a girl asks a guy out on a first date, who do you think ought to pay?

BABE!:

So, if you invite a guy on a first date, you expect him to pay for things?

amu ukwu:


Small madam obviously you dont get it and im not sure you will. My stress is not about who takes you out rather the level of disrespect and ingratitude you've shown to the dude (judging from your post). Its not my business anyway, whom you chose to respect or otherwise and i dont even have time too sef, my dinner dey for fire and if it burns because i have spent my time reading your rants, i swear you go take me out on an expensive date to San Fransisco Steak house [s](after you must have spent on me, im sure you will learn to be grateful for what you get, no matter how small)[/s]  

Scooby1:

Graveyard , Anuoffia!

amu ukwu:

Op  Ga no di ala there, you don rant too much here. whether u get gate man or whatever no concern us but your ingratitude after a man spends his hard earn income/time on you. In as much as the date was messed as you claim, im sure its not messed on all front. At least show some gratitude/respect to the man, not every goes on a date.

76Naira:

I tried to act like I did not see that.
I just waited for someone else to assure me it's not a dream.
Na wa!!!, It just got complex.

texazzpete:

To be fair, I wonder if your date considers the encounter a 'date from Hell' too?
While I see valid points in your OP, your complaints about the restaurant he took you to may be a bit unfair. How exactly was he supposed to know that you hated that restaurant? And even if that was the cheapest in town, how sure are you that the low cost was the reason for his choice of that restaurant? Why are you supposed to care so much about how much he spends on you anyway?

Next time you're unhappy with his driving, INTERVENE! Make him end the call and slow down. If your life was as important to you as you claim, you'd have made that effort.

texazzpete:

Wait, what?

moremi2008:

I don't think it's fair to criticize the guy for taking you to the least expensive Chinese restaurant (you should be grateful because you didn't contribute a kobo to the meal). The guy was wrong to talk on the phone while driving a date back home but then, why are you acting surprised and brand new,  Nigerian men aren't the most cultured specimens in the world and he probably didn't think he was doing anything wrong. The bobo tried to kiss you and I don't blame him. I would also try to get a kiss if I just dropped $100+ on dinner.

The reason why you are getting "bad bele" responses is because you come across as a spoilt, ungrateful lady that can't interpret actions/situations in the right context. You sound young. Hope you learn someday because the real world has no room for silly daddy's girls. Good luck with your Igbo man! Hope he's saving up all his cash for the INSANE bride price he will be paying soon.

Smilenw:

[b]
Anyhoo[/b] like i said known the guy a few years from uni in ghana and have a number of mutual friends. He picked me up from our family office and i told my parents who exactly i was going with. I'm not a muppet or a randy 12 year old sneaking out with men.

OP& Violent- Tell me exactly what this silly word means. My cheap school obviously didn't see the need to teach such a word.

OP,
You have given out a lot of personal details voluntarily on this single thread ! All those who read your "pointless post" now knows that a certain uju has a gateman, a cook, a family office, a car, a driver, was educated abroad (wish I could go there too, just to know what anyhoo means), a dog that coughs dollars, a cat that shits gold coins, a this, a that- sighs!
You are obviously trying to paint a glossy picture here to hook someone online. I do not see any other reason why someone would yab so much in one go ! Have you for once thought why the man was on phone, ignoring you, on your first date with him? Obviously you failed to impress him ! I'm sure it had something to do with 'my this, my that" attitude of yours.  

leggoo:

Wow men are very ill-mannered these days. I would never dream of taking a kiss from a girl in public in front of her gate with the security there. Even when abroad I still act African. So this guy is a clown. Though the girl should ask herself why is she attracting such men.

$tunna:

hahahaha!!! look young miss -  as hard as it is for you to believe, some of us do actually have as much money as you do or even more, and this is true!!
my response touched a nerve didn't it? and no, i was not doing any psycho-analysis of ya, just explaining the hostile responses u got from so many people! the truth hurts,

tell us about your actual boy meet girl story, and save the gateman and house help info for your BFF again because we do not need any of that to make informed comments or response to your request for opinion! are you used to being told u can never do wrong and find it hash to be told that if this man is a monster then there is a problem with your judgement since it was not a blind date??

many people made this observation, and do u think we r all poor and envy that you can go to a Chinese restaurant??

if God made your life the way it is, then i look out my window and see that im seating on top of the richest city in the most advanced and wealthy nation of the world and i ask, who made my life the way it is then?? you are not talking to people just next door to you in nigeria, so control your desire to give us room to room picture of your house because some of your again do as a matter of fact have more money than you do and it sound infantile when u make your irrelevant small madam talk as the centre piece of your date from hell story,

oh well, u just came from the church so calm down and may u have peace as i do not want to disturb the peace u brought from the church, no further comments, ki

Lax75:

I suspect a timing issue you probably posted at the same time but urs went up first  

Yep, and I corrected. But come oo. Are you implying that from now you will favour ndigbo boys? Just asking.

hmm, its possible oh, seems they treat you well because you are one of their 'sisters' but then again, there are good and bad people in every tribe. All na nigerian to me, don't really discriminate as long as they are not muslim (sorry oh) uneven yoking and all that lol

ljila:

ALL lol
76Naira, take note you don't know everything. Didn't i say it?
But OP, chill and don't let people's posts get to you. Anyone who has the power to change your mood sorta controls you.  
Glad this afternoon went well. So when's the next date? (no ameboism intended   ) x

Lax75:

Reading is fundamental. Uju please oooo, now I'm the bad guy all of a sudden. All of a sudden na me be the nasty one.

Lax75:

Oh lord ! The English teachers are back. Na wa!!!!! I'm glad you had a "compensated" date. I wonder what kind of comments will flow now that you had a good date. Anyways, I wouldn't give a flying porkchop if I were you. At least I know what to expect when I move back home. Yam and Egg?? Wow, na you biko! I miss that too. Over here na so so french fries, sausage and biscuits. Tired of it.

premechaz:

@ujukokoro fugly omoibo

What is bbing?

76Naira:

Madam Uju,

Go enjoy your date.
I am surprised he is downstairs & you have all these internet stunts.
Probably same issue on your BB like I said earlier when the Mr. wrong drove while on the phone.
If a friend calls me now, I will close this page. I wonder why you are still here.
Do make the right choice, at the end of the day, its about success in the relationship, not about him bending around his waist to kiss you near his knees.

Now, run along, go have fun sissy.

Lax75:

@ Uju:

My Sis, don't take it personal. Too much bad belle in Naija. Haba! Once when all I did was post a question about naijas in diaspora getting a job back home and what to expect, I got so many hateful responses from naijas in corporate naija talking about how we naijas in diaspora have no brains. They got into this whole thing about how all we do is come back home and blow "fone" but don't know jack. There were only a few sensible folks who took the time to answer my question. The others were so emotional. And we wonder why there is no progress in naija, when people walk around with so much jealousy and hatred on the inside.

How was your second date?