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crackhaus:
Wrong!


Wrong!!


Wrong again!!!

3 wrongs and nothing to explain?

docphresh:
http://www.afrikanfacts.com/top-10-famous-dark-female-ghanaian-celebrity/

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freecocoa:
What kind of talk is that? Did I tell you I don't know I'm a lady? Just how does that have anything to do with what's being discussed here?

I'm sorry if you feel bad about my response. But, my dear, the African or Nigerian mentality doesn't allow a lady to have much say in her pre-marital affairs. They expect you to keep silent and let the elders do the talking. In some cultures, the lady is not even supposed to show her face when issues concerning her marriage is being discussed. I'm sure you're aware of that too

freecocoa:
Well, no one in my family can dictate to me so I guess I have nothing to worry about in that regard.

Haha! Forget that. You're a lady. There's only a little you can do

EnlightenedSoul:
At the same time, it's tough to downplay the importance of familial support. It presents quite the conundrum.

That's why they should be kept in the second place. There would always be an "all-knowing" oldie in the background with unknown histories to tell

Eyekandi:
No. We have d same in ehime

Ok. Mbano is very close to us all the same

tpiander:
o ma baje o.

I pity your SO.

are you gay perhaps?

No, I'm not gay. And what made you think I am?

Eyekandi:
Ok, ur username made me ask

Yeah, Umuchoke is a small village in Amaigbo under Orlu zone. Are you from there?

Captainswag225:
o.p, ur point is valid but involving parents in marriages is the tradition in africa and we cant do without it. Besides it has its advantages too.

You're right, but it's kind of disheartening when some old member of the family starts telling a negative story about the other spouse's background. In the end, what seemed to have a happy beginning would end up a sad story

Eyekandi:
Op r u from ehime mbano

No, I'm from Orlu zone

Na wa! The information in the article goes beyond protecting oneself from getting robbed while or after using an ATM to tips on how to use ATM itself. there's no safer way to avoid it. Just avoid using ATM along a lonely road or anyone at all when it's dark

innervoice:
It is up to you to set boundaries for your family members. My family would not dare to say anything against my then wife to be, not even my mother.
As a man you should not hide but deal with whatever challenges you may face in whatever situation.

If you succeed in setting boundaries for your family members, would your finances also succeed? U can never balance it, so I still maintain that families are left out completely until after marriage

edwife:
That's where your judgement should come to play.You don't have to keep them in the dark just because you don't want anything that will hinder your choice of spouse.

Marriage is between two people with the support of their families.

I'm not saying one should keep them in the dark. But it's better they're informed after the spouses have made a private arrangement to ensure nothing stops their marriage, otherwise some cranky elders in the family would come out to spew crap and that's the end

Ginaz:
I dont think its a good ideal because the marriage is involving two families. the families need to know each other and will act as a pillar to the young couples in troubles times.

I know family can be frustrating sometimes, you can limit them completely only when you have started your family.
but when two couples are about getting married, both families needs to be involved and introduced.

That, exactly, is the problem. Would you get married to someone you don't love? I guess no. But would you dump him just because your father doesn't like him or his tribe? Not me

Don't get the message wrong; I'm not totally against involving families in marriage but I feel it's better done after the young man and lady has tied the nuptial knots in the court of law. I've seen many cases where a guy would take a girl to his parents to introduce her as his future wife. The parents may accept initially but there would always be one grandpa with so much history in his bald head to ruin the show. He would tell you how the girl's people treated his own village in 1857, and for that reason the marriage shouldn't hold. This can be just so frustrating, especially when the young people involved are seriously in love with each other. Since bigotry and tribal sentiments can't be removed, I suggest we limit families involvement in marriage affairs.

The Op cleverly made the ofe akwu's picture look bigger so it would appear more attracting than the other. I like red stew

God bless our Nigerian mothers

God help our Nigerian girls

Ishilove

Have you ever heard of the traditional American saying ‘Different Strokes for Different Folks’? Well, diversity is what makes up this world, and of course human tendency always lets us do things differently. Whether or not we are accustomed to, many weird things happen in the world. If you are among those people who have been raised in the typical western household, remember, some of the cultures from around the world must seem pretty bizarre to you. In this article, we are gonna bring together the top 10 weird cultures exist till date around the world. If you try to delve deeper into this, what you will find is there’s almost no end to the number of weird things. If you love reading creepy things, you will definitely enjoy this top 10 list of jaw dropping cultures from around the globe.  Here is how it goes:

10. Monkey Buffet Festival
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Here’s the buffet festival for Monkeys in the province Lopburi, Thailand. Well, Monkey Buffet Festival is described as one of the strangest festivals that still exist in the world. This is a fun festival with a difference making Thailand a unique destination for tourists. People set up tables in the downtown area and the load them up with some fruits, flowers, cake and candy. All the monkeys are attracted by this food and hop all over the tables entertaining the views. Do you really wonder who the genius behind the annual Monkey Buffet Festival is? Well, for this we have a man by the name of Yongyuth Kitwattananusont to thank who was hotelier by trade. With the assistance and sponsorship of Tourism Authority of Thailand, he inaugurated Monkey Buffet Festival in 1989. It has now grown to Tourism Festival and thousands of tourists visit Thailand to attend festival every year. If you happen to visit Thailand during November, don’t miss this unusual festival of Monkey Buffet. Monkey Buffet Festival falls on 25th of November every year.

9. Walking Dead
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Walking Dead? Isn’t it more than weird things guys? Actually this is for fearless poeple. As funerals sometimes can be costly and intricate ceremonies, some families can’t afford an initial proper burial. As a result, they place the dead body in a temporary coffin. And when they are able to maintain the fund, the corpse is raised from the dead and walks to its new resting place. Afterlife is an important part of the religious beliefs of Torajah people.

8. El Colacho Baby Jumping
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This is another of unusual traditions that exists in the world. The residents of Spain have been taking part in this weird culture called El Colacho since 1620. El Colacho means baby jumping. Originally El Colacho was organized to keep the Devils away. In this festival, infants are laid on the mattresses in the street after the heavy crowds gather to watch. The jumpers wear the traditional costumes to look like the Devils. However, sometimes injuries occur during the jump, this festival is still getting constant popularity in Spain.

7. Living with the Dead
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Can you imagine yourself living with dead bodies? Doesn’t it sound so weird? But, it’s very common practice for some ethnic groups in Indonesia to wrap the deceased up in special garbs and keep it safe in the house they live. It is believed that the soul of their loved ones will be preserved until burial.

6. Kidnapping the Bride
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It sounds illegal, isn’t it? But the Romani have carried out this insanely criminal tradition for centuries. This tradition of snatching the bride from under the nose of groom and guests with the wedding party in full swing is still getting massive popularity in the Romanian capital. Some friends of the groom decide to kidnap the bride. The ransom is all about few bottles of whisky or perhaps something more romantic. The guys who kidnap the bride negotiate via phone. This tradition is harmless and is celebrated as a risqué fun to nuptials.

5. Kanamara Matsuri of Japan
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Kanamara Matsuri is The Festival of Steel Penis which takes place on the first Sunday of April each year. Japanese people celebrate fertility by holding the giant wooden phallus. They hoist that phallus into the air and then march across the town. It is believed that this celebration brings about regenerative abilities on the local crops and also ensures the fertility for everyone. It may appear to be an outlandish display of sexuality in public places, but many would argue that the openness of Kanamara Matsuri is healthy one which celebrated the ability to reproduce. During this festival, many Japanese go out with their children and happy go about giving them penis lollipop without sexualizing it in any way. Anyway, it will definitely astound you all knowing that there’s actually an entire festival in Japan dedicated to Penis.

4. Hanging Coffins in China
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You can witness the countless suspended artifacts and occult phenomena on the chillingly steep cliffs along Yangtze River, China. People of China, some known as Toraja follow this weird culture wherein they burry their family members and hang them over some cliffs after death. You can observe many suspended coffins from the bottom of the cliff. Coffins are generally hung 33 to 164 feet high and some even as high as 328 feet above the ground. It is still not known for sure how the coffins were placed at such great heights. Records of hanging coffins date back almost 2000 years. The practices of hanging coffin burial also took place in some parts of Philippines and Indonesia too.

3. Tossing the Babies
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Doesn’t it sound weird even when you hear the phrase ‘Baby Tossing’? But it’s a common practice for the people in Solapur village (situated in Maharashtra state of India) to toss newborn babies off from the terrace of 50 foot tower. There are people at the foot of the tower holding sheets to catch the baby safely. It is believed that this gives their children good luck, long and healthy life, and moreover, they will grow smart.

2. Carrying pregnant women over coal
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Here’s the snippet of weird Chinese culture according to which a husband should carry his bride over a pan of burning coals before entering their home for the very first time. Myth says that this strange custom is performed to ensure she will have an easy and successful labor.

1.  Mourning of Muharram
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This is one of the weirdest cultures in Muslim communities. They call it “Mourning of Muharram” and it takes place on the death anniversary of Husayn Ibn Ali. In this very day, a number of groups consisting of Shia Muslims go out with whips attached with knives and blades and then start beating them up unstoppably. Some people may even cut their own heads off with these knives. No matter how cruel this is, this tradition has been passed over to their descendants from generations. Interestingly, people in that community have been following this culture voluntarily.

http://www.elist10.com/top-10-weird-cultures-exist-till-date-around-world/

Ego2:
take hrt

You, what are u waiting for?

Ego2:
my lil cousins. Wanna wait till dey older?

Mthchew!

Ego2:
@ op depends on d family, e.g. My family 100#, buh can stil b returned cos we ain't selling our daughters.

How many babes are yet unmarried? Tell me na

onunwa21:
40 strokes of cane ( Boko town)

sukkot:
ahhh well yall can keep your customs. i will keep mine. i have gone out with many women and its their dads who spend on me all the time. they tell me ' your money is not good here, go ahead and put that in your pocket. i got this '

And you still refuse to let us know where this happens. Tell us the community where the groom gets paid because he's lifting a responsibility from a family.

This is inhuman and totally unacceptable

sukkot:
yes i get you spending on her but why do you have to spend on her father ? he the one supposed to spend on you

Jesus Christ! who told you you're spending on the father? How much self be the money? The bride price is just a token. I don't think any bride price in Nigeria, at present, is above 2k. So na 2k the man go chop? Moreover, they don't spend the money. They keep it aside just in case of eventuality. A groom spends more while performing the marriage rites (the list of items) which is presented by the bride's kinsmen. That too is negotiable

sukkot:
ahhh but you wanting to pay for her is what shows lack of respect or dignity for womanhood. now she is a commodity to you

as for the african tradition thing, alot of african tradition is obsolete and outdated and needs to be scrapped. this is 2015. as for me kicking a niggas ass if he beating my daughter ? hell yeah i will beat his ass. is he crazy ? he better have a very genuine reason for beating her. only reasons i will accept are she slept with someone else or she is a husband abuser and i just decided to give her a taste of the beatings she gives me.

Lmao! You can't change God's design. Women are meant to be on the receiving end. When you newly meet a girl, it is you, the man, that will blow all the necessary grammar to spice her. When she accepts to go out with you, it is still you that will do all the spending. And that's how it would be as long as she's still with you. So if you can spend for an ordinary GIRLFRIEND, why do you now think it's unnecessary or not dignifying to pay her bride price so that she can PERMANENTLY be your partner? Don't tell me you've never dated before

sukkot:
oh and let me address the bolded. brah ? whether you choose to acknowledge it or not, your children, including your daughter is your responsibility. there is a reason why that man on frontpage ran away when his wife gave birth to twins. cuz the weight of the responsibility scared him. they are your responsibility not your asset.

A responsibility that will later become an asset. Bro, haven't you seen a poor family turn rich after a single marriage from a daughter? You may struggle hard today, incur debts and pay bills to raise her, and regain everything in ten folds tomorrow after she marries. Daughters are assets

sukkot:
i am not selling my daughter to any man. i cant even look at a kid my daughters age in the face after i have collected money from him for my daughter. listen my daughter will not be sold and if something happens to her while she is in her husbands house i want to be able to intervene with a straight face. if you have sold her to her husband you cant intervene in that house again. you have no right to. he has bought your daughter from you.. he paid you so he can kick you out of his house if you interfere when he is beating your daughter. thats his property now. he paid for it.

yeah me and my daughter not going out like that. anytime the nigga misbehaves i am coming in there to kick his ass and i can do that with a straight face cuz i didnt sell my daughter to him. no money was exhanged

Nobody actually sells his daughter out. They're not slaves or animals, so why use the term 'sell' in marriage? It's African tradition, everywhere, that a bride price be paid to parents before a daughter is given out. In most cases, this bride price is not spent, as some people here have highlighted. It's just to show that marriage is not for free. Ok, take another scenario..the Fulanis. They make the groom hold a large mirror with both hands while young men lash his back with koboko. This is just a test of courage that the young man is capable of taking care of a woman. Secondly, I don't think it's right to go all about nosing in the affairs of your married daughter. If eventually she has issues with her husband, your job is to come in as elder and offer words of advice, not to kick the nigga's ass. I was joking before, but on a serious note, I can never accept to marry a girl I love free of charge. It shows no respect or dignity for womanhood

Toks2008:
This is why many Igbo brothers are dumping their own to rush for our beautiful yoruba sisters.

The Igbos should learn.Some igbo ladies even say our Yoruba ladies are cheap and i simply laugh.

True, Yorubas, in general, are easier to marry. The marriage rites won't put a hole in ur pocket. But then it depends on the people getting married and their families

Chigold101:
lolzzzz you dont know anything at all.

My wife is from Orumba North & I am from Aguate... All in Anambra state. Everything I spent both bride price, food & drink for my trad is about 40k. Incluiding the vehicle that transported my kindred to the place.

Most times i blame guys for their predicament. When you are dating a girl and you are buying her all kinds of stuff. Puffing up trying to impress both the girl and her family. Why wont they bring knife to slash off your head.

I also blame ladies who become very weak when they face their parents. They forgot that after paying heavy amount of money, na she hunger go fire.

In my family we collect 8k for the father & 2k for the mother... Thats 10k... Only soft drinks and non alcoholic wine.

@the words in bold, you're so on point! Most times the girls are the cause of this 'predicament'. They tend to rate and place you high before their friends and family, hence motivating the parents and kindred to present u with a long list of items. But they forget that they will be the ones to bear the grunges if you go broke tomorrow

sukkot:
where is that ? any civilized country or any civilized tribe or individual in nigeria will see it like that. i refuse to accept money if someone marries my daughter. in fact i will pay the man and make sure he is financially comfortable to look after her. set him up with a business and a house and a car so he can continue my responsibility for me

Hian! Na so you no value woman reach? Do you know parents actually spend more in training their daughters than they spend for their sons? Don't mistake me for being a feminist, but it's a no-no calling your daughter a responsibility. I even pray I get a daughter first before a son when I marry, because they're more caring than the boys when they're still little. They're priceless assets, bro, not responsibilities