kekakuz:
Having a cool mother in-laws is something most people would like but its turning to something else for me.
When ever she is around, she picks my phone and immediately enters my WhatsApp messages.at first I felt she make a mistake but last night makes it the 5th time it's happening.

yesterday, I slept off in the living room and by the time I woke around 12am, I discovered my phone was not by my side. I searched for it everywhere and when I still could not find it, I proceeded to my wife's room to pick my wife's phone and call my line, to my amazement, I saw my mother in-laws on my phone.

I was angry at first but I had to control myself i collected the phone and I discovered she was in my email and Facebook messaged and she even knows my unlock pattern.

am tired of this but I don't want to disrespect her. how do I deal with this.

Dreamscometrue:
..I just don't know where to start from.
I feel like ending it all.
My husband just broke up with me because I am yet to conceive and he said he doesn't want IVF.
We have only be trying for a year plus.

This is someone I did a lot of things for and now he has abandoned me.I don't know how to face my family.I feel so ashamed and devastated.
God has really forsaken me...

How do I start my life afresh because I am so confused.
It is not going to be easy for me because I have invested so much in this marriage.I have done so many things because of love.It is really hard for me.I am at the receiving end.

Will I be able to pull through this?

PapiNigga:
This lovely couple's pre-wedding photos have got tongues wagging.
Goodluck to them.

http://www.lubeynaija.com/2017/06/young-couple-pre-wedding-doggy-pose.html?m=1

Cc: Lalasticlala

PapiNigga:
This lovely couple's pre-wedding photos have got tongues wagging.
Goodluck to them.

http://www.lubeynaija.com/2017/06/young-couple-pre-wedding-doggy-pose.html?m=1

Cc: Lalasticlala

Islie:






BUTCHER, WHO ALLEGEDLY RAPED TWO SISTERS AGED 4 & 7, INFECTED THEM WITH STD




http://pmexpressng.com/butcher-who-allegedly-raped-two-sisters-aged-4-7-infected-them-with-std/

Toks2008:
We all know that men sometimes can be very overbearing and sometimes responsible for some actions their wives take but nevertheless,women must understand that marriage is a great,decent and sacred institution that must be treated with utmost respect and guided with all sense of decency.

To be frank,there are some silly things some married ladies do that do not show any form of respect to them,their men and their marriage.
These are things that need to be avoided by the lady irrespective of whatever excuse they may have.

I have had many friends who have been married and some are divorced and after discussing with them,i have come to realize that some of these women were infact the architect of their failed marriages and i will try to elucidate on some of the awkward things ladies do that break up their marriages.

1. Poor communication:

In every relationship we find ourselves,communication is vital. No one is a mind reader and no matter what it may be that could be a reason for your unhappiness,speak out immediately in a stern manner and not laikadaisically.
Many women are found of calling their hubby's relatives to complain about certain issues meanwhile the hubby at home does not have an idea of how hurting they are concerning that issue.

2. Sharing their marital issue with a male admirer/friend.

Not every guy you know is responsible. We have some low lives that has no regard for any form of decency and it is no news that many guys are in this category.
When you discuss your marital issues with an admirer or a male friend,most times what these guys hear is "im vulnurable,i need you as a succor". This is why most times,when a married woman take solace in a male friend,the end result is usually an illicit affair.

3. Being careless with male friends.

I have always maintained that there is nothing like just friends between a married woman and another man.
If he is not your childhood friend,co-worker,co-student,business partner then you have no business with him.
Many married ladies have a careless habit of keeping male friends indiscriminately and worst still get so careless allowing these guys call them by their maiden names.

I will never call a married lady by her maiden name because just as the name suggests,its her unmarried name but will rather put Mrs,sis,madam.

When a married lady is called by her maiden name,it diminishes as well as tarnishes her respect,image and matrimony giving room for a potential unethical relationship between her and the "just male friends".

4. Seeking vengeance.

Many married lady tend to take some actions in order to prove to their hubby that a sauce for the goose is also ok for the gander but unfortunately this will destroy your marriage more.

When you take a revenge on your hubby by sleeping with another man because he cheats on you,of what use will that be to you?

What value will that add to your life?
Learn to maintain your dignity no matter what because at the end,the shame will all come back to you and as I always reiterate. ..nobody can make you do what you are not capable of doing.

5. Talking down on your hubby.

This is one foolish mistake many ladies do. You and your hubby are one and talking down on him means talking down on yourself. It is one thing to voice out what he did and another to use outright abusive words on him.

In situations where a couple seperates,some ladies will not mind talking down on their hubby with a friend,their family and even with male suitors and i keep wondering if the woman thinks this will earn her any form of respect.

If you call your hubby a sick man then what does that make you? Or you call your hubby an asshole then it takes an asshole to tango with such a man.

No matter how angry you may be,don't ever rule out reconcilation and even if you are never going to reconcile,respect your matrimony with him even if he deserves no respect from you.

6.Moving out of their matrimonial home hastily over an avoidable reason.

What excuse do you have for running out of your marriage?
He cheated on you,he does not give you attention,he took you for granted,he curses you and many more are the excuses married ladies hold on to and i keep asking this one question;
Will leaving solve the problem? Even a divorce is not a way out because its a 50/50 chance that the next man won't be worse so i advice that you confront that problem and try your best to solve it.

7. Believing there is always a better man out there.

This is one foolish thing married ladies believe. That they will get a better replacement.There are more than enough never married ladies out there for the unmarried guys so you will do yourself a great honor by sticking to your husband.

There is really no better man out there and except you are faced with an unrepentant violent man,please remain in your marriage because you will soon realize that its the same cycle we all go through in any union we find ourselves and there will always be one reason to leave any man you are married to.

Many women divorcees realize this too late as they end up as a toy in the hands of randy men,as second wife,or end up single for a long time as many men will believe they are doing them a big favour by wanting to be with them.

If you must throw in the towel on your marriage,make sure you have exhausted all means of reconciliation because i keep saying that it is better to be single at 40 than to be a divorcee at 20 and a 40 year old single lady is more maritally appealing than a 20year old divorcee,funny but true so think very well before you run out of your marriage.

8.Sharing their marital issues with single female friends..

Like seriously! it may surprise you to know that most of your friends who are still single are not happy that you are married so take your marital problem to them at your own risk.

9.Not looking sexy enough.

If our sultry actress Omotola jalade is looking this sexy after three children then tell me why you can't look sexy too.

Laziness is one big problem with most married ladies.Men get carried away by what they see so do yourself a favour, get that big tummy down and get into crazy bum shorts and flaunt that thing.

We know you cant maintain that sexy look we saw the very first time we met you but at least try your best to look sexy for the next 30years for us after marriage.

10. Never sorry.

Many women are so proud,egocentric and sturbborn to the extent that when they do or say things that are conspicously wrong,they will never or hardly apologize but rather would want to buttress the rationale behind their actions and most men see this as an appalling nature. Be quick to apologize even when you are right..men are naturally egocentric hence the need to bring down your ego to avoid the case of two men married to each other.

11.Geting insecure and monitoring her husband

I have always advised married women to let their men be. Believe whatever he says even when it is clear that he is lieng.The moment you start getting overly jealous,suspicious is the moment you begin to lose your self worth. Don't bother whether he is faithful or not but sternly tell him to play safe if he must be unfaithful and warn him to do it far from you cos what the eyes do not see do not hurt. Yes this sounds crazy but trust me,it works like magic because the husband will likely be on his toes and respect you the more. Remember that a man will always be a man and you can never monitor him.

12.Not good enough in the kitchen and the other room: .

If you are a married lady reading this please don't ever joke with these two places because any woman who knows how to use these two places will most likely have her husband where she wants him cos the way to a man's heart is forever through his stomach and down there.

13.Taking the job of a full housewife.

As you can clearly deduce,being a full housewife is a big job because those who babysit get paid so I quite understand how demanding this can be but nevertheless,don't settle for that,no matter how demanding the task of keeping the home front can be, still do something to be financially independent. Your husband may tell you he does not want you to work promising to provide all your needs but we both know he really can't do that without asking funny questions from you when you demand for money so it is important to have something doing so that the financial pressure will be less on your husband and you can also be self reliant.Being financially independent can also come in handy if your hubby faces any financial crises so take this advise seriously because financial pressure is a great destroyer of marriage.

I don't know if these makes sense.

ChuzzyBlog:
Sometimes, we need to read life stories such as this to help us believe more in ourselves and never give up in life!

Roberta is an IT professional who has worked with top IT firms in Nigeria, she is also cinematographer, entrepreneur and the founder of African Startups TV.

The beautiful lady got married to her prince charming in April 2017. She did not attain all the successes she has today because she had it all rosy from start. Her story will motivate and inspire you. It is quite lengthy but do well to read through.

Read below:

Yesterday we gathered to watch our wedding video, everything was okay until we got to the place where we were signing the marriage register and the videographer used Frank Edward “Let the whole world know” the lyrics of the song got to me especially this part “When it was me against the world, You came and You fought for me, smashing all my enemies and gave me the victory.

You’re my light in the darkness, my ever present help, I’m gonna let the whole world know, You are the Way maker, You are building dreams not failures, You make it all work for me, You are my everything”, I just noticed water gushing out of my eyes cos the song brings memories, the same memory that played back in my head as I walk down the aisle, it stormed my head and I didn’t know if I was smiling or crying, it is in watching the video that I got to know a lot of things that happened as I match in, because I think I wasn’t myself, I had terrific memories, memories that only me and my mum understood.

You see, my mum was all teary through-out my wedding, the little time she came closer to me, I told her please smile, then she went all teary again and water started gushing out of her eyes, I understood totally for exactly 12 years ago just like yesterday I came to Lagos after all hopes of survival failed, I was in SS 2 and life happened so terribly that it seems that it was the end, I remember packing my bags off school heading back to the village, on my way back I would branch the house of my best friends to say a final good bye, there were more than friends Ndy Eshiet, Mmeyene Eshiet and Eshiet Iboro, I remember that as I turned back to leave Ndy Eshiet cried and handed me some money and ask me to keep in touch.

As I journeyed back I saw a GCE form advert a voice said, use the money to get the form, I followed that voice, got down purchased the form, I would later sit for the exams and passed all papers without a C (All As and Bs). Thinking what can I do and asking God questions, then I have an aunty that comes to Lagos often, she came to visit my mom but met her absence so I engaged her instead, can I come with you to Lagos this time, I just want to get out of here for now so my head will rest, she said no, your mom won’t let you, I said don’t bother about that side, I’ll sort it, I would later convince my mom to give me 3 months to go think out of the box, she never agreed but I made her weak enough to allow me part.

Fast forward I am sitting inside a big BRT like bus coming to Lagos, I will peep outside at intervals, then I started thinking about life, put my head on the small bag I had on my leg and started praying or no, started asking God questions and fighting him, God Didn’t you say your children will be the head and not the tail?

Didn’t you say you will make my future bright and beautiful? But God they were all lies as I have been thrown off school, I managed to take GCE, God you lied, just admit it that you lied and we can now all come to conclusion that what you told me in the alter that day wasn’t possible or visible anymore, I ask a lot of nonsense questions, then I started asking God to forgive me all over again, I didn’t know when I cried out inside the bus, I cried so much everyone ran to my seat and ask what happened, I couldn’t speak I just told them I was praying and everyone were like then why are you crying.

I kept quiet and started talking to God, if I have ever heard the voice of God before then, it was never as clear as when he told me “I will establish you in Lagos”, then I wondered how possible because have heard a lot of bad things about Lagos, we have had neighbors and friends who had gone to Lagos and they were all amount to nothing from what I know, so I kept asking God how possible, me I just want to stay 3 months to clear my head.

Fast forward to few months in Lagos, I finally spotted my church in Itire, been looking for it for long, it just seems to be the only place that gives me that connection with God, as I finally spotted the church I was so excited I ran in Sunday evening, the 1st person I saw was a brother standing in front of the church, he was from my village, I didn’t know him as I have not lived in the village for long but with my face he told me I should be from the Edu’s family, I would later agree with him and he would shake his head after asking me what I am doing in Lagos and I said house girl.

He asked how he can speak with my mom, he would later find a phone number to reach my mom and on that day he called my mom the first thing he said was I want you to recall this girl from Lagos immediately if not, you have just agreed to waste her, in fact she is wasted already, I will provide the transport fare, I want to hear that she is gone like tomorrow morning. Even though he had gone faraway to talk to my mom I could still sense what he was saying from afar and finally he came with the phone and my mom was on the phone, before I could say hello, she was deep in tears, she couldn’t even talk, she summed up courage to say, I want you to return back like tomorrow, Brother – said he will give you transport  I gave her time to talk, she started listing the names of people that have gone to Lagos and have all become a ghost of what people thought they will be in life and how she didn’t want my life destroyed, unwanted pregnancy and all sort of things.

I summoned up courage and I said to her, God said He will establish me here, mom went mad what! Which God told you that, it’s not a good God that want to destroy you o, where did you see God that he told you such nonsense, I will swear for you next time you call out any God in this matter, how can I suffer for years to raise you people and now you want to put me to shame, I summoned another courage and said, mummy don’t worry yourself, I know what God has told me and I promise you that I will be different and if me and God ever had a different choice or change of mine I will come back but for now, pray for me…

I cut off the phone, even though I never knew how I am going to come out of my situation, God knew, He went ahead of me and today He has proved Himself beyond every doubt in my life, So when God started answering my prayers, one of the things that were in my mind were God help me not to forget how you've helped me, made me and how your grace have found me, the promise i made to my mom and self kept singing in my head all the time and even though i wasn't in anyway desperate to proof anything to her, i knew that one day, that day will come.

So after my traditional wedding I looked at my mom and she went all teary and said thank you, you were right, God indeed did speak to you… So who am I not to let the whole world know that God is a way maker…

I want to use this opportunity to thank everyone that made my wedding a memorable one, especially those who flew in from Lagos Olabode Efuntoye Babatope Makun Tmak, Ebere Ogbonna Ujunwa Ogbonna, my mummy in the Lord Mrs Opaleye Olusola Folakemi etc. Uyo District Overseer Rev Inyang, Ministers of the gospel, Uyo Music Director, Uyo Chief Organist Samuel Uwak, Uyo Choir you guys were wonderful, my Uyo friends Ini OkonChristian Udo God bless all of you, my childhood friends the everlasting Eshiet Iboro and Christian Edet, our Sunday school children choir soloist Inimfon (Umoh Itoho-Ukeme tag her) my matron Blessing Abraham and everyone that turned up even though some of you do not even know me, I am most grateful.

SOURCE: http://www.chuzzyblog.com/2017/06/roberta-edu-new-bride-shares-her.html

sweerychick:
Good evening viewers! i have this issue has been bothering me, and i dont know if i can cope with it anymore particularly now we are making plans to settle down after my NYSC.

My man is too attached to his mum almost like an addiction. at first i was cool with it because his dad is late and i like guys that are close to their mums, but my man own is creepy and freaking me out. he calls his mum almost every hour, morning, afternoon, evening and even midnight calls.

One day his mum complained of headache, he almost left his office just to buy his mum drugs despite his mum telling him it's not serious, when i tried confronting him about this he told me that his mum is his soul and if his mum dies he would die along with her too, with all seriousness he told me this.

I've been very uncomfortable since that statement from him and it's making me have a rethink whether i can cope with him as a spouse.. please advice me..

engineerboat:


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krissconnect:
Guys come on let's relate. Let's get to know what got you so pissed off that you decided to call off that relationship or the attitude you put up that made him or her call off the relationship.

Mine: She always acted so cold and like she never cared. Might appear a minor issue but it was bogus to bear

krissconnect:
Lol, hoes everywia

krissconnect:
Lol, hoes everywia

obowunmi:
Hi everyone,

My name is Obowunmi. I've been a Nairaland member for many years now under different monikers.

I started dating this girl early January of this year however we have had too many ups and downs because I have not shown or told her that I have money. She thinks I am just a loser.

When I first met her, she was very nice but not anymore.

Once in a while, I buy her expensive gifts but I haven't divulged to her what I do, the type of job I have or any of that stuff. Maybe this is her reason for being so heartless.

Over the months, we have had one altercation where we didnt talk throughout the month of May. Today, I've had to block her on WhatsApp and other channels because she is just mean, doesn't communicate, would rather spend time on twitter than talk with me.

We have kept our relationship secret so far and my heart is heavy and I think at this point, I'm tired and ready to move on.


I like her. I really do like her. But I dont know what else to do. I dont want anyone to date me for my money so I will not tell her that I am a multimillionaire.

Pls I need your help. I am tired of it all. My heart is heavy. I am ready to settle down.

PrettyCrystal:
A Nigerian man identified as Onyebuchi Emenanka who graduated years back from Abia State University ABSU has paid a 20-year-old debt to a carpenter who helped his almost twenty years ago... Read what he shared on his Facebook page below few days ago;

PAYING A 20 YEAR OLD DEBT

Today, I decided to put a big smile on someone's face. When the ABSU event was over and on my way back, I did a stop over at the place where I used to live as a student on Agiriga Street Okigwe.

My mission was simple - to pay a surprise visit to my old neighbors, who are mostly local carpenters and petty traders.

I moved into that area sometime in 1998 and lived there till 2001 when I graduated. My brother Chiemezie Nwakanma was living there then and helped me secure the room. We were next door neighbors. Iyke Aaron and Chizuru Kanu later joined us there.

There is this particular carpenter who was so kind to me then. He would do my carpentry works free of charge and will lend me money whenever I was broke. I didn't pay back most of those monies. The Mbano man was just nice to me and treated me like his own son.

The man has a penchant for speaking high sounding grammar and we named him the Professor of Carpentology, a title he cherishes so much... Heheheheheheheh.

17 years after, I stormed the place today and it was a big party.

I ensured that there were drinks of different kinds and food to go round. All the carpenters stopped work to welcome their old neighbor. The women were not left out.

I told them stories of how that carpenter assisted me greatly and without seeking any pay back from me. I thanked all of them for the kindness and love they showed me then. They were all amazed that I could still remember all of that almost 20 years after.

The carpenter had a set of male triplets while I lived there. They are all grown now and one them works with him in his shop. He said the boy is brilliant but he has no money to train him in school. He lost his wife a few years ago.

There and then, I announced that I will send him to the university and bear the cost of his training. The man broke down in tears. I told him that his son should get a better life than he had. I am fully committed to keeping that promise. I shall help secure admission for him and see him through school. Who knows? He may be the channel through which God will liberate the family from the vicious cycle of poverty and deprivation.

It was a great day today as we drank and relived old times. I ensured that each of them got some small cash in their pockets. Before I took my leave, they all asked me to kneel down while they said some prayers that touched my soul.

I felt a deep sense of fulfilment today.
Yes...

Source; http://www.nationalhelm.net/2017/05/see-what-man-did-for-carpenter-who.html