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Most times i suggest my going to visit my bf bit he doesn't ever reject.. I could call and say, "I'm coming on Saturday " he'll say okk,and when I come we would gist,sometimes go out and have fun. But I noticed/realised that i'm always the one suggesting my visit,anytime I say " I'm always the one suggesting my visit he'll say it's not true,that he also agreed to my coming, which almost means the same thing. I expect him to call me and say I should come on a certain date,etc. Why should i always be the one saying it.. is he shy to say it? I really don't understand.
Now I promised not to say it. We usually see every 2weeks,.that's courtesy of me. If I want to see him every week,I know it's possible but i just like to give him space to do other things,as i realised guys love to have their privacy sometimes. Now we ought to see this weekend,but he hasn't said anything yet.I want him to suggest our seeing himself,i said i wont say it again. But now i miss him...what should i do?
Should i still wait for him to say it? Or should i say it,even though i promised myself i wont say it till he does?
Or should i just stick to my promise? Cos i think if he really misses me and wants to see me he'll say it

Olalan:
I would advice you give him some benefit of doubt, he just might be going through some issues which has made him a little bit withdrawn from social engagements. Also do well to call his attention to your observations about his attitude of late. If after this is done and on improvement from his side I will say you find love somewhere else.

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mzhorlah:
Get him a gift

can u suggest the gift to me? Like wat can i get him...something that he will appreciate and that's not too expensive.

UrWorstNitemare:
***Luk more lika FIRST GRADE MAGA 2 me***

or iz it only me 'reading between d lines..

Hian..he is not a maga to me or whatever you call it,because he does things out of his own will. I have never asked him for a dime,so i obviously don't know wat u're talking about. Pls stop tagging every guy that chooses to make his gf happy a "Maga".

I need serious comments... no jokes please!

Hello everyone..this Friday the 20th of may marks my 1st anniversary with my bf. I met him on the 20th of April .he has been good to me,taking me out to different places i never thought of going, we've visited different fun spots and he pays the bills plus all our meals we've had,sometimes I wish I could foot the bills,but i'm not buoyant enough ,he has a good heart.I just want to appreciate him in my own little way.
Now i'm thinking of what to do for him or do on this our 1st month anniversary.
So please guys,I need suggestions on what to do on that special day. thanks

I have been using extract soap for more than a year now...Last week I decided to change my soap cos i needed something different.. I bought Asantee papaya, a friend of mine said it's gud...
Has anyone used As an tee papaya? If u have used it, kindly tell me the result... Did u like it? Is it a gud soap?.Does it lighten the skin? Did it lighten ur skin??

Thanks!

IamLEGEND1:
old Hags like you still dey fumble like a bunch 12yr olds.just because of common kiss.

#mtcheeeeeeewwwwww!

Nitwit do you have to curse yourself cos u have no reasonable advice to give..My friend is definitely not the 12yrs old,rather it's you cos you just showed how mannerless you are,Hag!

coolh3ad:
She has shown the guy she really wants him..No shakara...Nothing.... I pray he is for real and doesn't use her and dump her....

But she was doing shakara before... her only headache now is because they're not in a relationship yet,as in he hasn't asked her out yet...
But its okk tho..thanks..

coolh3ad:
why didn't she feel "she shouldn't have kissed him cos she doesn't wannna look cheap in his eyes" before kissing him....Why did she start to think about that after kissing him......Does your friend not think before she acts...I am sure he didn't force her and she would have allowed him to have sex with her if he asked for it at that period....Ladies should always think of the results of their actions before performing the act......

So what do you think??

My friend met a guy,they're just friends... been chatting and seeing movies together.. so while they were still getting to know each other, he said he has a gf,but they're on the verge of breaking up,he doesn't touch her and is never moved by her body even if she's naked..he said,he can't marry her cos if he does,he'll cheat on her.
Now my friend is gradually liking him,not minding to have a relationship with him,but he hasn't asked her out yet..so she visited him his apartment yesterday, they kissed only. I think she allowed the kiss cos she's already attracted to him. But now she feels she shouldn't have kissed him cost she doesn't wannna look cheap in his eyes..u know how some guys reason..
Now she's regretting the kissing . But I told her she shouldn't regret cos if he truly likes her,they could build a relationship.. I understand her view tho about appearing cheap to him.

What do you guys think about everything and what can she do cos she regrets the kissing.. what can she do to stop feeling that way..
Do u think the guy can still ask her out for a relationship after this kiss scenario?

I feel like asking my bf money to make my hair,but I don't know how to go about it.I don't ask guys for money,moreover I work.. I don't know how he'll feel knowing fully well I work,that's my problem. the 1st time he gave me money for my hair I didn't ask him.we were gisting one day and I just said I'll make my hair dis weekend, he said "I'll give u the money". We haven't known for long,just few months. I just need him to assist me now for my hair since I don't ask for money.
I just called him now and I had in mind to ask him about it,but we just finished talking and I didn't mention it..I dunno why.. I dunno why I can't ask.I don't know how to ask
Pls how do I go about asking him? I'm not used such..
OPINIONS please!!!

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Kayoski:
something isn't right here..maybe he's just with u for the sex..
This happens when the purpose for a relationship isn't clearly outlined...

maybe u should cut communications for a while,and let's see what happens from der...

when he responds, weigh it and if u feel u can't continue, take a bow.. so u don't waste time with a man,when there are many out there who only wish they can be with u...

okay..thanks

Greekgoddess:
Op just let him go

I experienced such too

It's best to just cut all ties nd move on

thanks..

amtaken:
He's obviously a player who derives joy in 'conquering' females and 'devouring' them.



Trust me he's not worth your time.



Block him out of your mind COMPLETELY and severe all contacts with him.



Next time study a man carefully before giving your heart/body to him.




Many male hoes around now.

thank u very much...God bless!

DonX001:
You probably gave him a really hard time when he was toasting you, ...and now he's just recuperating from all the hard work he did during the toasting period.
As that joke goes......have you ever seen a president campaigning after winning elections??

Loll..yes, I know I gave him a hard time..but the attitude isn't nice..

Kayoski:
Ur condition isn't new...

It happens in 99.9% of relationships..
It even happens in our private life's " when you something newly ,you cherish it like kilode ,but with time it tends to lose value in ur eyes"..


ur relationship has lost the initial spark,its very normal .. but if u still cherish the relationship or if ur bf still does,u guys have to add spice to the relationship...

Go to new places,in short spend more time together alone ...

I recommend u ask ur bf if he still cherishes the relationship, and if he says yes, tell him to revive it..


its too early to talk about breakup...but u seem to me that u ain't into this guy that Much,like ur just passing time with him...

I can't ask him if he cherishes the relationship... he's the man...I don't wanna start sounding like I'm desperate.. I'm just surprised at his attitude... I wasn't even interested initially but I decided to give it a try and I'm getting along well..then he begins to act weird...I'm not passing time with him,that's why I brought the issue here for advices..


How do u mean it's too early to talk about breakup?.he's not acting right..wat could be the problem?

If it's before, when he closes from work or he's about leaving the office, he'll tell me...and even recently I notice dat he replies my pings late and misses my call,but he'll call back apologizing saying he was busy with work stuffs..
I have to stop calling and pinging.. if that's gonna be the end of the relationship, then it's fine..
Wat do u think?

ivyT:
And after u stopped the calls and texts,what did he say /react to that.

If there is indifference from his end,bae,abeg carry waka_

I called this evening... but I wanna completely stop the calls and pings as from now(today)

amtaken:
Have you guys become intimate or not?


Answer me sincerely before I can advise you.

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Erukumakanaki:
Tell us the truth babe, this guy don kpansh u tire or maybe he found something not nice about ou

Hmmm....if he found out something not nice about me, why can't he tell me?? His attitude is really surprising me.

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Out of sight is truly out of mind..it works for me very well. But the reason why this isn't really working as I expect is because we work in the same company..Its not easy at all..When I try to get over everything,he'll come around to say hello or gist briefly..that's why I feel jealous unnecessarily(I really want to quit being jealous)..I'm just curious cos I don't know if he could be dating the married lady.
**I broke up with him cos I didn't like how things were going..I'm not comfortable with a guy that doesn't see anything bad in having plenty random female friends...so I broke up with him..if I want him back,it's very easy but that's not wat I need.
How can I avoid him completely..Should I stop talking to him ?? #Can'tWaitToLeaveThatCompany.

PunkyVeer:
Hmmm, getting over him completely won't be easy since you get to see him every day at work. Out of sight usually means out of mind for me.

IDK, maybe try to avoid them as much as possible. In the mean time, try looking for another job if possible, because he might also be enjoying torturing you with this other woman.

Do you live in the same area? How did you end up seeing them going to his place? I hope you aint doing drive-bys, stalking him because that won't help advance the moving on process. Just my rusty 2c. Good luck.

we live in the same area..I was surprised to see the girl with him cos she doesn't live around there, so its obvious she was going to his place.
The funniest thing is that I still gist and joke with this my ex at work,even sometimes flirt with him,Loll..we usually go home together when we were dating,he waits for me..But now he doesn't , he jst comes to my desk and says "Bye,I'm going home" and I'll say "ok".. Sometimes I feel we can still go home together even if we're not dating. I know he still likes me but I don't care. I want to just stop talking to him completely, even though it'll be hard,but I can try..
As per getting another job, I'm working on that.

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I'm not a relationship expert, I have my own flaws too, I'm even going through a lot right now as per relationship, but I'll talk to u like a friend n sister cos we're age mates..Babe u fvcked up, how can u be that generous to a guy?How do u think u can lend money to ur bf and want a refund?Didn't u know he wasn't gonna pay u?..And u coughed out a whooping 500k for an apartment with an ordinary bf? U tried oo..Guys can call me stingy or whatever, but there's a certain amount I can never dream of giving a guy.Its not even right to give a guy money, Once a guy starts asking me for money, there's problem,I see that as a "Red Flag"...
Please just move on, its difficult I know, but try..I can imagine how u're feeling..
Sorry dear!

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