missgts:
@ronald 4lif I wonder if you comprehended what you read. I said I am from an above average family, My Dad gave me money to buy a car and I lent him 200k out of it not that I gave my Dad 200k.

buygala:


Don't settle for nonsense. .. You will still find worthy love if you move on, make yourself reasonably approachable, and stay away from leeches like him

emynez:
Just wen u tot lovely gals are scarce, U just discovered an angel is inlove with A foolish bastard! God

missgts:
I have been dating this guy for over 3years now. He was 28 and I was almost 25 at the time we met. The relationship was full of troubles from the begining. His parents prefered his ex, his ex kept harassing me, his ex and sis actually set me up with another guy on facebook barely 6months into our relationship. This random guy was just sending me msgs and I have never been a type to acknowledge any form of friendship from someone I don't know but I was sulking in my room one day and the guy sent me another message. We chatted for a bit and later extended it to bbm. I told the guy I had a boyfriend and he said he was in Malaysia and was due back in Nigeria in a week. I said ok buy something for me o. A week later he told me he was in the country. My friend offered to even follow me but I just couldn't cos I didn't want any wahala. I travelled to the UK some days later only for my boyfriend to mail me my chats with the guy.
His ex saw that she didn't win in getting me to come (I escaped being set up) and she mailed my chats to my man and he forwarded them to me.
I cried my eyes out. There was NOTHING INCRIMINATING in the chat but my boyfriend said I shouldn't have even started the chat with the guy. His family held on to that and hated me more.
He stood by me, moved out of the house, stopped talking to his sis and all.
We continued our love. About a year and 6 months into our relationship I travelled to Ghana for Vacation. Whe  I returned, I realised my boyfriend and his ex had started talking regularly. I got angry and he apologised. He finally started acting funny not picking my calls, reading my chats and not replying...I never knew he had started sleeping with her again.
One morning I just woke up and went to his friends to report him and the friends took him aside to talk to him. I eavesdropped on their conversation and heard him telling them how I never brought him deals, (his ex had lots of influence as regards the biz he was into), how he couldn't rely on me sometimes when he needs money to urgently finance some things, he said so many bad things all pointing to the fact that I was broke and jobless. I come from an above average family but I didn't have a job and I supported him in my little way with the pocket money I got from my Dad.
Anyway we miraculously moved past that stage and I was happy. All this was in 2013.
In 2014, My Dad gave me money to buy a car, he wanted to buy a car too but his money wasnt complete. I lent him 200k out of my money so he could buy his. I ended up buying a Naija used car instead of Tokunbo. I sold my ipad for this guy one time, I buy him gifts, I treat him like my king.
May I state here that he is really stingy! Never considerate, always nagging and very secretive. Truthfully like 3 times in the relationship, I got tired and wanted to walk away with someone elsonce he senses that another guy has started calling me he would sit up and act lovey dovey and I would tell the guys to stop calling me. I had invested a lot of time n resources and I honestly wanted things to work out with us.  October last year, we travelled to see my Dad and told him we were ready to take our relationship to the next level. Our intro was fixed for December. December came and went and nothing happened. I know he is 'not there' financially but he's not poor.
This year he said we should rent a bigger apartment and I coughed out all the 500k to add to his and we rented the house. The way we were rushing to rent the house you would think he was ready to marry me the following week.
In the midst of all our drama, I knew his family was the reason our intro didn't hold and he was just giving lame excuses. I kept pestering him to beg them for me. I even went to MFM, fasted for 3days n 3nights all for his family to accept me. Finally in May this year his mum called me, talked and she said she was more holding any grudge against me moreso his ex is now married with her own child.
Instead of me to be happy, something in me died that day. I thought of how I had to go through 3 whole years begging to be accepted. I put it behind me and faced my man.
Oya Bobo we have rented house what next, he keeps saying I should be patient. Not giving me any definite or concrete answer. We had a minor quarrel 2months ago and as I was leaving his house he got up and was throwing my things at me to leave his house. A house I contributed with him to rent o.
EVERYTHING I Felt for him died that day and I struggled to love him back after he had apologised but it isn't working.
So I broke up with him some days ago but I am so lonely.
Now I am 28, and another woman is just going to come and enjoy all I suffered to build with him.
I don't know if I over reacted by breaking up with him cos honestly I am so lonely and can't sleep most nights.

missgts:
I have been dating this guy for over 3years now. He was 28 and I was almost 25 at the time we met. The relationship was full of troubles from the begining. His parents prefered his ex, his ex kept harassing me, his ex and sis actually set me up with another guy on facebook barely 6months into our relationship. This random guy was just sending me msgs and I have never been a type to acknowledge any form of friendship from someone I don't know but I was sulking in my room one day and the guy sent me another message. We chatted for a bit and later extended it to bbm. I told the guy I had a boyfriend and he said he was in Malaysia and was due back in Nigeria in a week. I said ok buy something for me o. A week later he told me he was in the country. My friend offered to even follow me but I just couldn't cos I didn't want any wahala. I travelled to the UK some days later only for my boyfriend to mail me my chats with the guy.
His ex saw that she didn't win in getting me to come (I escaped being set up) and she mailed my chats to my man and he forwarded them to me.
I cried my eyes out. There was NOTHING INCRIMINATING in the chat but my boyfriend said I shouldn't have even started the chat with the guy. His family held on to that and hated me more.
He stood by me, moved out of the house, stopped talking to his sis and all.
We continued our love. About a year and 6 months into our relationship I travelled to Ghana for Vacation. Whe  I returned, I realised my boyfriend and his ex had started talking regularly. I got angry and he apologised. He finally started acting funny not picking my calls, reading my chats and not replying...I never knew he had started sleeping with her again.
One morning I just woke up and went to his friends to report him and the friends took him aside to talk to him. I eavesdropped on their conversation and heard him telling them how I never brought him deals, (his ex had lots of influence as regards the biz he was into), how he couldn't rely on me sometimes when he needs money to urgently finance some things, he said so many bad things all pointing to the fact that I was broke and jobless. I come from an above average family but I didn't have a job and I supported him in my little way with the pocket money I got from my Dad.
Anyway we miraculously moved past that stage and I was happy. All this was in 2013.
In 2014, My Dad gave me money to buy a car, he wanted to buy a car too but his money wasnt complete. I lent him 200k out of my money so he could buy his. I ended up buying a Naija used car instead of Tokunbo. I sold my ipad for this guy one time, I buy him gifts, I treat him like my king.
May I state here that he is really stingy! Never considerate, always nagging and very secretive. Truthfully like 3 times in the relationship, I got tired and wanted to walk away with someone elsonce he senses that another guy has started calling me he would sit up and act lovey dovey and I would tell the guys to stop calling me. I had invested a lot of time n resources and I honestly wanted things to work out with us.  October last year, we travelled to see my Dad and told him we were ready to take our relationship to the next level. Our intro was fixed for December. December came and went and nothing happened. I know he is 'not there' financially but he's not poor.
This year he said we should rent a bigger apartment and I coughed out all the 500k to add to his and we rented the house. The way we were rushing to rent the house you would think he was ready to marry me the following week.
In the midst of all our drama, I knew his family was the reason our intro didn't hold and he was just giving lame excuses. I kept pestering him to beg them for me. I even went to MFM, fasted for 3days n 3nights all for his family to accept me. Finally in May this year his mum called me, talked and she said she was more holding any grudge against me moreso his ex is now married with her own child.
Instead of me to be happy, something in me died that day. I thought of how I had to go through 3 whole years begging to be accepted. I put it behind me and faced my man.
Oya Bobo we have rented house what next, he keeps saying I should be patient. Not giving me any definite or concrete answer. We had a minor quarrel 2months ago and as I was leaving his house he got up and was throwing my things at me to leave his house. A house I contributed with him to rent o.
EVERYTHING I Felt for him died that day and I struggled to love him back after he had apologised but it isn't working.
So I broke up with him some days ago but I am so lonely.
Now I am 28, and another woman is just going to come and enjoy all I suffered to build with him.
I don't know if I over reacted by breaking up with him cos honestly I am so lonely and can't sleep most nights.
Frm d stry line..its clear d family nevr wantd u in their sons life...n d guy dint do nothng abou it..that guy nevr felt for u one bit..he was just using you..u shouldav walked out.of this rlationshp a long time ago..cos it was nevr right frm d beginin...thank God u.av now...as fot ur lonliness...let God cmfrt u...get lost in God..so any man who wona find u wil find u in God...dnt let d tot of age come into play...ur man ll come...dnt let fear of rejctn mk u go back to smtn u shdnt...it z well

missgts:
Thanks guys for all the advice. Every one is pointing to the fact that I am not wrong. I know so too but the loneliness is killing. My phone hardly rings these days cos I wrapped my world around him and didn't have friends. He didn't even let me hang out with my old female friends talk more of talking with my male friends.
The sad part is that I had guys who were far richer than him on my case but love blinded me.
To the people saying I gave 500k to a whole bf, we travelled last year to meet my father in Abuja to say we were ready and then he got me a ring so technically he was my fiance.
When I dropped the money to add to what he had, I was dead broke afterwards but I thought I was building a future with my man.
He always says things like how he wants to change his car, set up his house to a perfect standard then we'll get married but he doesn't know when and I should be patient.
Anyway I know what I'm feeling will pass. I just hope I am strong enough not to go beg him.