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Politics / Re: Buhari Conditional Cash Transfer Of N20,000 In Imo State by Vavevivo: 6:58pm On Apr 10, 2020
FG lock us down here in Abuja and go all the way to IMO to share 20k naira why we here get nothing. This government is very bad. Charity begins at home. Please am in Gwarinpa and in need of food stuff good people here
Romance / Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Vavevivo: 11:14am On Apr 10, 2020
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Romance / Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Vavevivo: 9:57am On Apr 09, 2020
wengerman:
don't give up,help is on the way,God the Almighty sorter will sort you.one motivational speaker said killing oneself is like slamming the door on the face of God.u will be aright lass lass

Thanks
Romance / Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Vavevivo: 10:34pm On Apr 08, 2020
Op

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Crime / Re: Lockdown: Police Seize Bike Of Man Who Went To Buy Fufu (Video) by Vavevivo: 12:39pm On Apr 06, 2020
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Celebrities / Re: Peter Okoye And His Children Do The Stay At Home Challenge And It's Cute (video) by Vavevivo: 4:51pm On Apr 02, 2020
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Romance / Re: She's Making Life Difficult For Me! by Vavevivo: 5:18pm On Mar 17, 2020
Leezah:
Choose. Your girlfriend has reason to feel the way she does and you know it.

Maybe.

2 out of 2 times I have ever been jealous of an ex boyfriend's friend (not with every ex boyfriend was this an issue) it was found out later that the female friend was indeed crushing on my boyfriend. Women unlike men tend to “read” people well, especially other women. When in love a woman's intuition especially tends to intensify. Then again so does her jealousy so this can be a tricky situation that requires some reflection and honesty with yourself and openness with your girlfriend.

Some of what made me feel jealous in these times was intuition, but some things I just simply understand by being a female myself and having many female friends. I knew certain subtle things females do when they like a guy and saw it. Even personally I crushed on guy friends before and some never suspected it. So it's definitely possible your girlfriend sees something you don't.

Anyways, aside from intuition and certain gestures i saw, I noticed that these 2 boyfriends would run to the female friend with all the problems we had as though she was his “refuge”. This is growing intimacy with your friend instead of your girlfriend and a BIG NO-NO. It would have been better that they went to an older and wiser man for counsel than to her.

Although you may go to your female friend for advice with other problems you should never ever come to her with relationship problems. Friends of the opposite shouldn't know all the intimate details of your relationship. As soon as you have a girlfriend this is the most immediate way in which your friendship to your friend should change. By you coming to her you are now showing her what sort of romantic partner you are and how “romantically compatible” you now are with her.

Women are weird. As soon as you deeply open up about these conditions of your heart, etc, we cant help but to at least wonder if we are romantically compatible especially since we come out the womb being relationship/love oriented. Unless you want your female friend trying to now question secretively if you and her are compatible its best you leave her in the dark about this “intimate” side of you or only expose this side of you when you are single. Also don't break up with your girlfriend and the next day run to your female about the issues. Especially in young love people break up then 2 months later are back together.

Overall allowing a female friend to see these aspects of you should be when you are single (via the title of being single and via emotionally being untied to anyone). Then and only then you should share your romantic/relationship characteristics with your opposite sexed friend and even then just know you are opening the strong possibility that this friend will now start qualifying and disqualifying you as a romantic partner. If you want female advice then ask older women but maybe not your mom or those who would have too much bias and too easily take your side. Maybe Nairaland could be good however take every answer with a grain of salt including my own.

Honestly relationships and determining what is acceptable and not acceptable is personal and takes personal reflection. You can't just take advice for everything.

I especially think in today's world with so many boys raised without fathers its not good to get all your relationship do's and don't from females. You shouldn't think like a female when dating a female. You should think like a man. For the most part men have to be more patient and giving in certain areas of relationships and women should be more patient in other areas.

Learning intimate relationships is not like learning to be politically correct or learning what's publicly proper. Although I do recommend reading relationship books from people who share your same vision of intimate relationships dating someone is the foundation in an intimate world you are creating and everyone is different in what they can accept or what they prefer. People's preferences in love ranges from the most traditional to the grotesque…

Meditate on what you want. Overall if this is a woman who fits every aspect of your vision of an intimate relationship than her opinion does matter. At the end of a day you and HER will be the main creators of a world between your walls and conforming to her in all aspects that's reasonably possible and vice versa is key in making a lasting relationship (keyword:reasonable).

Overall there are many questions you have to ask before you seek to end your friendship. In my own situation both of these boyfriends much later “confessed” that they deeply knew the female friend liked them since I first mentioned my jealousy but they thought it wasn't a big deal unless they fed into it.

Personally I felt these were feeding into it (again men don't tend to know the world of female emotion as well). Can you honestly and I mean SINCERELY look at all the encounters with your female friend say that beyond a shadow of a doubt this friend has absolutely, and I mean absolutely has no crush on you? Honestly not even her having a boyfriend matters. Having a boyfriend doesn't stop one from having basic human desires towards another. In divorce courts we see this clearly, so of course in simply dating we can't deny this simple fact of life.

Anywho, despite my own experiences, at the end of the day I would not say it's the best solution to always cut off the female friend just because your girlfriend is jealous especially without considering these things I mentioned.

Many times we date just to date and practice a long term commitment.

Look at everything mentioned here, reflect, keep intimate problems away from opposite sexed friend, and determine your motivation in dating the woman you're with. Is she practice or is she the one?
Is she seeing something you don't or is it jealous?
Is it every female friend and interaction that makes her jealous or is it just this one friend?
Is not conforming to her in this way worth risking a lifetime of not having her by your side?
Many questions to ask before you take any action.

Mogbe... this your comment is longer than the original topic. Fear God abeg �
Family / Re: Pregnant Women Craving For Weird Things by Vavevivo: 3:45pm On Mar 17, 2020
My pregnant wife is due next month and I’m thinking of running away because I have practically gone broke due to all her cravings

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Business / Re: $800 Bitcoin For Sale by Vavevivo: 6:37pm On Mar 16, 2020
I buy at 360 per dollar. Quote me if you’re ready for business
Business / . by Vavevivo: 5:48pm On Mar 11, 2020
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