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My sister's husband wants to go to America desperately. he told her his aunt over there has asked him to raise 400k for logistics and all. he feels there's no hope for Nigeria that he graduated 12 years ago with nothing tangible doing. she has been telling him to go further his education but he feels abroad is the answer. she doesn't want to leave the country and has told him so. she is of the opinion that you make it here and go for vacays abroad. he has been accusing her of trying to kill his dreams. she has given him her blessings to go alone ad leave her here with their son as she can fend for him.
I feel he can even invest the money into business or furthering his studies. what do you guys think?

for those of us who listen to conversations in public vehicles.
I've been wondering what this could be about, seriously.
so today while on my way to Jos from Abuja I heard a heart breaking tale of a less than a year marriage. this lady was confiding in the other who presumably is a sibling. she's been married for about a year and all she knew in the courtship period was her husband as any average guy who hangs out but on the minimal and does a few bottles of alcohol. since they got married, he's begun clubbing and sleeping out and the frequency is increasing. she tried reporting to his family, they asked her to pray. she told her mom and since then he has stopped communicating with her mom neither has he changed.
can the guys please explain this?
p. s she is heavily pregnant.

that's how 18years ago I lost my father. I was barely 11 and was the eldest. that's how they shared every property except his two houses. the one in the village cause he was buried There and the one in the city cause we live in it.
Today:
of the two brothers, one is dead and the only living one is down with stroke and his children can't even look after him. same abandoned kids (we) check on him.

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The person above me wished to know how old your friend and your friend's boyfriend are;
But I wished to know how old you, your friend and your friend's boyfriend are..

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babz007:
oh my God you mean the guy is treating her badly chaiii God oooo. when me am here looking for someone to love badly....i beg you please introduce me to your friend
this is my number 08170936275

me that said I am looking for a man, you didn't give me number o...#jealousyloading

kinggogo:
Jst luk at d petty petty tinz dah dey r fighting over

Hw old is both ur friend nd d bf

he is in his mid thirties while she is 29

QueenSuccubus:
U keep pushing ur friend to a man who never even GAF abt her?


Girl, can't she decide what's good for her so u have to tell her everything what do?

my dear sometimes you advice na, I don't feel it's wrong.

happy Sunday sweeries. I have to share this cause I don't know what advice to give.
So my friend has been trying like me to get a man (lol) and I encourage her the best way I can. she met someone recently and though we all know he's not her spec, I believe in love growing if you put your mind to it.
first off, she gave him a connect to get a job through a woman whose kids she home schools and thank God he got it though the pay is meagre. He didn't even call to appreciate her and when she asked him how far he told her she wants to know too much and even while she got angry, I pacified her.
He began to keep malice with her. I urged her to just reach out to him which she did. barely a week later, she travelled for a burial and the next day (today) she came back and went straight to his place. she called to say she had a headache as she hadn't rested and even asked him for PCM. some minutes later he asked her to go fetch water with him from a borehole and when she complained of his insensitivity, the malice started again. so to avoid spoiling her day, she left his house quietly and went home. Should I still advice her to reach out to him?

Abuja Abuja

coolbreezy01:
Sometimes marriage is just the beginning of some people problem... The right man will surely come and let no one tell you to marry his or her siblings especially the divorcee... You don't know why they divorce so just find the man you want not what they want for you...Okay Good luck

hmmmmm, my dear, I have learnt o. I even feel he is a psychopath.

bloomstar:
i wish you can stand someday and beat the hell out of that idiot..... just nice beating, his type is what keep damaging the image of young men, and also bringing violence in marriage, deliver him with thorough beating,

Abeg o, I no get shishi power fa. na my corpse you go carry.

I pray it is not too long.
Few months after I resumed at my new job, my colleague called me one morning and said " babe please marry my elder brother". I laughed and was like what's the meaning of this? well, for about a month, she kept bugging me and I asked her if she thinks I'm the brother's spec and vice versa. she said she had been looking at me keenly and likes my free spirit and hardworking nature. while this was going on, I was on a break for about a year from relationships cause I had a nasty break up( story for another day). I asked her about him and she told me he had two kids...the first while he was in the university and the second a product of a marriage that barely lasted two years! ah!!! I was like what broke the marriage? she said the wife was cheating and eventually she filed for divorce. hmmmm...okay o. I asked after his personality and she told me he was calm, shy,gentle and very loving. That he tre allowed ated his family as number 1.
After about 6-7 months, I her give him my number.
we communicated via phone for some months though we both stay in Abuja but for some reason we didn't meet. We decided to hook up one evening and my first shock happened...he smokes. I have never agreed to date a smoker cause I never liked it. I didn't express any anger or shock but just sat with him. we talked a while and I was like, let me look beyond the smoking and date him. He wouldn't let me go to his house reasons that he wants to cleanse the house of his ex wife. I was like cleanse again? he preferred to visit me and that was when I saw him. He would come to see me very late at night and he would be drunk and quarrelling at every little move. This was the first week o.
the following week, he raised his hand at me because I said I wasn't going to cook anything for him at that hour but I dodged...no man has ever as much as pushed me.
That was when I guessed what broke his marriage. I told the sister and she was shocked or pretended to be. she urged me to be patient with him but Abeg o, I don run!!!

may he receive sense from the praying ground.
FTC for the first time, norrin special.

EMMAUGOH:
If u meet an educated hausa fulani.. U must like them but if u meet those malou head type..run to a safe place ..

My one cent

of course, I was born and brought up in the middle belt so I know how typical they are.

Thought I share this. I am an early years' teacher and we all know that we could make use of some extra cash. so I I provide home tutoring for kids (not news I know). well, the thing is, my clients are Muslims, Fulani Muslims I must add. I have never met parents like these two couples in my years of teaching (the two different families are Fulani) very generous. They pay as at when due and of course not demanding. My colleagues would complain of not being paid in good time. They are content that their kids love me and they don't hide it. Sometimes, I even dodge meeting them at home because I want to avoid gifts. This evening after the class, hajiya gave me a parcel in her words "use it for offering tomorrow in church". let's look beyond religion and just love! selah

sweetgala:
Me stress myself !

I went there to enjoy the mood and check out all the single ladies in the building. You know how women like to dress to kill to owambe parties.

It's great to hear you done your part, trust me even if the couple don't acknowledge your effort God will.

lol @ checking single girls. I hope you got one?
#wink

duduade:
Why do brides do not cut their clothes according to their sizes??

Na who I go ask?

sweetgala:
Sorry for the late reply, I've been buay with a close friend's wedding too since Thursday.

I hop you made financial contribution towards the drinks since this is in the past now. That would have been the good move

I did o and more. I and another friend had to also get about two cartons of wine for the wedding reception and other miscellaneous expenses. it is well. Hope the wedding you attended wasn't stressful?

homeboy205:
I'd slap sense into baba head

Lol...guy na regime of Kuje prison be this o.

Just wondering: what would you say or do if granted a minute's audience with PMB?

jaybee3:
You are one of the few very sensible ones out there Ma'am

You got me smiling sire.

modath:
You have good intentions but unfortunately not a wise one cos ;

1. You will stick out like a sore thumb being that society expect friends & families of the couple to show "love" through Aso Ebi.

2. You didn't discuss with your friend to know what is expected of you, your good gesture may be DOA, since your friend's priority looks to be quite different from what yours is so ask what she prefers, don't take it upon yourself to make that choice..

One thing however is that, you are a great friend..

lol...I agree with you and so will heed your advice. Thanks again

masterchi:
no probs, just make sure u discuss it with her first. I think she'll understand.

I truly appreciate you.

masterchi:
did ur friend ask for money or ask that you join her ashoebi? It is important you understand the request of others so ur good deeds wont be meaningless. Give people what they ask for and not what you think best. btw I think you are a good friend and person.
Cheers.

Thank you for the compliment. I don't want her to be embarrassed hence my decision to support buying of drinks.

sweetgala:
Good advice, @OP I'd say oblige your friend, it does not stop you gifting money in the future. If the cost is beyond what you deem reasonable and can afford, kindly tell your friend.

I agree with you both. Today is the bridal shower and the organiser mentioned inadequate drinks.
What do you advice?

Presently, I am in this dilemma. My bossom friend is getting married tomorrow and I didn't get the ashoebi for the following reasons:
1) She is not really into any lucrative business neither is she employed. Her husband to be is a hustler as per he also doesn't really have a steady income. As a result of this, I decided that instead of the 10k ashoebi, the 10 of us should contribute and give them a tangible sum of money which I think will be of help to the couple.
2) The attire is what I can not wear after the wedding so why spend that much for a day? (my thoughts).
3) We are expected to buy shoes of the same colour also. As we know as ladies, bags must follow. this one give or take one kind 7k go drop again o.
I have decided to contribute 5k to the bridal shower taking place later today since the organiser mentioned that they needed money to buy more drinks (see what I mean?).
Am I a bad person for not buying the ashoebi or does it mean I don't love my friend?

Presently, I am in this dilemma. My bossom friend is getting married tomorrow and I didn't get the ashoebi for the following reasons:

1) She is not really into any lucrative business neither is she employed. Her husband to be is a hustler as per he also doesn't really have a steady income. As a result of this, I decided that instead of the 10k ashoebi, the 10 of us should contribute and give them a tangible sum of money which I think will be of help to the couple.

2) The attire is what I can not wear after the wedding so why spend that much for a day? (my thoughts).

3) We are expected to buy shoes of the same colour also. As we know as ladies, bags must follow. this one give or take one kind 7k go drop again o.

I have decided to contribute 5k to the bridal shower taking place later today since the organiser mentioned that they needed money to buy more drinks (see what I mean?).

Am I a bad person for not buying the ashoebi or does it mean I don't love my friend?

My friend at work is in this dilemma and he needs advice.
He has been dating this lady for about six years. He claims she was there right from his university days, though not his "class" but a relationship he was in for the moment(then). she is a seamstress and according to him, he has tried for her to further her education to no avail. Today he works 3 hrs away from her (for the past 4 years though) yet he has never invited her over though they speak everyday on phone.
now for a year now, he's been dating another lady in the same town he resides in and she's the perfect one for him (according to him).
As a matter of fact, each time his new girl decides to let him go, he is never himself and seldom concentrates. Recently, I was a part of a begging delegation.I asked him to make a choice since he gushes about lady number 2 but he said he wants it to be gradual, though they're always at loggerheads and he also said his buddies don't approve of his seamstress girlfriend.
Why I ask is because many ladies are in relationships like this and I think it is the man's call to make.